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May 2010: All the babies have arrived, welcome to the other side!

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rachelfruitloop · 16/06/2010 14:21

Here we are ladies, a new Postnatal thread! I wonder if we'll fill this one up as fast with one-handed typing?!

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DancingThroughLife · 28/07/2010 23:00

Hi ML! Sounds like you've got loads to keep you on your toes. Glad work's going well though.

HB4 - love that high chair, very swish. Wish I could get away with something like that I'm working on DH for a RF car seat that costs £300 so we'll see how that goes!

WLTK - that your hv is so crap. I think I'm in a v lucky minority with an amazing hv. She's a student doing the last few practical (real life) weeks of her qualification and I'll be really sad to see her go. I guess still learning means she has all the very latest advice etc.

Meet up list :
first1: SW London - September
wouldliketoknow: brighton - second half of september
carikube : Southampton - September [also will be up in Chester from Aug8th for nearly 2 weeks so could almost join in a northern one if there was one going on]
Pigleychez: Crawley West Sussex- sept
TwentiethCenturyHeffa - Devon - not sure about time.
homebirthmummy4: wirral - anytime
millingtonsmummy: SW London - not the 3rd week in September
Memorylapse; Chester, anytime
DancingThroughLife: Shropshire, but will travel. Anytime

wouldliketoknow · 29/07/2010 10:25

thanks, molly, jelonet arrived safely

newmomma · 29/07/2010 11:00

hi ladies,

sorry for the me post...
have skim read and you all seem to be coping so well.

i feel like i'm drowning.

sweetkitty saw my thread in 'Parenting' and told me to come back here, but I'm so nervous as everyone seems to telling positive stories and i don't want to bring anyone down.

homebirthmummy4 · 29/07/2010 11:25

newmomma we are all here to support each other, good times and bad, dont worry about that.

can we help at all?

wouldliketoknow · 29/07/2010 11:32

newmomma, we all feel down time to time, each of us have different issues, for me is breast feeding, and i had soooo much support from everyone, what's your issue?

Carikube · 29/07/2010 11:44

newmomma just posted on your parenting thread. I know it doesn't seem like it, but I'm sure that there are many of us who have glossed over any times when we have found it hard. And you certainly won't be bringing anyone down - I wish I had discovered MN earlier as I could have done with the support that is available here after having DD1.

Thanks molly jelonet has just arrived here too - I'm now looking forward to having my nipples back in one piece again!

Hobnobfanatic · 29/07/2010 11:45

Newmomma - so sorry to hear you're having a rough time. I agree with SK's comment on the Parenting thread about some babies just not coping well in the first three months. BUt what you said about her flinching from touch is worth investigating again with the doc - maybe she really is in pain/sensitive?

I have no new useful advice, I'm afraid - everyone on Parenting has said everything I'd say, but I'll just say that if she's putting on weight, you're obviously doing a fantastic job in impossible circumstances.

Big unMumsnetty hugs - this really won't go on forever, even if it feels like it will. x

newmomma · 29/07/2010 12:03

thanks...

kateyjane · 29/07/2010 12:05

Hello everyone - sorry for the lack of posts. I'm full of admiration for those who make time to regularly post (especially those with 4+) I am finding all your advice really useful and really enjoy reading the thread. I am still thinking about you all.

I am finding it hard work at home with all four of my DCs - although feel ashamed to say that. Thomas is lovely and smiley now, now we just need to crack night times!

Thinking about you newmomma.

I would be interested in a meet up - I live in Halifax, West Yorkshire, but I am prepared to travel! Would quite fancy a day in London (or Edinburgh SK!) I'm free whenever.

Take care everyone

kateyjane · 29/07/2010 12:07

Sorry don't know how to add my details to the list I always get my DH to help me, but he's away in London - I am definately interested in a meet up though.

TwentiethCenturyHeffa · 29/07/2010 12:13

Hi Newmomma, saw your thread but didn't have time to post. I hope you're OK, you sound v.down. It is really hard, I've had days where it's all seemed impossible but somehow you get through. Take care of yourself, I've been thinking about you.

wouldliketoknow · 29/07/2010 12:24

quite fancy london too, british museum, perhaps?
newmomma perhaps some of us are close to you to visit...would you like that?

pigleychez · 29/07/2010 14:13

NewMomma - So sorry your feling so down. Lucy had a few eeks like that and it was horrible. Such hard work and very draining. We put it down to wind and found that Infacol helped ( although ive read youve tried that)
I too admit to wishing she would stay asleep 24/7 as that was the only time she was quiet.
Its harder too when you also have the demands of a toddler to deal with too. Ive already admitted on here to having the odd cry on bad days. Your only human and its bound to get you down.

