Mums to be due in May 2011

[emmywoo]

Hi everyone,
Thought I would start a thread for all us mums to be who are due in May 2011 so that we can support each other. xx

I agree BlingLoving... I always convince myself of the worst. I got twinges last week which seemed to indicate ligaments stretching etc. So, instead of feeling relief, I convinced myself it was an ectopic pregnancy. Then when the twinges stopped, I convinced myself it was because a MC was imminent. I can't win.... Then I am certain that when I go for the scan they will tell me it was a chemical pregnancy. In fact, the state I have worked myself up into already is one whereby I will probably be surprised if there is a heartbeat!!
As for symptoms, I think too that everyone remembers the worst symptoms and they become sensationalised.
I know myself too well - after the scan I have in two weeks time, I probably won't feel relief, but will probably be filled with nerves over the next scan!

A big congrats Lilly13. My hospital was offering an early scan on the NHS but I decided to wait until 10.5 weeks. Ever so tempting though!

I am waiting for my 1st scan letter appointment to come. My midwife said I should expect it in the next few days so im really excited but also nervous but starting to feel pregnant

I hope you all have nice relaxing weekends where possible x

So an early scan can be external? Hmmm tempting!! I am another worrier, and the thought of waiting till 12 weeks (in fact I was 13.5 by the time they scanned me with dd1) is horrific. Our closest place charges £99 though, I don't know if we can stretch to that atm...

Oh and my teeny tiny 34a boobs didn't get any bigger throughout my last pregnancy and bf-ing so I am not holding out any hope on that front!

I am such a worrier too!!! I haven't been feeling sick at all, although my boobs are sooo sore all the way down the side and at the top. I am really really tired, going to bed at 830. I think that every twinge is something bad then when I don't feel anything I worry about that too!! I am constantly checking for blood or spotting, to the point where I hold my underwear to the light to see if anything has come out. I know this is TMI but is anyone else getting lots of discharge? I am worried that I am not feeling sick, but is that ok? I have no spotting or bleeding at all :) argh!! I am fed up of goggling because everytime I do, there is always really bad news and just wind myself up!! Thank god I have a lovely, caring hubbie xx

hi ladies - glad to see you're all still doing well, and worrying as usual!

i've not had any MS either - just a bit of nausea, but i think my boobs are getting more sore, not less! i'm sure this is TMI, but in true MN fashion, here goes - my nipples feel almost like open wounds! hoping this passes quickly... and yes kirky5678, definitely an increase on the discarge front!

i think i read one MNer who i thought summed up early pregnancy quite well - she said that everything is normal and nothing is normal.

i haven't really thought about having an early scan - i think i can wait until 12-13 weeks-ish, and i just keep thinking that anything could happen at any time, so i should just relax and try not to conjure up imaginative reasons for taking days off work...

good luck!

Congrats everyone.. I am 6 weeks tomorrow. So excited, after a long time trying.. Got my midwife appointment on 11th October so i will be just 7 weeks. xx

Hey there!
I'm due 21st May-ish...already have a son whovwill be 3 On 7th May. I'm scared to death as had horrendous post natal depression with my first. I only returned to work 5 months ago!
I'm at Doctors Wednesday as need to discuss my current antidepressant.
I've a useless partner, however fantastic father...we don't live together anymore but get on much better lol. Welcome to a 21st century family I suppose!!
Congrats to all u mums to be!! X

just a note of reassurance - at my scan they couldn't get a good picture with an external so did an internal but it was nothing at all, nothing like even as bad as a smear so don;t waoory if you do need one (I am 8weeks which was why she couldn't get a great pic)

i have finally got my first midwife appointment on thte 21st october..i will be one day off being 12 weeks and feel that its a bit late for my first appointment with anyone, only got the appointment cos i rang up and pestered them for a day!
So don't have a clue when my first scan will be, guess i will have to be persisitant with that too, its odd cos i thought you just went to your doctor when you found out you were pregnant and everything gets organised, how nieve am i!

oh well, at least i'm seeing someone at least, i'm now just over 9 weeks, have not had any pysical vomiting but did have two weeks of nausea, but have had to buy new bras as my boobs have doubled in size lol!
and i am also in bed most nights by 9:00 which is odd for me as i am a nightowl!

