For mums 2 be after m/c PART 3

[bunny2]

A new thread for all us nail-biting mums-to-be.

Hi Splash - love the tip, I'm off to make some sandwiches then! If ds is anything like me, he'll eat them right away and be starving later, (I always ate my pack lunch before lessons started). BTW how many weeks are you now?

Preggers, have you revealed yourself yet?

Hello all!
had my scan yesterday (19 wks + 2 days ) ... and all is well. We decided not to find out the sex of our baby as we decided that the reason we were having the scan was to see if there were any problems so the sex was irrelevant really!
The sonographer was lovely ... kept telling me what she was doing and saying things like, "Just checking the heart now" and stuff so that was nice.
Baby seems to have endlessly long legs so will be a supermodel or basket ball player
Funny thing is that ever since the baby has been moving so much more than before ... real obvious kicks etc ... such a nice feeling. I have decided that the baby's movements are the only thing I like about pregnancy
Treated myself to two nice bras on Saturday ... went into the nicest bra shop I could think of (no M&S here ) and said, "I need help! I need to feel nice ....!"
The ones I got were underwired ... was told not to do that in the UK - which the lady here thought was very strange ... and give a much better shape than the bloody awful things I was wearing from DS' pregnancy. So I feel better now!
Preggers, am dying to know who you are ....
In the last 5 nights DS has been up for 3 ... nightmare! If he comes in with us I can't sleep and if he doesn't then he just keeps calling out and saying that there are monsters ... hmmmmm... what to do?
Bunny and HD and Pie and Splash ... how are you all feeling today??

aww ghosty you must be knackered!! poor you. im glad your getting kicks from your little one. its lovely isn't it. i am very queesy today i am 7wks+6 today. and loving every minute. i have a scan on friday. funny i was really scared before that nothing would be there, just a yolk sac. but now i feel much more confident that my baby is in there. hope you get some kip in tonight ghosty. how are you bunny and hd?

Ghosty - I'm so pleased you had a lovely scan and that all is well. Big hugs. Half way there now eh!

Sympathise with DS - had the same thing with DD for a while. Found we just had to be tough and put her back to bed or NOBODY slept. She stopped doing it after a few nights. If DS is scared of monsters then why not get a video/DVD with friendly monsters in it (Monsters Inc? But there must be others as well) so that monsters become less scary. Or buy him a monsters inc toy and say this monster will scare away the scary monsters. Don't know if it will work but might be worth a go

Hi Girls - i'm feeling rather like a charlatan now .... I'm sure when I reveal myself it will be an anticlimax anyway as I'm not a prolific poster .... I'd love to let you know who I am - for one thing its a right pain having to remember to change my name - but DH is adamant I shouldn't let on until I have a scan (hopefully when I will be about 12 wks). I guess we're both being a bit cautious and supersitious. Also he points out its not fair that I let my friends in on the secret when we haven't even told our parents yet. Ho Hum. I really do feel like telling someone though.

Ghosty - what lovely news about your scan. You must have been excited to see bubs. Was it a relief for you ? Splash - hope all goes well for the scan on Friday. Let us know how it goes.

Bunny2 have you had any symptoms yet ? I thought your advice was really good too. I keep forgetting that no symptoms don't nessarily mean anything sinister. Although it is hard not to worry isn't it ?

Pie - are you in a wheelchair most of the time due to your SPD ??

Helloo all. Ghosty, that scan sounds great, must be a relief, well done. Splash, I am so glad you are feeling positive about your scan, let us know how it went when you can. I have to wait till 12 weeks for mine but I am terrified there will be no heartbeat though I have no reason at all to suspect that will be the case. Preggers, I get more curious each time you post

Ghosty, good to hear your news. Good luck on Friday splash.

Ghosty, have you tried getting ds to say/shout "Go away monsters!" or something similar? Sounds a bit obvious but might make him feel more brave (?)

Ghosty, glad to hear the scan went well

Could your DS have finally picked up on the new baby coming? Perhaps he is looking for extra cuddles, last chance to be the baby and all that??

I had something similar with DD, though I think she is a bit older, and she started to sleep better with more reassurance, if that makes sense!

Ghosty - that's wonderful news. I suspect the bra thing is that underwired don't allow you to grow so I think its ok to have one just consider buying a new size in the next month/two months etc.

Ooh ... not sure about that Wills ... my poor credit card is having a battering at the moment, what with maternity clothes and new bras and all
Seriously, (not relevant to topic at all) is anyone worried about the cost of Christmas? This year we have DS' birthday at the end of November then Xmas with MIL, SIL and BIL staying for 2 weeks then new baby at the end of Jan ...
Not sure how the finances are going to stretch at all!
I have already bought a couple of presents for DS for b'day and xmas (hiding on top of wardrobe) but it is all a bit of a strain.
I can't even stock up in nappies for the baby because they don't have unisex ones in NZ ... well, they do, but the brand that do unisex nappies is crap!