Please do stay on the thread and moan away to us. We all too have our bad times and can help each other through it.

Kateyjane- Glad to hear Thomas is good.

Yay today that my window cleaner has returned. He disappeared for ages and i was debating about finding a new guy. Well he arrived today apologising and told me how he fell off a ladder and got carted off to Hospital. He broke his collarbone and smashed up his elbow which has been fixed with metal plates.
He now uses a long pole for the upstairs windows but im not impressed as they are just full of watermarks

'touch wood' DD has been a dream the past few days. Very helpful, not too many tantrums and extremerly funny with the things shes coming out With. ie She took DH's pot of cream from his bedside table this morning. I told her that was Dadddys, to which she replied... Abigails too, Have to share! - Can you tell shes learning about sharing, Little monkey!

first1 · 29/07/2010 14:30

newmomma my original due date buddy! you have to stay on the thread hunny. Thinking about you lots. I'm having a crap time too personally, though baby is fortunately fine. Got my op in a few weeks, am sh1tting it! But you must stick around, we're all here to listen and moan together. Dont know what Id do without mumsnet. And I really hope you'll join us on a meetup

Kateyjane have addeded you to the list

Off for Chloe's 8 week check/ jabs now, though she's 9 weeks - my clinic is just crap! I'm more scared than she is, thank god she doesnt know what she's in for...

Meet up list :
first1: SW London - September
wouldliketoknow: brighton - second half of september
carikube : Southampton - September [also will be up in Chester from Aug8th for nearly 2 weeks so could almost join in a northern one if there was one going on]
Pigleychez: Crawley West Sussex- sept
TwentiethCenturyHeffa - Devon - not sure about time.
homebirthmummy4: wirral - anytime
millingtonsmummy: SW London - not the 3rd week in September
Memorylapse; Chester, anytime
DancingThroughLife: Shropshire, but will travel. Anytime
Kateyjane: Halifax - anytime

Hobnobfanatic · 29/07/2010 15:51

Don't think anyone is my neck of the woods!

Meet up list :
first1: SW London - September
wouldliketoknow: brighton - second half of september
carikube : Southampton - September [also will be up in Chester from Aug8th for nearly 2 weeks so could almost join in a northern one if there was one going on]
Pigleychez: Crawley West Sussex- sept
TwentiethCenturyHeffa - Devon - not sure about time.
homebirthmummy4: wirral - anytime
millingtonsmummy: SW London - not the 3rd week in September
Memorylapse; Chester, anytime
DancingThroughLife: Shropshire, but will travel. Anytime
Kateyjane: Halifax - anytime
Hobnob: Glos - depends on school!

First1 - hope the jabs went okay. It's just heartbreaking, isn't it? DD took the first one and didn't cry. The doc couldn't believe it. For the one in the other leg, there was a pause and then she screamed blue bloody murder. Once she could forgive - but twice!
We have the next one as soon as we're back from hol - dreading it already - though her older sister is dreading it more. She was in tears with her baby sis!

Hobnobfanatic · 29/07/2010 15:52

... is IN my neck of the woods... Doh.

newmomma · 29/07/2010 16:49

hi all,
thanks for your understanding...
this has been going on for 7 weeks now.
i just feel like i'm running on empty.
i'd be up for a meeting but again not sure if i'm near anyone.
berkshire, reading

Sassles · 29/07/2010 18:31

Quick post. Dropped off thread.

Managing to get better at being out and about so not as much time to post. Got some lovely weather here too!

Sam going through something developmental. Feeding loads and every 2 hrs through night. Friend in my village has baby 2 days older and doing same thing (10 weeks 2day). Loads of smiles tho which is awesome.

sk I'm in Neilston (south of Glasgow). Would love to do Scottish meet. Sam's my first so I can drive to whereever to meet needs of mum's with many to schedule.

first1 · 29/07/2010 18:32

hobnob - She SCREAMED! Her whole face crumpled up and she grabbed on to me for dear life bless her. Felt like she was saying "ahh you cow what have you made me do"!!

newmomma - sure you've explored this lots, but is your HV any good? Have you tried any local mums groups she could put you in touch with? I havent been to any, feel a bit unconfident still and I definitely feel isolated having no other friends with babies.

wouldliketoknow · 29/07/2010 19:16

first, can't be that bad.

i go often to baby groups in my area, mostly for breast feeding support, and they are great, even if it is just to have someone hold your baby for half an hour while you have a glass of squash and biscuits, no cups of tea around children, i'm afraid... they also tell you all the anecdotes of their first few weeks, and it's a great excuse to leave the house, believe me, no matter how tired you are, all looks a lot worst after a couple of days at home.

on a positive note, oscar has been weight today at 12 weeks and he has reach 13 lb, 50th centile, from 9th, not bad, he is also 61 cm long, nearly 75th centile, not quite, from 9th as well, very well please with myself, found new confidence and lost all guilt for my mixed feeding, hvs well impressed with the growth, can also lift himself from the ground if i hold his hands, only top half, the 3 hvs spendt half an hour playing with him. must be doing something right...

