Pregnancy post mc: Totally's grads continued part 8

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new thread!!

Now, after all this poo chat I spoke to my friend yesterday. She had her baby last year. She did do a poo, however she only knows because her hubby told her (nicely) and it was a small ish poo (although bigger than a rabbit poo - she's a good friend!), nothing to be ashamed of and the MW dealt with it. No smell. I didn't ask about farting but knowing how my bottom is now, I am going to safely assume that my wind will make itself known on the big day and, being the child I am, may laugh.

lara I'm with you on worrying about fanjo-rippage a bit more than poo (I am also on the crude side). However, this isn't going to happen to any of us - I've heard that we're all booked in for the births that are just like a big sneeze. Nothing more.

urban fingers crossed that miniurban makes an appearance very soon.

I have a story to tell and I need to start by saying that if the lady I am about to talk about is on here, you really really made me laugh and I'm telling this not to mock you, but to share how kids would appear to change your way of thinking and that maybe we won't give a monkey's about an embarrasing bottom incident.

So, 2 friday's ago I'm shopping for maternity wear and after new look/H&M etc, wandered into a posh preggo shop where I live. As i stood looking at some of the dreadful clothes a lady appeared at my side. She was also shopping with her 2 kids (young baby and toddler-ish one). "Confused?" she said to me... "Yes I replied - there's just so much stuff and I don't know what clothes to buy".

"Well, she replied I got this dress in Fat Face and it's lasted me through 2 maternity's and afterwards and I can breastfeed really easily with it too. Look!" and she proceeded to get her boob out and show me it in the shop*. I gaped and said "thanks that's really helpful" and then scuttled out of the shop to laugh hysterically round the corner.

Now, if she had been breastfeeding, that would have been a different kettle of fish, but to actually demonstrate ease of access by flashing a boob to someone in a shop?! I assume her boundaries have been changed significantly by her kids.

A mammoth post - that's what working late does for you!

Proper catch up later but wanted to say a massive hello to harassed and to tell bigmac that her dress story made me snort out loud on the train

11 weeks to get my business on track, my house sorted (boxes still not unpacked), the nursery done and the kitchen sorted!!! I shall do it, I'm supermum (to be)!!!

Waves to all hope your lives are slightly less hectic and def more organised!

Ps unless 'h' stands for hagrid I think mumsnet should be done under the trades description act cause the 'wizard' smileys look just like the 'H'alloween ones! Lazy!

Full moon last night, I was hoping it would get things moving for you but perhaps a good old MW rummage might do the job instead

I've been getting weird painful Branstons these last few days but I refuse to believe it's anything major - suspect it might be dehydration setting them off. I keep forgetting to drink enough water. Owlet is definitely running out of room; I still feel him moving but nothing like the big kicks and rolls he used to be able to do; it's more like grumbling shoves and bony arse sticking up under my ribcage now.

Maccer if I chuff in the pool I will laugh. There is no 'possibly' about it. Also, my dear husband will never, ever let me forget it, charmer that he is. He found my sieve last night and found that hilarious - I think this gives me the right to laugh at him when he passes out on the kitchen floor at the first sight of any blood or gore.

Coco I read one thread on here about the pooing and there was one lady who pooed on the baby's head as he arrived and it was visible in the photos. I'm afraid I laughed. I will not laugh if this happens to me! But there are a number of threads on here about it.

tis lovely to see you in here, dear, now STOP RUNNING AROUND AND PUT YOUR FEET UP!

Hello I recognise lots of you ... Am fourteen weeks today and have had low risk from nuchal plus bloods so is it ok if I lurk ? Still feeling quite nervous about things but want to take the plunge. Haven't told my colleagues yet and will need to soon as my bump will give it away.

Yey Hairy fantastic news!! I know what you mean about still feeling a bit cautious but have some cautiously celebratory non-alcoholic bubbles on me! 'tis Friday after all

Mamap will you slow down!!?! Hope you get everything sorted out. My life more organised? Chance would be a fine thing! 8 weeks to go here and we don't buy the house until monday & move until next Friday let alone unpack anything. Nothing ordered for baby yet. Even the antenatal classes haven't started yet! Hopefully in two weeks' time I shall be much more organised

Waves to everyone around this morning. Enjoy the sunshine!

