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Expecting in Oxford 2012 (inc. late 2011 too)

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MakesCakesWhenStressed · 10/05/2011 15:26

Hi... so just been confirmed I'm due 10th (ish) of January and would love to get chatting to some others in the same area who are also expecting... As I said In the title that includes those of you due late 2011, as well - it's a very inclusive thread - as long as you'd be able to make some meet ups in Oxfordshire and you're going through some stage of reproduction then you'd be welcome :-)

I know there's at least one more of you out there (ghost - you there?)

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SenoritaViva · 31/05/2011 14:47

Hi Ghost, I'm reporting in and already looking about 5 months pregnant. It is hellish. Everyone says 'oh you always look bigger in your second pregnancy' but honestly this is ridiculous. I will be the size of a house shortly and haven't been able to keep it to ourselves at all.

Also in dire need of afternoon naps. Not likely but definitely needed! zzzz indeed.

Stephfa · 08/06/2011 17:52

Hello everybody, I'm 13 weeks pg with twins - due on 13 December, although twins are often early. Would love to join this group if that's OK. I'm 31 and it's my first pregnancy. I live in Oxford, moved here from London a few months ago.

chocolatesparkle · 08/06/2011 21:11

Hello everyone

I'm glad Stephfa bumped this up, i hadn't seen it before.

Please can i join. I'm 6 weeks pregnant tomorrow with DC1, due on the 1st of Feb 2012.

Currently we're on the outskirts of London, but hopefully moving to Oxfordshire in the next couple of months. We've put an offer in on a house in Wallingford. I won't know anyone and family are quite far away too, so would love to get to know some people in a similar situation to meet up.

xx

ghosteditor · 09/06/2011 10:43

Hi all,

Welcome to the list - great to have a few new members! sparkle I think cakes is somewhere near Wallingford actually. Good luck with the offer on the house! We're kind of looking to move but we leave in an extremely expensive part of north Oxfordshire and an extra £100K would only get us a nicer looking house and a bit more garden - no extra rooms or space, unfortunately. It seems crazy to move just for that, given moving costs. Also I think we need to move sooner rather than later, otherwise we'll just have to stay put for a few years. We're doing the kitchen next month so I suspect that's DH's way of saying that we should stay for a bit longer. Grin

stephfa congrats on the twins! I guess you must just have found that out at your first scan?

I'm at 8+ weeks and have a booking in appointment tomorrow morning. I'm freaking out a bit about the massive change to our lives at the moment, which is crazy because we were actively trying for four months before I fell pg. It still feels like I'm breaking some kind of rule by being pg - and I'm 28! Teenage habits die hard I guess!

ghosteditor · 09/06/2011 10:44
  • whoops actually I'm 27...
weenawoo · 09/06/2011 10:57

Hi, can I join? I'm in Bicester and due 18th December, only lived round here for a few months so could do with meeting some new people!

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MakesCakesWhenStressed · 09/06/2011 11:14

Hi all,

Sorry about long absence, but have been having rough time of it. Got a cold which combined with sickness to make me very miserable. Sickness is more manageable now, but v low blood pressure (90/50) is making me feel horribly dizzy a lot and I've only just been able to ope with looking at a screen.

Hope you get the house, sparkles, I'm in Wallingford and it's a really lovely place to live - would be happy to show you round if/when you get here if you want? Can I also recommend the MWL maternity unit in Wallingford? Had my booking appt there the other day and was incredibly impressed. Am very happy with my choice of giving birth there.

Hope the rest of you are well. I can understand the freak out Ghost, I'm having a similar one, esp since we're in a one and a half bedroom flat and can't really afford anything else just yet. he joys of being middle class - we earn just enough money to get absolutely no help, but not enough for that to not matter.

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Cakes

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ghosteditor · 09/06/2011 11:14

weenawoo sure, welcome to the list. Lots of new residents on here! I've been near Oxford for almost five years but where I live you have to be either (a) retired or (b) have kids in school to find a niche in the community. Am hoping that future offspring will be a good way to get to know more people.

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MakesCakesWhenStressed · 09/06/2011 11:17

Job/dog/baby - the 3 options for making new friends once you've left school!

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ghosteditor · 09/06/2011 11:20

sorry to hear that cakes - the low blood pressure must be hard work. Hope things level out soon for you.

I think the thing that frustrates me is that if we could somehow earn here and live back up north we would be able to afford a beautiful house. I know that we're well off (have you guys seen this link ? and we're very lucky to be well paid and in stable industries but we pretty much live in the cheapest housing in the town. We didn't go mad with the mortgage (in fact we're overpaying by quite a lot) but it will still be a huge change while I'm not working and it could be risky to commit to paying more on a mortgage. Oh well, guess I'm in a luxury position even being able to afford what we do, and I shouldn't complain.

ghosteditor · 09/06/2011 11:22

oh please don't, we desperately want a dog! would it be crazy to get our first dog a few months before the bub is born? would it be better to wait a couple of years? It's just that we both feel that one of us needs to be at home full time with a puppy!

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MakesCakesWhenStressed · 09/06/2011 11:39

lol - I'm more of a cat person, so can't comment, but I have a friend with a dog and two smalls, and the poor old dog started getting ignored as soon as the first baby came along!

