Dec 08 ladies getting re-clackered, with tantrums from toddlers we're sure to be knackered

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Hello,
Spot that sounds like good news to me if the spotting has turned brownish and tapered off. Hope you get a scan booked soon just to put your mind at ease.

Beans / Kiwi I feel exactly the same, and especially in the last couple of days with all the db-gate and dh has needed to take the car. I could get on the bus / train but I have been spoiled with the car on my doorstep so I find it a struggle. Anytime you want to get together (in confined spaces for ds) I would love to meet up and have an adult conversation. I have 8 weeks to kill!! I am going on that mini trip to Spain in June and also to Dartmoor for a weekend but on days like today..... zzzz bored at home and just sit around getting fatter waiting for dh to get home

Avo, do you mean db's g/f? Last I heard (in that email) she was buying full fare over. AT the state of things at the moment, not a chance in hell I'm risking by benefits over a potential bust up between them on a flight half way across the Pacific. There would have to be a damn miracle for me to change my mind and I think they know this. I have said in that email, that he is always welcome to a ticket but I don't want the 2 of them on a flight together - especially not feeling like helping her out after the way she spoke to me, but he said forget it I will also buy my own ticket IF I actually come over at all. At the end he said good luck with the baby, and don't bother to email me back (which of course you know I did) but I've heard nothing since. He dredged up a whole lot of irrelevant stuff from my past when I lived in the US as an example that I need to be more tolerant! But tbh my divorce etc and issues back then barely affected him and he is failing to remember the last 5 years I've given nothing but support over his divorce, car accidents, you name it.... I spoke to my parents about it briefly and they read (only 1) of the emails and are really saddened by it all. He is pushing them away and has been for ages now and they are quite upset in light of all of this with me. They think he is just lashing out at the people he is able to (ie family)
Oh and I think that giraffe head person was Rosmerta / Tilly? but she has been awol for absolutely AGES!

Have a great time on your trip Avo x

Oh and btw just to clarify I really don't think he is that bothered about the ticket thing as she earns loads of money but I think it's more that he is upset I have changed my attitude towards her.... I never really 'gelled' with her completely if you know what I mean, but it was very important to him that his family really likes his partners and I think this has caused him great upset

Rubs & Beans lets meet up in June! Beans when is your due date again? Let's try and squeeze it in before. Actually, I guess Mondays is the only day because at weekends normal people have DH/DPs around..! And DD will be at nursery then. But that's cool, I can be on toddler-wrangling duty and help out and hang out with you guys (and have some cheerfulness for you both

Yes for sure! I'll be away 16-21 plus the last weekend of the month and also meeting Lady and Katie one day week commencing 7th (did we set a date yet girls?) but otherwise all free!

Also, mat support top came today and the medium was a good idea - still super super supportive in fact doesn't feel much larger at all - could be just a touch longer which is what I wanted. The back feels better already!

Thanks all. I sort of know it's normal, but have my moments of total bleugh about it all. And feel bad as time with DD before arrival of newbie, is so precious. Anyway. Just been to music, which was lovely. think will try to find some play groups round here for the next week or so. Managed to get a one off Tumble Tots next week, which is good. And definitely need to find things in Tooting/Streatham area for when we move, so can meet a few new people! Will need support groups when thenew one arrives!

My friend from NCT who is due next week went to have her stitch removed this morning (she has incompetent cervix) and they gave her a sweep while they were at it as baby is v low lying. V exciting! Might have an NCT baby by the weekend - yay! Hope so! She is the mother of the basher little boy who goes round thumping the rest of the NCT babies. I'm hoping it's a nice easy baby for her!!!

Also saw Beryl (little girlf rom our nanny share) at music today. Our nanny has a new one to look after as well - a 9 month old who is a gorgeous little girl. Apparently Beryl has been biting the little girl this morning - so it wasn't just DD who was attacked by her! Uh oh. Poor nanny isn't sure what to do as Mr & Mrs Beryl are a bit woolly on how to deal with it and it's really hard to discipline someone else's child!!! Don't envy her. But DD and Beryl were loving eachother at music, it was v sweet!

Rubes - who are you on FB? Can you give me your initials? Sorry, am being useless! x

How silly, marrying spot off in my post. Oops! Sorry spot. Spotting brown blood is usually just leftover implantation bleeding. I had it with DD. Hope you get a scan though, it will put your mind at rest.

veggie Your comment did make me laugh! Thanks for your thoughts on the in-laws.

jam Hope the pox shifts soon and you can head out into the world once again.

Have fun in Sweeden ladyT and ava. Oh and ladyT DH has loads of swaps and is very excited about the idea of adding someone else into his swapping network!

Must get back to work so can't do a proper post... I've already gone on... I only just popped in to check on spot! Back later.

