Tree, my bruising came out quite a few days after the injury and some more came out at the beginning of this week, I think its to do with deep tissue damage, so its only just reaching the surface iyswim. I did have lots of swelling though and still have some at the back of my ankle.
Tink, Ds1's teacher definitely won't be getting anything off us. She was off sick today - again. She's been off since Tuesday although I bet she'll be in to collect all her other cards and gifts tomorrow.
In her absence he had a stand in teacher, who wasn't made aware of his ASD. They cancelled his ICT lesson - heinous crime in ds1's world as its all he lives for at school, not to mention kids with ASD just can't handle changes to routine. As it is all the end-of-year disruption, plus the bullying stuff has him teetering on the edge anyway. So when he got upset about not having his computer lesson and sobbed, she shouted at him, he of course got worse, then another teacher, who also knows nothing about him, came along and threatened to make him do worksheets in her classroom while the rest of the class went to do the summer singfest that had replaced ICT. Cue major meltdown - obviously. Not only was he really distraught, but the teacher wrote a very terse note about it in his contact book! Dh and I are furious and I have written a rather long and very angry note back to the school, pointing out exactly how they handled it all badly and how distressed ds1 is as a result. I also reminded them that children with ASD do not cope well with all the end-of-year stuff and this should be taken into account when handling him. I pointed out that if they had given him the opportunity to speak and be heard, then redirected him he would have been fine. So, I have just spent an hour with a sobbing child who has been unnecessarily traumatised by ill-informed teachers who treated him like some sort of naughty trouble maker and allowed his usual tormentors to tell him to 'stop talking crap' and 'shut up you stupid baby'. Thank god its the end of term tomorrow!
I have explained to him that we are working with his teacher/s for next year and as they are unlikely to be off sick all the time, the situation shouldn't happen again. We have also talked about his assessment (which should be around April next year) and how that will also help his school to understand him better. I also told him that they shouldn't have shouted at him and I have written a very cross note to the teachers who were involved today, but that he mustn't ever tell teachers that they aren't allowed to tell him off, if something like this does ever happen again, I will deal with it. Of course I also explained that, while he wasn't wrong to be upset and I understand why he was, he has to try and control himself a bit better at school, they can't change things just to suit him and all the other children wanted to do singing rather than ICT. He is now a lot calmer and happier and is looking forward to a better year next year. Phew!
And all because his flipping teacher is off sick - again! She hasn't managed a full week at all for the whole of the last half term and was off sick from the beginning of October to April in the first place. Apparently they are moving her to the nursery next year, so she will only be doing 2.5 hours a day. They have tried her everywhere else, she was originally upper-juniors but couldn't hack it, ds2 had her in Reception - she went off on long-term sick. Then they tried her teaching year 1 - same thing happened, then this year she did the same thing with year 3. She was off sick last Thursday and one of the mums bumped into her at the make-up counter in Boots fgs!
Roll on 3.15 pm tomorrow afternoon!