AUG08 - Sunshine, Friends, Food, & Fun

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poppy, you had me intrigued so i did a search for pg1 birth story...

preg1 said
TS we've called her Emmeline Gretta for the stats (sorry Miamla I didn't let you know that bit!)
So, had a lovely day on Tuesday. Went to the midwife,still wasn't engaged, but never mind. Popped to lunch with a couple of girls from NCT and laughed about how bean would never arrive. Late on Tuesday night got a couple of bad period pains and didn't sleep brilliantly. Got up at 5am to have some breakfst with the plan of going back to sleep when DH woke up. 6am waters broke (thank goodness for wooden floors) and lost plug. Told by hospital to come in for a quick check, so had a shower, shaved my legs etc . Got to hospital at 7am, checked and sent home (happily). Got home at 9:30 and thought that I might be having some contractions, put on my tens. DH called the hospital to tell them they were every 4 min lasting 45 seconds and was told to stay away. He kept calling (poor thing - I was relatively fine) and only got told to come in when he realised that I hadn't felt bean for a while (I was a tad distracted). Got back at 11am and ward was full so put in a waiting room (because, let's face it it's my first baby and they had only sent me home 2 hours ago!). Poor DH kept sticking his nose out asking for me to be seen (I'd only been there 5-10 min), so they put me in a little room and a lovely midwife came in (prob about 11:30am at this point) and told me I was 7cm dilated! I was thrilled. They let me stay in nice little room on the relaxation floor as I was so far gone. Had a brilliant experience and the midwives were amazing. Bean was born at 2:55 and they let me have a 6 hour check out so we were home by 9pm (having stayed in the same room al day). They followed the birth plan to the letter and let me have skin to skin for a good 1-2 hours before they weighed her.

Awww, congrats to preg1 (whatever her new name) on having a DD2. And at birth story deja vu - it all seems so long ago!

Miamla you don't have to explain your feelings to any of us. I can certainly sympathise as I would love to have a DD in the future, not that another DS wouldn't be wonderful but like you I find it impossible to imagine someone other than J. Then again, I found it impossible to imagine him before he arrived and now he is like my own face in the mirror

Very wistful in fact at all the new baby girls among us. Roll on October when we can start trying again.

Sazz what a bitch I used to find kids annoying when I was younger, but at least I had the good manners to keep my personal issues to myself.

indeed!

LOTI I think the alarm clock thing sounds like your relationship in microcosm! As long as you warn him the night before, why not tell him to sort himself out in the mornings? You have 2 real children to deal with. If he is late for work it cannot then be your fault. Are there any other little things like this that you aren't telling us in case we shout at you? Might help you to list them so you can get a gauge on his un/reasonability (and we are nosy cows)

Got DD off school to try and get another GP appt this avo (is crazy random utterly bewildering non-transparent system here.) She is actually fine and we went to town and spent her Claire's vouchers LOL but still v unhappy with her wee.

Christ on a bike what a grade A bitch Sazz. Reminds me of one time when ds1 was about 3 and crying after falling down a couple of steps outside his nursery and a woman walking past laughed at him. I seized ds1 in my arms and marched up to her and said "Are you laughing at my son being hurt?" and she said "oh erm well no I just thought it was funny you were... he was... blub blub blub..." and tailed off and I said "I really can't stand people who are amused by a child in distress". Oh it was one of the only times I have ever had the presence of mind to be properly rude to a stranger. Eight years later I still don't know why she was laughing .

Re girls, boys, I think I'd be happy having a boy because of the familiarity of it, I love boys! But I'd be happy having a girl because it's the other sort, and I'd be interested to see what sort of girl I could produce ifswim. But I am not pregnant so this is academic...

Re. helpless sisters, stories like that do make me think I hope I am doing enough to ensure e.g. ds1 is independent enough, well enough equipped to be useful and self-reliant. At 18, as oops said, I would have made my own plans and recounted them to the family later, certainly not got parents to come and collect me from. I think even if I'd asked them, they wouldn't have! And they were super-loving sorts. Resourcefulness and confidence - essential kit.

Sorry re ear Sazz, didn't realise you had trouble with it. And sweet mother of the divine what a pain re. Paris plans .

Is there ANY GOOD NEWS around apart from our lovely pregnancies?

I walked/ran the dogs for miles & miles before 8.30 (we were out early cos ds1 had to go in before assembly to do his maths) so they are still exhausted and ds2 has conked for his nap so I am considering a nice coffee in the rather cold spot of sunshine in the garding, and also considering that I should do some work.

