AUG 08 - Here we go again and again and again...

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Seriously!

loti I second everything the Crisp says abov, with the added element that you also have to stop letting this situation happen. I realise it's much easier said than done, believe me I do, but he can only get away with acting the twat if you let him. Put your foot down; you deserve better.

Can't stop thinking about dizzy and mrdixies. How far along was she? It is just awful

dizzy there are lots of loving vibes coming to all the dixiekin, especially you, DH and much-loved DC4 xxx

LOTI I don't know if you've realised from our ranting at you but it's really not normal to be so ill-considered in your own household. I don't know whether you've always had low self-esteem or whether you're just stuck in a rut of letting him walk all over you since you've had kids or maybe even since you met him. But it's not a life, it's not sustainable and now it's getting downright dangerous if it is making you so ill you can't look after the kids safely. You're becoming less and less of a person to him and that is setting a terrible example to your girls. If you're not careful they will grow up expecting men to treat them the same way or they will treat you the same way and hate you for letting them.

Oh dizzy, I'm so so sad and so sorry that this should be happening to you. As usual I can't find the right words but thankfully LG has said it for me. I'm around this weekend so please, please call if I can help at all. Will be thinking of you and DH lots.

crispy please if you find out any more news please let us know.. canot stop thinking about dizzy and family like we all our...

dh is away all weekend on two separate stag dos.. he appologised for this and also as he is busy at work.. but he is still managing to take friday off.. we go to cyprus on tues with girls ad cm for a week which incorporates the wedding... if in that week nothing changes then as far as i am concerned job done..

the cm is coming to child mind girls for the wedding and as a thank you holiday for all that she has helped us with but hoping that with her combined help we will all get a rest. if dh cotinues even then to help me with the girls then i see no future for us.. we all adore him but he is too stuck in his ways and it breaks my heart to say it but i just don't think i can go on anymore.. had to drop dd1 at nursery/dd2 at cm and then collect dd2 and not once knowing how ill i feel did he offer to help..

i understand all your rants and so grateful for all your support xxx

Glad it's not shingles loti but I do second buckets' points, but most urgently that you are not in a fit state to be caring for your children right now. DH really must cancel his plans for the weekend to care for you all. Sorry to be harsh but as much as it is irresponsible of him to act as he does, particularly when you're ill, it is irresponsible of you to let him go leaving you, dizzy as hell, looking after them. As cyteen says, we really do understand how hard it is to rock the boat and not feeling good now is the time you least feel like doing that, but for your gorgeous DDs' safety you really must make DH understand that he can't leave you this weekend. Then you must tackle the other issues once you're better (and he's had a glimpse of your life looking after the girls full-time ). Sorry to be bossy but, cliche, cliche, we nag you about this because we care. .

And eek for you TS and poor R. How is she today? Swings are lethal, but soooo much fun. Toddlers are, as hp says, made of rubber, but checking her is a good plan, if only for your peace of mind. My only real childhood injury was swing-related and so was my youngest sister's. Still love 'em though . And for the record, I think you were pretty restrained with the neighbour's child. I wouldn't have been .

Sorry LOTI x-posted there. Glad you have a plan and so, so hope that he steps up to the plate on holiday. He still needs to now though too, or at least acknowledge your illness and organise help for you in his absence.

thanks poppy... unfortunately no help for this weekend so i will be going solo.. he wouldn't give up this weekend for all the tea in china i'm afraid

Oh Dizzy that is such a fucker please look after yourself. You know where we are if you need any company

Text from dizz which i said i would post on...

'am admitted, all dripped up, two scans, horrific internal & injection to make uterus contract & lost ridiculous amounts of blood. If i don't behave soon am being sent to threatre and blood transfusion but last BP up slightly so fingers crossed. Staff been utterly wonderful, friend collected DD's at 6.30 as DH threatening me with amb due to amount of blood. I apparently kept saying 'i'm fine' in between passing out. Am managing to retain sense of humour throughout broken heart but only thanks to DH being utter star as usual. Love to all, sorry for dramatics. xx'

As always, woman of few words....

