Dec '06 - Still clinging onto sanity.

[EasilyConfusedIndith]

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Hope you got some Indith, might be some help. My sinuses have died down a bit, but I've become so ridiculously sensitive to chemicals even public toilets set me off! My nose starts twitching like Samantha from Bewitched.

I met a very nice couple from Coventry over the weekend whilst at a conference. Is anyone on our thread near there? Just curious. The husband was giving me a brief geography lesson on England but we were at a reception having wine so I didn't retain much

Coventry is in the middle, don't think anyone is around there.

I am celebrating a mini victory, dd outgrew her carseat and I found one of those highbacked boosters with a 5 point harness that was £60 down from over £100 and narrow enough that I can fit the infant carrier in the middle. Woohoo! One problem ticked off the list.

Attempting to fine tune teh bulker/laxative combo with ds and failing. Half dose bulker plus senna makes it a little too loose but full dose bulker plus senna seems to bring us back to infrequent poos preceded by lots of wetting. .

GP has suggested an endometrial ablation. It's a bit scary - I'm not sure.

By the way, just seen we are nearly at 1000 posts. Who is going to come up eith an interesting thread title? Something to woo the old-timers back?

EV - eek! but maybe would fix the problem.

Indith, have you tried some really high level probiotics? We use this one

EV, my specialist suggested that or a hysterectomy. Norethisterone is working well at the moment, although the tumour/growth/cyst/whatever the hell it is is still there. At least I'm not still bleeding profusely.

hey castles, welcome back! how is dd2 enjoying school and are you enjoying a bit of you-time?
I am at the women's troubles (can't think of another way to put it). Double eeek. What are you going to do EV?
Just hiding from dc after screaming at ds2, endured 20 min tantrum from ds3 then 20 min of screaming from ds2 before finally losing it. I cannot stand the screaming. I guess they can't stand mine either, I sound like a harridan. I am a harridan. It gets better, it gets worse.

Ah meant to reply to Indith. I was a bit confused, did you describe dosage wrong way round? i.e on full dose it's too loose? If so, what about half dose plus extra fibre in his diet - we have ds1 on full dose but then he is nearly 8 but we've got to supplement with extra lentils in his food most days plus dried fruit. The lentils seem to do the trick (and cannellini beans as a snack, that kind of thing). And force water down his throat of course as he's never thirsty. They did prescribe something else for ds to stimulate his gut (if you think that is ds's issue?) but can't remember what it is right now. Anyway it gave him tummy ache and we found the diet route easier to manage. HTH

AQ, I so know what you mean about the screaming! The boys were just going crazy yesterday and the noise level was deafening. I finally banished them to the downstairs. Later, last night, they asked me if I was serious last week when I threatened to sell the dog I said "I guess not really but you guys had me really upset." Then ds2 pipes up, "You get us upset sometimes too, Mommy." :(
I go in next week for a meds check and have decided to ask if they can increase my zoloft.

Ah the screaming. I hate screaming. They scream, I scream nad it all gets messy.

AQ ds has a bulker which is fibre based and then senna so on half dose bulker it is too loose with the senna but on full dose bulker he is less reliable at doing a poo a day. Anyway we just need to keep fiddling a bit, perhaps half dose bulker and senna every other day or something. Still doing well though :). He has suddenly really taken to reading that little book you sent for him and every few days wants me to read it to him again so he can remember all the things he can do to help.

Think dd beat her all time worst night record alst night Today shall mostly involve CBeebies.

More screaming this morning from ds2. Argh. He put his uniform on and then argued about brushing his teeth until I ran screaming into the hills. Or something. I know if I were a calmer person it wouldn't get to me but I feel permanently stressed out. Trying to do some yoga before I go to bed at least. I have to do another half day at work starting November and dreading it. It will mean the end of my half day off to just catch up on chores/cooking etc just as winter sets in. And I was doing so well, have 2 boxes left to unpack yay.
Glad ds reading that booklet, Indith, it didn't get much attention from ds1! It took us about 4 years of fiddling with the meds to get it right for him, I'm sure you'll manage it sooner than we did. Course ds2 is now soiling for attention so here we go again.
EV, what's news?

Urgh AQ, hope that for Ds2 it is a phase that passes quickly! I suppose to his (subconcious?) mind it got Ds1 a lot of attention.

