August 2008: Crap, how did THAT happen?

[CrispyTheCrisp]

lol being forced to eat pineapple! you do know you need to eat about 5 whole fresh ones for it to have an effect on Hectorina, don't you?

night girls, i'm going to bed now too

Crispy - that is very yummy looking, guess what we are eating on Sunday?

Miamla - yes I do know but If I don't get this baby out Dizzy will start sending pineapples by post

Crispy I love the picture of you whizzing wineward through the night, and the Bridgets, etc. Really really glad you had a good night with old mates.

oops hope your seedlings survive! My beans are already going berserk up their little wigwams, and my gooseberry bush smells divine!

Merci pour les inquiries into ds2's behind it still has a livid patch, I was told by the pharmacist that the met. cream is not made any more - I was too grumpy to go into my But Sazzles Said routine (the one I used on dp yesterday) so I just meekly said OK and took the bepanth - (sp?) one that Miamla rec'd, so ds is slathered up. Poor duck. No vomiting today BUT dp has been struck by the bug.

ds1 is doing exams! He couldn't care less though or should that be [groan]. What can you do?

Prize was a £30 voucher for food and drink to be spent at that pub. I suspect it may cost dizz more than that to actually get there!

oops we would be HAMMERED in AIBU

I was in bed now I'm back - I am starting to wonder if this baby has the right directions to get out?? I have such horrible pressure in my backside I think she might be forcing an alternative exit. I am walking like a duck and can't sit down - oh tonight will be fun!

lady my DSis swore by Bepanthan but didn;t touch DD's rashes. They are all so different, bless em

My coriander and rocket are doing brilliantly. Parsley not so good after being upended frequently by DD2

yes I suspect you would be hammered in AIBU

ds2 also v fond of digging up my herbs or "flars" as he calls them, usually with either a poon or a tennis wocket. Apparently parsley can only be grown by women.

oops i think you will be eating celebratory pate, soft cheese and drinking champagne on Sunday

Crispy - I was planning on going to the NEC to the baby show on Saturday so I may pop in and deliver at yours if it's okay?

Oh oops I can practically FEEL that weighty achey thing at the base of the spine. Baths and pillows and all that no longer much good.

I do recommend that you give birth chez Sazz - so convenient for the webcamming.

Oh yes, of course. We have a 10ft swimming pool so i'll need a little advance notice

massage from DH seems to have moved her enough for me to head to bed before she moves again - sleep well all.

Am v. but also rather () re: your comments mrsm, dizzy and crispy. Thanks for the head up on the photo tagging. Usually manage to avoid these things, but was enjoying the vino a little too much . One of the friends I was out with is a profilic MNetter. I don't know her posting name and have made an effort not to find out iykwim, but it's a strange thought that our paths may well cross in cyberspace, aside from our RL friendship.

Sorry things have taken many steps back on your hol loti. Let us know how we can help....

Yay on retriving your buggy mrsm. I did the maclaren plus sling or toddler walking plus pram thing and it worked really well.

on your spontaneous escape crispy.

Sorry to hear about the grotty bot LG. Fingers crossed for a swift recovery.

Sorry to hear about the sickness QoD. Great that your Mum is there though.

Agree on the weber bbqs oops

A few good things here today:

DH has a great new job. (The good luck of the Aug 08 ladies worked ).

DD2 had hospital appointment today to discuss her hernias. Operation postponed indefinitely as they've improved so much since the last appointment.

Now....I have a dilemma I'd be really grateful for your input on: New job on the horizon at work. Great new opportunity, really good career move etc. Catch: 4 days per week (3 in the office, one whenever and wherever I can fit it in). I'm not massively into my career but don't know what else I'd do and am grateful to have something that works so well (stable, local, flexible, really understanding boss when DCs are ill etc.). I've been doing what i'm doing since before I had DD1 and am ready for a new challenge (though happy enough where I am) and if I don't take this opportunity it's highly unlikely that something as good/convenient would come up again any time soon. Job itself would work v. well with DCs (only enough travel to be an interesting diversion) and far fewer unsociable hours. Great career development. However, with DH working full-time and no family around, even if the extra hours I work don't mean more time at nursery for the DDs, it's extra strain on the family. You do work from home, late at night red, how do you find it? Any other thoughts? Sorry, it's long. I'm going round in circles here....

Great news about dh's job Poppy. It's 1:24 amand I'm just about to go to bed which may be part of an answer to your question.

V. briefly, I don't need a lot of sleep anyway. I escape from the more humdrum aspects of child-rearing by cultivating a sense of being very busy and having important stuff to do.

Lots of sleep deprivation in a block makes parenting v. hard though some of that is down to the fact there are three of the little feckers, and I don't have great patience anyway so that's a source of guilt. If you know you can block out certain periods as mad and others as quieter that helps.

When I'm ill or dh is, we have to pretend we're not. Even when I had a temp over 40 for days, I had to keep minding because there was nobody else and no back up. Also work piled up.

Having said that I would always take a fantastic work opportunity if it came up myself because things will be easier when the children are older and chances have to be grabbed as they pass.

Dh would have to be clearly and more clearly again talked through what the implications were for how much domestic stuff could get done, how to help you regroup when you are tired etc. Work not done in an office never seems like work to the person watching it I've found.

If I could afford a cleaner that would make a huge difference, and if dh expected me to be there to chat in the evenings that would be tricky too (as it is he marks every evening and all Sunday).

