For mums 2 be after m/c PART 3

[bunny2]

A new thread for all us nail-biting mums-to-be.

Hello mums2b. May I join you on this thread ??
For the time being I am using a different nickname as I haven't announced my current pg officially yet and there's a couple of people on mumsnet I know that I'd like to tell IRL first.

I'm on the April 2004 thread, and I am 6 weeks now. I'm feeling a bit low today as I am paranoid about having another m/c. My first pg ended in a m/c at approx 6 weeks. Although my second pg was fine and I have a gorgeous dd, I'm really worrying again and fearing the worst. DH keeps telling me that what is meant to be is meant to be and there is nothing I can do anyway to prevent it. But I still can't help worrying, and 'auditing' my day wondering if I am doing anything risky. Also I'm not suffering from any sickness either (although I didn't with dd so I know that doesn't necessarily mean anything), and last night and today I find myself wondering if my boobs have stopped aching now. I dread going to the loo too.
Sorry to sound so despondant, and rambley

Hi preggers. I know exactly what you mean - the worrying's awful isn't it. I think I've felt a bit nauseous the last couple of days but actually it could all be in my mind!
Ghosty, sorry you're homesick

Preggers, cant wait to find out who you are . I m/c'd last time at 7-8 wks so I will be looking forward to getting over that hurdle. No bleeding so far for me which I hope is a good sign. I dont really have any symptoms yet and will relish them when they come. I am already getting bigger though, at 6 weeks. My Mum commented today on my big boobs!

Does she know you're pregnant bunny2?

Yes, havent told anyone else, except a good mate and another friend and the person we bought our house off.

HD, have you told many?

I have told friends who know about my previous m/cs, as I figure I'd be telling them whatever happens this time. Haven't told my mum yet though. We don't live in the same town and I may wait until I get to 12 weeks (unless she asks before then).

Hi, this thread has been quiet for a few days. How are you all? I'm ok, getting vague nausea now, nothing very serious though. Going to bed reasonably early but this is more because I'm trying to look after myself rather than because I'm really tired (I'm quite tired but haven't yet had that overwhelming tiredness that you get when you can do nothing but go to bed).

Hello, no nausea for me but I am very tired. Usually once ds is in bed I can watch a movie, paint a wall, tidy up and have a good shag but now as soon as he is in bed, I crawl into mine. Also, I have had a headache which is unusual for me but, I do beleive, a common symptom in early pg.

Yes I always had headaches in early pg bunny and v tired, sickness came a bit later for mw too, every one is diff. Hope you're all ok and thinking of you all, as I know it's tough the first few weeks. LOLXX

Thanks for some reassurance Quacks, you are a love. Instead of panicking about lack of pg symptoms, I am going to try and focus on the fact that I also have no mc symptoms, a more positive way of looking at things I suppose.

Gosh bunny that's agreat attitude!! Never thought of it like that! Maybe have a look at the thread I did - 'I'm bleeding again...' it is full of wonderful comments and support from poeple and some ranting from me, but all that worrying. The vast majority of people are absolutley fine and this thread just proves that fact!! I just 'felt' something was wrong and how I felt in my first pgcy. It was so diff to the ones I lost. xxxxx

I know Quacks, you are right. I shall go look at that thread again. I remember being so upset when I first read it.

Good advice re looking for the positives, bunny2. Hope you're ok. How is everyone else? Ghosty? Pie? Preggers? (Splash - have written to you on the April 2004 thread).

Hey peeps...

Just got back from my 34 week antenatal with GP...talked about C/S, she said that it was my choice, so no help making up my mind.

I'm covered, and I mean covered, with eczema, so she took blood and sent it off...guess if I have OC that will decide everything for me as there is no way I'm having an induction.

My mum pushed me to the appointment in a wheelchair...oh my god. I'm so glad my mother doesn't drive, is that really how terrifying it is for a kid in a pushchair??? I'm still checking I have all my toes.

Feel like a prize heffer. Brought a nursing bra, took it out of the box and said to DH 'Are my boobs really this big?' (I'm a 40DD) He bloody well says YES...now I'm feeling really self conscious as apparently I'm the biggest boobed woman he's been with.

Why do we ask questions about your partner's previous partners force then to answer and then sulk???

Bunny and HewlettsD, my thoughts go out to both of you...I really did have to take it a day at a time at first, if I looked beyond then I went became hysterical. But it worked, actually I'm not sure that the worlds worst pregnancy is 'working' but things do turn out ok. {{HUGS{}}}

Pie, good luck with making up your mind, really hope you don't have OC. Surely you can't be THAT unlucky? at the pushchair being scary.

Pie - OC? Sorry, don't know what that stands for.

Pie, you do make me laugh! My dh gets v. excited at my increased chest size. He keeps grabbing them and he is going to get a clout soon, they are a bit tender right now.

Don't mention boobs ... mine our totally hideous ... hate them, hate them! Massive with blue veins and dark nips ... eeeewwww ... not doing much for my love life I can tell you!
Scan on Monday ... will be 19 and a half weeks ...
Definitely feeling movement now ... lovely ... but DS is being a shocker at night at the moment and so I fell over laughing when the Mumnet Fact of the Day said, "Adults should have 7 - 8 hours unbroken sleep at night!!"
Ha ha ha ha ha ha ... is there any way I can get my son to understand that?????
Yours overtired and emotionally ... Ghosty xxxx

Pie - have found the answer to my own question by looking at your very own thread... sorry, you seem to be going through such a lot in this pregnancy. Hang on in there
Ghosty - what is ds up to? My ds, who is 4, keep coming into our room too early in the morning. Sometimes, rather than take him back to his room, I just let him get in with dh and go and sleep in his bed myself until it's a more civilised hour! Not a good habit to get into though... Hope scan goes well!

Ds always climbs in with us in the middle of the night, then I get fed-up with being kicked and go to his room, he then wakes horribly early and gets in with me again. Dont know how he'll cope with a sibling vying for attention. In my book it recommends a 2 hour rest every afternoon, that'll be for those who dont have other kids then.

Is that a 2 hour rest for the mother-to-be? Not helpful advice if you work either!

3 hours if you're expecting twins.

Splash, are you around?

i am still here bunny,thanks for the concern. i am feeling very tired all the time and have the pregnancy sickness.
i remember something from m stoppards book (this should make you laugh) she recommends on the subject of an early riser. put in the cot some sandwiches and pieces of fruit to eat so that he won't wake you up so early!! it kind of contradicts the line she uses about always being present when your child is eating, so they don't choke. hope you are all ok.