We're paying so much on rent that we can't afford to pay much off the credit card and we can't save for a deposit until that's paid off (the credit card was run up when we moved down here, costs a lot to move house). We'd pay about half as much if we had a mortgage, but no chance of that till we have a deposit, which we can't save for because all our money goes on rent - unless we win the lottery or someone dies (which i hope won't happen) then we're screwed for many many years. It just makes me want to cry. We could have put off having the baby I suppose, but you can put your whole life on hold doing that, can't you?

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ghosteditor · 09/06/2011 12:08

cakes we have two cats already (one of which loves dogs, the other would probably move out) so it might be a bit much taking on a canine too.

That sounds like a real bind - hope you can start to sort things out financially soon, must be awful to know that the mortgage would be better but be stuck. For what it's worth, this whole idea of being settled before having kids must be brand new to the 21st century, because when I was born my parents were young and had no money and that was totally the normal thing. In fact I think many people (probably me included) get too used to having disposable income before kids come along which makes things even harder. See, I know my whinge was all self-centred and spoiled...sorry...

We do actually play the lottery by direct debit each week - mostly so I can still dream that one day we would be mortgage free. Think about how rich you'd feel! I justify the silliness by calling it charitable giving Wink

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MakesCakesWhenStressed · 09/06/2011 12:13

We have 2 cats, too. Love my furry babies :-) We also play the lottery, too, mostly so we can dream.

Whatever happens we're going to have to think about moving next year, even if just to another rental - we'll need the room.

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chocolatesparkle · 09/06/2011 14:20

We have moved billions (well almost!) of times in the past few years due to work. At the moment we're in a 1 and a half bedroom flat, so i know exactly what you mean cakes. We've rented until now and desperately been saving for deposit, just really hope that we can be reasonably settled in a new home before the arrival of baby. I'm nesting like crazy at the moment...DH has banned me from buying any more homeware until we move!

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MakesCakesWhenStressed · 09/06/2011 14:47

Don't buy any more stuff till you get here - there'sd loads of nice places to shop and it's a good way to get to know your new area! (plus you can take me and I can shop vicariously through you!)

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Stephfa · 09/06/2011 18:59

So much moving house and shopping! I have only 1 pair of trousers left that fits, but my DP says just wear leggings until you get bigger?! I am also new to Oxford and would like to meet up if/ when.

PenguinArmy · 09/06/2011 19:14
weenawoo · 09/06/2011 19:54

I need to get some bigger clothes as well, anybody know where's good for maternity stuff in oxford?

Littlepic · 09/06/2011 20:23

Hi all,

I'm new to mumsnet. I'm due at the end of december so if I keep my legs crossed I might make it into 2012!! I live in a little village in south Oxfordshire but at the moment planning to have baby at Great Western as this is actually closer for me.

chocolatesparkle · 09/06/2011 21:06

welcome penguin when are you due and is it your first DC?

also hello littlepic lovely to have new members.

Hope everyones pregnancies are going well. We've got quite a few of us on here now...exciting times in Oxon. xx

Xavielli · 09/06/2011 22:20

Hi ladies!

Chocolatesparkles kindly directed me here, I'm due mid February! This will be DC4 Shock and I am 25. This pregnancy has come as a bit of a shock as DP had a vasectomy in February of this year! So, as a severely weathered veteran of this pregnancy milarky I'm willing to share my wisdom! Lol.

Xavielli · 09/06/2011 22:21

Oh, I'm in Banbury! Hoping to move to one of the surrounding villages in the next few months.

PenguinArmy · 09/06/2011 23:48

Xavielli my mum had hyad five by the time she was 24 (she stated young, she was 14 when she had me)

Thanks for the welcome chocolate sorry for posting and dashing. So here's some blurb about me:

I am pg with DC2 (predicted to be a DS) and due in October. I already have a DD, there will be a 19 month age gap. She has recently weaned so I shouldn't have to tandem. We're not actually in Oxford, my job is ending so we're coming back to the UK for me to have some decent mat leave. I'm currently in California and didn't fancy another 3 months leave. DH has got a job in Oxford and we fly back in August. He'll live in a BnB presumably for a few weeks (unless someone near the Headington hospital has a spare room Wink) while he looks for somewhere for us to live and I'll stay with my mum. It will be a role reversal as he is currently a SAHD. Feeling a bit scared about it all actually, working seems by far the easier option Blush.

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MakesCakesWhenStressed · 10/06/2011 08:04

My goodness Xavielli - you really are a veteran! Are any of yours twins or did you just start early?! I feel like I'm too young to be doing this at 28, so I'm full of admiration. (I seem to be the only one of my peers doing the baby thing...)

It seems to me that we are rapidly moving towards a meet up situation - does anyone have a day or place that is better than any other? I work from home so can do any day of the week except Sunday (my day with DH) and whilst I would prefer something round Wallingford/Didcot because it's easier for me, I understand that that's not exactly fair for others, so please make suggestions, especially those of you who've lived here a while.

Hello to Penguin and Littlepic too, and any other newbies I've missed - Whereabouts in S Oxon are you Littlepic?

Looking forward to seeing you all....
x
Cakes

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