Hi Hairy - glad to see you back!

yippeee hairy wecome over here :)

will you stop scaring me with countdowns!! mamap I still remember your bfp it can't possibly have gone that quickly!

hairy great to see you here!

I have so much to catch up on with you all, have been reading and laughing at it all though...I honestly have no idea whether I poo'd during labour with ds, although dh started to mention something of that nature once afterwards, he was greeted with a Hard Stare and the subject never arose again! With dd I also have no idea but was kind of leaning fwd over birth ball for the crucial pushing bit and dh was by my head so he wouldn't have known either. MWs are v discreet I believe.

I have a qu for anyone with older dcs; can anyone recommend any basic age-appropriate books for dealing in a non-scary way with basic biology of pg/childbirth that I could use to answer dcs' questions about it all (how does baby get out etc?). Ds is nearly 8, dd is nearly 5. I don't really know where to start or what level to pitch it at, so have swerved it so far but would really like to have a proper discussion about it next time they ask and they're old enough to know the basics IMO.

I'm hoping you lovely ladies can recommend something so I don't have to venture out of the safe corner and post on the scary wider world of mn!!

afternoon ladies hope you're all ok. Loving the fact the discussion is still on poo half the time.

urban fx things start moving for you soon.

bigmac omg i could never be that relaxed even after having kids.

izzy sorry i haven't got a clue, we've borrowed my mummy has a house in her tummy for ds (3) but that purely focused on pregnancy not actual childbirth.

cep we have and love a house in my tummy - got it for ds (then nearly 3) when I was having dd and it was great for that age gap. Sadly however I think mine are wanting more details about the actual mechanics of it all...

Oh and I've never got my boobs out in public (without a baby attached) even since having children!! Part of me thinks it must be lovely to be that self-confident though...

Hi everyone. Sorry to post and run and not catch up, but I'm having a bit of a panic and any reassurance would be grateful.

I started this morning with some mild pains in my tummy. But they've gotten worse and are now really painful. To the extent that I'm walking like a haggard old woman and at their worst crunching over. Breathing in deeply seems to make it worse, and it (tummy) is tender in areas to touch.

I think I'm carrying quite low, so it could be above pup, but not sure as its not that high either. Around and above belly button.

I've had some feeling of movement this morning and have also just doppled and found hb, but strangely don't feel reassured.

It's probably just me being emotional and irrational! It's our EDD from our mc today and we planted a tree and scattered Nans ashes yesterday. Also got friends arriving in 30 mis so really dont want to be traipsing to get checked if it's something and nothing.

Waves to harassed and hairy so lovely to see you both on here!!

waves to everyone else too xx

Ps meant to say we think bump has got bigger quickly over last day or so..... ??

collie it's probably nothing but I think I'd get checked just to stop the mentalling. Sorry, I know that's not what you wanted to hear.

Fwiw I had really really bad abdominal pains/cramps at about 20 weeks pg with ds, it went on for a few hours. I actually didn't go and get checked (I was young and naive then!) and luckily it went away and I was fine, but I mentioned it at my next appt and got a real telling off for not getting checked!! So they won't mind and would expect you to and, as with me, it's probably nothing but better err on the side of caution? X

Pup might have moved collie and be pushing on something or nothing, but well worth being checked, just to put your mind at rest really. Lie izz i got some terrific pains with ds around 20 weeks. Do you have a number for the local midwife unit or the hospital? xx

collie did you go to the hospital? My one has a day assessment unit where I spoke to a MW on the phone to talk about whether to go in. Please do go and get it checked out-my place definitely has a policy of preferring that people err on the side of paranoia.

Ps. Sorry it's your EDD today, hope you're doing ok. Planting a tree is a lovely idea

Collie hope you're okay - I'd definitely get checked out too. God knows I've been to see the MW enough times when I've been worried. They've never, ever made me feel daft about doing it. I was there only yesterday and I only saw my MW last week so it was pure paranoia.