Everyone is being very quiet ... how are you all?
Hilary? Are you still around?
HD ... Bunny2 ... how are you both feeling?
Pie ... How's tricks? Apart from being caught with your pants down as it were

And Splash and Preggers ... ???

Hi Ghosty, I was just thinking about asking where everyone was as well, its been so quiet.

I'm in bed all the time atm...and no not for that reason!!

My Spd is just getting worse day by day as baby gets bigger. I think that she keeps trying to engage as I get these periodic stabbing pains in my pelvis and bladder, and then shes seems to bob up again, plus my bump feels slightly lower than usual.

I'm due in 4 weeks and 1 day (can you tell I'm counting?). DD was born at 6.28am on her due date, so I'm hoping this one won't be late. I was reading that when the mother is malnourished that this can trigger early labour, so I'll be asking about that at my clinic appointment this week.

I have had all my antenatal appointments with my GP since my 20th week, so as this is going to be my first hospital appointment since then, I'm feeling quite apprehensive. EVERY time I see the hospital they tell me something, or try to keep me in.

Because of that I made DH set up the cot and my mum has literally helped me do a spring clean. I'm just convinced that the baby will come early (naturally or otherwise) or that I will be kept in hospital for the rest of the pregnancy.

How are you Ghosty?

And everyone else?

I am fine Pie, thanks for asking ...Not feeling sick any more (yay!) and getting bigger every day (and feeling the baby do acrobatics all the time now )...
For me the worst bit of pregnancy is morning sickness and putting on weight (I have piled it on) but I can't complain when I read the stuff that you are going through. I would hate to be stuck in bed all day (although I yearn for bed often so that I can get some kip - DS still being a little b**r at night).
This must be torture for you ... I am not surprised that you want the baby to come early - I guess the sooner she comes the sooner you will be able to get on the road to recovery won't you?
I had mild SPD with DS and it went almost as soon as he was born but I remember reading on your SPD thread that it might be some months before you have full mobility again ... is that right?
Poor you Pie ... I think about you often and just wish that it didn't hurt for you so much! Hugs ... {{{}}}
Any update on the c-section decision yet?
If you go into hospital how will we be updated on your progress? .... don't go into hospital ... pleeeeease!
Hope that the others check in soon ... they are being very quiet ...

If I get kept in on Thursday, DH has my password so I'll get him to post something.

The physio has told me that my she estimates recovery period to be about 6-9 months. Although obviously, she said, I would get better bit by bit. Of course I'm hoping that I'll pop this one out in 3 hours and be out clubbing by the next weekend ;o I think the SPD is really bad right now as I can't wear the big tubigrip bandage that I'm supposed. I have the WORST eczema I've ever had, my stomach is flaking off so the bandage just makes it worse. I'm awak scratching most nights. GP says its hormones and stress. But at least its not OC, even though I'll be 36 weeks on Thursday I'm still convinced something might happen to the baby. I just don't have the blissful ignorance/security that I had with DD since the m/c.

I'm worried about being kept in as I'm clinically malnourished. Still throwing up, still can't face food.

I've decided that I will ask for a c/s if I can't push her out by myself. So no ventouse of forceps. I've put this in my birthplan so hopefully the hospital will say thats ok on Thursday. Though they will probably drug me there and then and wheel me up to theatre.

Glad to hear you're not feeling sick anymore Ghosty. I must say after reading how many folks are decending on you for Xmas I think you're incredibly generous and brave. I would just turn out the lights and pretend not to be in!!

Are you going to the concert as well? Say yes, then I can live vicariously (sp?) through you

Yes, I'm fine thanks. Haven't been here much lately. I'm now about 17 weeks and feeling fine. I had my first appointment for weeks on Friday and as far as they could tell, everything was as it should be. I asked to hear the heartbeat but they said they might not be able to pick it up yet so did I want the potential worry of not being able to hear it yet and not knowing if the baby is alive or not. I decided to hang on as I have another appointment this Friday somewhere else so I'll ask again then maybe. It still crosses my mind that the baby might have died as it is so long since I had a scan and knew for certain.

Will they be able to pick up a heartbeat this Friday at 17+1 weeks?

