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Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

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7months later and still haven't cracked number 2's!!

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llynnnn · 23/07/2009 12:49

we started potty training dd in january, she never has any wee accidents, but she still very rarely uses the potty/toilet for her poo's

he only way she will poo in the potty/toilet is if she has a totally nude bottom (no knickers or trousers). this is ok in the house as if I see the signs that she needs to go (she sits down and hides in the corner) i take them off her. everywhere else, or if i dont catch her in time she just uses the knickers like a nappy.

I can spend ALL day asking her if she needs to go and she always says no. we seem to have tried everything: ignoring the accidents, HUGE praise for doing it, sticker/choc rewards, special treats, getting cross with her etc etc but nothing seems to work.

Can anyone help me?? she will be 3 next week and is the only child in her nursery group that isnt potty trained, which the nursery staff kindly remind me off each week !!She totally understands what she should be doing and is very bright and articulate in every other area.

thanks in advance

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virtualrealityfreak · 10/08/2009 14:47

Well I tried the 'you can have a chocolate' if you sit on the toilet thing! Not interested!

Tried one day of no nappies (was daughter's idea to remove nappy so went with it yesterday). Survived three hours ; )
In that time two big puddles and one poo quite happily in pants. Think we will do this in easy stages as after three hours was completely worn out!

I keep thinking at 2 and a half maybe she is just not ready. Will just keep broaching the subject and trying now and again I think when we have some free home time! Maybe that way she might just get used to the idea without so much pressure and stress (and my nerves might just about survive)

letsblowthistacostand · 14/08/2009 18:21

I think we may be getting somewhere. After 2 rounds of 'poopy toys' and about 3 weeks, dd had the last poopy toy last night. Was worried that she would stop bothering when they were gone but this morning she took herself off to the potty! Then said 'there are no more poopy toys' in a rather satisfied voice when she was finished. Will see how we go and wouldn't be surprised if she backslides in the next few days but fingers crossed!

How is everyone else doing?

DaddyJ · 17/08/2009 08:48

It's going well, touch wood! A few accidents but by and large everyone is smiling again,
including nursery.
For this coming week I am hoping that she will do both poo and wee at nursery
(last week she seemed to hold back from No2s until she was at home).

She is getting more and more confident in her ability to read her body
but she is still practising and learning so we are not completely finished yet.

It would probably be a little crazy to say that potty training has been fun
but it has been enjoyable 'working' so closely with dd,
trying to really understand her and guide her effectively.

I hope everyone else is making progress, fingers remain crossed!

DaddyJ · 17/08/2009 08:52

Blimey, ellagrace, that is fantastic!!
I just re-read your first post - wow, what a turnaround!

Funny enough, we had a few wee accidents, too, last week.
Maybe having mastered poos they get a bit relaxed about wees?

virtualrealityfreak · 17/08/2009 10:28

You guys have given me the courage to give dd's potty training another go!

After the last weekend when it did not go so well I must admit I was thinking that dd might not be ready yet at two and a half.

Anyway, I have spoken to her nursery teacher this morning (who is currently training another little one to remove nappies and sit on the toilet). We are going to give it a go and see how it goes! Fortunately, dd has one really good friend at nursery who is already toilet trained. So hoping that because she looks up to him............you never know!

That hopefully and a little gentle re-inforcement at home ; )

KiwiKat · 20/08/2009 23:08

We're still struggling with the poo situation. He just refuses to do it on the loo or potty, preferring to do it in his pants. I really don't know what to do next.

KiwiKat · 23/08/2009 22:29

Nope, still no luck. Any further words of wisdom?

DaddyJ · 24/08/2009 23:54

Hey KiwiKat, sorry to hear about the lack of progress.

I just re-read your posts and it sounds like you have a good range of incentives in place.

What things have you tried on the 'disincentive' side?

DaddyJ · 24/08/2009 23:56

Just wanted to say Thank You again to everyone on this thread - we are home and dry at last

katedan · 25/08/2009 08:34

Kiwikat, just wanted to let you know you ar not the only one clearing our pooey pants every day ( there is a sentance pre kids I never thought I would write!)DD1 has been out of nappies a month. The first two weeks we had NO poo accidents and only a couple of wet ones and I really thought she had got it. HOW WRONG I WAS! for the last two weeks she has not had one poo on the potty or toilet, she is pretty good at going for a wee but has really lost the idea with poo's. She gets a sweet in a bowl for every potty success and a sweet removed for each accident but she does not seem to mind. We have told her she will get a sticker on her chart for each day she is clean and dry all day and after 7 stickers she can have the tinkerbell dress she is desperate for but she is stil pooing her pants. I know it has not been very long but any help would be appreciated. She is 2.8.