TwentiethCenturyHeffa · 29/07/2010 19:52

First1 - sorry your LO didn't like her jabs, it's miserable

Newmomma - do you have a local children's centre at all? Ours have fantastic ladies working there who are a godsend if you're struggling.

Wouldliketoknow - congratulations on Oscar's growth, that's fantastic!

Pigley - v.cute about your DD DD keeps bringing me the cake tin for me to open and then goes 'on no, all gone!' because it's empty now she's finished her birthday cake.

rachelfruitloop · 29/07/2010 20:26

Hi Ladies,

HBMummy4 nice to see you on FB! The Cervical Shock I apparently experienced having the coil inserted was mild, just felt sick and faint for a bit, but nothing compared to the labour I might experience if I accidentally got pregnant so well worth it I think!

Newmomma I am so sorry that you're still having to cope with incessant crying. I think I would absolutely lose my mind. Eric is a very chilled out baby, but having to deal with him and my DS1 is hard enough. I had a really tough afternoon/evening with the two of them today (mainly DS1 hitting Eric repeatedly through the day and scratching him in the face!!! He had no privileges left by bedtime!) so I can't imagine if constant crying was added to the mix. Please feel free to have a good moan about it here as often as you want to. I think it will help some others feel free to talk about their troubles too, and also helps me see that even when I'm pushed to my limit I can be glad that at least Eric is pretty mellow most of the time. I really wish I was closer so I could come keep you company. Big hugs to you!

I met up with AlexW the other day and we and our older and younger DDs and DSs got acquainted, it was lovely! I am definitely up for a meeting with more of you, I will add myself to the list:

Meet up list :
first1: SW London - September
wouldliketoknow: brighton - second half of september
carikube : Southampton - September [also will be up in Chester from Aug8th for nearly 2 weeks so could almost join in a northern one if there was one going on]
Pigleychez: Crawley West Sussex- sept
TwentiethCenturyHeffa - Devon - not sure about time.
homebirthmummy4: wirral - anytime
millingtonsmummy: SW London - not the 3rd week in September
Memorylapse; Chester, anytime
DancingThroughLife: Shropshire, but will travel. Anytime
Kateyjane: Halifax - anytime
Hobnob: Glos - depends on school!
Rachelfruitloop: NW London/Chilterns, Sept

First1 if you want to meet up sometime in central London, I go into town fairly regularly and would be glad to meet you. My plan for getting through the summer with my sanity intact is to just keep busy and get out as much as I can!

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DancingThroughLife · 29/07/2010 21:33

newmomma, sorry you're having a tough time. I only get time to post when Darcey is having a good spell - which is after bedtime at the moment! She's pretty chilled out but needs full and constant attention, which is wearing but not nearly as much as the crying must be. We're all here thinking of you though

Love the toddler stories. Can't wait to get there - not wishing the time away though!

wltk, I go to the bf group for a good natter. We get a cuppa though! Have to stand in the seperate kitcheny area but it's worth it. Well done Oscar!

first1, that's exactly what Darcey did. and just when she thought it was all over, it happened again. I would say she was less than impressed...

Taking her for her last weigh in before holiday tomorrow. We're at a wedding all day Saturday then leaving for Folkestone at midnight. Long day, but I think she'll sleep in the car on the way.

She has hiccups now, so off to do a quick feed to fix them so she can try and sleep! Catch up tomorrow!

schipo · 29/07/2010 22:22

newmomma, so sorry to hear about the relentless crying. Do not hold back from posting. I cannot imagine what would it would be like without the chilled smiling baby appearing between bouts of screaming and crying! It must take a lot of strength. Hope you get a break soon

Jabs -- they sound awful! I'm dreading it - next week...

I'd be up for a london meet up. The british museum sounds like a nice option, haven't been for years to be honest - but it's certainly a beautiful space, also, if the weather's right 15 minutes walk from there is Coram's Fields a park you can only get into with children. Haven't been to it but it sounds lovely and I hear there's a great cafe.

I've just realised I have postnatal spd, it's not severe but hurts to push a door open with my foot for example. It hurts more if I'm very active. Is anyone else still having aches and pains?

wouldliketoknow · 30/07/2010 07:40

20min feed at 6, 10 min feed at 7.30, asleep in between, asleep now, sounds about right?, no formula so far today, ...i know is early!, but today is a first.