So pleased the staff are being lovely and she has her wonderful DH by her side

oh gosh dizzy, my heart is breaking for you
so much love - words are not enough.

Onlyl Dizzy - would apologise for dramatics at this point. Am pleased she has DH with her throughout and staff are being fantastic in such horrid circumstances.

LOTI - Please listen to all these wise women. You are really not well and he needs to acknowledge this before you pass out again and you or one of the LOs get hurt.

Crispy forgot to say Thanks for passing on messages.

No worries oops, just feel a bit useless as that is all i can do . However i do wish i could touch type with the length of her texts

DD2 has just 'got' the Usbourne Farmyard Tales books and can find most of the 'quack quacks'. When she does she looks really surprised and gives herself a round of applause

OOhh DD has just been given the 'New Baby' one from the Childrens Centre and is also loving finding all the ducks.

Text to say they are keeping her in as the bleeding is still a bit erratic. {{{{{+ve vibes}}} please ladies that she won't need any surgery. Think she has been through enough

Oh Dizzy.

I've just made my DH refuse a stag weekend in Antwerp this summer. The stag lives in our town but they don't see each other very often so I said you don't have spend all that money out of guilt. We are skint and will probably be invited to the wedding anyway which will cost more ££ we don't have so he can just make more effort to see his friend locally.

Dizzy you sound very good despite the events. (((hugs))))

Thanks Crisps for passing her message on to us.

Lucky it takes a strong woman to say they have reached their limit. (((hug)))

Reese appears to be fine. I had a very difficult time handling it last night. I sat beside her bed for a long while then brought her into to bed with me & DH. She was sleeping soundly BUT. Around 1AM she got extremely tossy-turny and I had to put her back in her own bed. From then until 6AM we both slept. The accident though keeps replaying in my head and the "what could have been" is still very fresh on my mind. I won't bin the swings but they will ONLY be allowed when the big girls are out without Reese or if one of the adults is supervising Reese. It's just so strange because the big girls NEVER go to the back to swing without asking. Guess there's a first for everything.

I've been shopping. I hate shopping for me. Correction, I hate trying to find clothes for me. Thankfully Columbia Sportswear fits. That said I've been to a half dozen stores and online to find the few pieces I like for the least amount of money. Sadly I found a PRANA skort today that is perfect but full price. I put it back on the shelf and walked away with good conscience.

Now if British Petroleum will quickly fix their leaking oil rig so it doesn't completely destroy my favorite bit of salt water and sand.

Oh dizzy ((hugs)) Feeling so sad for you right now, what awful news Glad you have such a supportive DH to help you through.

Glad R is ok TS and thanks for the hug Need IT.. DH came home in a foul mood from work. ate his tea which i made, i cleaned up and he lay on the sofa with his eyes closed .. no how was i feeling or anything.. only moaned that some of the lads were letting one of the stags down and there would be no way he would "what about me"?????????.....

if i wasn't going away with him and the kids next week would tell him to pack his bags.. so have had enough..

anyway enough rant.. Dizzy darling you are being so brave xxx

Lots of thoughts for everyone still.

But on a completely different track, some really nice news from us is that my mum has arrived. She bought some new toys with her did the washing up, swept the floor and is now playing with DS while I sit around and DD dozes

Our first sightseeing trip this afternoon will be to a supermarket.

Thanks for the update Crispy let's hope bp keeps up and no transfusion needed. Dizzy is blessed in her dh (as he is in her), so glad he is there.

Gosh it really is quite difficult to turn one's attention to anything else isn't it? I don't quite know how to post this evening. I feel the need to be in touch with you all - and this is dizzy's space - but am not really sure how to be iyswim.

Eek. I think I might actually have a drink. As in spirits.

LG - you have put my thoughts into words (once again) I am not quite sure how to post tonight. Please have a drink (or 2) for me too.

Well, you know what she would say don't you?

Something along the lines of 'stop your worrying, have a magnum white or two and a wee dram and we'll meet up in the morning if ASBO kid lets me sleep. '

@ crispy!