May 2010: All the babies have arrived, welcome to the other side!

[rachelfruitloop]

Here we are ladies, a new Postnatal thread! I wonder if we'll fill this one up as fast with one-handed typing?!

[pamelat]

Hello all, Alex has put a pound on in one week again, no wonder the feeding is constant.

He has been more settled today. A friend told me to try to get him to sleep if he has been awake for 2 hours and it seems to have made him happier. Before now he was just falling to sleep if tired but yesterday/last night he seemed to get himself in to a frenzy, crying, fretting etc.

Catch up soon. Making tea whilst he is semi content!

[alle01]

hi all,

i got my box of prepregnancy clothes out today, and i am glad to say goodbye to my maternities, i can now fit in the clothes i was wearing at 3 months pregnant, size 20, hard to think i was a small 16, nearly nearly a 14, but will get there, have my 6 weeks check on friday, and hopefully doc will say i can swim again.

i am getting a grip with baby now, and i can actually manage to do stuff that does not involve him, even started calling the girlfriends, i will be out having coffees before you know it.

[sweetkitty]

Evening all, Jacob asleep on me in sling so have TWO hands to type now, yippee! He's not been bad today bit unsettled this afternoon, we went to boob group today (Breastfeeding Support) and weighed him, 12lbs 6ozs almost 7 weeks, he's put on 2lbs in 3 weeks the porker. I thought his wee 0-3 month vests were looking snug. Am gutted ought him all these cute little outfits and with the freakish weather here (ie sunny and warm in the Summer!) he's been in rompers and vests.

pamelat - well done Alex, major growth spurt, good he is piling on weight but bad for you with him wanting constant feeding. No bedtime routine here whatsoever, he stays up and comes to bed with me. Will start trying to implement one by about 3 or 4 months though.

That's mega scary about the meningitis.

Re: Mums when I was actually talking to mine she never ceased to tell me how "content" her babies were. Apparently I slept for 18 hours constantly , I was born at 34 weeks but was weaned at 6 weeks onto potatoes and mince. She is obsessed with cramming food into babies mouths, it's like force feeding she tried it once with DD1 who screamed the place down until I caught her and told her to quit it, she told me about mashed down rusk in bottles and about putting in an extra scoop for good luck. No wonder I slept I couldn't move it's a wonder I made it to age 1. She was utterly horrified that I weaned DD1 at almost 6 months and that I managed to feed DD2 who was 9lbs 3ozs at birth as there was no way I would manage to feed her.

Anyway I digress as you can tell I don't get on with my Mother, have heard nothing from her since Jacob was born, her loss really. I miss having a Mum most definitely now MIL is gone as well but we are all better off not having my Mum in our lives. Feel very sad the DC are growing up without grandparents in their lives really, there is only my Dad and he is a bit hit and miss.

alle - you sound positive today it gets easier day by day

[mollycuddles]

Hi all - my laptop charger arrived so tomorrow will have chance to do proper posts. Molly doing well - is now 10lb 4oz and is following 75th centile beautifully. Unfortunately I'm feeling really down - blardy PND.

[cupcakefairy]

dancingthrough- yay! I LOVE Wicked too.. saw it last year and desperate to go again! I sing it mega loud in the car too
Jude is exactly the same with feeding at the moment- really fussy and tugging on the breast and whining, but calmer at night. Glad to know it's not just me!

SK to your Mum's weaning techniques!!

pamela eek to the meningitis but as others have said I'm sure it's fine if they're not closing the nursery. Jude is also quite unsettled in the evenings even when he's been lovely & content all day. I've been told it's normal!

My first day going solo went pretty well. Made it to a bfing drop in group and saw some NCT friends which was lovely. V exhausted and a bit tearful tonight...just have to get through the rest of the week and convince myself I can do this!

[cupcakefairy]

x-post molly so sorry you're feeling low. Come join me in the weepy corner.

[hormonalmum]

Just marking my spot for when I get chance to post. hope everyone and lo's are ok.

[pamelat]

molly sorry you feel down. I dont have exoperience of PND, although was anxious, upset and weepy for months with my first.Know PND more serious.

I do find it hard though. With Alex its ok if its just me and him but as soon as anyone else around, including DH, I find I am irritable, controlling about Alex (especially re feeds), defensive and generally a bit stroppy. Think thats just a personality flaw. Basically I find it stressful, especially if he upset (ie not asleep or feeding) and am best left alone to deal with it.

He drank whole bottle of formula 1030pm but woke midnight to feed from me, then 3am, 4am, 5am and 6am. 4am and 6am were small comfort feeds but he was geniunely hungry at the others. I need more sleep now.

