Jan 09 Summer sun, peachy bums and... toddler tantrums..

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New thread here...

Ooo DOG someone wants to call their boy Arlo

I am so bored tonight, still wandering around the flat. Need a new hobbie I think.

Hello all, sorry not been on in ages, life gets busy and complicated sometimes! Hope everyone getting on ok.

Moose- tell me about the school uniform eh! Just spending a small fortune on DD for september, that we don't have! Got:

2 pinnys
2 skirts
2 cardigans
9 polo shirts
2 summer dresses
tights
book bag
PE bag
Socks

still got to get shoes, pe kit, painting apron whatnot thingy.

What the hell else do I need tree, dog, Tink......Help???

My mum went into hospital yesterday as she is so yellow that she looks like somebody off the Simpsons. They suspected Hepatitis A but tests came back clear so now she is waiting on scans and stuff tomorrow to rule out gallstones (although she does not have pain and has never been overweight) and then some other nasties. Dad very worried and I feel VERY useless stuck up here till at least the weekend. Other symptoms are typical jaundice plus loss of apetite, fatigue, dark wee etc. Not googling anymore as I convinced myself yesterday that she needed a transplant.

Also to top things off they have to put the dog down at the weekend as he can now no longer move, excellent timing! DD will be devastated when we go down in a few weeks.

Hope people that were unwell feeling better, mooseys foot, dog and 120 are you feeling brighter?

MissJ- hope all going well

Anyway, I will pop back on when I have more news, just go back to feeling worried about Dad stuck on his own worrying IYSWIM!

Hi Pat, hope your Ma is ok, thinking of you. Step away from Google.

Just flying by to bookmark.

Hope everyone is ok. Counting down until the end of term (11days) and goingon hols (13 days)

That's awful Pat, second HKZ: step away from google

So sorry to hear about the Dog too. I'm still telling my DD that Grandpa and the cat are on holiday, when in reality they've moved to Scotland for good Not quite the same but it was all I could summon up for a 2.11 yr old

Sending many many ((hugs)) your way Pat

very quick fly by as off to work - tea yes they harden. 22 mins by my calculation gives the best gooey brownies, after that they are more cutable but less delectable. But I prefer a gooier brownie as don't really like dryish cakes.

sorry for being absent. trying to sort my life out. at least the heat has abated somewhat.

Ahhh I see

Pat, ((hugs)) sorry to hear about your Mum. Fwiw, gallstones can be 'silent' and you don't necessarily need to be overweight to have them. Its a misconception that they are made up of fat. Even the skinniest people can get them and they don't know why some people produce them and others don't. In fact I forget the exact figures but a massive percentage of people have them and never even know about it. You tend to only find out you have them if one gets stuck and causes a problem. I can see why they are thinking gallstones though, if a stone gets stuck in the bile duct it can cause jaundice. Good thing about it is gallbladder surgery is keyhole and very quick, so its something that can easily be fixed and the surgery is a permanent cure.

A friend of ours' Mum developed jaundice with no discernable cause a few years back and it turned out to be viral. She was poorly for a few weeks, but recovered well and is absolutely fine.

Hope its something simple and easily treated.

Dog, glad you like the new car - I always liked the look of them myself, but dh had other ideas.

Just got back from sports day from ds1. Nearly didn't get him there as he was in major anxiety overload about it this morning in the playground, but saying he was disappointed as they are only running one race each this year. Fortunately we managed to get him to go in and he was fine by the time they came out onto the field.

He was in the obstacle race and would have won if he hadn't stopped and waited for the other competitors before running the sprint stretch at the end, lol. He came third, which he was more than happy with - thank goodness.

Unfortunately, I then sat there for two hours with a wriggly, grumpy dd and he was right, he didnt't get to race again. Ended up sneaking away before the year 6 races as my foot was killing me and I have to go back at 1.30 for ds2's sports day!

Another Mum who was there with her 5 month old kept saying she couldn't believe how old dd is, as she is so tiny and still looks like a baby - especially as she has very little hair. She is a baby fgs, she is my baby! We seem to be encountering this more and more recently, mainly because she is still only about the size of a 9 month old.