I have never had a time of more than 2 months at a stretch where my evenings haven't been about work, so I don't feel the loss of time for other activities which might be an issue ...

If you'd like to chat it through, let me know your number via fb and I can call you.
Now I must sleep. Was up at 6 to go and invigilate the Arthurs. Up tomorrow night marking and finishing the Tidy Towns bid for the post on Friday.

For now, sleep.

Buckets who are these people who treat you kindly because you have three? I need to meet them. Apart from one sister, everyone else I know takes three as a sign that I like running a small hotel.

i have no time for me or my friends

poppy - although much fewer hours than you I am "fitting in" lots of bits of work at the moment.

Just a few points - one is that although I could work when both DC are napping I find it really hard to start concentrating for a short period of time knowing that I will be interrupted soon.

The second is that when it gets to 7.30pm and the DC are in bed I am often without enough energy to then do some good, creative work.

Third is that I only work well against a deadline, and so into the night works well as it is quiet and I can concentrate

Fourth is that I have been working Saturdays for a bit. Good for DS to spend time with DH but does mean that the weekends aren't great

Fifth is that having just one DC around is still not good enough to actually work!

Morning ladies..

horrible news last night from friends.. they lost their two babies at 20 weeks ..they had be trying for such a long time and were over the moon..just feel so sorry and sad for them both...

poppy i don't work at the moment and i starting to think about a part time job and don't even know how i am going to fit it in.. you seem to be managing well currently and i think a new challenge would be good for you iykwim.. also if you let it pass up would you regret it? with my recruitment head on i would say go for it as its always good to keep pushing yourself as much as possible career wise.... not sure if that babbling helps ..

thanks lg/crispy re comment on my current situation at home.. its rubbish/crap/awful.. we spent no time together on holidays so its still same old same old... hoping for a couple of child free hours today to try and get my head straight and regain my strong outlook...

girls woke up at 5.45am

Ladies - I have quite possibly the last child freee day today for a loooong time . IL are taking DD to the Cotswold Wildlife Park and I have a reflexology session booked then I might have a nap and read my book in bed. Is it wrong to be excited about it? I am dropping DD off at 9.30 and then will wonder around lost go and have an adult coffee until my appointment time.

Poppy - YAY for new job for DH and lovely that you have a chance at another one should you decided it is what you want.

TS - Stop feeling guilty, you have so much on your plate right now - stop, relax and enjoy your beach holiday!

Yay oops, do you think things are on the move? You need to start a birth thread . Enjoy your reflexology and child free few hours

LOTI . Words just seem pretty irrelevant

Poppy I would go for it i think, if the job is more interesting/prospects etc. I was offered 4 days but in a dull as ditchwater role with more travelling. I now have time but no job/challenge and i think i will need to try and get something to start in Sept if possible as i am not sure i am cut out to be a 24/7 mum

Right, have to go and hoover

Crispy - no everything has stoppedi n anticipation of my day. Although DH is in London all day, Ils and DD are heading your way, my dad is in Ghana my mum is invigilating exams. So today would be the most likely day! Already had a text from north of the border this morning asking . Just remember you could all still be waiting for news in 2 weeks time!

Quote of the week alert:

by REd:

Work not done in an office never seems like work to the person watching it I've found.

I work at home, and often into the night - the night just looks like this arc of time stretching out forever, no-one tugging at your knee or needing anything, it's irresistible. I would say on the whole, my working rather than not working is good for me, but my working at opposite ends to dp is not good for our relationship, we have to make a big effort to have time together. I tell myself I need little sleep, but it's not true. I don't feel tired WHEN I am working, I am psyched for it, esp with looming deadline, but the next day if I am honest I am like a rabid bitch from hell.

I agree with what Red said about missing opps which won't come your way again - killing - you don't want to drop off the radar - but you have to be vv organised. I feel the whole time I am letting someone down or stretching myself too thin or underdelivering in some area of my life - in fact usually in all areas at once. But if I weren't working I think I would feel a lot worse! (I know your alternative is not not working, iyswim.)

I would love to meet you Poppy you are indeed gorgeous and I think you sound like a really interesting person.

Oops I am 99 pc sure it was my reflexology session that brought on ds2, not quite sure by yr post if that's what you mean, but my reflexologist said all during preg she avoided certain parts - once I was all set she said OK we can touch t his area today be amazed if you don't go into labour w/in 24 hrs. And lo and behold... Anyway the reflex will be a fab relaxing time.

Enjoy your childfree time, dd will have a fab day.

I started typing this when I was having my coffee this morning, and only just came back, so am sure I will x post but have to run now.

LOTI - hope you get thinking time today. x

Yes VG it's a get this baby out session with the same woman I saw with DD and she arrived in a short sharp fashion! DH thinks I should have a few sessions from now until baby arrives which is fine by me

oops had one session of reflexology with dd1 and she arrived the next night.. unfortunately had 4 with dd2 and nothing happened.. its so relaxing so please enjoy enjoy enjoy..

well my cm has buggered up my childcare today .. just dropped dd2 off to be told that she has an appointment at 1pm.. why oh why oh why didn't she text me last night and tell me this as then i wouldn't have sent dd2 to her... means i miss my pilates class i had booked for 12.30 so now i have to fit my bicycling and all housework in less than three hours!!!! biking it though the housework will have to wait!!!