Dec 09 - We've found our fingers, we've found our toes, what happens next nobody knows

[Claire236]

Starting new thread before we run out of room. Now to link from the old one. Could be interesting

dp out again tonight havng a life, i am stuck in. got accosted by another mum at school today and told that dd is being a bully when i know this other child is known for her lying and bossiness. sounds like dd has had enough and is telling her what she thinks and when this other girl got in dds face dd shoved her. i have seriously told dd off and said it is not acceptable. teacher says my dd is in middle of a threesome which isnt workng. have spent the day in tears feeling like dd is behaving badly cos i am dealing with ds and her wrong. to cap it all dp has told me i cant have the car tomorrow wheni have got allsorts like swimming planned. feel so low. keep bursting into tears. may have over reacted with this other mum but have told her i am having a bad day.

on other hand some lovely ladies at baby groups told me how i have helped them so much with my nuggets of advice. willpost more later xx

Sparkly I understand how you feel stuck in when dp is out having a life. dh went out on friday night and I had a bit of a meltdown with him the next morning because I feel a bit trapped sometimes, like I can't even imagine when I might get a night out or more than a couple of hours off duty. I completely broke down and said I wished I'd never started bfing (which obviously isn't really how I feel) etc etc... I've been counting down to 6 months, like magically she's going to stop feeding then or something.

I'd also say with your dd, that it sounds like she isn't bullying from what the teacher says. I would also say that it definitely is not down to anything you have done. As a teacher that sort of falling in and out of friendships is very, very common, especially amongst girls - it would never ever cross my mind in that situation to blame a parent in any way.

Ha, ha, hendo, totally know where you're coming from on counting down to 6 months for bf! As if he's going to just stop right then .

sparkly, could you invite any friends over to your house in the evening? That's what I did last night and try to do about once/month.

sparkly - sounds like you're dealing with one of those mums who can't see what their own child is like. It also sounds like you dealt with the situation well & your dd isn't being a bully just having a falling out with her friends. Is there anything you & dp could do with regards to your car, maybe agree that 1 day a week the car is yours & he has to make other arrangements or something so that you know that day you're guaranteed to be able to make plans. Might not be possible I know. Not suggesting he gets the car all the rest of the week by the way just that that one day he makes all his plans knowing he won't have a car.

hendo77 - I'm not bf but I sometimes feel like dh has carried on his life like nothing's changed whereas I'm now responsible for millions of extra things & never get 2 mins to myself. Part of that is how being at home gets to me mind you & I know I'll feel happier in myself when I get back to work.

Lee36 - tell me about it. I was talking to my mum earlier about how hard it is to deal with the situation in an adult way when someone is behaving like a child. I feel like saying I won't talk to her cos she's not talking to me which obv makes me as bad as her. Told her today that ds1 would be going to her dss birthday party on Sat though. Why the hell my heart was beating 10 to the dozen & I felt sick with nerves doing it I don't know. I really annoy myself sometimes.

Just been told on another thread that it's 'barking mad' to let children choose what they want to drink & that children are like pets & you have to make all their decisions for them. Have I missed something. Aren't you supposed to try & raise your children to be able to make sensible choices of their own & then cross your fingers & hope for the best rather than try to turn them into obedient little lapdogs who do what you want.

Don't let the other thread get to you Claire.

I've given up on it now. Anyone who compares their children to pets is obv not going to ever see my point of view. Maybe should ask if her children use a litter tray. Maybe I should have an early night so I stop talking such rubbish.

hide it and try to forget

Oooh I'd join that! Claire - your comment about the litter tray made me giggle though, although clearly better to post it here rather than there!!!

I had a very good look in Imogen's mouth for teeth and bizarrely it looks like you can see her teeth behind her gums, like her gums are very thin or something. I'm sure the teeth arent actually going to come out forwards, but it does look a bit odd...

Stuff it I would of posted it on there!
Love a bit of a bun fight me.

I have to do the nursery run in a minute but I would like to ask you lovely ladies for a favour involving my DS's nursery, closure and an online facebook petition. Im also going to start a thread with it on. Shall post more details once ive dropped Jake off and sorted the kitchen out!

Just let us know where it is ABF

this is the petition to stop the closure

It would be great if you could all find the time to sign it!!

Sparkly how are u this morn? I really advise u sittibg with dh and have a proper chat. Also is there a hv at weigh in or anything thst you are comfortsble tslking too?

On phone so lot of typos!

Petition signed.

Will chat later... trying to get lots done today whilst DD naps. Must turn telly off first, oh and close laptop. It's 10am and second load of laundry on - that can't be bad.

Thank you Klerka!

How bizarre.

Signed.

Having 5 minutes while Catherine naps. She was a nightmare again last night and is feeding more often again too.

Definitely think I'm going to start weaning on Monday after I've seen the HV. She'll be exactly 5 months.

Thank you snitch!

Tried to sign it from DH too but it said I'd already signed it even when I put in his name.

Maybe they make a note of the IP address?

They must do, sneaky buggers!

Yep. Won't let me do it even with my old yahoo account in my maiden name. It brings up my original details when I reopen the window too

Just been wondering if anyone here is feeling broody again??

I feel really undecided about wanting a dc3 and had thought that if we went for it I'd either want a tiny gap or similar to what I've had this time (dd was 3.7 when ds was born).