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Loss Of Amniotic Fluid at 20 weeks

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Tashymondo · 05/06/2011 17:22

So Let me set the scene, it has not been an easy pregnancy but the day of my 20 week Scan was to make up for it. I booked the day off work and it was my sisters 24th birthday which mean that we would all go to dinner after. I couldn?t be happier.

Then we find out that what I thought was just me having an accident Saturday night a family party whilst waiting in the queue for dinner was actually me leaking all of my amniotic fluid. When the nurse taking the scan told me she just said I'm so sorry but it?s all gone. I'm so sorry I don?t know what to say, I can't get a good look at the baby as its not moving. Neither did I know what to say, I just cried how could this be? We were all so happy and now this.

It was explained to me that the baby was at high risk of being underdeveloped especially in the lungs area. There was little to no chance of it surviving and it was made clear to me that my strongest option at this stage was termination.

I did not for a second want that or think that was it. Everyone at the hospital was just full of apologies. What about the good news, where was the silver lining I kept thinking??

I was taken to the labour ward a doctor that I saw only weeks before said she couldn?t understand on the scan I had then everything was fine. She explained the risks to me and the baby and that there was little hope or little that we could do. My partner was in tears, to see him cry just felt like it was over. But I didn?t want it to be over!!! How can I fight this?? I only lost my waters 4 days ago surely there is hope???

I was asked to call my dad how was innocently making his way to the restaurant, he was egar to hear what the sex of his first grandchild was. I told him through tears that there is a problem and you must come to the hospital. My sisters where in bits in the waiting area. I felt awful for weeks the thought of bringing new life into the family kept me going made us all happy and now this.

My dad joined us, again I had the risks and outcomes explained. Then i was poked and jabbed with needles. Come back tomorrow they suggested you have been through enough today.....

That night I felt my baby or Peanut as we affectionately call it and in the morning we felt is heart beating away. Its then I decided that I should fight; I should fight because that is what my Peanut is doing. Through all the risks surely there is some hope. Surely there can be something we can do!!??

At the hospital I was sure to get answers, I found out that as long as I don?t go into labour before week 24 then they will revive my Peanut. A san showed that there were NO abnormalities as yet I am free from infection and today I have felt my wonderful Peanut kick several times. So the fight is on.

I am trying to be positive but I need to know what movements are baby and what feelings I should go to hospital for?? I.e. going into labour. This is my first baby so I have no idea what that would be like.

I am mostly worried that Peanut will try to come out earlier then 24 weeks and the doctors will not help him/her. I'm not ready to lose!! I really am not ready to accept what the doctors are saying neither is my partner nor is our Peanut. Am I crazy??? Any advice any one can give would be great!! xxxx

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Geepers · 20/06/2011 17:40

I've only just seen this thread, glad to see you are still hanging on.

I had twins in January last year, after my waters around twin 1 broke at 18 weeks. I was never encouraged to terminate, but made it clear that I was optimistic and confident we would all be fine.

I had the steroid injections at 23+4 and 23+5, and the babies were born on the evening of the second injection.

They were obviously very tiny, just over a pound each, but are perfect and we seem to be in the very small minority that have no disabilities.

Best of luck.

katherine2008 · 20/06/2011 17:59

good luck tash - have been following your thread and am praying for a good outcome for you. sounds like you are both fighters! x

MrsSnaplegs · 20/06/2011 21:02

Will be thinking of you tomorrow Tasha Smile

WuzzAndBuddy · 20/06/2011 21:30

Hope tomorrow goes well, will be thinking of you.
Please let us know what the news is xxXxx

cmm · 20/06/2011 23:55

Tash, thinking and praying for you and peanut tomorrow, you're being so brave. Post an update as soon as you can, hugs xxxxx

AnnaAndBump · 21/06/2011 08:23

Hi Tashy, I've been a lurker up until now, but wanted to wish you good luck for today.

Coppernoddle · 21/06/2011 10:30

Good luck for today tashy! X x x

HorseyGirl1 · 21/06/2011 19:47

hope you and your baby are keeping well. xx

imip · 21/06/2011 19:54

I just wanted to let you know that some of the abnormalities won't be visible on a scan. My daughter had talipies (no major problem, a club foot due to compression b/c of lack of fluid - it could have been fixed), which was not identified. However, something like cerebal palsy can't be picked up on a scan, and if iirc, perhaps not until the baby is one or two years??? I know the feeling of such negative scans. I was told if I delivered my child at 24 weeks, I may as well have put a gun to her head. Amazing heh? That is what a consultant said to me! At 25 weeks when I was encouraged to have a c-section because she was in distress I refused on the basis of what that consultant said. She was born the next day after a cord prolapse. If only I had had her the day before as was recommended, but I was convinced everyone wanted me to terminate the baby and my determination to protect her as long as I could prevented me from recognising good advice when I saw it. A regret that will live with me, and my partner, forever... I know I don't have a happy ending to my story (we've been very lucky to go on to have a further three dds and I'm now 6weeks pregnant), but I hope my experience can give you good info. I had none when I was pregnant and that was our downfall x

WorzselMummage · 21/06/2011 20:22

:( imip

You're right though, some disabilities are obvious and some can take years to become apparent. My ds is fighting fit, he's a miracle and I wouldn't change him for the world but but he can't run, or jump, and his physical development sis way behind that of his peers. he's been late of reach all of his physical mile stones but is bright as a bottom.

