March 2010- Group Therapy on the cheap

[ValiumtheConqueror]

And cupcakes

I am a complete numpty. For some reason I had it in my head that the maxicosi cabriofix goes up to 9kg or 20lb but that is nonsense. It goes up to 13kg so we don't have to rush out and buy a new carseat afterall. It will be ages a while before the giant Baby G gets that big!
I think my confusion arose because the group 1 seats start from 9kg/20lb. . . just as well I left the items in my mothercare shopping basket over the weekend to think about it rather than rushing out and spending more money unnessarily.
I've even been looking at buggies I have a P&T but TBH I don't really use it in double mode very much as most of the time DD1 wants to walk but I do have a zapp for dodging around town in which I use with the maxi cosi seat for short trips but the pushchair bit is far too upright for her right now and I thought our days of using the maxi cosi were numbered therefore I would need a new pram and carseat.. . . . so saved lots of money but still secretly lusting after a new buggy. I think it must be the boredom.
Hope you are all having a lovely Father's Day with your families, take it that is why it's so quiet here.

hello all
at smac do you know, i was completely thinking about you today...i was trying to work out how exactly the car seats were already an issue and I decided that actually, however BIG any baby this age is, it's not going to be STRONG. So even if one were to have a 20lber by now...he/she wouldn't be as strong as an 8 month old 20lber... Does that make any sense? Anyway, I know you were trying to find a bigger rear facing seat, but i was just sort of thinking it through.

We've had a nice-ish day, DH played football (i can't stress how unLIKE him this is so it was really quite abnormal) for a work thing so I also spent the day in the park tiring the little bugger out enjoying the sunshine. I know of plenty of couples who actively encourage their other halves to indulge in sporty/hobbyish things at the weekend but i have to admit, selfishly, I like a bit of weekend too, frankly, and it's about us trying to enjoy some family time, somehow. I completely get how you feel though, smac and iwcas - those days when DH is working/whatever at the weekend, I do not feel like I can call on my normal weekday friends, weird isn't it (like, i'd have to apologise if I dared to encroach on their time?!! odd).

scooby am sorry for you re your gran, i hope you do get some comfort from the fact that she was "ready". Your note about her now being reunited with the love of her life made me smile wryly, I can't help feeling that is exactly what we will say about my mum as and when (and I really hope not for a very long time, but still - there are some loves that can't be separated, aren't there). What an amazing woman your gran must have been to have watched you all over those years and felt her heart beating even though it was inextricably broken.

bluey bill bailey made me WEEP with laughter, so funny, just superb.

DD2 finally giggled today - she's done the odd hiccupy one but this was a proper Mummy You're So Funny one

how's everyone else tonight

OOOHHH and important question (for me...)
I've remembered I have a wedding to go to in a couple of weeks...
Do I splash out on one of the nursing dresses one of you so kindly linked to ages ago?
or get over it and wear a wrap around dress...?

MElk, I agree with Pixie - definitely splash out. (And not just to make me feel better about all the splashing out I'm doing at the moment!)

Scooby, sympathies from me too. Just because someone was "ready to go" doesn't necessarily make it easier for those left behind.

Smac and IWCAS, hope you're both feeling ok. I sort of know where you're coming from re the alone at the weekend thing as my dh plays hockey on a Saturday for much of the year. It means a lot to him so I encourage it even though I often find solo childcare hard, especially when it came at the end of a week's worth of work and long distance commuting.

I was very glad DH was at home today (although I'm already dreading tomorrow when he'll be at work). It's been the sort of day that, once ds was safely in bed and dd taking her pre-bedtime sling nap, made us query out loud why, exactly, we are doing all this. To add to the sheer day-in-day-out relentlessness of small children (the washing, the cleaning, the tidying, the cooking, the lack of thanks yadda yadda) with which you'll all be familar, was today added the most awful case of nappy rash and constipation. They've been ongoing problems for ds for a while, and we have seen the GP, but the last couple of days have been dreadful. He's been in such pain that it's even affected his walking. And trying to change his nappy - oh! It almost made me cry along with him. We had to resort to washing him down in the bath, which he hated. Seeing him standing there, shivering, a dribble of chocolate (given to him in an attempt at consolation) running down his chin and his face awash with tears made me feel so mean and so .

