Started potty training today - anyone else want to give / get a bit of moral support?

[Biscuitsandtea]

Hi, DS is 3 and we've started potty training him today. We were hoping to wait until he woke up one morning and said 'I'm done with nappies thanks very much Mummy - let's go wild with the pants', but this hasn't happened so we thought we'd just try him with nothing on at first and then pants and see how it goes.

Just wondered if anyone else was starting too and wanted to go through it together?

We've done various bits of nappy free time for months with varying amounts of success, but only ever an hour or two here and there with no consistency to see how he was doing and whether we thought he knew when he was weeing or pooing. It's only recently that I've thought that he actually does know hence deciding to give it a go today.

We had a quiet weekend so thought 'no time like the present!'

Now a couple of times in the week we'd had no nappy on and a fair bit of success in the potty. Wednesday = lots of mopping up wees but a few 'hits' at the end of the afternoon. Thursday was better with no accidents. but this was still doing everything bare bum!

Today we were doing pretty well this morning. Everything going in the potty and no accidents, so after lunch we thought we'd try adding pants into the equation. previously pants = accidents (I wonder if he would forget it wasn't a nappy?) so we never persevered with them, but we have this afternoon. Certainly more accidents this afternoon, which is I think a mixture of being tired and the 'pant effect' and we had a very rough few hours between say 3 and 5. Then we've had a few more wees on the potty and going a bit better this evening.

We're planning more of the same tomorrow but we have a birthday party to go to in the afternoon and I'm in a bit of a predicament about that in as much as I don't want to go back to nappies and confuse / demoralise him, but equally don't want loads of accidents at my friend's DDs party so as yet we're undecided. I think at the moment we'll be erring on the side of a nappy as it's just not fair if he has an accident in the middle of the party?

Anyway, anyone who wants to join me for the ride, please come aboard :-)

I'll have , and to help the journey go along!

Before, not enforce

Hi all, Just thought I'd fill you in on the advice I got from HV. Not sure if it will help/work but here goes.
I was told:
When DD first gets up in morning take her to Potty/Toilet to see if she will wee.
Take her 20 mins after each meal. Take her to toilet/potty every time you go,
Also try and get her to sit on potty to clean teeth.
Make a big fuss/Cheer when they have success try to keep it low key when they have an accident.
Is all easier said than done!

The main problem I have with first thing in the morning is that I am half asleep so it is going to take a lot of effort on my part to try to get her going first thing in the morning but I suppose I must try!
It is also hard trying to fit potty training in around the rest of life.

Thanks blackcat I think I might try that tomorrow I will give anything ago I have decided to not train today & see how things go but I think he is definitely being lazy or maybe doing it for attention as this morning he decided to get out of bed whilst watching a DVD a wee all over the floor even tho I put a potty in his room for him to use & today I am going to search for potty books at the moment I feel all different types of emotions cos he was doing really well I hope we can get back on track

Morning all, We have a book called "Princess Polly's potty" (aimed at girls) we got it at Waterstones and they had one for boys too.
Anyway on the back they have a website
www.ladybird.com/potty
Hope that helps.

I also have a book for parents' "Usborne Parents' Guides A Guide to Potty Training.
Here is their website www.usborne.com

Good Luck all! My DD is refusing to sit on potty today so not sure what I can do about that.

Blackcat - yes that is what I have been doing - massively praising her for doing a wee/poo/sitting on the potty and she is now v proud and wants to show/tell everyone It makes you feel like a bit of a dick for going so OTT with praise but it seems to have worked for us. And if she has an accident (none yesterday - it appears to be only at weekends with her father! ) then I just say oh dear, never mind, you had an accident. That's okay, let's put your clothes in the wash and then I say "where do wee wees go"? and she answers "in the potty" and then I remind her to tell me or Daddy when she needs a wee wee. "what do you say when you need a wee wee?" "mummy, wee wee" etc. repeat ad infinitum and until you feel like a total berk.

Good luck everyone - keep positive - they will get there!

can I join? DD is 2.9 and we have had a couple of lacksadaisical goes at potty training - the last was going well, but nursery like them to be trained at home first and then they will support transition - I can't help thinking that if they had supported then we would be done (e.g. the next day she would go into nappies, so thought she didn't really have to do it).

We've had lots of visitors, so are starting in earnest from yesterday - all accidents, except a poo in the potty. She is stubborn and doesn't want to do it, even though I know that she can (because she did!). We have her in pants, but no trousers and so far this morning we have had lots of chat about the potty, but one accident...but she is playing and putting her toys in knickers etc

My worry is that she will get there, but not be able to manage clothes, back to nursery next Monday and back to square one. We are expecting DD2 early December which is a complicating factor.