KiwiKat · 25/08/2009 16:14

Hoorah! Yesterday he did a poo in the potty for the childminder - I'm over the moon! Bought him a double icecream on the way home to reward him. Today I've sent him off to the childminder clutching his new spiderman pants to put on when he's done a poo - my fingers are crossed that this wasn't a one hit wonder. Thanks to everyone for all the great ideas so far, and the support. Great news, DaddyJ, and good luck to you and dd1, Katedan.

PuppyMonkey · 25/08/2009 16:23

Oh this makes me nearly want to cry. Well done all who have got through this. We are on about week four and no signs of poos clicking with my 2.4 year old. Wees is brill though.

Trouble is, my DD does two or three poos a day too. And often sloppy ones.

Sigh.

KiwiKat · 25/08/2009 16:34

Hang in there, PuppyMonkey. We'll get through it together.

katedan · 25/08/2009 17:25

Great news Kiwikat, how did it go at the childminder today?
we have had two poo's in our pants today, I am afraid the second time I got quite cross (wrong wrong wrong I know!)we are going to forget the potty and just try the toilet in the hope that is what has been putting her off! any other ideas folks. I am seriously thinking of putting a nappy back on her!!!

KiwiKat · 25/08/2009 23:21

Nothing to report from the childminder, although she did say he'd spent a fair amount of time on the potty with no result. But just before he went to the bed, the promise of chocolate sent him scurrying to the potty with a very good result. One thing that I think that worked quite well, was to pick up the poo in a wipe and give it to him to put in the loo and flush it away, saying "bye bye poo". It seemed to reinforce the idea that all poo lived in the loo. Fingers crossed he keeps up the good work!

Hope you get a result soon, Katedan.

PuppyMonkey · 26/08/2009 08:10

We do the same KwitKat, she is so interested in the poo and where it goes!! Just hope one day it will all click into place. I am going to get soooooo drunk when it happens...

PuppyMonkey · 26/08/2009 19:04

Stop press. Joy oh joy, she only went and did a poo on the potty just now!!!

I wanted to take a picture and post it on Facebook, but DP stopped me.

A light at the end of the tunnel at last...

KiwiKat · 26/08/2009 22:33

Yahoo Puppy! at the pic of the poo on Facebook. We've had three days in a row of poos in the right place. Thank God! Katedan, any news?

PuppyMonkey · 27/08/2009 07:48

Even better, we were just getting her ready for bed so had put her pjjamas and nappy on for the night. And she started moaning that she needed a poo, so took her nappy off, sat on the potty and did ANOTHER TWO POOS!!!!!! When she could easiliy just have pood in the nappy.

I am soooooo proud.

KiwiKat · 27/08/2009 14:34

And rightly so! Oh the joy, the joy!

katedan · 27/08/2009 18:41

Fab news puppymonkey, love the idea of posting a picture of a poo on facebook!!!

Still no success from DD1, she is fine with weeing but EVERY poo is in her pants, she is very sheepish when she tells me but makes no attempt to get to toilet or potty. we put poo in toilet from er pants sh she can see where poo should go and ds has taken her to watch him poo on the toilet and she has watched me!!!! but still no success. her sticker chart is still empty.

Any advice?

Kate

KiwiKat · 27/08/2009 21:19

No advice from me, I'm afraid - everything I've tried, I've either learned from or talked about on this thread. It does seem like it will never happen and then suddenly it clicks - ds has done potty poos for four days in a row now, so I think we've turned the corner. Couldn't tell you how, though. But I certainly wish you the best of luck!

120cms · 27/08/2009 22:42

kate have you tried putting a nappy in the potty? May have to try this with my one tomorrow.

backstory for me is that I'm another one coming on to 'do' a thread and finding you all! I'm getting a lot of support from reading this so thank you all! DaddyJ I've been quoting you directly to DP.

We tried potty training DD back in April but I found it too stressful for all the reasons above so put her back in nappies. I felt a bit pressurised to do it by nursery and when I realised this and talked to DD, she agreed that we should put the potty away as it was causing us both too much stress. (she was only 23 months at this point and my DS was 3 months old!).

This week she has decided not to wear nappies and after the first day of wetting (when someone took pity on me and said I needed to remind her), she is dry even during 2 1/2 hour naps, but I am having the old pant poo scenario. She used the potty this morning with no pants on, first of all saying I need a wee, then realising it was a poo and being very distressed and saying I'm scared, then doing it and making a big fuss about the mess. Then later looked at me and said I'm doing a poo. She was right. Why is it soooo awful in pants??? They seem to be poo conductors. Must say I bin them as really can't cope with scraping them.

No news really, just joining up in the hope that I might find some brief respite.

hackneyzoo · 27/08/2009 22:53

Thanks 120 for directing me in this direction...just bookmarking for whenI have the enregy to read.
1 wee and 1 poo in the potty about a ton of laudry and my carpet really smells of DD pee

PuppyMonkey · 28/08/2009 10:11

Mine is brewing something up now I think.... We'll see if it ends up in the potty, on the floor or in her pants...

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