[mollycuddles]

Thanks for concern. I'm a lot better this morning even though I got naff all sleep (again). I had proper PND with DS so am very nervous it will happen again. I was so down last night but was probably just exhaustion. Fingers crossed I'll get through without hitting those lows. At the moment DH is singing silly songs to Molls and we're waiting for my friend to visit. Can't be bothered with visitors - antisocial cow that I am.

[Carikube]

sk my parents like to tell me that all 6 of us were eating some form of solids by 6 weeks and that one of my brothers was started on solids at 2 weeks . But then they also tell me that all 6 of us slept on our fronts and we've all turned out fine . However they have said that they will only offer advice if asked for it which is quite good - we did BLW with DD1 so although she had some solid food to play with from about 6 months, she didn't really start to swallow anything until about 8-9 months.

As for all those of you feeling broody, I know exactly what you mean - I was already thinking of number 3 within 24/48 hours of the birth of DD2 though maybe I can blame the general anaesthetic for not being right in the head. I don't remember feeling so broody so quickly after DD1 (though as I got pg when she was 5 months old, I obviously had some broody feelings ).

We went to the cricket yesterday, leaving DD1 at home with MIL who has come to stay and taking DD2 with us so that I could feed her. We had a lovely day in the sunshine though spent a lot of time making sure she was properly covered with a sheet so that she didn't catch the sun. Nice to see England win something for a change.

I have also tried expressing this morning as DH and I are off to see a band tomorrow night and although I think DD2 should be ok whilst we're out, I wanted there to be an emergency supply that MIL could give her. It took forever to get something out (though you could guarantee that the boob I wasn't pumping would leak everywhere but then stop the minute I switched the pump over) but we now have 2oz and I'll try and get another 2oz tomorrow so that she has enough to keep her going. My nipples feel as though they've been through a cheese grater mind you

[pamelat]

can someone please tell me that their baby is also waking at least twice, hopefully 3 times (?!) in the night for feeding.

In RL I am surrounded by people with babies sleeping through, ie 1030pm - 7am ish

[itshappenedagain]

hello all!

pamela yes Florence wakes many times in the night, can be every hour. i have now adjusted a bit better to the tortureing method reduced sleep. i too have the my baby went 12 hours last night, but all babies are differnt and bottle fed babies seem to sleep longer and do get used to day and night quicker than breast fed.

for all those with PND, i can completely empathise, i had it with Ds. and ranged from obsesive about him to antisocial, with weepy inbetween.

have to fly flornce has just woken!

[ande]

Hello everybody,

Please don't flame me for lack of personals but this is literally the first time i have been able to log on for what seems like forever. DH has the day off (clearly he plans to watch the football) and has taken DS for a walk.

Our son STILL HAS NO NAME. The health visitor is due tomorow and helpfully told me the police will knock on my door on day 43 if he still isn't registered. I have never been so indecisive in my life before, atleast I don't think so...........

pamelat my DS wakes at least 3 times a night for a feed. Today I think I will have to buy a breast milk expressing thing so DH can share in the joy of B*er all sleep!

Right I'm going to raid the fridge and hopefully eat with two hands for a change! Err that would be no, DH and DS are back.

Love to all
xx

[alle01]

hi all

we had a wonderful night today, ds fall asleep at 10, we watched tv until midnight and he did not wake up until 4.30, but i have been paying for it, as not a minute sleep since...

ande, welcome to the world of logging in for 3 secs every 3 weeks, will making a list and eliminating what you don't want help?, i would open a name finder and choose an initial, otherwise get overwhelmed, and write down what i may like, at the end of the week, check the list again and eliminate what i didn't really like, maybe you can use a speed version of that, anyhow hope you decide soon

right, my 3 secs are over, you think he knows i turned on the computer?

[mollycuddles]

All depends on your definition. Molly only woke once in the night last night. She settled to sleep at bedtime - about half one, woke about 3 and then was up for the day at 6. Her 3am feed lasted until nearly 5, But I can choose to say she only woke once ..

[pigleychez]

Lovely to hear that all our bubbas are doing well and gaining lots of weight. Lucy was weighed this morning and now at 5 weeks is 9lb 6ozs so thats 2.5 lbs in 3 weeks.. not quite as a mighty gain as some of you but she lost quite abit of weight so had some catching up to do.

Dancingthroughlife- Good theroy about them not knowing what to do with themselves. When Lucy is awake she will fine for 10mins or so then start groaning and crying. Hard as shes not into toys yet but likes to be awake.
Hoo hum i guess it will pass.

Cupcake- Glad the first day went ok Of course you can do it

Carikube- We too did BLW with DD and got all sorts of greif from my mum. Apparently I was starving her and also spoiling her by letting her get her own way with food?!
She now however has to eat her words as DD eats everything including really spicy and hot foods and has great table manners.

