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Newborn Exhaustion

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humalik · 24/04/2021 23:47

I really don't know why I'm writing this probably just wanted to unburden some of my emotions...

I am a first time mum DD is just 2 weeks old and as much as I was excited by the idea of being pregnant and having a baby I feel like I severely underestimated how much our lives were gonna change. I mean we got the whole "your lives will never be the same, say goodbye to your lives" before she was due to arrive but we always just laughed it off.

I did have quite a rough delivery. It was a forceps delivery so I had an episiotomy. So recovering from that not being able to sit down properly and then I lost a lot of blood and had 2 iron infusions so I just don't feel quite with it.

I am exclusively breastfeeding and would like to keep it like that but I just feel like a glorified milk machine. And I just feel exhausted all the time so either I feed her and then I'm too tired to do anything but that whilst everyone else gets to enjoy her and play with her. And I'm just so dizzy like all the time I really don't know why and I think that massively plays on my mood as I can't even sit and enjoy the rest periods I get. I just feel like I can't see an end to this exhaustion.

What I really want to hear is does it get better ? 😭 because at this point I can't see it settling down especially with the dizziness and exhaustion combined. And I feel because of my mood I just can't seem to bond with her as much as I want to or I just don't feel connected to her. Like I know she's my baby and I'm her mum but right know it seems like im just here to do a job and don't feel much beyond that.

Apologies this post is all over the place but i would really appreciate some positive stories as to when things settled for you guys and that it does get better 😓

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Blabbyoak · 12/08/2021 07:51

I've just stumbled across this thread and I feel I could have written it (swap the dizziness for c section pain and recovery).
I'm 4.5 weeks I'm with my second, but 7 years apart and feeling utterly overwhelmed and frustrated. Ds is combination fed. Boob during the day and formula at night but he's a terrible latcher (getting help from hv with this) but he fussed so much, latches for a few seconds then pops off and fusses around again. It's a constant frustrating battle that's sucking all the enjoyment out of it. I feel like because of this he never feeds well and therefore we go round this every half an hour to an hour until I top him with formula and then he'll sleep for a bit on me. Won't go down during the day, so no chance of sleep for me.
Typically nights are OK except last night he has woken up every hour and then taken an hour to feed change wind and get back to sleep. I'm broken and not enjoying my baby at all.
No depression, just really hating this bit right now and wishing the time away. Confused

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