Good luck girls, and don't stress too much, this is my first baby and i know its easy to panic about the smallest thing but i believe if its ment to be then its ment to be. :)

Hello everyone, slightly shellshocked newbie here! Sorry if this is long, I've not spoken to anyone about this except DH so want to get it all off my VERY SORE chest:)

Came off the pill June 2009 to get it out of my system in good time for starting to actually try this summer but carried on using condoms. Last period was end of July but used the Clearblue digital ovulation thingy for 7 days at predicted time in August but no positive ovulation results so was quite downhearted cos in the past my periods used to be all over the place (hence the Pill) so I assumed they'd gone to pot and we were going to struggle ttc. DH keen to have a bash anyway(!)so we did but certainly didn't think things would happen on the first round of trying.

Sounds stupid but when my period was missing in August AND September it literally did not cross my mind that I might be pregnant, I just thought they'd gone back to being irregular. I've had a really hot, achey lower back on waking for about 3 weeks now, and consistently sore boobs but I put this down to period possibly being on the way and I've been knackered but not even a whiff of nausea or sickness so it was only after I'd been to M&S to buy some Magic Pants cos I thought I was getting a bit chunky for my work uniform that the penny finally dropped and I did a test yesterday = positive result.

In a bit of a flap now cos this pretty much makes me 10 weeks in & no doctors seen or folic acid taken and a fair few glasses of wine to the good along the way! At least it's saved me a few weeks of worry and I wouldn't be telling anyone until well after first healthy scan. Will phone doctors tomorrow but just want to know if any other May due date peeps are in anything like the same boat?? Lovely to read all your stories x x x

Hello All & congrats

This thread has been a lifesaver over the last few weeks, all the worries I have been having seem to be shared ones.

I am 7 weeks, due 20th May and this is my first pregnancy.

Have not had many symptoms, sore boobs and nipples like bullets!!!! Had my first bout of nausea on Friday and just feeling exhausted. Wanted to do loads this weekend and have done nothing!

I had my first doctors appointment a week and a half ago and after being told he would recommend me for an early scan (I have had previous gynae problems so have been really anxious about possible ectopic pregnancy), I found out this week that St Thomas don't do scans earlier that 12 weeks! I would have to go to there Emergency Pregnancy Unit. Apparently they don't have the procedure in place to refer early scans!
I then asked another doctor if I should have the flu jab and she told me she would have to get back to me as she wasn't sure!!!!

I am considering going for a private scan for peace of mind, just nervous incase anything is wrong.
I will be 10 weeks by the time I see the midwife so will see how that goes.

Am desperate to tell my friends especially the ones who have been through it but DH doesn't want me to and is being the voice of reason. Will announce to friends & family after the 12 week scan.

Look forward to sharing journey with you ladies.

X

Trinitycalling please don't worry. With my DS I had no idea for at least two months and got very drunk twice and did all sorts of things you are not supposed to do. Also didn't take folic acid until I did find out (I was so wrong on my dates my 12 week scan ended up being 17 weeks!) He is fine! Best of luck with everything.

trinity, i wouldnt worry either, with my first i didnt find out till 7 weeks pregnant and same with this pregnancy so hadnt started taking folic acid till lata on, and im pretty sure a couple of glasses of wine never hurt anyone :)

ladylight- i do not no how u and others can manage to keep it a secret from everyone, i am useless with secrets lol

LaraMi, Tigerbear, Blingloving,

Also worried feel so fine can't possibly be pregnant and have given up all sorts of tasty good things and made life a hassle for nothing.

Here's my rant: Also just got back from week abroad LaraMi, and was typical, dinner out on Thursday night in really posh restaurant set menu was liver pate, followed by the most amazing huge prawns, followed by something that the waiter said was chicken but was pink so no-one wanted to eat and I certainly wouldn't, plus free bar inc. unlimied sherry/wine/champagne all night.

There was me sick from hunger not even able to relax with a drink. Rubbish. And not even convinced I am pregnant except no period for 9 weeks and 4 +ve tests.

Then, when I get back, my MIL presents us with glorious crab and prawn salad (which she knows I love) and SIL cooks beautiful seafood flan. It's typical.

Can't wait to meet the midwife a week on thurs so I can find out when they can find out if I am actually pg and not making it all up!

On way back yesterday, spent whole journey googling no symptoms and worrying that baby may have died and am waiting to mc (apparently that can happen and it can be a few weeks?). OH confiscated my phone then as he couldn't stand it any more and said 'lets just wait and see. At least you've not got cramps.'

I think it's the not knowing that's the worst.

