March 2010- Group Therapy on the cheap

[ValiumtheConqueror]

And cupcakes

Siamese, a good long soak in Napisan plus Vanish spray if needed plus general loosening of acceptable standards re clothing stains seems to work for most clothing related crises in the Dragon cave. All other crises are met with a general loosening of standards only.

stains- soak in sterilising tablet- works like a dream! careful with coured items though!

hey all had a shit awful day with my older 2!!!! ho hum they are in bed and i have wine tomorrow it begins again!#

lol hope everyone is ok, pixie lovely to see you on here, x glad you dd2 is feeling better with her syringe driver working its magic x

right need to cook some dinner!

Ok, a quick question for those of you still breastfeeding. In the week before your period is due, are your breasts more sensitive? Does it feel like the baby is kinda tugging more strongly on them? I really don't think I noticed it at all last month before my mega-period or the month before which was scanty so... I just don't know if what I am feeling is normal pmt stuff returning (I've also been very emotional (mostly angry!) the last couple of days) or if I should be wondering a) has James latch changed or b) am I pregnant?

bonjour tous le monde.....je suis la. Or something of that ilk. It appears I have lost all the good brain cells and retained the ones that know how to make cake, and the ones that do nothing but nag. Life sucketh

Actually not too hideous here, but I'd be grateful to the person who 'borrowed' the last six months if they could return them. A minute ago I had a newborn whose weight was so concerning they weighed her at home every week and now I have a hefty 17.2 pounder who can crawl and sit and sleep other stuff. I felt her age quite keenly today when surrounded by newborns in the docs waiting room and then talking about coils with the doctor.

I have dusted off the Gin this evening (literally- the bottle I cracked open was a work Christmas goodie from five years ago ) as we are planning a visitation from the Dunny Fairy at the weekend for both girls.

Have been following stories:
sarah- as perky as ever. I have no idea how you achieve such a blissful state when you have pond-dunkings and grumpy biglies (opposite of littlies) to content with.
PD- sooooo glad you are back
Manda- can't help with your enquiry (see above) but might you be pg??????
Fliss- well done pon ebaying. I have masses and can't be arsed, but will take a leaf out of your book as have important shoes gin baby stuff to buy
Dalrymps, Siamese, IWCAS- continue to send Good Sleep Vibes
Bluey- must follow your example and loosen standards. They were getting a bit tight, much like my jeans I am such a wit this evening.........
Dizzi- great about friend
Pixie- bon return, or some such
Arcadie- Happy anniversary...

Who'd I miss? Anyone? if so, blame Gin. And help yourselves. It's taking the edge off the pain of life my potentially broken wrist.

No periods here, Manda, despite me thinking it was on its way a few weeks' ago. But I also caught myself thinking, "Oh god, don't let me pregnant" today when I felt a suspiciously periody-type churning that also heralded DS. (Of course, you may not be thinking "Oh god, don't let me be pregnant"; it may be good news for you if you are...) Really really really must sort out contraception pronto. Cannot stand the stress otherwise. And it doesn't exactly make me keen to do the deed.

So, today, DD decided to start weaning herself. She grabbed a piece of banana I was eating and starting sucking and slobbering enthusiastically all over it. OK, so she was sick shortly afterwards but, hey, she's sick a lot. Maybe I'm going to have to revise my "no food until she's sitting" maxim. (Why do they say that, btw?)

Well done on the ebaying Fliss. I, too, need to take a leaf out of your seller's book. Far too much buying here and loads of stuff to sell. I fear I am the thread's shopaholic . Anyway, I hope you get hold of the notes soon.

Sarah, Valium and anyone else who's had a shitty day: hope tomorrow is better and, in the meantime, that the wine or gin or whatever goes someway to making you feel better. It's wine here. Not because I've had a particuarly shitty day, just because there was a bottle open and I thought, well, it would be rude not to....

valium WE've been playing sexual russian roulette except, I guess, the risk is you make a life rather than lose one! Technically, not trying not preventing but actually meaning to sort something out but just haven't really gotten around to it. As we are having sex fairly regularly, the sort answer to your question is: Yes, I could be.