Tea, could you maybe find a distance learning course you would like to do? I always find I don't stick with hobbies very well, but if I'm on a course it gives me the discipline to stick with it.

Tree - how are you doing now? Any better?

HKZ, good to hear from you - are you still ms free?

hi ladies

mum stayed over

pat - i would get

2 jumpers
2 cardys
4/5 - polo shirts
4 pinnies
6 pairs of tites

sorry 2 hear about your mum and dog!!

hi mm - sorry for bad nite before

Books Have you thought about talking to the doctor and maybe having a blood test? Maybe you have anaemia (sp?) or something?

I got very upset with DCs and hadn't put 2 and 2 together myself a short while ago and low and behold I was due on

You do have a lot on your plate though with your mum worries right now, give yourself a break lovely lady.

Hadn't thought about jigsaws

Was it his first sports day Books? I remember being bitterly disappointed by our first one. We aren't allowed to get near the children and ds1 ended up in tears (always does over something) ended up being a really upsetting experience for both of us. I have now been to 5 sports day - two of them with two children there and still haven't managed to get a decent photograph! Our camera still isn't working properly, so no photos today either. I find it helps to think that all their sports days will blur into one when they are older (for them and me).

I'm the same with staying up at the moment, not really seen the other side of 9.30 for a while now - I think I managed it one night over the weekend, but was completely knackered the next day.

Feel for you with the hormones, I'm due on the day we go on holiday. So that's great then - a 12 hour drive in a campervan along a route with hardly anywhere to stop. Great!

Am just sitting here fortifying myself with a couple of extra-light philadelphia and grated carrot wraps before having to head off again. My foot is really hurting as well. Have given dd a snack and packed her lunch up to take in the vain hope of keeping her occupied in her pushchair.

Looks (and feels) like rain. That will just round of my day nicely!

Oops

Getting confused again, sorry.

Yep, its raining! Typical. Now I don't know whether or not they will put it off until the reserve day, which is Thursday. Only light rain, so am thinking they'll just carry on.

Books, I think your dd should come and give my dd some lessons on how to behave. She is being a little horror at the moment - her current favourite word is "NO", said in a most emphatic and grumpy tone.

Its horrible when they choose their mates over you. I'm afraid its par for the course from here on in though. Fortunately both mine are still happy to have hold hands and have a kiss goodbye on the school run. Lots of their friends absolutely won't do either though.

I just sat on the other side of the track and watched ds1 interacting - or rather not interacting with the group he was sitting with. I was very tearful watching him sitting there in a world of his own while all the others cheered on the people who were racing. He looked so, well, ASD I guess. Fortunately two of his good friends came and sat with him then and when I snuck off he was happily engaged in a game of swiping each others caps and drinking bottles. It was a relief to see him joining in and interacting to be honest. So difficult with all this school stuff as his friends are very lovely, but few. He really doesn't want to move to a different school, but doesn't want to go there most days either - I feel caught between a rock and a hardplace with him and school at the moment. I can only hope that with a new year/new teacher and all the things the Head discussed having in place for transition next year will be better.

Saw one of those jigsaw cases in WH Smiths the other week - very clever idea. My Grandma would have loved one of those. She used to do huge, really complex jigsaws and we used to love going to visit and helping her with the difficult bits, like the sky and the grass etc.

Called the school, this afternoon's sports are cancelled. Ds2 will so not be impressed, but at least it means I don't have to go back there until pick up time now.

Hello everyone. Am reading on and off, things very busy here for various reasons. Will be so glad to make it through next week and to the holidays, no more school rush in the morning and no mote minding my nephew, freedom at last!