We tried to persuade him to go nappyless in order to air things but he got very upset at the mere idea and insisted he must have a nappy. Eventually I suggested he wear his "big boy pants", bought in anticipation of potty training, and he agreed because they're covered in cars and fire engines. We went through five pairs in pretty short order so I'm guessing he's not ready potty training yet, whatever dh might wish.

Anyway, sorry for the totally non-baby related rant but getting it down here has made me feel a tiny bit better. On the subject of my baby, yesterday she managed two naps that were neither in the sling or the pram nor with me lying down next to her. Yay dd!

Yawn.. and the most overused words in the world.; I'm so tired!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

DD slept two amazing 5 hours blocks on friday night - yey I thought! Nope.. sat and last night back to feeds at 11, 1, 3 and 5 . Except this morning as a special solstis treat, we got up at 4.30am and DD displayed her new vocal talents of a very singsong voice, which made things a little better but does not make up for the false hope that was friday night.. Now i know she can do it, and also as 1am and 3 am feeds are very short, I need to try to stop her from waking at these times.. any ideas?

My hair is falling out in huge clumps it feels like. I have alot anyway and its kind of nice not to be so hot but ! The plug is full (urgh) and the carpet has a web of hair in front of the mirror that the hoover revealed this morning..

ICWAS I had a night out planned for saturday - my friends bday. Saturday morning I went shopping for a nice top - even size 16 didnt fit these insane hooters, and regular dont seem to stock size 18 I notice in all styles. Im actually a 12 normally and still am if I didnt have knockers the size of belgium (hi belgianmummy) .. so I didnt get anything, was pretty upset about that anyway, when DH took DD out at 5pm and let her fall asleep in the car for an hour - just before bed. It was like he was trying to sabotage me! She finally went down at 8pm (normally 7pm) and the table was booked for 8pm so streaked with tears of frustration and the clothes I had been wearing all day I drove to the resturant, didnt drink and was back in by 10.15pm. This was not the night I had planned..

i forgot fathers day

scooby (hugs)

Pixie - crackers.

sariska poor DS! Not had nappy rash here yet (knock on wood)

right - off to nonsensical singing group, and a walk in the sun beore wimbledon cracks off.

ICWAS sorry to hear that - are they leaking? are you using a night time nappy? And pull them up simon cowell style? Which size are you using? i put dd in size 3 for her weight but she still fits size 2 nicely and they leak less..

mummyelk that was exactly what I was thinking a 20lb baby who is 20 weeks is not as strong as a 20lb baby who is 40 weeks or 50 week or whatever, there was no way I could have put DD2 into DD1's seat which was what we had originally planned and upgrading DD1's seat but yes I've read the relevant product description now and realise that it is no longer an issue.
For the wedding I think finding something that you will be comfortable in is the only answer be that new or old, nothing worse than feeling inappropriately dressed or something that is ill fitting and hoicking it up or down all day.
I am not a BF prude - I BF in public but I really find it off putting when someone feels the need to whap out the whole boob out like out the top of your top rather than pull up the top from the bottom (does that make any sense at all?) I realise that with some dresses this would be required as you can't sit with a dress around your neck and your undercrackers on show but still I wouldn't wear something that I couldn't feed in or I would retreat somewhere more private to feed.
Would a skirt and top be appropriate ? I know I like to wear a dress for a wedding as I so rarely wear dresses however a nice skirt/top combo could maybe be the best option to allow easy feeding?
Poor DS Sariska sounds like really nasty constipation to make him walk bad - or is it the nappy rash that makes him walk bad? DD1 only had one episode of bad nappy rash which was with early teething and metanium was the only thing that cleared it up. It's lethal as it stains if it gets on clothes but it works. I used to frequent the BLW forum but haven't been on for ages and there was talk there of a dambuster recipe that involved prunes and other delights that helped constipation. I've never used it as DD1 actually enjoys eating dried prunes and apricots anyway but I'll have a look and see if I can find it for you. Glad you had DH to help you through a rough day and hope today isn't so bad when you are solo.
pixie you are a loon - I spotted your other thread
shroomer and BMI I hope the painful sex thing passes and your GPs are helpful.
siamsese was that a deliberate 'forget' or a genuine one? Sorry that your night out was sabotaged, it feels so unfair when all you want is one little night out
IWCAS sounds like a bad night, never used Pampers but maybe worth trying another brand? Have heard on the grapevine that they have changed recently, seems to be lots of people moaning about them. I bought some Boots own brand the other week when we were in Stratford as they didn't have the Nature nappies I use and they seemed okay.
I'm sure you aren't doing anything wrong - did his willy sneak up the way as a mother of 2 girls I am not an expert in boys but I have heard mummies of boys saying that if willy points up then nappy doesn't contain the wee.
I had to give DD2 a complete changeover at 5am as she hadn't had a poo all day yesterday and unlike pixies twins she is usually a 4 a day girl so I was expecting a bad one when it came and I was right. I was actually a bit concerned as GP has put me on Loperamide Hydrochloride (she originally suggested Imodium but that wasn't BF friendly) anyway I know that a small amount will go through the breastmilk but as she isn normally so regular I felt bad that my medicine was clogging her up. She woke for a feed at 1am then again at 4.30am but it wasn't til after 5 when she 'unloaded' that she was able to settle again. and I had to have her cuddling in with me as her spare babygrows and sleeping bag was in DD1's room and I didn't want to risk waking her and having 2 awake girls (with DH away at work) but I quite like bed time snuggles as DH disapproves of co-sleeping .
When DD1 woke up she announced 'poo in nappy mummy change nappy mummy' so a productive night all round