What's the skinny on your arm/wrist?

pixie Ha ha! I'm not even due on until friday or saturday... and with James I was using internet cheapies that gave me negatives right up until 12 dpo when I stopped testing for a few days until a very faint positive on the cheapie but blaring positive on a FRER at 15dpo. I'm sure the FRER would have shown positive a good few days prior to 15dpo but I'm not going to buy one 'specially (yet!) as a) I have some of the cheapies left and b) I always spot very lightly for 2 days before I come on. That tells me if I'm not spotting by wednesday/thursday I should be a bit more, um, convinced.

I'll keep you all updated, of course. And I guess I could do a cheapie in the morning for you pixie but my previous experience of them tells me I'd get a bfn.

ooohhhh MANDA how very exciting! cant wait for your update!

Valium thanks for your comment glad i come across as perky even when im nit feeling it sometimes!

hope the gin worked its magic on you

i popped to see a friend and had a good old moan and feel much better now but am off to bed so i am well rested dh and i had a very late night last night- erm being romantic apparently,(since the vasectomy he seems to think it can happen all the time !!!Lol maybe thats y the kids seemed much harder work today:)

sleep well babies and parents x

Evenin' all.

No period here yet either Manda though today I thought I felt mine coming just like Sariska described, though so far nada.
It is normal not to get periods whilst breastfeeding, right? I also really must get contraception sorted out ASAP!

Valium Un peu de Gin pour moi, s'il vous plait! I have no idea how much 17.2 pounds is (I only do kgs and am too lazy to look it up) but it sounds big. Well done!

Pixie Welcome back. I too am of your tan.

Bluey You must have been so worried when the midwives talked about spina bifida. It must be such a relief to hear that he is fine. Surely you deserve a g&t right about now.

Scooby Very very about sunny Greece, with or without 5:30 wakings. Though I do hope he adjusts his sleeping times a little.

Fliss Wow, I would have never expected the notes to be so expensive. Glad you managed to raise the money. I hope that they help you understand what happened.

Rinders Jasmine sounds like a little angel. Enjoy your lovely new house.

It was our 1st wedding anniversary yesterday and we decided to go for a day outing to Guildford. It was really lovely to be out and about without DCs dictating what we do. DD loved seeing the boats go through the lock.

I am driving to Belgium with the DCs but without DH on Wednesday and I am getting increasingly nervous about it. It will be nice to be at my mothers for a while though so that DD watches a little less tv [bad mother emoticon].

DS has until now always been rocked to sleep but we are trying our own form of 'no cry' solution. I am hoping it will make him sleep longer. Last night he did midnight to 6am, which isn't half bad. The night before he was up every 3 hours though .

Right, I have to get back to completing an online application form for a new job.

Toodles!

Does anyone else feel like they would quite like to get back to work soon?

Evening all! Glad to see another possible pregnancy flutter of excitement - thanks manda, especially from those of us who are excited about babies but really keen NOT to have another!! I also have had no periods yet so can't really comment on your nipple sensitivity.

sariska I am in exactly the same boat as you. I have NO contraception sorted out and that, along with the general tiredness and lack of libido etc etc make me incline strongly towards NOT 'doing the deed' on a regular basis. Poor DH. I think he thinks little DH may fall off soon if he doesn't get an increase in action...

valium your babe sounds about the same size/weight as mine and I am similarly incredulous about the fact she has grown so much, when I feel like I gave birth only yesterday!

Not much of note to report from the heckle household - DD2 continues to amuse, delight and tire us out! No weaning yet, of the baby led or any kind, although it must surely be looming large. I guess I'm waiting from a clear sign from her, apart from the fact that she gazes with absolute fascination and bamboozlement when we're eating! We took her to a wedding on Friday, which went well - she was good as gold until after the meal when she started to fuss at her usual going to bed time, so we did leave a bit early. It was kind of a practice run for a big family wedding this Friday - DH's brother's. DD1 is a flower girl, which I'm probably more nervous about than taking the baby! Will she walk down the aisle alone, as requested...? we shall see!

And DH has gone back to work after his long teachers' summer hols...and boy am I glad I was really starting to long for the routine again! (plus his constant presence and use of my laptop was really cramping my MNing) DD1 goes back to nursery tomorrow too, hurrah.