Hilary ... glad you are still with us!!
Did you have a 12 week scan? You probably did but I can't remember if you posted it or not. The weeks between my 12 week scan and another at 19 were hard for that same reason. I would convince myself that my bump hadn't grown and would ask DH to feel it and tell me if he thought it had ... It was so hard until I felt the baby begin to move!
Try to focus on other things ... how are your positive symptoms? Like Big boobs for example. I kept myself sane by focussing on those things.
Also, someone else said somewhere that you should be heartened by the lack of m/c signs ... I know that sounds grim .... but it might work for you.
Your midwife or doctor should definitely be able to pick up a heartbeat by 17 +1 weeks. I had a midwife appt at 15 weeks and she warned me she might not be able to find it but she did... that definitely kept me going a couple more weeks.
I also began to feel some little movements at 17 weeks ... felt like air bubble bursting in my tummy ... and sometimes I wasn't sure if it was wind () or not but as the weeks have progressed I have come to recognise them more and distinguish between wind and movements!!
Can't believe that I am 21 weeks this Friday ... wow!
Hang in there Hilary ... thinking of you xxx
Pie ... I remember reading your birthplan now and being really impressed ... will have to look that up when my time comes ...
Clinically malnourished Pie? I have missed something ... what more for you to put up with? Is it because of throwing up all the time? Am sending so many positive cyber vibes across the world to you .... {{{{{{{{{}}}}}}}}}

Thanks for the cyber vibes Ghosty! Yeah I had some blood test a week or so again and I'm clinically malnourished, starving. GP just told me to eat more!!! Yeah like this it's that straight forward...Been updating my birthplan, taking on board everyone's comments, so hopefully it will be taken more seriously.

Hilary, they should be able to pick up the heartbeat, I hope you get some reassurance on Friday, let us know. xxx

Hi all, Hillary I know how frustrating this waiting is. I am half dreading my scan in case of bad news. My midwife said a heartbeat could be heard from around 12 weeks, but there are lots of factors that can affect it ie the position of the baby, maternal fat etc. Hope you get the reassurance you want.

Ghosty, glad you are feeling better, I have been pretty rough for a few days, mainly nausea but also headaches. Cant wait to get out of the fisrt trimester.

Pie, sympathy to you, fingers crossed for a speedy delivery.

Hd and Splash, how r u both doing?

Thanks guys. I will ask tomorrow if they can listen for a heartbeat for me. I did have a scan, Ghosty, it was at 11 weeks so a long time ago now... I think I posted about it on another thread and not here.

I'll let you know how I get on BUT had a really sicky morning this morning, for the first time in about four weeks, so maybe the baby is ok after all?!

Had my 36 week check today and I have to go back in 2 weeks having decided whether I'm going to have a C/S, induction or just wait. It looks like I'll be opting for the indction, so I'll be moving my due date along when I have the date booked.

I can't wait not to be pregnant anymore, I just to want to meet my baby and see her and know everything is ok and start to recover.

I've had one of those days anyway.

I was so psyched up about my appointment and getting the staff to take the SPD seriously that I barely slept. And then they were like 'you do what you want, its all good with us'!!

The wheel fell off my wheelchair so I fell on the floor, that was pretty sore. My mum wouldn't believe me that I shouldn't sit in it after (she thought she had fixed it) until I fell out again.
She got a hospital wheelchair and they told her it could only be pulled backwards not pushed. Did she believe them?? Noooooo So guess who got stuck in the door of the antenatal clinic with 20 people trying to push past.

At bathtime I'm trying to get to the bathroom but I'm really sore and taking my time. DD (who is 4) offers to carry my Gaviscon in for me, really sweet, so I let her. I get to the bathroom and there is toilet paper floating around all cloud like in the bath. I ask DD if she put toilet paper in the bath, she just runs off, so I pull the plug and run the water all over again.

DD comes back into the bathroom in time to see me drink some of the Gaviscon. In the smallest voice she says 'Oh you drink that one? Not put it in the bath? I put it in the bath to make your skin better' DD thought that it was my Oilatum for my eczema and wanted to help. Hence the clouds in the bath.

I smell like peppermint antacid now as it left a film on the bath tub.

DD then decided at 9pm she had a stomach ache, threw up macaroni cheese ALL over the bathroom. I cleaned it up, which did wonders for my morning sickness. I was then desperate to wee, put the toilet seat down. Guess where I had forgotten to clean. Yep a rancid cheese butt was all mine...

I need a holiday.

Oh Pie ....
I am so sorry, I know you had a really bad day, but it's the way you tell 'em! I admit to chuckling at your awful day .. especially at the wheel falling off (though I did groan and wince in sympathy at the thought of how much that must have hurt), smelling of peppermint and then the cheesy bottom ......
I am a bad, bad, bad Ghosty and will now send myself to my room to think about it ...... I will come out when I am ready to be nice and say sorry ...

Right ... I have been to my room and had a really good think and I am very sorry Pie for laughing at your awful day
I really hope that today is a better day for you ....
Lots of hugs and kisses

Its alright Ghosty, laugh away, after a day like yesterday thats all I could do to!!!

Can't tell you how many times I keep cleaning my bottom though, urrgghhhh I can still smell cheesy puke