Anyone due May 04?

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Just found out I'm pregnant with an EDD on May 7th, so though I'ld kick off this thread. I have a DS who was two last week. I am suprised to find myself having very mixed emotions - excitement at the thought of a sibling for DS, but horror at the thought of the pregancy, birth and first few months. Anyone else just found out they're pregnant?

libb, you need to book an appointment at your docs with the midwife if they didnt urge you to do so when you went. i had my booking in appt at 7 1/2 weeks, which was early. they said the earliest they do them is 8 wks. 12 wks is about the usual time i believe. you'll get asked questions about your health, have weight and blood pressure checked and have routine blood tests. You'll also get a form for free prescriptions and dental care, which you need to send off asap as it can take a few weeks for the NHS card to come through. dont worry, youre not too late yet, but do phone and book tomorrow as if your midwife is like mine, she's only available one day a week

good morning and hello to everyone, Linnet I was 11 weeks yeseterday and due 9/10 May. Like you I don't suffer migraines but would imagine that the headaches I have had are very similar.

Thanks for the advice regarding appointments Egypt. I filled in the medical exemption forms at the doctors and am now waiting for a mid-wife to contact me, the Rosie in Cambridge is a pretty big maternity hospital so I imagine there may be a slight delay - don't worry, I can guarantee there will be some nagging going on if I don't hear by mid week!

I still can't decide if I have a slight tummy or not yet - myabe it is just a slight fat displacement! heyho.

Congrats to all you May 2004 mums to be, my Edd is 16 May. I recently found out that my Dh was taking HCG and clomid at the time I conceived. Is it only when a women takes these that this can cause twins?? Pls help with this if possible as I am a little worried. Thanks all

Feline welcome. I am a little confused. Your dh was taking hcg and clomid? i dont understand. DH as in 'darling husband'? women taking hcg and clomid have a slightly higher chance of multiples yes.

ds uncharacteristically woke up 5 times in the night... I was feeling pathalogically tired before that... I'm a zombie today.

Can children overdose from CBeebies?

God, I'm such a terrible mother

Does anyone else know if their hospital does 3D scans?

Whilst chatting with one of the mums at the school gate today(the only person I've told about my pregnancy and it's still a big secret) she mentioned that our local hospital now has a 3D scanner and that one of the other mums was one of the first to get this done here.

So it looks like I'll be getting this done, funny how my Dr didn't know about it though. I'll have to go read up on it now and see what I can find out about it.

I know you can get 3-D scans done privately but did not know they were doing them on the NHS. My friend told me about them during my last pregnancy, and although I did not get one done, I did have a look at a hospital website where they did them and they looked amazing.

I'm about 9.5 weeks now but still haven't had an appointment through for a scan. Is that the same with anyone else?

I threw up 9 times yesterday.

And I'm having the very vivid dreams which are keeping me in a semi waking state from about 2am. I remember when pregnant the first time saying I'd never felt this tired. Then saying the same when surviving on 2 hours a night with dd as a baby. But I think having a demanding 17 month old and being 10 weeks pregnant is worse.

At least I'm still at work so I was able to take yesterday off. DH took dd to nursery and I stayed in bed all day (well all day except when lying on the bathroom floor retching) And Little Women was on - I'm blaming the hormones for the excessive amount of crying I did.

I have my first scan booked for 14th November - I got the appointment through a week ago.

I hope it starts to get a bit better soon prufrock.

Snips I am 10 weeks and have had no contact yet apart from a standard welcome from the hospital - identical to the one I got last time. No booking-in and no scan appt.

Prufock, hope you feel better soon.
I'm now 8 1/2 weeks and I had my booking in appointment with the midwife yesterday. In my area you have two scans at 11/12 weeks and 20 weeks, so she was wanting me booked in asap to arrange a scan date.
I have to agree with you Prufock about the tiredness. I am finding it difficult with a 15mth old and a dh who works away all week. Luckily I have got great pils who will take ds at a moments notice.
Is anyone else worried about having no2. I keep thinking how am I going to cope? I struggle sometimes to get myself and ds out and about before nap time how am I going to manage with 2? Everyone keeps saying 'you will' but???? And then I think is it fair on ds, we seem to have a nice routine going and it will all go to pot and then I won't be so into no2 as I was when ds was born iykwim.
Sorry rambling on, I've just got a brain full of jumble this morning.

I am so worried about coping. I came back to work after dd cos it was so much easier than being at home all day - now I'm going to be stopping work to look after 2. Am I mad?
DD was a perfect GF baby. I was so impressed with how well I coped - I would have a shower every day whilst she had her morning nap, do the housework whilst she gurgled on her playmat and usually manage to eat, watch trashy Tv and catnap during her 2 hour lunchtime sleep. So whilst I'm feeling fairly confident about my ability to cope with another newborn, I just can't envisage what I'm going to do with dd all day. Maybe I can just strap her into a chair in front of CBeebies?

prufrock I know exactly how I feel. I've just got this horrible feeling that I had the "easy" baby the first time around and I'm not going to be as lucky this time around. Plus having to deal with a potentially jealous toddler and having to entertain him.

I'm having problems entertaining him now because I'm so tired, ffs! What on earth am I going to be like with two?!!

I'm trying to get ds interested in cbeebies but he doesn't want to know. He would rather run around causing destruction. I'll file the chair idea away for future reference just in case

I read all your messages from over the weekend, and last night found myself in a very passionate dream!!