Good morning all,

Sariska Hope DS is better
ICWAS I understand you so well, I've been having the same terrible nights. But as you said TTSP
scooby sorry about your grandmother (hugs)
siamesecatwoman I have also been loosing a lot of hair
Pixie DS goes up to 10 days without a dirty nappy. If babies are just breastfed you shouldn't worry. But I kind of avoid him going such a long time. I'm giving him a suppository every time I see his getting uncomfortable. And TTC !! You are such a brave woman!

Over here:

• first tooth came through!
• nights still difficult: feeding every 3 hours
• this afternoon I'm going to a "weaning" session. According to the HV if I want I can start DS on solids next weekend (he will be 20w). What do you think? Is it too early?

xxx

IWCAS There was a piece on Watchdog t'other week about Pampers, they'd changed their Active Fit nappies and loads of people were complaining about leakage. Don't know if this affects their other ranges as well. Personally I've found ASDA's own brand to be fine, DD slept 11-7 the other night with no leakage.

Anyway...hello all! Haven't been on in a while (as I said on the MMMM thread, I have been here in a previous incarnation but not posted for a bit on P/N) but all is well. Namechanged because my old one had been used on other forums where I was known in RL.

DD is 14 weeks now, sleeping fairly well at night (still 11-4 and then 4.30-7ish) but we are slowly being driven bonkers by teething pain but can't feel any actual teeth under the gum yet. Everything is covered in copious amounts of dribble and DD has decided that her teething rings etc are not as good as Mummy's fingers, so am spending lots of time being gummed and gummed and gummed some more. Calgel has been a lifesaver, Calpol is next to useless as even with a syringe most of it is just spat straight back out

No rolling over yet, but DD insists on swinging herself round on her gym mat until she can see the TV if the football is on She's also taken to swinging 90 degrees round in her cot so her feet poke out through the bars. I've tried tucking her in under her blankets but she doesn't like those much either and refuses to sleep until they are ALL kicked off

Ooh, lovely sunny warm day here .

