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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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how early is to early to try and bring on labour?

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claire87 · 19/01/2011 14:28

i was looking a bit of advise on how early is to early to try and make my baby come, this pregnancy has been awful so so so sore and i just cant wait till its over but i would like to know how early is to early lol thanks xxx

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HostOfPhantomListeners · 19/01/2011 14:30

You can't bring on labour. It happens when it's ready. Unless you are induced.

The chemical reaction between the baby and you that starts labour isn't something you can hope to influence yourself.

HostOfPhantomListeners · 19/01/2011 14:31

Sorry that was abrupt (in a rush), why are you sore? Does having a bath help? Physio?

gallicgirl · 19/01/2011 14:33

Talk to your MW about your issues and consider an elective C-section if things are that bad. They will still probably only do that at 39 weeks unless there are medical issues though.

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claire87 · 19/01/2011 14:37

this pregnancy has just been really sore....i have a non stop dull pain in the bottom of my back and i can feel the baby pushing right down but it making me jump in pain its awful :(

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HostOfPhantomListeners · 19/01/2011 14:39

I had a similar low back pain that shot into my legs. It was sciatica and I self referred to the pregnancy physio. Can you do that? How far along are you?

gallicgirl · 19/01/2011 14:41

aww poor you. Perhaps the baby is pressing on the sciatic nerve?

Ask if you can be referred to physio. Might also be worth looking at baby's position as that might be contributing. A work colleague had something similar because her baby was back to back but there are exercises you can do to change that.

As an aside, why is this in the fiction thread? Surely it would be better in pregnancy thread. Does anyone know how to ask mod to move it?

HostOfPhantomListeners · 19/01/2011 14:43

Just report it gallicgirl.

I think it's probably a mistake.

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claire87 · 19/01/2011 14:43

i am 30 weeks, baby is in position now x

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ledkr · 19/01/2011 14:53

omg are you joking?My ds was born at 33 wks was in hospital for 8 wks and still has health problems,if your baby was born now it probably wouldnt feed well and may have breathing probs,do you seriously want that.
You need to speak to gp or mw about your pain
managment,i am 38wks havent been able to walk properly since 26 weeks and am practically housebound,just have to get on with it im afraid.Try and enjoy it if you can u will never get to carry this baby again.

Al1son · 19/01/2011 14:57

If your baby is spine to spine you have my sympathy. Lots of time on all fours to relieve the pressure in your spine might help the pain. I remember only too well wishing both my pregnancies were over and feeling cheated out of the lovely chilled out blooming period we are all supposed to have.

You don't really want your baby born at 30 weeks do you? He/she could have serious health issues as a result. Just one week right at the end can still make a difference so try to think of it being a positive for your baby rather than negative for you.

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claire87 · 19/01/2011 15:00

i just keep telling everyone it wont be long lol its juts so sore, wasnt like this with my first :( sailed though that pregnancy, is it true that if the pregnancy's are so different that it mean they are different sex? x

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FlamingoBingo · 19/01/2011 15:02

Your baby is way too early to be born safely - sorry. It doesn't mean anything wrt to different pregnancies/different sexes.

What you need is help to manage the next 10 weeks, not ways to get your baby out sooner. Can you ask for some physio? What about some home help so you can manage your day-to-day life a bit more easily?

mosschops30 · 19/01/2011 15:06

Nothing can bring on a labour thats not ready to start.
All 3 of mine were late, the last two were induced despite being 15 days over and endless raspberry leaf tea/sex/nipple tweaking/curry/walking/pineapple etc.
No.3 refused to come out at all despite all that and propess, prostin and a rupture of membranes.

Your baby will come when its ready sorry, but 30 weeks is ridiculous, you could have a baby with health issues, why would you want to risk that?

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claire87 · 19/01/2011 15:25

i wouldnt risk going into labour now but maybe at about 35 weeks i would try cause i know loads of people that have had babies at 32 weeks + x

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FlamingoBingo · 19/01/2011 15:27

Claire, it won't work. YOu can't make your body go into labour until it's ready. Even hospital inductions can take ages to get started if you're not ready, and that can be very distressing for the baby. And 35 weeks is still quite premature and will bring a lot of risks for you and your baby.

gallicgirl · 19/01/2011 15:27

In fairness to the OP, I don't think she was suggesting she had baby now. Just wanted an idea of how much longer she might have to cope with the pain.

Normal gestation is 37 to 42 weeks and I think anything before 35 weeks is classed as premature. the longer they stay in, the healthier they are.

I hope you manage to find some way to deal with the pain Claire.

LunaticFringe · 19/01/2011 17:00

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claire87 · 19/01/2011 18:12

thanks gallicgirl
everyone seemed to go a little nuts at me there lol its not like i am wanting to ut thw baby at risk i was just asking for advise :)xx

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Shamechanger · 19/01/2011 18:22

At 35 weeks my DS was born unable to feed from breast or bottle, developed severe jaundice and reflux and had to be fed by nose tube. I had to stay in hospital with him and his development was somewhat delayed, only catching up when he was 2.

In the next pregnancy my waters broke too early for the baby to survive.

Having the baby before 37 weeks is a risk.

I HATE it when people want to have the baby earlier than when it wants to come out, it's insensitive to people who have had premature babies.

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claire87 · 19/01/2011 18:31

dont get on your high horse shamechanger! no actually said i was gonna pull the baby out did they!

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midori1999 · 19/01/2011 19:47

shamechanger I am so sorry for your loss.

claire87 you sound throroughly unpleasant, what a nasty thing to post when someone has just said they have lost a child.

cocoachannel · 19/01/2011 19:59

Shamechanger- so sorry to hear your story. I hope your DS is doing really well now!

OP- that was an incredibly insensitive comment. I just hope it was made because you didn't read or comprehend Shamechanger's post properly and not because you actually think somebody sharing two agonising episodes in their life is 'getting on your high horse'.

lal123 · 19/01/2011 20:05

Claire - you should be really ashamed of that last post

MainlyMaynie · 19/01/2011 20:24

Shamechanger, I am so sorry for your loss.

Claire, I can only assume you didn't read shamechanger's post properly, otherwise that is a truly disgusting post.

Al1son · 19/01/2011 20:24

Claire87 it is good that you came on here for advice. That's what mumsnet is for. The advice you've been given has probably been rather uncomfortable to receive and the whole thread probably suffers from the fact that no-one can use tone of voice or facial expressions so misunderstandings easily happen.

I'm sure nobody really expects you to take drastic measures to end your pregnancy early. You have after all asked about safety in your OP! I just think it's hard for others who would love to be in your shoes to understand your pain and discomfort.

I hope you can find a way to relieve your pain and that you baby doesn't decide to hang around after your due date.

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