Loss Of Amniotic Fluid at 20 weeks

[Tashymondo]

So Let me set the scene, it has not been an easy pregnancy but the day of my 20 week Scan was to make up for it. I booked the day off work and it was my sisters 24th birthday which mean that we would all go to dinner after. I couldn?t be happier.

Then we find out that what I thought was just me having an accident Saturday night a family party whilst waiting in the queue for dinner was actually me leaking all of my amniotic fluid. When the nurse taking the scan told me she just said I'm so sorry but it?s all gone. I'm so sorry I don?t know what to say, I can't get a good look at the baby as its not moving. Neither did I know what to say, I just cried how could this be? We were all so happy and now this.

It was explained to me that the baby was at high risk of being underdeveloped especially in the lungs area. There was little to no chance of it surviving and it was made clear to me that my strongest option at this stage was termination.

I did not for a second want that or think that was it. Everyone at the hospital was just full of apologies. What about the good news, where was the silver lining I kept thinking??

I was taken to the labour ward a doctor that I saw only weeks before said she couldn?t understand on the scan I had then everything was fine. She explained the risks to me and the baby and that there was little hope or little that we could do. My partner was in tears, to see him cry just felt like it was over. But I didn?t want it to be over!!! How can I fight this?? I only lost my waters 4 days ago surely there is hope???

I was asked to call my dad how was innocently making his way to the restaurant, he was egar to hear what the sex of his first grandchild was. I told him through tears that there is a problem and you must come to the hospital. My sisters where in bits in the waiting area. I felt awful for weeks the thought of bringing new life into the family kept me going made us all happy and now this.

My dad joined us, again I had the risks and outcomes explained. Then i was poked and jabbed with needles. Come back tomorrow they suggested you have been through enough today.....

That night I felt my baby or Peanut as we affectionately call it and in the morning we felt is heart beating away. Its then I decided that I should fight; I should fight because that is what my Peanut is doing. Through all the risks surely there is some hope. Surely there can be something we can do!!??

At the hospital I was sure to get answers, I found out that as long as I don?t go into labour before week 24 then they will revive my Peanut. A san showed that there were NO abnormalities as yet I am free from infection and today I have felt my wonderful Peanut kick several times. So the fight is on.

I am trying to be positive but I need to know what movements are baby and what feelings I should go to hospital for?? I.e. going into labour. This is my first baby so I have no idea what that would be like.

I am mostly worried that Peanut will try to come out earlier then 24 weeks and the doctors will not help him/her. I'm not ready to lose!! I really am not ready to accept what the doctors are saying neither is my partner nor is our Peanut. Am I crazy??? Any advice any one can give would be great!! xxxx

How far are you now?it's been over a week now since your first post and your still very positive! Hope this week goes well for you x x

Well, I'm sincerely hoping no news is good news! Really do hope that your doing well whatever your outcome with this pregnancy! My thoughts are with you tasty at this difficult time. All the best to you and your family x x x

Sorry, tashy not tasty! Bloody iPad!!

Just seen your thread, not read all but just wanted to say thinking of you. I have a friend whose waters went very early, can't remember the exact weeks now, around your time, and the baby was 1 lb 1 oz, it's a little girl and it's been a long journey but she is now 9 and doing great, normal and healthy. My friend went on to have another and got to 30 weeks with the next girl. Again all ok. I remember how difficult those times were for her. Big hugs.

I am on a placenta previa thread, been in hosp 3 weeks today! Everyones support means a lot. Being able to log in on my phone and keep chatting so helps xxx

before i start my rant I would like to thank Coppernoddle, Rootatoot and cmm for your messgaes I have not yet replied to. I'm not ignoring you at all xxxx

I am now 23 weeks and today I had to visit Oxford's John Radcliffe hospital for a more accurate anomaly scan as a combination of loss of AF and high BMI has made it hard for my hospital in Northampton to get a decent scan done. I left disheartened and upset at the Dr's attitude he seemed to take enjoyment in explaining the risks to me and my partner and his assistant seemed to smirk at us as though our optimism was wrongly placed!! This hurt a lot, I know the risks I am no fool!! But until someone shows me that my baby has an abnormality that my partner and I are simply unable to live with I WILL NOT terminate. It?s all well and good waving the risks in my face but if Allah forbid my babies lungs can't cope and it dies shortly after birth then in my opinion that is a different scenario to the one I am faced no. All I want not is for someone to tell me if my baby has an abnormality!! THEN and ONLY then my partner and I will have to make a decision based on that information. As yet they have not found anything wrong with my Peanut!! The scans give limited information due to my BMI and loss of Fluid I get it!!! But today I was so upset that I cried a lot. I passed a small clot whilst out to dinner after my visit to Oxford hospital with my other half and rushed straight back from Oxford to Northampton to have a check up with the Midwives at the hospital. They took my blood pressure listened to my babies (very strong) heart beat did a urine sample and everything seemed fine. Why should i give up?? The Dr's ARE NOT God. They have NO right to tell me or make me feel like I am in the wrong to be hopeful without proof that something is wrong with baby in my womb right NOW!!!! NOTHING other than having no fluid appears to be wrong!!! They could not see my babies face to tell me different but everything else although limited in information was visible and normal. So all I can say is I still have to fight as Peanut is still moving and normal. I may leak fluid all day everyday but I'm not in pain and the clot I passed to day caused them no concern at the hospital!!! Sorry to go on but I had to get it out!!! xxxxxxxxx

By the way cmm, I wish you all the best with your situation. It can't be easy for you!! Just stay positive and remember that sites like this are vital to staying positive the Dr's are not gods and there view of the world is very limited!! xxxx

Fingers crossed for you and Peanut.