Afternoon ladies, well as expected Im shattered. Currently implementing the benign neglect style of parenting. The boys are playing with the Thomas train together and apart from the occasional frustrated whine from DS2 when the train wheels don't quite go on the track. Oh prior to the 'self motivated play' session though I forced DS1 to make a banana bread from an 'i can cook' recipe. I'm currently eating it with my afternoon tea.

Beans I think what your feeling is totally normal. It's funny if women complain about their work it's normal but if they complain about looking after their kids and being a stay at home mum well they shouldn't be doing it. It's just like a job and not everyone is happy with their job 100% of the time. I def think you need to plan meet ups etc as much as possible for you and Whizz. That time over the winter when we had just arrived I only really interacted with DH & the boys and I think if that continued on a permanent basis I would go a bit loopy. Now I'm building up a little network of friends it's much nicer. It's also good to have some sort of hobby away from your family, mine is yoga, but you could do an evening class in something or even just go out by yourself once a week. Does that make sense?

Spot I'm glad the bleeding has settled, still nice to get the scan esp as they aren't doing the 12 week one.

Kiwi brilliant about the full nights sleep, well done. We actually had one of those here too, these two are def linked. Did you post about the frequent BF? I can't think of anything helpful really except things like this usually need loads of help from you DH, which is a bit tricky as he'll be away for a month.

Currently DS1 is talking my ear off and DS2 is trying to impress me with his jumping. Aaahhhh it's feeling a bit hard today. Why won't they just wander off and play.

I'm off to SATC2 tonight it's ladies night at one of the nice city cinemas and I'm going with the ANZWC to dinner first then to the movie via some bubbly. Quite looking forward to it.

spot Glad to hear the bleeding has settled - sounds positive. But poor little T and poor you..try and take it easy and rest if you can.

Woo hoo and a gold star to baby kiwi. Lets hope its a repeat performance tonight.

veggie no wonder your shattered after yesterdays events!

katie exciting news on the cottages front, and I hope DS's referal has gone okay too.

DH's Aunt (the sensible one) has been looking after the DC's today while I was at work. DS was hysterical when I left which upset DD. But by the time I got home all DH's other 'aunts' had arrived and both DC's looked spoilt rotten and very happy. And I'm told they have both been very good. Looks like the body snatchers arrived after I left for work then.

Oh and veggiei am at your SATC2 night - I love it we are supposed to be going next week but after my hen do this weekend DH will no doubt roll his eyes at me having another 'girls night' out.

Bored bored bored bored bored bored bored.

Have been to the end of the internet and back. DS2 is going loopy. DS1 is pox central which means he only seems to be able to watch DVD's all day long

God I may have to take up knitting or something.

Oh Jam - I'm not surprised - poor you. Can you take DS1 out to a park and let him sleep in a pram while DS2 plays a bit?

I have decided to make the most of my time with DD now - have suddenly had the realisation that the newbie is due a month yesterday, so have limited time left just the two of us. We went up to Clapham Common this afternoon to the sandpit and playing area. Had a LOVELY time. Took DD's shoes off in the sandpit and the look of wonderment on her face was gorgeous! She is a little hero. And she is now doing some drawing on a pad on the floor and really pleased with herself!

I know I'll get bored/lonely again tomorrow, but for now, it's gorgeous! And we've got so many little parks/playgrounds around us here I'm taking full advantage of them all!

Veggie - SATC2 sounds a brilliant night. I am v v jealous!

Hi everyone! I really must get internet access on my phone because my job is really getting in the way of mnetting and I need to keep up somehow, don't I? Haven't even been lurking, so am missing all of your news.

Spot - I hope you get through your scan okay. I have had spotting pretty much every day for the past two weeks, but I did for my last pregnancy too so I haven't gone to the early pregnancy clinic yet. This time mine is more like a pink stain, whereas last time I had some real bright red bleeding so went for an early scan.

Do we have the first Dec 08 Part II baby arriving soon, or am I getting ahead of myself? Beans are you due in June?

I have just had a major deadline at work, so have been working crazy hours. Luckily no pregnancy symptoms to speak of yet, though today I am taking a slow day at home after working late last night and am feeling quite blech and nauseous.

Is anyone else in the throes of the 18 month sleep regression?? We have had a week of bad nights. He is waking up loads, crying out, but then going straight back off to sleep if we go in and shush and hand him his bunny. He seems uncomfortable. I am worried it is a reaction to the MMR, which he had about 12 days ago now.

I should be going into a bit of a less manic period at work, so hopefully I can keep up a bit better now.

I really hope everyone is well, and sorry for not catching up on all your news!

Hey Mom - good to hear from you! Yup, am due at the end of June - in fact, was a month yesterday - woo! V exciting!

