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Do you ever regret having kids? (What it does to your body)

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Mumofonexo · 28/11/2024 08:20

During the delivery I ended up having forceps, episiotomy and a third degree tear. The tear causes pain and issues occasionally but I’ve been told more surgery could make it worse. I have now found out I’ve got a bladder prolapse 🥲

I wish people would be frank and honest about how childbirth can affect your body (not just stretch marks)

I don’t mind not being able to go out and have adult only holidays but I do miss my old body and self so much 😢

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The3rdWatermelon · 29/12/2024 20:41

I still don’t recognise my body 2 years after giving birth. I was 33, PND hit me like a train, and I was left in pain and bleeding for 9 months following the birth. I had several scans which identified retained products and was referred urgently to consultants three times to get it removed, and then dismissed by consultants three times because they said it was safer to wait to see if my body could expel everything itself. Which it did eventually. By which time I’d gone up three sizes because exercise was too painful, and I’d been on 5 courses of antibiotics which completely destroyed my skin’s natural microbiome. It still hasn’t recovered.

I probably should have pushed through and got off my arse and gone running, but I didn’t because it hurt and frankly some days getting out of bed at all felt like too much. So now I’m 35, fat, can’t wear make up or perfume without causing a massive rash across my face, doped up on antidepressants, and piss myself when I try to pick up my toddler too quickly.

This is actually heartbreaking to read 🥺 I’m so so sorry for what you’ve gone through! Sending you a massive virtual hug xx

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