Now I've got a headache!!!

Wonder if reading everyone elses experiences is bringing this on

Evening everyone,

I received a letter from the midwife yesterday - I have had to make my appointment for the 6th November because of factors at work, eventually there will be a scan appointment! My sister has just had a little girl and says this is typical, I hope so!

I would be interested to know how soon everyone is breaking the news to family and friends, I have a strange situation in that I am still married and yet living with my partner so telling my soon to be ex is not going to be fun - also, I work in an office with just 2 other women, both of whom are 40 this year: one of which has a 7 year old and is happy with one and another who is trying all kinds of fertility methods to conceive - we are both somewhat wary of each other at the moment and I don't really want to keep going on about my situation. Luckily we had a nice chat today . . . .

Libb we haven't told any of our friends or family yet. The only people I've told are all of you online, one lady at my work who is like a surrogate mum to me and a friend at the school gates, both of them are sworn to secrecy.

The plan at the moment is not to tell any friends or family until after the 2nd scan but since this is my second I'll have to see how big the bump gets before making a final decision on this. Ideally I'd love to announce it on christmas day but we'll see how things go. Of course this may fall by the wayside if we see someone we know at the hospital on Thursday when we go for the scan, I'm hoping that I don't know anyone else in the waiting room though.

We will not be telling our dd until christmas though or maybe just after. I couldn't cope with the constant questioning every day of, is the baby coming today? and it will be bad enough when we do tell her as she'll have to wait until May.

Oh and I had my first horrendous Migraine last night couldn't sleep and woke dh up to go find me some paracetamols at 4.30am this morning, he was not happy but I think if I'd moved I'd have been sick.

Told family and then friends w/e before last. Not telling work until 12 weeks. Not told DS but people keep going on at him about it. Wish they wouldn't. Neighbour who's son is friends with DS is due mid-Jan so think that will be a good time to start the process. DS more likely to understand/accept (I hope).

Told my family a few weeks ago (as mum was a bit upset that I didn't tell her straightaway lst time, and as my Dad passed away since I had ds, thought she may appreciate it). Have also told 2 best friends. Will tell dh's family after 1st scan, and also everyone else after 1st scan.

Told ds once we found out, but he's not really bothered by it, though he gets to know about it when he accidentally kicks me in the stomach at nappy change time! He kisses my tummy, but only when I remond him there's a baby in there. Was a bit worried to tell him in case anything were to go wrong, but TBH I don't think he'd remember.

He's probably younger than my DS who is coming up 3 and would definitely remember. He's the kind of child who asks an obscure question about something that happened months ago. But people just keep saying to him "are you going to be a brother?". How does he know? Brother to what?

Took him to see a newborn the other day and he asked why it was crying. So explained that babies can't talk like him so they have to communicate through crying. Well didn't actually use word communicate but YKWIM.

It gone very quiet around here - is everyone ok?
Well, had forst scan yesterday, thank god all is ok. i was getting myself in a right state. The baby (just the one) is fine. He/she was wriggling around there on the screen; just so amazing to see. Never seen DH so transfixed in my life. Cant believe that its 36mm now. I had the date pinned down to the baby being 10 wks and 3 days. The sonogapher gave me 10.4 which is good! One day less to wait till 12 wks.

I'm sure someone else on here was having their scan yesterday too. Cant remember who. Hope all is well.

love me xxxxx

I want a scan I want a scan I want a scan!

I have to wait until Nov 14th. And I am convinced I've either got my dates wrong or I'm having twins. I am so huge. I'm 11 weeks today, but already people are noticing that I'm pregnant. I seem to have a large, hard bump already, quite high up. Is this just because it's second time around and I have no stomach muscles?

tbh I'm feeling a bit bleugh about it all at the moment. The usual "how the hell will I cope with two" worries, and memories returning about what life with a small baby is really like! All stupid really, but I've just been taking a break about thinking about it all and trying to get on as best as I can with "normal" routine and trying desperately to ignore the chronic tiredness.

Egypt,I was the other person who had my scan yesterday. I'm so glad to hear that you're scan went well.

Sadly things didn't go very well for me. First of all they told me that I was only 11 weeks along and then they said there was some fluid behind the babies neck. When the Dr doing the scan asked the midwife to go and Page a consultant I knew things were not looking good and I just went to pieces. I have to go to a hospital 20 miles away next Thursday for a CVS as my local hospital doesn't do them. The baby looked ok to me little arms and legs waving about just this blasted fluid at the back of the neck.

The consultant talked to us about how it could mean a chormosomal disorder, could be Downs or Turners or it could be a heart problem or it could just be some fluid and nothing wrong at all. It was all just such a shock as I had no problems with my first pregnancy.

We're taking each day as it comes and trying not to worry to much. But I have been given a tiny bit of hope after reading through other posts on mumsnet from people who had a bad nuchal result and then good CVS/Amnio tests. At the moment I'm just in limbo with the whole thing. I think subconciously I'm preparing for the worst as I don't want to get my hopes up to much. I should know the results of the CVS by the Monday following the test.

One thing we're glad about is that we haven't told anyone in the family yet about the pregnancy especially our daughter.

I'll keep you all posted when the time comes.

Oh Linnet hugs

Here's hoping that it's just fluid and nothing more ominous than that. Will be thinking of you on Thursday.