Not much to report here except I seem to have the dribbliest baby in the world. She's going through bib at a rate of knots and seems to want to shove a fist in her mouth at every opportunity!

melk you've made me concerned about my own choice of wedding outfit for BIL's wedding in august! I never considered how tricky the dress i've bought will be to feed in - doh! But I love it too much to change it. Ah well, another incentive for getting dd2 to take a bottle!

pixie you're a nutter. But if you do take the plunge then good luck!

pixie felicity changed her nappy habits about 2 weeks ago . she was about 13 weeks .having had at least one dirty nappy per day too only pooing every 3 to 4 days . took her to gp as myeldest has a bowel condition a symptom of which is constipation. his advice was if her tummy is soft ,she's not distressed and not being excessively sick then don't worry as bf babies can go days without pasing a motion.
this change in bowel habits coincided with her gaining weight so maybe her bowel had matured and she was absorbing more nutrient s resulting in fewer waste products.
we tried for number 8 as soon as possible after dc7 as time was against us but for me it was important to bf until he was at least a year which turned into nearly 3 years hence the 3 year gap.
my first 6 have between a 16 and 18 month gap betwen suceeding dc's ie 6 in 8 years and its hard work with 2 close together never mind 3 .
i' m very broody and wood love to be ttc but really feel its my duty to bf until lo is at least a year and then we'll see what happens.

Pixie How exciting that you're ready to ttc again...I'd quite like another one quite quickly but I'd need to go back to work to get SMP entitlement again first so think it's going to be another year before we give it a go.

apologies to everyone - Im not nmanaging to get on the computer at all, but just want to thank you all for your support keeping me sane through final weeks of pregnancy before I bow out gracefully - can I have a leaving card? sob sob . Am going to be starting building extension soon so computer going to be uprooted and who knows when Ill see it again

J smiling lots now and making eye contact ...and we finally...did IT, much to my relief that everything seemed to go ok...was really apprehensive this time with tear etc.
see you all, maybe this greasy biker will lurk for a bit longer...
all the best with your LOs, will be on FB from time to time

hi everyone, all better now life is plodding on!"!!!!

my DD is driving me insane, she has turned into a very naughty demanding 2-1/2yr old! she bites, pinches, shouts, snatches and is generally pushing the boundaries at every waking moment! had a slight melt down tonight when dh got home and feel like a rubbish shouting mean mummy right now!

thank goodness ds3 sleeps and eats and just fits into family life- otherwise i would be rocking in the corner!!!LOL

sorry for me me me post !!!! going to bed jnow will check in tomorrow!

tc everyone x

OMG henrietta please don't go

Stay Henrietta Stay!!!!

Hi all... haven't been on for a while, just caught up with everything now.

Good news on babies and mums sleeping better! Isabelle sleeps most nights without waking up from 10-11 to 8-9. Amazing.

She's the cutest thing, smiling and playing with toys lots. But she's SO not rolling over. I think she'll probably learn eventually, there is no cause for concern. I, for example, know how to roll over, but I tend not to use that skill too much so surely it's not too important...?

Broodiness has passed, I put it down to a temporary hormonal craze. I think I'm happy with 2, hurrah! But I'll still be a bit jealous if MummyElk or Pixie or someone else announces a new pregnancy!

When Isabelle had her second jabs, the nurse stuck the empty needle back in her leg by mistake so she had to be stuck 3 times instead of 2! But the last jabs are 3 anyway so at least she'll know what to expect.

We're off to our summer house in Sweden this afternoon, all of us this time. See you later!

annamama Ooh, a summerhouse - sounds very grand. Mine is also sleeping well, last night was from 8pm till 6am with a 4am feed. Excellent. Ben is also not rolling over. He also hates tummy time. After about one minute of it he cries.

Doc says I may have plain old thrush, but I'm not so certain. I'm on the Canesten, and she's done a swab.

I'm sorry, I need somewhere to vent. Feel free to ignore me. I'm just feeling very overwhelmed today for some reason, and emotional. I'm tempted to ask DH to come home early from work, but that's not fair on him, plus it would feel like admitting I'm not capable. But Isobel just won't sleep today for some reason; she's had two short naps (maybe 20mins each) and that's it. She's been grumpy and clingy all day and I just feel worn out. I wanted to take her out for a walk to the shops, but now I can't because I'm crying. I keep thinking that this is all too difficult, that I'm not cut out for it, and then I just feel rubbish and guilty because I know lots of people have it so much worse. She's a lovely, gorgeous baby and I'm lucky to have her, I know I am. I think I'm just too lazy, or not used to hard work. I can't even play the sleep deprivation card.
I'll probably regret posting this, because it's stupid and melodramatic, and makes me sound useless.
Will be back sometime when I feel better to post properly in a less self-centred fashion.