You might have inadvertently pulled a muscle (very easily done at this stage) and as others have said, random pains are not unusual as as your ligaments are all over the shop and stretched far beyond what they are used to - my bump also suddenly went massive around the 20 week mark having done absolutely nothing up to that point.

Big hug, and sorry about the dreadful timing of this - the worry never ends :(

Hello lovey ladies. Thanks for all your advice. Sorry I've not posted. Our guests turned up not long after so I've only managed to lurk so far. Just out for after dinner drink and hiding in loo to post. Pains eventually eased after and hour or so. Didn't ring hospital just bcs friends arrived. Think if it returns tomorrow I'll ring them or on Monday I'll ring the mw anyway. Still not hugely comfortable, but not quite in pain.

Glad for the distraction of friends visiting. Managing to have nice evening.

Hope everyone is having nice Saturday eve xx

Pink how's the movements going?
Collie I pulled all my groin muscles once just from standing up too quickly, I hope that's 'all' it is. I'm glad your friends are providing some distraction. I wouldn't think twice about getting checked if you still think you need it, they won't mind
Harrased tis great to see you over here, make yourself comfy :)
Lara I just need your mum's number then I can lay off the sweetcorn and Lactulose
Owl egg butties on demand are reason enough for home birth IMO :) you and Nix can be far off term now? Such an adorable thought of owlet getting grumbly with no room!
Urban I hope things have gotten moving over the last couple of days and you're enjoying snuggles
at bigmac's boob incident :)
Mamap put your feet up missus!!
Hairy tis fab to see you here

I've picked up a niggly col here, so not sure whether to go to NCT tomorrow in case I infect the other mums [worried emoticon] I saw my sister today, who's bought me a Radley maternity/changing bag :) which is pretty damn wonderful I'm quite made up :) miniO's definitely doing more larger scale manoeuvres, maybe as there's less room in there. I've had a cheeky foot shape a couple of times and a very odd-shaped bump which is entertaining me no end :)

I spoke to MummyA today, she says hi to everyone :)

Hi all :) Can I join? I am 21 weeks now. Haven't been on the freak out thread in a while because I am mentalling a bit less these days! Hope you are all well :)

Hi all and big waves to everyone after a long absence! Great to hear of all the good scans etc. It's been v reassuring (in a weird way) to read all the poo talk - it's been on my mind but didn't want to be the one to bring it up!

I've been back in the UK for about 5 days now and loving it, despite the weather! Have made the most of Gap and H&M maternity and might even go shopping for a changing bag this week as the selection here seems enormous! Have had lots of comments that I am sporting a v small bump for my stage which has had me doling out junior's stats of being ever so slightly big for his gestation! I have to admit though that the bump doesn't seem to have grown in about 3 weeks.... Showed the parents the latest 3d scan which mum loved and dad freaked out about - said it would give him nightmares!

Off for a tour of the Olympic site later which should be interesting and busy week ahead catching up with friends, following busy few days catching up with other friends and family - I shall need a holiday when I got back next Sat!

Thanks for letting us know about mummya orange - was beginning to wonder where she'd got to.

Welcome harassed - super to see you here and don't you dare think about not hanging around! Great to see hairy here too!

Can't believe you're at final countdown owl and nix - good luck over the coming days / weeks.

Waves to all!

Oh, and on the constipation, I find a really big helping of baby leaf spinach helps plus fresh apricots too.

3 weeks til due date. Bloody hell and yikes. Had major meltdown last night and wailed and snottered lots - although this is something I have wanted for a very long time and am unbelievably thankful for, to find myself at this point is downright scary. Life is about to change and in a way, because I have worried all the way through and put off doing stuff, I feel completely unprepared for it. Bugger. And I can't stop eating junk food. I had to get up at 7am this morning to eat biscuits. I shall be so relieved when he's just here and I am not waiting for this to happen.

Collie glad you're feeling a bit better - it's so hard to know what on earth is going on in there. I still like Pink 's idea of a viewing window :)