Extreme prematurity has all kinds of hang overs and you will never know how things will pan out but that's much the same with term births.

Hope it went ok today Tashy :)

cupofteaplease · 21/06/2011 20:31

imip, what a sad time for you Sad

Tashy I hope you are ok today x

AKP79 · 22/06/2011 14:47

Bump.... Think about you often, how's it going?? xx

WuzzAndBuddy · 22/06/2011 19:52

Evening,
Was just thinking about you and thought I'd pop in and see how things were going?
Hope you had a more positive day today xXx

MrsSnaplegs · 23/06/2011 07:18

Hope you and peanut are ok Tashy Smile

WorzselMummage · 23/06/2011 09:41

Tashy are you ok ?

WuzzAndBuddy · 23/06/2011 17:10

Thinking of you still... xx

midori1999 · 23/06/2011 18:26

I hope you and your little peanut are doing OK Tashi? I have been thinking of you lots.

I had no fluid at all either, but I also know of others who had none at all and had a good outcome. Try and remember that the scans are just a snapshot in time and you will have been walking around prior to each scan, which means fluid will drain out, whereas when you are laying down it's possible it is building up.

I hope you are keeping your good spirits and positive attitude up, it's so hard to be 'brave' during such circumstances, but what else can you be? Thinking of you. xx

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Tashymondo · 24/06/2011 08:46

Thank you so much everyone. After seeing the Paediatrician I was left feeling a bit hope less as there is just nothing I can do. This whole thing is just a big waiting game the longer baby stays put the better I have a new aim of 30 weeks. Today I am 24 weeks exactly this was my first mile stone and I am so thankful that I made it this far!! I just want to so desperately go as far as I can really!! xxx I finished My course of anti biotic's yesterday and was started on my first dose of steroids I go back later today for my second shot. baby has been moving and so far I am thankful to say I had no major problems. Its the unknown that fills me with fear just now but have to take it a day at a time. xxx

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Coppernoddle · 24/06/2011 09:52

Congratulations and well done for making it to 24 weeks!! Massive milestone! Must be a sigh of relief! Keep being positive and at least you know now that things are moving forward and the doctors are taking you seriously! Glad your having the steroids, and hopefully little one will stay put for a few more weeks. Maybe start preparing yourself now for having a prem baby, there are lots of support groups out there with heaps of advise. It's very good that baby is still active and happy in there. Well done x x x x x

speculationisrife · 24/06/2011 09:58

Tashy, I've been lurking, too, and just wanted to say you are being incredibly strong and a brilliant mum to your little one. Whatever the outcome you should feel very proud of yourself for looking after your baby so well. 24 weeks is a great milestone to have reached. Take care of yourself and just keep doing what you're doing. xx

WuzzAndBuddy · 24/06/2011 10:36

Oh that's brilliant news!
I'm at work and thought I'd nip on for a sneaky check! Glad its good news xx

MrsSnaplegs · 24/06/2011 15:46

Tashy that's good news glad you and peanut are ok todaySmile

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Tashymondo · 24/06/2011 15:48

I am worried silly enough about where to get Prem baby clothes from... I know that is the least of my worries right lol. I have been on Bliss website for Prem baby info and on Tuesday i am going to look around the hospitals NICU. I think I have digested everything i have read however nothing can prepare you I don't think for seeing you baby hooked up to several wires and machines when it is so tiny. I also don't know how I'm going to feel I mean i feel hopeless now but I can control things like what I eat what I drink how often I wash and change my pads all these things I can do to help my situation. But when Peanut comes out it will be up to the doctors and Peanut to fight rather then me and Peanut. I worry about feeling even more hopeless!!

On a positive not I will do what ever it takes to make it work, I have every belief that as long as stay away from infection, rest as much as possible and eat and drink health my darling Peanut will stay put fro another 6 weeks, it will go quick and all will be fine!! xxxx

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Scheherezadea · 24/06/2011 15:56

Most places do prem baby clothes - mothercare, tesco - anywhere that does normal baby clothes :)

thinking of you - good luck!

cupofteaplease · 24/06/2011 19:53

Great news that Peanut is still inside at 24 weeks. I'll be counting along with you until 30 weeks. Smile

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