On screaming, is it school tiredness for ds2? Last week for us was a bit better on that front but this week seems to have gone back to terrible behaviour at home and screaming. I'm guessing for us at least that he had sort of got used to it but now is in need of half term to properly catch up on rest.

I'm sure you're right, Indith - dp has put him to bed at 7 tonight so we can avoid the morning screaming about uniform. Or whatever. He's losing a lot of pocket money at the moment but not making a difference! But does seem v.keen on school work itself, interested in doing phonics every night. DS1 had to be dragged kicking and screaming, still does tbh.
It's gone from 21 degrees yesterday to 13 today. Welcome to October, I guess. Luckily I had been prepared since 31st August for cold weather to hit for first time ever! Except me as I still have no boots, and went out in fitflops.

Got my meds tweaked Tuesday. Drank too much wine last night Really have to get my act together but can't seem to. At least I'm OK at work...just feeling like a crap mum atm.

Awww, jabber
I find it's possible to do one or the other (work or family) but I can't manage both and I only work 16 hours! It's hard to get the balance right and I'm absolutely sure that you're not a crap mum, you're just not doing it as perfectly as you'd like. Is something happening with ds1's dx to prompt this? and as you've had too much

Jabber you poor thing.

I have no idea how you all do it work, kids, houswork. Cut yourselves some slack.

AQ ds adores school too, everyone says he is as good as gold at school but flipping heck the tantrums! We've brought back sticker charts but not having all that much effect. I'm just hoping half term helps. Last night teh poor boy was so tired, we went straight to the park from school so he ran around there with all the village kids so by tea time he tantrummed at going home, was so tired I had to feed him his tea and felt like he was starting with a fever. Tantrum this morning at getting dressed

AQ, I finally decided, yet again, not to pursue the diagnosis. We did get ds1 into a really good group OT program once a week. They work on the upper body coordination that he needs as well as social skills.

Dh is getting me down more than anything atm. Lots of passive aggressive stuff and grumbling about, well, practically everything it seems. I think a lot of it is due to his chronic poor health but it's like a constant slow energy drain.

Re: tantrums - one OT expressed it particularly well about ds1. She said it's like when you hold it together all day at work and then come home and yell at your spouse because you had a stressful day. Same thing with kids and school, hence they are model students and then little terrors afterwards.

There is aquite a lot going on jabber, it's not surprising it's taking a toll. I thought there was some improvement (or hope for improvement) with dh's health? Are you up to speaking to dh about it? I think I'm a slow energy drain on dp tbh and he is very diplomatic about mentioning it (sometimes) and often just gets away from me by going out several nights that week so he can deal with it. Anyway, some me-time for you would surely help?
Indith, oh I know the tantrums you speak of, ds1 was exactly like this for all of first term so much fun to be doing it again. Did get to spend afternoon with ds2 on Sat as various grandparents took the other 3, but had to drag him kicking and screaming up the street before he finally co-operated. That was fun . Did feel some of the old bond coming back so definitely worth it, we had a lovely time. I so much prefer parenting when there's just one or two of them, as soon as the boys came home from school it was hell tonight. DD is ill so being shrieky and screamy which is not like her, but ds3 deliciously toddlerish whilst she had a nap. Sometimes my kids are just really cute and it makes it worthwhile for half an hour. then I cried at dinner and it was all forgotten. C'est la vie!

AQ, I know exactly what you mean about the fantastic times and then all hell breaks loose and I wonder what happened to the real life I was supposed to have.

I have been trying to do some me-time things, not only because I really enjoy it, but it also helps the business for me to be seen in new eyewear and giving out business cards. But then dh gets mad at me if I'm out past 8 or 9 (which always happens!) and it makes for a rotten day or two after.

I took the boys with me to the dog's puppy training class last night. I think it was good for them but it made bedtime about 30 minutes late. So they were doddling around this morning and by the time dh was ready to take them to school he had started screaming at them...again...It really upsets ds1 when he does that and then I feel guilty because if I would just have gotten up about 15 minutes earlier I might have been able to avoid it. Just got busy putting up laundry and didn't notice ds1 hadn't put on his shoes. He had trouble with the socks (a common problem for him) but is now getting old enough that he doesn't want to ask for help. :(

oh, started new thread here