Greetings and gin/wine/chocolate to all of those in need of it.

BTW, is anyone else who's BFing still CONSTANTLY hungry?? I'm an eating machine these days. Right-o, off for ANOTHER snack

wrist not that exciting. fell whilst on hols in june and suffered aching/weak wrist which doctor considered a ligament issue, prescribed ibuprofen and told me it would take three weeks to heal. Six weeks later, i've been wearing wrist support on and off then buggered it whilst trying to haul my giant ass extract my svelte figure from the pool at the GPs this weekend. Now can't grip steering wheel etc so may have a broken bone. Not a good weekend n all as DD1 dropped a brass handbell on her bare foot and basically scalped the top of her toe...we are regularly applying steri-strips and waiting to see if the nail falls off. What joy!!

Thanks for the gin guys.
Manda: Test.
Pixie: My thoughts for your 2ww
Valium & Siamese& Pixie: Thanks for the congrats. 8 years is Salt I believe.

Manda Eehgads woman, TEST!
Pixie Everything crossed for you
Valium OW, and double ow for DD :( Enjoy the gin - and you Arcadie!

Picked up the notes today. Wasn't happy when the notes from my admission to the AN ward contained a lie - "Flisspaps is thinking of going home and coming back in the morning. Encouraged to stay in". I wasn't encouraged to stay, I was told by a MW that I'd have to take it up with a doctor if I wanted to leave, then she buggered off never to be seen again

Anyway, nothing in there which makes me think 'Aha!', it's all just made me think I should have stuck to my guns and not been induced because I didn't want it and I'd been pretty bloody militant about it until the day I went in, when I came over all meek and just went along with whatever. I'd not STILL be pregnant now would I ? DH has not been supportive of me getting the notes and just generally doesn't get it.

It has been nice to be able to fill in the gaps though particularly at the end when I was out of it. Not worth selling a Radley for though :(

Ho hum.

It's actually making me inwardly giggle at the excitememnt a little 'am I pg?' can cause. And... I don't know what I want the answer to be! I know it's going to be incrediably hard for the first decade few years with such a small gap but people manage. With some of their sanity intact. I'm people! So I'd probably get through too...

Probably.

And, I don't know, I think if I'm having such a tough time anyway (James is just constantly latching on in the night. He doesn't suckle for any amount of time, he just needs me to get back off to sleep. To the point where I can give him a nipple for literally three or four seconds and swap it for a dummy and he's fine. But will. Not. Accept. The dummy straight off. Really? My nipples are so like a piece of shaped silicone he doesn't know the diference or what? Anyway, bottom line, I get woken a LOT still. Easily at least 12 times last night from when I went to bed at midnight until about 8.30am. Uh, I'm veering off on a tangent a little here - so, yes, as it's hard already, and if we want him to have a sib (close in age - the closest to him is 12 years older) then sooner is better than later as I think it's harder to 'go back' rather than power through...

But do we want him to have a close sib? Well, we both said 'no more' yet have regular unprotected sex and as I said DP was surprised to find himself a bit disappointed when I came on last month.

Anyway, I'm only about 10dpo and the cheapies are utterly shite and no way detect 10miuHGC as they claim not very reliable until later on. I took one this morning though for a bfn! But other than this slight sensitivity I don't really feel pg. Apart from last night I watched a baby circumcision on the interwebs and was choking back tears. I'm normally very outwardly passive when I watch any such thing even if my blood is boiling. Left over pregnancy soppiness/too much empathy for James imainging him straped down being violated in such a way or... new pregnancy soppiness? Argh!

I guess I'm just thinking out loud typing a stream of consciousness and you're the lucky bunch who get to read my musings

Bottom line: if it's done, it's done and I know I'll feel the same overwhelming love for a new little life whether the kinks of 'should or shouldn't it happen' have been ironed out of not!

SO, less of me me me for a mo!

akd Grats on the anniversary! S indeedy looked cute as a butto- bee And on the note of 'cotumes' for our lo's has anyone else been compelled to buy the glow in the dark skeleton pj's from Gap thinking 'They will look so cute for Halloween! 'Sweep the Leg, James!'