So the main problem is the utterly bizarre nursery policy...

Hi all just ordered a potty training chart & stickers just looking for a book or I might just go to library but I think we have gone completely back to stage 1 again as he is now refusing to wear pants & is peeing all over the place but I can't blame him but can blame dh as he always puts him in nappies or pull ups now I am wondering are we ever going to get there ?????

Oooh, which book did you go for Shaz?

I'm so hoping ds has a better day today. He's at nursery again though as I have a d&v bug . I really really hope he can get through a day accident free though

Haven't got a book yet still looking but I think I will take him back to basics & than go from there even tho I know he knows what to do does anyone known how I can teach him to take his pants down & up for when he needs the potty cos I think that is 1 of his problems

Accident free today . Huge fuss made of him. Let's hope for a repeat tomorrow....

Hmm, Shaz not quite sure on how to teach the pants thing other than just practicing at times other than when a wee is imminent? Because DS is a hit older he's already taught himself before we did the potty thing . If you practice though when he's not about to wee, it's not all do rushed?

Thanks biscuit as for today we had loads of accidents but we also had a few in the potty ? i am so confused he has never had a poo accident but loads of wee accidents so tomorrow i am going to try something different & hope it works fingers crossed

Oooh, what are you trying different today?

No poo accidents is good. Perhaps he feels it more when a poo is coming? DS was the other way round, got the wees quicker than the poos (and then seemed to regress on all counts), but I am really hopeful that I can build on yesterday's success today.....

Sorry rhetorician, I forgot to say hi!

Hi

What a weird policy at your nursery! I've come across the odd pre school that expects them trained, but generally only ones that take then the year before they start school so certainly not as young as your ds. I've never ever heard of a nursery that won't help! How confusing for DS. What does the nursery mean by 'transition' anyway .

What would they do if he went 5 days a week, would they seriously expect you to have him trained completely in the course of 2 days at a weekend? Even Gina Ford gives you a week!

Is it worth having a chat with the nursery again about it and explaining that you think that it is this which is causing the problem and the going back and forth into nappies?

Hold on, just going back to read your post again.....

.... Ok - firstly apologies - I meant DD not DS . Sorry! It is only 4am though in my defence.....

You're only on day 2 of this attempt so I'd say stick with it and hugely praise anything she does do in the potty? Have you tried a reward chart or bribes treats?

She might have come a long way by next Monday, so don't panic yet

I am going to try & sit him on the potty first thing in the morning than after breakfast, after lunch, after dinner before his bath & than before bed but I am putting him in pants so than we can work on pulling his pants up & down ,
I have also got an app for my phone called the potty predictor which I am going to give a go as well

thanks biscuits - yes, it is most peculiar and I think I will formally complain. If it weren't for the fact that she is well settled and happy there, plus getting a new sibling in Dec I'd seriously consider moving her.

On day 3 today - poos going moderately ok, wees disastrous - she will not sit on potty, and says no when you ask her. But I think we just have to ride it out - the last time we were doing this she did wee in potty eventually and she does know what to do. She is just hoping that we will give up on this potty lark (as we have every other time, in her head) - she is also very stubborn and can't see the point of it. Even chocolate bribes aren't enough...I'm hoping for some kind of breakthrough today or tomorrow.

She is busily teaching her bear how to sit on the toilet and how to wash his hands

If she doesn't get there by Sunday we'll have to can it until after the baby is born...

it's a bit like the tiny babies who just 'slept through', isn't it? e.g. sounds fine until you realise that it just doesn't apply to your child!

well, brief update; DD - with a little prompting - just did a big wee on her potty! so even if everything else today is terrible, this is progress. I know she can do it, it's just a case of her deciding that she will.

Hope others' days are going ok!

Yay! great stuff rhetorician. As you say, you know she can do it now and it is these little triumphs that give us the motivation to carry on!

2 wee accidents but 2 wee in potty both was with prompting so far hope to improve day by day but now not sure what to send him in for nursery what do u think I should do as I know he knows where to go & what the potty is used for

shaz not sure what to advise; waiting for next wee now, and DD has just been trying to hide the potty...I think she feels that she has done her bit for the day! we just have to wear her down - it's hard to get the balance right between reminding and over-doing it - she doesn't respond well to pressure (well, who does, in the wee department?)

I think I might just send him in pants & see what happens at nursery

I would Shaz - the nursery staff should be used to dealing with it. I would send load and loads of changes and have a chat with the staff. You never know, he might be fine! And you can always say if they think it's going really badly, they could revert to nappies? You could always give them a call today and explain where you are?

Yes I think I will speak to the nursery & explain where we r & say if they think tomorrow went bad than I will send him in pull ups