Potty Training During Lockdown!

[LunaHardy]

So now seems like a better time than any and I've decided to potty train my 2yo dd during quarantine! I haven't potty trained for about 10 years and that was with my ds. I've bought her a potty a few weeks ago just to get her used to it but she's still not keen on sitting on it. Any tips please?

@minister that was well funny. Welcome aboard the good ship poop.

Thank you @Twistyhair & @Indecisivelurcher (I think?!)
@Twistyhair that sounds frustrating, that’s what i am not looking forwards too. And he’s not solid poos so another reason we were leaving it.

I did then change the water for the dogs btw!

Hmmm we shall see how the next day or two goes...so I just leave him naked waist down & see what he does do we think? Or try get him to at certain times?
Urgh

Hi everyone

Hope it's OK for me to jump in here. We started potty training on Friday with our almost 2.5 yr old DD. She's been 'ready' for a while but we decided to wait for a bit mainly as she struggled with the change in routine at the start of lockdown so figured one step at a time.

Anyway we are a couple of days in and have discovered that she is the queen of holding it in. She fully understands what she is meant to do and wants to be in pants not nappies (she's commando at the mo but I think that's her way of saying she's committed lol). She's still in nappies for nights and naps and we've repeated that it's OK to wee and poo in her nappy but last night she couldn't settle as she kept saying she had a wee coming. She asked for the toilet and when put on it she couldn't go. She's been suffering from stage fright so I wasn't overly concerned and kept reassuring her that it was OK to go in her nappy at night time. However she kept waking and crying in the night and then this morning has vomited 3 times. No massive temp but obviously still concerned about a UTI. Does anyone have and advice for a knackered mummy? Steeling myself to have to call 111. Put her in nappy pants this morning to try and take some pressure off and so she can nod off if she wants to. Poor thing is so confused. Was prepared for accidents but not the emotional side of all this.

So I forgot to put DS in a pull up last night...! And he stayed dry!!!!!

wonderful is she weeing at all? If so where? Did you phone 111?

Oooo what did I miss

@TwistyHair - yes she has wee'd in her potty (and the floor) yesterday, in her napy and overnight nappy so it isn't like she held on all day. She also isn't a 'dribbler' and tends to do save it up for a big wee.

This morning she has wee'd in the nappy pants and hasn't cried in pain or seemed in discomfort. Before going she thought about the potty and kept going up to it. So I stuck her on it but she was up immediately saying she had finished. Given that everything going on I didn't push it and let her go in her nappy.

Just don't know if the sickness is related or something different. I haven't phoned 111 yet. Have given her a calpol and that perked her up. She then asked for some food (just toast and a biscuit) and that has so far stayed down. She's now having a long nap. She was so tired I guess after her disturbed night. Hopefully she wakes up feeling brighter.

I think we are just going to keep it neutral until she instigates wanting to try the potty/loo again. Totally get the 'Oh crap...' this is a skill thing but I don't think it's quite the right approach for mine. Not sure. As I said before I was ready for the wee and poo carnage but not the upset and fear. Poor little thing.

Great news @Indecisivelurcher. You gonna risk tonight?

@Wonderfulstuff we didn’t do oh crap either. It was a bit all or nothing for us. Whereas I think it’s easier when they’re definitely ready. So I’d trust your instinct on it

@twistyhair Heck no! My daughter was up 11-3 last night, I'm on my knees. I'm not doing anything that risks sleep.

Ooh 11-3! Sounds fun! Yawn

Kinda half winging it here, day one of properly doing training after DS sprang it on us yesterday & he’s done great, 8 wees in the potty & one poo in there (which I swear is too small for him, it’s just a charity shop one as I was hoping he would use the toddler seat we bought for the loo & seat & steps but only once this morning first thing) 2.5 wees on the floor 😂 & a poo that seemed to really shock him on the floor

Chocolate eggs are playing A BIG role in our training & tonight DH got involved when we knew DS needed a wee & he sat on the potty, pretended to wee, I duly gave him a choc egg then DS did one!! However I knew he needed more (DS not DH) so that was before an accident on the floor as we relaxed & poured wine 😂🤦🏼‍♀️

It’s me on my own now all week with 2 active dogs that won’t be walked much 😬& I’m fully aware the novelty will wear off

Novelty has definitely worn off here. We’re putting her back in nappies. She was on and off the loo all day yesterday. At one point I spent and hour and a half next to the toilet because she was on and off so much we didn’t even have time to get back downstairs before she wanted to go on again. And then again at bedtime. It’s not sustainable to be on the toilet so much when I also have a 4 year old. I reckon it was over 40 times during the day. So she can do wees in the toilet but I’m telling her she has to have a nappy on for poos now. And she’s holding so much I’m going to get some laxatives as I’m worried about how long she’s holding it. It’s so ducking stressful. I need to chill out about it which I can’t do when I’m worried about her doing 3 days worth of poo all over the place.

Twisty — I think that is the right choice. With my first he was clearly scared and distressed and I gave up pretty quickly (was Gina Ford in those days, although I wasn’t a Gina babe generally). He got it in a couple of days a few months later after watching nursery pals.

Sending solidarity @twistyhair whatever you need to do to take the pressure off!

Zero point if it is getting you stressed

Thanks @fascinated and @Indecisivelurcher I’m so upset by it this morning. Just feel like I’ve dealt with it all wrong and put way too much pressure on her for something she can’t help. She’s so scared and is now worried I’ll get cross if she goes in her nappy. She’s in a nappy but still isn’t wanting to poo in it. Asking to go to the toilet and not going. If she doesn’t poo today I’ll get some laxatives so she doesn’t get even more blocked up. My four year old is ill today too.

@twistyhair I would 100% ring the doctor today and ask for some movicol or similar. You will need a decent dose too so ask for a plan to get the dose up. She's probably impacted now so will be genuinely struggling to go. This would explain any poo explosions and then not being done. Don't feel bad, I had all this with my Dd so totally been there. It doesn't mean you're Dd wasn't ready or you did something wrong, she's unfortunately just gotten freaked out, held it in, and got herself in a pickle. Soft poos will help!

@twistyhair in the meantime buy some prunes or prune juice if you can easily pop to the shop.

Don’t blame yourself. There could be many reasons for this. Call Dr.

Hi there, hope it’s ok to jump on the thread.

We’ve mastered 6 days of bare bum and no accidents. So moving onto knickers today with DD. She’s got them on and I have reminded her that she needs to pull them down etc she is very strong willed, so gets annoyed if being told what to do

Can anyone advise how this bit usually works? Should I expect loads of wet knickers? Any advice?

I’m on the phone to the doctor now. Queue position 8! She still won’t go in nappy either. And when she sits on the toilet she says her poo is too big. Thanks for support, it’s actually helping a lot. I feel a lot less stressed now I have a plan and have taken the pressure off.

@MrsLoz I’ve read a bit into the oh crap method and it says put in loose jogger type trousers before pants as pants are too reminiscent of nappies

Hope everything is well twisty. We're sticking to nappies for the sake of poos. They do go in the potty most of the time but my nearly 2year old eats so much, don't want to deal with it.

@Minster2012 thank you, she’s been ok in her knickers today with a dress. So think we will keep with that and see how it goes.

Have noticed she doesn’t seem to have wee’d as much, so will keep an eye on that.