Is it normal to fell like this about your partner?

[FTMaz]

Hi,
my DS is currently 4 months old. Prior to his birth I absolutely doted on my partner. However since having DS I just feel like I don’t care about him as much. Like if he left tomorrow I’d be sad my DS was going to grow up in a house without his Dad but that’s about it. Small things he does really annoy me, for example we were on a train and there was a couple sitting across from us who also had a young baby. They had been trying to get their baby to sleep for ages when partner decided to pop open a bag of crisps instead of opening them normally. This made loads of people jump and woke up the baby who started to cry. I was absolutely mortified and just thought what an absolute fucking idiot but I couldn’t let it go and told him he had embarrassed me and was selfish, a complete over reaction. I could write loads of examples of things he does like the above that are small but I find them so irritating.

Is it normal to feel this way after having a baby and if so what are the reasons for it? Also does it get better?

Yes, I relate to this. DH was excellent after we had children. He pitched in with everything (without being asked). We shared night feeds. I was quite anxious about certain things (bathing the baby, sterilising bottles) and he stepped up and did whatever needed doing. I didn’t like him going out either as I didn’t always feel like I could cope alone.

I hope you recover well from your accident OP. That must have been quite a shock.

I'd say it's pretty normal. The first 12 months are most difficult in a relationship after a baby.
They say if you survive the first 12 months and can survive anything.
Our dynamics totally change when we welcome a baby in to the house. The key is though that you allow yourself some time alone with your partner to be you and not just mummy.
Xx