Pamlet- I think in RL people do exagerate to save face and keep up and it also does depend on your definition of through the night.
Lucy will have some nights where she will go 8.30 till 4, straight back to sleep tll 7. If you want to call 4am Morning then you could say she slept through- 4am is far too early for me though!
Other nights like last night she fed at 11, then 2.30 then 5 then 8.

Ande- Really hope you can decide on a name soon for the little guy
What happens if you cant.. do they just call him something like John Doe or Fred bloggs ?

After walking to weigh in this morning decided to continue on and get DD some new shoes. She has now decided that she wants to walk everywhere which is fine but we had screaming abdabs about holding my hand everytime we had to cross the roads- which was quite a few. My fault too as i forgot to put the buggy board on the back! Anyway turned into a rather stressfull shopping trip!

Both girls are asleep so just been finishing the last of the thank you cards for the last gifts we recieved and a few other odd jobs.

Footy will be on in the background later so will hopefully catch bits of it. DH's work have arranged a showing in the office so hes a happy camper

Off to meet a possible new mummy friend tomorrow in the park. We met through Meet-a mum on Netmums. She has a girl the same age as DD and a 9 week old boy so plenty in common. Im not very good at meeting new people so abit nervous.

[MoggMum]

pamelat you're not alone with the night feeds. On a good night Dylan usually feeds at 12am, 3am then about 6am but he can feed for up to an hour each time. Last night, however, he wouldn't settle after the 3am feed so fed again at 4.30am then went through 'til 7.30am. I seem to spend most of the day feeding him though

Just got back from Hosp as Dylan had 'tongue tie' and needed a quick snip to sort it. Hopefully he'll be able to feed more efficiently now. Also registered the birth so he's finnally 'official'

Big cyber hugs to all those feeling down - I keep telling myself it will get easier soon.

Sorry for lack of personals - one hand typing whilst feeding (again!)

[alle01]

need rescue from mums with 7 weeks old babies formula feeding,
i've been giving him 120 ml botles, and he put that peaceful smiles after, but the last few days doesn't settle for a few minutes, doesn't do it when breastfeeding.
how much you put in a bottle? maybe still hungry? please, tell me your expiriences.

re nights: to me calling 4 am the morning.am i sad.

[sweetkitty]

Agree with definitions of through the night, it means different things to different people and seems to be the holy grail of parenting.

Last night Jacob slept on me about about 10ish in the sling, then we went to bed and he slept from 11 to 3.30am, then until 7am which I suppose is good from reading things on here. He is a wee bit older though at 7 weeks today. I cosleep and he doesn't even cry, I wake as he snuffles before even waking proper, boob in mouth and most of the time we both fall back asleep. On a good night I will be awake a few mins max, if he is unsettled I will wind, maybe change him and put him on the other side.

moggmum - hope the snip works well

pigley - DD3 is the same wanting to walk everywhere, what makes it worse is she sees her sisters walking and of course she wants to be the same as them. I do still like the P&T for containment if I am in and out shops or need to get somewhere in a hurry. Well done Lucy on the weight gain as well. I'm sure your meet up will be fine keep us posted.

ande - what's your shortlist??? Have you been trying names out on him, seeing if they suit him? I know it is hard to find a name and such a big decision, we only chose Jacob's about 2 weeks before he was born.

Carikube - have you tried expressing from one boob as you feed from the other? I always find mornings are better to express than evenings as well. The older generation crack me up about babycare, I remember being pregnant with DD1 and my Mother telling me that I shouldn't BF as her Mother told me it was something only poor people did

mollycuddles - poor you, hope today is better for you, I got really low when DD3 was about 6-7 months last time it's a bit rubbish really. Some days I want to bury my head under the duvet and not get up it's so bloody hard.

pamelat - that sounds like a tough night especially after a bottle of formula, I think you are right it is comfort sucking, am at a loss as to what you can do to try and rectify it really, he is quite new so hopefully in a few weeks it will all settle down.

[brightredballoon]

Hi everyone

SK Glasgow Pram centre also sell and fit inner tubes for you.
I am the same as you regarding night feeds, I seem to wake as DD2 is stirring so she doesnt really end up crying during the night.

Ande up here the local authority write to you giving you another 7 days to register the birth

Molly hope you are ok, let off as much steam/discuss things with us as much as you can if it helps.

sorry gotta dash!

[MarquiseDeMerteuil]

Hello Ladies!

Just half-watching the football and taking advantage of a sleeping baby to catch up on about a week's worth of posts on here.

Rachel - I'm another whose DH really disapproves of doesn't get the whole mumsnet thing. I tried to explain that it's really nice to share experiences with people going through similar things, and he said "isn't that what your NCT friends are for?".

Mustbemad - LOL at your boob-out-in-the-carpark moment!