Books - It took me a long time to adjust to being a SAHM when I gave up work when DD was 9mo. I went back full-time when she was 6mo but had childcare issues and had to give up. I am glad that I got to spend so much time with her and I have loved being at home but I until very recently I would constantly feel the need to justify my decision, I think it was the loss of status and independence, it did make me quite unsettled, not depressed as such, just not as confident. It is also exhausting being at home fulltime. I find it invigorating to go to work as although it is tiring, it isn't that dog-tired and emotionally wrought feeling I get when I've had weeks of looking after the kids without a break. And at work I do get to just be myself and escape the burden of being needed. Perhaps you are just going through a similar adjustment? I love spending my days with the kids but it is ridiculously monotonous and I feel so guilty for being bored stupid a lot of the time but I think most adults find it hard to show 24hour interest in pretending to eat a plate of Lego 'biscuits' and admiring 25 million scribbley pictures a day. Don't they?! I have also gone past the enthusiasm at baby groups stage, I remember taking DD to groups and keenly swapping numbers with parents and making some really good friends so DD and I now have a nice little social network. With DS it is more of a survival and containment exercise with the odd 2 minute conversation squeezed in with familiar faces while all the new mums smooze and network around me! Poor DS is just going to have to play with DD's friends until he starts school!

evening

poor u books
bet cake looked great soz couldnt see link

have had a good day with mum yuk 2 rain though!!!

decorating lobbing @ the mo

"I remember taking DD to groups and keenly swapping numbers with parents and making some really good friends so DD and I now have a nice little social network. With DS it is more of a survival and containment exercise with the odd 2 minute conversation squeezed in with familiar faces while all the new mums smooze and network around me! Poor DS is just going to have to play with DD's friends until he starts school"

How true is that Leonard, I know it was really aimed at Books but I completely feel that way. Always chasing after one or other at toddler groups now and not making new friends.

evening all.

Pat, really sorry to hear about your mum. Hope they find out what it is quickly. Also sorry to hear about your dog.

Been crap on here this week. Too knackered.

We've all made lots of new (and very supportive) friends this time round... on this lovely thread. Who needs RL groups?

Only just got DD down and was ready to throttle shout at her. Unfortunately that just makes overwrought kiddies worse. Grrr.

Nice glass of water and sleep. ahhh.

Ladies, I have no hope in hell of catching up. So sorry. I do pretty good for the most part.

L&D I completely understand and relate to what you say about being a SAHM! I want to cut and paste what you wrote to show DH that this is what I've been trying to convey over the last weeks. " ... emotionally wrought feeling I get when I've had weeks of looking after the kids without a break." Absolutely brilliantly put. That's how I get occasionally. Every now and then I get overwhelmed and the sensation of anxiety starts to swell. Recently it has been very trying because DD and DH have been passing a cold back and forth and I've been looking after them, not resentfully or anything, but holy cow, it starts to wear thin. It happened at dinner on Sunday after my workshop. DD was just eating and having fun but the constant moving of things from one end of the table to the other, feeding her, entertaining her, I was just at that point where I just wanted to sit there by myself and have a meal out. I tallied up the hours I was not responsible to DD last week and it didn't even add up to 8 hours to myself. I'm talking about times that I am completely to myself because even if DD is napping, I'm on call; at the gym, um, gym... that's really all the time I usually get to myself in a week. Not complaining really, certainly not going to feel guilty about catching the 9am ferry to Vancouver next week, but it would be nice sometimes if DH worked had a career with more reasonable hours. I wouldn't want him to change it though just so I can go get my nails done, but, oh, see, I'm not sure how I'm feeling lately.

OK, I know I'm feeling a little, um, well, jealous of DH's career. There. I said it.

morning

wet here !!
@ least cooler

off to indoor play centre in a min

dd2 hasnt got any friends
we go to sing and sign and swimming
with dd1 she has lots that imet when she was ababy

Hi all. Sorry for absence, have been reading on and off - RL busy busy busy.

Totally second (third) what Leonard and chef say about the SAHM thing - hardest thing I have ever done in my life. Almost daily I have to remind myself how bloody lucky and blessed I am. The grass is always greener...

tea I take brownies out when they are just pulling away from the sides, and with a pale crust on top; let them cool and then stick them in the fridge for 2-3 hours BEFORE cutting, that's my tip. Still gooey inside then.

Still pg! Am feeling completely crappy, tired and sick and faint, but am hoping that means this one is here to stay so symptoms sort of welcome. Can't get enough sleep, lunchtime nap for 1hr and then bed 9-9 last two nights! I remember this feeling, it's like being drugged.

Waves to all.

yay MJ!! The tiredness will pass.. HZ is living proof (or would be, had I been able to see her last week!). Hope someone is pampering you with iron rich food and cheese and ham baguettes.