DD is due her 2nd MMR booster soon - is it again at 18 months?

Hope the sleep comes back soon!

xx

Oh bugger, DH got to work late tonight, which means I'm doing bath again. And have to wash DD's hair again, which she hates. Bugger.

Right, I will go away now - am posting far too much this pm! Hope I'm not boring you all!

xx

Hi Mom, sorry to hear about the sleep problems, it could well be a delayed MMR reaction. Or maybe one of the many viruses knocking about. Or maybe a growth spurt?

I've got my scan at 8.45am. I've barely had time to think about it today as T has been really poorly. Burning hot, refusing any food, really clingy and sad. I had the doc look in his ears yesterday when I saw her to book the scan, and she said one looked a bit pink but didn't seem over worried. His temp is back at 39.4 now, hope the calpol brings it down. In the night we were up for 2 hours sponging his forehead, which seemed to help a bit. Can anyone remember if you're mean to keep them cool or warm? He's got a temp but is shivering and there seems to be a fair bit of conflicting advice on how to deal with it.

Glad you had a really nice time this arvo, Beans, that's really sweet. And am v impressed with the drawing. .

Oh no, Spot. Sorry to hear he's feeling so poorly. I would be inclined to keep him cool by sponging, etc. while the fever is still high. Have you ever tried calprofen instead of calpol? That made a huge difference for my DS when he had a bad fever - it brought it down so much quicker than calpol.

Good luck with the scan. It is so scary, but as I'm sure your doctor said it is so normal to have spotting in pregnancy. When I went to the early pregnancy clinic last time they asked if I was soaking a pad with blood every hour or so - I had nowhere near that volume of bleeding, so felt a bit reassured by that.

Hi Beans! Exciting you only have a month left!

spot when DS had a really bad fever the Dr basically said strip him back to his nappy and give calpol and Nurofen rotating, so one every 3 hours I think (veggie might remember better!). I thinkre: sponging downuse tepid water rather than anything too cold iyswim. Poor mite, I hopehe has agood night and I'll be thinking of you in the morning.

beans you are far from boring! I love your chatting

apologies for the lack of spaces in that last post unless I thump the space bar it doesn't bloody well work!!!

thanks for the advice folks, I think I'll take his sleeping bag off.
Oh, and we are alternating calprofen and calpol (and teething gels) and giving him water when he wakes up. I feel very guilty, I think we did too much today, and main;y because I can't bear being in the house but I think he could have done with a lazy day today.

Spot just quickly I saw your post and asked dh - he said the same as Daisy - tepid water, not cold. And yes strip him off and give him calprofen - maximum dose it says on the box for his age.

Beans I am she who had a chat about St Trpez with Turnip on your FB page! You were smelly

Oh and Beans - sounds like a nice day compares to mine. I cleaned the house a bit and then went to Tesco and Mothercare

Mom nice to hear from you!

DH just arriving home (at last) so very quickly - Effie I would love to meet up, send me an FB message and we can make plans

Rubes sorry about your brother ? if he?s that easily offended over nothing, you definitely don?t need him staying when you?re in a hormonal/sleep deprived/new baby fug

Avo at that woman. It is v likely that DD?s first words will be ?free to a good home? as she hears it so often. In fact, that might be why she tried to run away yesterday ? I was busy in the kitchen and the door was open, when I realised I couldn?t see her. So I dashed outside and she was heading determinedly down the path with her cardi and reins draped over her shoulders and her nursery bag in hand, for all the world like she had somewhere important to go. Funny girl

Veggie I had a spotty birthday when I was 8, but sadly only one friend could come. It wasn?t much fun, and I?m still a little sad about it (it gets mentioned a lot! I must get over it at some point)

Nolda Rome sounds lovely, lucky you

Spot I hope everything is fine with your scan tomorrow, and T gets better soon as well

Beans I always plan something that involves conversation ? normally any baby group going, sometimes just Tesco (bet the check out ladies hide when they see me coming, wanting a chat!)

My friends 8 month old had an op on Monday, on her kidneys. I've not heard anything yet, but hope no news is good news. I think they were due home today, so my fingers are crossed its all gone to plan and they are back in their own beds tonight

DD has started to nod when I ask her questions ? and normally it makes sense too. ?Do you want a drink?? nod. ? Do you want to go outside?? nod. ?Do you think Mummy should have a new car?? nod . I am so thrilled that she?s increased her communication by 50% and there?s some variation from head shaking and point ? hopefully this means less days when she seems to hate me for not understanding her (which to be fair, aren?t that often, but still awful when they happen)

Right, I intended to be in bed by 10 tonight, and failed miserably, so must go. At least I don?t have to choose work clothes tomorrow morning, have been given a fetching, bright pink tshirt to wear for an open day, I?ll look a treat!