Pamelat - Felix doesn't have a bedtime. He'll sleep in his moses basket during the day as well as at night, so it's quite hard to say when he actually goes to bed, and the time of his last feed before I go to bed varies from day to day. On average, I'd say I feed him before going to bed myself any time between 10.30 and 11.30ish.

Pigley and dancing - Felix has also been unsettled for the last couple of days, spending much more time awake and just having little catnaps for 15-20 minutes at a time, before waking up wanting to feed. On Monday and Tuesday he was so overtired by the evening, he had bags under his eyes and was yawning constantly, and would cry as soon as I put him down but stop the instant I picked him up. He eventually went to sleep both nights at about 9.30. He is 6 weeks tomorrow, so I think it must have been a growth spurt. Today is completely different, he has only spent about 3 hours awake since 7.30 this morning, and most of that was spent feeding! He must be catching up on all the sleep he missed the last two days!

Ooh, England just won the football, yay!

Alle - Good news about getting into your 3 month preg. clothes, and the good night last night. Hope your 6 week check goes well on Friday and you get the all-clear to go swimming again. My check is tomorrow, and I'm really looking forward to being able to do exercise again. The other girls in my NCT group have organised a weekly session with a personal trainer, who charges £30 irrespective of how many people turn up, so the more that go the cheaper it is per person. I'm going to go along next week hopefully.

SK at your mum's weaning tactics!

Molly - good news about your charger. I hope your low spell doesn't develop into full-blown PND.

carikube about your day at the cricket! I'm debating going over to Wimbledon one day and seeing if I can get a ticket to wander round the grounds and sit on 'Henman Hill'.

ande good luck deciding on a name! We had a shortlist of 4 boys names (Felix, Noah, Benjamin and Raphael). What's making your decision difficult? - disagreement between you and your DH, too many options or nothing that really grabs you?

tomlin my DH sky+es all the games too! At least there won't be so many once the group stages are over!

Hope everyone has a good evening and gets a chance to make the most of the great weather.

[Carikube]

Re night feeds, DD2 seems to be getting in to the habit of feeding at about 8/8.30pm then going through until 3-4am and then again until 6-7am which I know is pretty good at less than 5 weeks. Doesn't change the fact that I am knackered so I don't know how I'd cope if she woke every 2 hours or something. I admire all of those of you who are still able to function with a LO that does that!

SK I'm not entirely sure how I'd express and feed at the same time as it is a manual pump and I kind of need 2 hands when using it. However I am also a very dodgy feeder and need two hands when feeding on the left side - I've only just been able to manage to feed one-handed on the right (my mother gleefully told me about how many books she read when bfing and I had to say that I couldn't even hold a book...)

Ande hope you manage to think of a name soon - how much time have you got left?

Pigley I love seeing people's faces when they register what DD1 is eating. When we went out for DH's birthday lunch back in March when she wasn't even 1, the way she wolfed down most of my mussels got most of the other diners staring. When they ran out, she started on DH's steak....

[sweetkitty]

carikube - ah I see, I know quite a few people haven't got on with manual pumps. When I was pregnant with DD1 MN told me to go straight for a Medula one and I am so glad I did and bought it before she was born, she came out of hospital on bottles of EBM only. I know they are expensive but I have used mine for all the babies so have got my money's worth.

I used to get looks with my lot's eating especially DD2 who at 8 months was eating pesto and garlic bread whilst my friends little boy was on jarred mush, having tasted jarred mush I know which I would prefer.

MDM - nice to see you, glad things seem to be going well with Felix too

Better go DP changing Jacob's nappy, then he will be wanting fed no doubt.

My lovely pacapod bag arrived today, from the outside it looks like a black bag not fancy or anything but love the little pods with all their compartments, I am truly sad. Now I just need my blooming inner tube to arrive now and I will be sorted.

[TwentiethCenturyHeffa]

Hello all

Has been a bit manic here for various reasons. PIL living nearby suddenly has been a bit of an adjustment. MIL is desperate to visit me lots during the day but is unbearable Sure we'll get used to it though. Corin's doing well and putting on loads of weight which is good. Nights are getting easier now I've mastered lying down to feed.

SK - am jealous of your pacapod, they look awesome.

Sorry for lack of personals, will try to keep up.

[Den26]

Afternoon all!!!

Sorry been a bit missing in action!

Hollyoaks & BRB - glad to hear you are broody too!! thought i was going a little crazy already thinking of when to have another one! Hollyoaks NWYM re comments re bfing, a little pressure here to put him on a bottle but i feel its something i want to persevere with for him and don't want to muck up my supply with bottles. Briiliant news re Grace!!

Peaky - Rian has also started a mad grunting frenzy when feeding at times, hard to get hime calmed down and latched on!!

First1 - sorry to hear your troubles, really hope it all works out for you...

Haven't finished reading but wee man calling, will be back...