BlueWellies

I emphasise wholeheartedly. I had two days of puking after everything on Friday and Saturday after virtually no nausea at all. Then yesterday I was absolutely fine and ate like a horse.
This morning though my suit trousers were tight and my husband says my stomach definitely feels different (it's rounder and when I try to suck it in, it doesn't go anywhere!)
My blackberry browser history has everything from "missed miscarriage" to "no symptoms at 8 weeks" to "nausea before a miscarriage" to "ectopic pregnancy" and the list goes on! My panics tend to occur during commutes and I browse all sorts of (what I hope it) nonsense on the train!
My booking in appointment was a severe disappointment - they didn't "check" anything. Just paperwork. It made me think that if I was a compulsive liar, they'd be none the wiser. My scan is in ten days time and I am petrified of being made a fool of if they see nothing there.
My husband is hugely supportive but thinks I am going to worry myself into miscarrying. For him it's simple - I had the test, it confirmed I'm pregnant. The tadpole hasn't gone anywhere so I am still pregnant. I wish I was that confident!

Trinity - it's going to be fine! And just think how much less time you have to wait. Hopefully the doctor will see you asap but I bet this isn't the first time they've seen this happen.

I am living for the appointment with the private doc on Saturday. The period-like pain was really quite bad over the weekend. It woke me up last night and I had to take a couple of paracetamol. It comes and goes and I'm still 100% healthy when it's not around, but it is debilitating when it's there. It scares me.

But I also have done obsessive googling and for it to be ectopic I would be experiencing fever, chills, stabbing pains etc which I'm not. So I hope that's okay. I was in the bathroom with my iphone googling at 1:30 this morning. It wasn't good.

Lots of websites say it's normal, but I've never heard of it before now so it doesn't feel normal to me!

[although it does seem to kick in if I haven't eaten for a while and/or my bladder/bowel are full so it does seem to be a pressure thing of some sort].

Sorry for the paranoia. It's just so draining.

Try to relax BlingLoving. Until we have our scans it is tense times and we over-analyse each and every twitch. Can't you have an emergency scan to check all is okay? Or at least call your midwife?

hey all, hope everyone is ok, it seems paranoia and iternet checking is making everyone go a lil bit doolaly i have been advised not to sympton search on internet lol, have suddenky the past few days been feeling extremely nauseous cant even bare to look at food :(

Hi there.
I am glad to see this line of chat/support.
Im feeling quite vulnerable at the moment, tho trying to carry on as normal.I found out I was pregnant two weeks ago and I am 45! It wasnt planned.I have just moved into a lovely new home with my partner, and life has been chaotic to say the least. I have 3 lovely children from my previous marriage.Im due on the 19th May and very much have mixed feelings. I clearly have a high risk of miscarriage at my age, but I didnt think I would fall pregnant at my age!!!
I had a scan a week ago at 7 weeks and there was a heart beat. I have only told my partner and that is all.We both have mixed feelings as we have 5 children between us..he has 2 from his previous marriage, and the youngest child is 10 so there will be a big gap.

I too did all the wrong things early on as I had no idea I was pregnant, ie drinking wine, not taking folic acid etc.

Anyone else in similar boat?

Ah did a long message but pewter ate it! Boo!

LaraMi My DH is the same and I wish I had his confidence sometimes!

I am the same with not doing the right thing: 3 days before I had my positive test I was at a party til 5am and doing shots all night! My midwife said its the choices we make after we know which are the most important ones and stressing about things we cant change are not good for anyone.

I hope that makes it a little difference to you x

Thanks so much for your replies, it's lovely to have the reassurance :) Managed to get a GP appointment for tomorrow so we'll see what transpires from there...

I know what you all mean, the temptation to Google everything is so awful, I wish the internet had a sort of hormone breathalyser thing where you can't use it when pregnant for fear of scaring yourself witless!!!

Ladies, I found 2 very good pregnancy books "The Pregnancy Bible" by Anne Deans and "What to Expect when You are Expecting". These have been phenomenal at answering my questions. I was extremely paranoid and was serfing the web non-stop, however, after I started reading these books, a lot of worries and queries fell away. I would definitely recommend these. I think you can get the used ones much cheaper on Amazon...

Hey everyone, I am 8 weeks pregnant and to my suprise, worrying about everything exactly the same as everyone!! I had no idea i was pregnant as i have irregular periods until i was 6 weeks. I like a good drink, lots of coffee and ciggarettes every day. I spoke to the Doc and he was so casual and said don't worry about anything, humans are built to be quite resiliant to things but stop smoking and get on the vitamins!
On day 1 of no smoking... fingers crossed for days to come!!
We had a scan at 6wks 6 days to know how far i was and get a due date. (18th May!)
I'm reading all the books and maggs but find them all contradicting eachother!!?
Just found this thread and so pleased to find people going through the same!!

Oh and anyone fancy a chat feel free to send me a message, coz i have no idea what to expect and i am freaking out about EVERYTHING!!!!! ha ha :p