My waters went at 33 weeks, I hadn't even noticed and then a routine antenatal appointment showed that the fundal height was 4cm smaller than it should be. Managed to hold on for another 4 weeks and then picked up infection so baby was delivered.

You are doing so well, I really hope everything works out.

Thank you thaigreencurry!!! xxx

Gosh, well said tashy!! I think it's disgraceful how they can terminate a pregnancy that late anyway! The only thing I can think of isto why there being such shits about it is money!! After 24 weeks they have to do all they can to help baby, before that, it's to the hospitals discretion! How they can decide on no evidence whether your baby will be well or not to terminate it makes me sick!! You hang in there, and peanut is obviously got your fighting streak too with a heartbeat like that!! I'm wishing you all the best and really have everything crossed for you and your little one! Take it easy and get yourself a heap of dvd's and a couple of boxes of choccies and rest!! X x

Thank you Coppernoddle!! It really helps to have ladies like you on my side!! Today I have leaked a lot nearly every time I stood up or sat upright! It makes my heart sink every time it happens!! So reading things like that helps me stay focused and smile!!

Tashymondo
Only just seen your thread, hope you and peanut are holding on! If you need something to read look for the thread by southsearocks. Her waters went whilst she was over in USA and she had weeks there waiting! Positive outcome so positive thoughts to you and your peanut, sounds like you've had some really good advice and support here

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/1112721-Waters-have-broken-at-28-weeks-were-in-America
Sorry she was 28 weeks but is worth a read if you cant sleep

Tashy - you are incredible. I have no experience unlike so many of the brave ladis posting here, but just wanted to add that I am rooting so hard for your Peanut. He/ she already has the best possible chance by having such a strong, determined, loving mother.

Thank you TCOB & Mrssnaplegs for your messages!! xxxxx

I've only just seen this thread and read each post hoping for a more positive next post!
You sound like you're being so strong Tashy, fighting every step of the way for your little peanut.
I can't offer any advice as I've never been through anything like it but I just wanted to wish you, your OH and your little peanut all the luck in the world xx

I followed the southsearocks thread too! It was very moving! So much support and waiting for her, was lovely to read her threads everyday to see how she was doing! You should read it, even if you just read her postings, it's worth it! I would probably lay down as much as possible then, watch tv on your back today! Don't do too much! X x
Have a lovely fathers day x x

Tashy, sorry been a while since messaging. Strange in hospital, so little yet so much going on at the same time.

Just wanted to say the way you are handling is amazing, so admire your strength. I know there'll be hours or days when it isn't like that but keep fighting. My friend who had the 24 week baby, they fought and meg Is, although a long journey, fine. They went on to have another too. Every day and week longer is good. Like you say, definitely right to fight. Peanut sounds like he is! Thinking and praying for you xx

Tashy you are so incredibly brave and I just wanted to let you know you are in my thoughts. Keep fighting and keep asking questions xx

Thank you everyone for Posting. Tomorrow I meet with the paediatricians who will talk me through my options and next steps! I remain positive that my Peanut will fight to the end and so will I, I owe my baby that much!!! xxxx

Tashy I round of applaud you!! Think your doing amazing!! The good news is, is that your still leaking fluid so you must still be producing plenty for baby to develop! The longer baby is attached to your cord, peanut has every fighting chance!! Good luck for tomorrow and I bet you'll find now your nearly at 24 weeks, the pead's would have changed their tunes on how to deal with the situation! Wishing you and your family all the best x x

Just a note to say "Hang on in Peanut"! Keep fighting those Drs Tashy. If Peanut says they are OK - they are OK!. I have no experience or words to help but wish you buckets full of good luck xxx

As tomorrow I am meeting with the paediatricians to talk through my options and next steps this time I want to be prepared because when I went to Oxford hospital for a more detailed scan I was not prepared for the doctor to be soo negative and it threw me completely. This time round I want to go in with my fighting head on. What should I ask?? Other then for myself & Peanut to be booked in for a steroid shot A.S.A.P??? Also the DR @ Oxfors said that I had little hope as I had a high BMI does or did anyone else?? And does or did anyone else's scans due to lack of fluid always come back with little to no information?? Lastly my darling Peanut has been in breech position since loss of fluid. Is that what everyone else experianced?? Sorry to ask so many questions!! xxxxxx

Any suggestions at to what to ask when my partner and i go tomorrow will be greatly appreciated!!???? xxxxxxxxx

Oh and thank you Coppernoddle & Katiebeau very kind words there!! xxx

I'm glad to hear you're still pregnant Tashy!

The Dr's and Midwives were all doom and gloom with me too, I think it was to prepare me for the worst.. easier to cope with good news if your expecting bad than the other way round I suppose. Have you asked them to show you round the NICU ?

Prom scans are notoriously hard, without the fluid babies are so squashed it's almost impossible to get a detailed picture. I never had any fluid left at all on my scans with George, Have they told you how much fluid you have left? are you leaking a lot ?

My DS was breech after the prom and he was fully wedged deep in my pelvis. I wanted to have him vaginally and that is what had been planned but then had an abruption so had to have an EMCS and tbh I am glad I did as he was so small and fragile.

AS for questions, I don't know. You need to think about what you want to know. We expected George to be very poorly when he was born and it was important to me to know exactly what would happen in every scenario.

I have no fluid at all hun!! THANK YOU FOR YOUR POST!! xxxx