Hi everyone
my relatives are gone. We are finally in peace I have a bit more of free time.
So many exciting things over here!
I've missed you all.

x

I'm clearly losing my mind/the plot. The part of my post for valium was actually meant to be directed at sarah. I think it was mother's ruin that confused me...

welcome back!

Now valium has us all on the hard liquor... I haven't had a g&t for AGES and I really like them. Wine is less of a faff I suppose, particularly if it comes in a screw top bottle .

Manda and Pixie, that you are even thinking about more. I can't believe how not interested I am in any more - I've said it before but we're done! But if more's what you want then fingers crossed for you.

Dizzi, where do you live? We're quite near Guildford too so we could have a breakaway MMMM possibly also featuring Sariska who is I think not too far away, if we could tear her away from Guildford's shops.

Glad you're feeling better, sarah.

Alex had his first real food today and it was bread and a chip . He has had a bit of a chomp on broccoli before now and we're not starting in any serious sense, but he can pretty much sit up and is desperate to get at our food. He was also desperate to get at DH's lager, which is where the BLW stopped for the day.

Got to go and finish the vast shopping order that is required to cater for in laws for 4 days and DH for about 11 as we're off to Cornwall (again) next week without him.

Waves to everyone.

bluey we're near Kingston. A break-away MMMM shopping playdate sounds like a good idea to me :). Have fun in cornwall.

[waves to everyone else]

I'm in Bromley but happy to drive to Kingston to meet fellow nutters shop.

I'm in Winchester, Bluey, so it should be easy to get to a breakaway MMMM. Sounds like fun - and I promise I won't get distracted by any shops.

Took DD to her first baby massage class this afternoon. She then spent the rest of the afternoon enthusiastically filling her nappy and mugging me for an apple.I drew the line at choc buttons though and ate them myself. Plus she went down at 7.50pm. I was .

Kingston is but a short train journey for me...

I'm here with the dogs and the baby... the older two kids will come later on as they were even less keen than I to be here. TTSP and I'm doing something good for someone I love.

Afternoon everyone :) Quickish post from me while DD plays on her mat.

Manda that would be so exciting if you were pregnant! P.S. I got your Karate Kid reference. And "all your babies are belong to us" from a while back And (belatedly) well done on fixing your computer screen, I'm impessed.

Welcome back Pixie, sounds like you had a lovely time. I'm really glad to hear that your DD's asthma is doing better too.

Bluey at bread and a chip. We're starting, albeit slowly, on solids too. Isobel is really loving baby rice, but anything with a taste seems to elicit expressions of disgust and confusion, and usually comes back up again. I think in a week or so we'll try again with "real" food; maybe pear, banana, and other things with not-too-strong a flavour.

Dizzi I've probably missed you but I hope the drive to Belgium goes well and you have a great time.

Fliss Glad you feel there was some benefit to seeing your notes, even if they weren't quite worth 40 odd quid :(

Valium there's nowt wrong with retaining the ability to make cakes, those are some brain cells worth saving imho! Hope your wrist is getting better, and ouch! at your poor DD1's toe as well. Sounds nasty :(

Heckle hope this week's wedding goes as well as the previous one. How old is your DD1? Little flower girls at weddings are so cute :)

sarah hope you're back to your usual upbeat self. As others have mentioned, you always seem to live up to your nickname, eben if you're not feeling it; full of sunshine :)

News here is that Isobel is sitting up really well. And she's trying really hard to crawl, although I suspect that's still a long way off. She is adept at spinning round in a circle though, and she somehow manages to move backwards.. She's still quite sicky as well, and a new development is that she's started playing with the sick in fact this post has been punctuated twice by me trying (unsuccessfully) to wipe up a puddle before she gets her hands in it. Gah.

My sister is returning from a year's travel in Vancouver next week (she left when I was 3 months pg), so she'll be meeting her neice for the first time. I can't wait :) She's staying here for a week and then she's going up to Edinburgh for a while, so I'm going to take Isobel up for a few days to see my parents and meet some friends up there.

I'd be up for a Greater London MMMM, depending when it is. I've been a bit bored lately; the only local Mum I knew has moved away. I was going to ask if any London MNers are at a loose end... come to think of it, the "proper" MMMM is only about a month away now, we should get cracking on the organisation front!