Have been a work widow since Mon.

No they are sending types for interview & we'll get a permaperson.

GG i read that as a 'pamper person' and thought how nice it sounded. Well done for not exploding at woman who laughed at DS1, think i'd have hit her and i'm not often a violent person

loti i agree with buckets about not waking him up one morning but i would have gone along the lines of 'forgetting' personally but that's just me and i find a 'hard to ignore' point easier to make

sazz fairness is one of the realy big things that DH and I strive for with our DC because he has seen for himself how completely different I am treated from my siblings. after 34 a few years of it I tend now to just get on with things but he gets riled!

cyteen thank you, that's exactly what i was trying to say!

on your behalf sazzles too. And at the Drs' surgery too. Somehow you'd expect people to be more sympathetic there ()- how was she to know that it wasn't that DD1 was ill.

I too thought that GG was getting a pamperperson.

There is a cautionary tale in all of this about treatment of siblings isn't there. DH's parents are scrupulously fair, to a sometimes faintly ridiculous degree, but we all appreciate the sentiment. I hope we'll go down that route with our girls, but I do worry about that as there are definitely days when I find one easier than the other.

Ah, I was vaguely right miamla! Hope she had as good an experience second time round too.

LOTI - Dh and i have had this issue a few times but my main annoyance has been after a nightshift. For example when he's got to bed at about 8.30 having worked since 9pm the night before and thinks he should get to sleep on to about 5/6. Now, this was fine when there was just the two of us but WE have children now and he has a duty of care to them AND me. I'm a bit that your DH doesn't want to either help you OR see his girls in the morning and I feel were I in your shoes I would have lost the plot on his sorry arse a LONG LONG LONG time ago.

Miamla - I can be worse as I have sighed relief each and every time I have been told its another girl. Don't get me wrong. I know several boys/newphews/godson etc but I'm in my comfort zone here and we have plenty of hand me downs HOWEVER having lost one, been told I was going to loose DD3, I am blessed with a DC4 which we will love whatever flavour it comes out as

Sazz - damn it to hell, horrible woman - where was L when you needed her to beat lumps out of her I would have given her a slap too and stood in court blaming it on my hormones

Oops - hope you're a touch happier this afternoon

took DD2 out on her bike with D in pram and dog. Dog who is trained off the lead behaved terribly DD2 decided she didn't want to pedal/steer at same time and then her stabiliser fell apart - NOT the most relaxing walk considering I had notions of a good old power walk beside cycling DD2 and prancing puppy it didn't go well

now watching Britain's got Talent as research for DD1'1 part in her show as the Judge of the X Factor

DD and i have been out to lunch and the sunshine has helped mood as has DH phoning and aplogising for his crap behaviour! I have just eaten a custard slice and when DD asked for some I said 'have cream cracker they are much yummier'

Dizzy - enjoy your research

Sazz - how flaming rude on your behalf.

dizz well if you have got DS1 on his way, we'll have a fair few blue things spare here!

we'll have a fair few spare boys names here too

Miamla - have you had any thoughts on names or are you not telling?

oops cream crackers yummier than custard slices?? who are you trying to kid!!! i'll bet DD didn't fall for it either!

Miamla - when I was stalking you last night I looked at T's 3-d piccies and realised that they were taken exactly 2 years ago today How can things have been that long ago?? They are still babies!

Miamla - she is still small and trusting enough to believe everything I tell her. She will refuse chocolate from people because mummy say she can't have it

ah oops, thats lovely - we were like that with DD1, however I'm afraid DD3 we're not so careful with

where is everybody? I'm dipping my toes into other threads and you all remember where that gets me

Dizzy - stay away from other threads it will only lead to tears!

I am abusing a discount code for the very expensive greenbaby website. Also wasted money on Joules for a gift for friend's new baby but my 20% off just about justifies the cost both expire today so I have to.

oooh I smell poo - you could pop over and change it if you are bored Dizz?

love to oops but sorry have to go and reheatleftovers make tea

AArrrggghhhh - why does DH have to tell his parents everything???? He told his mum that we liked Eliana as a name for DD2 - she has just phoned to day it is chavvy and Essex and she thought we had classier taste than that I told her that she had named DH and now it was our turn and she would get used to it. Would IBU to now name this baby Eliana even if it isn't right when she is born?? She also said it is too near DH's cousin's name(who we not seen since DD's Christening) She is Lilliana?? aarrrrggghhh

Argh oops your DH just broke the cardinal rule of baby naming. NEVER EVER tell anyone the possible names. this is exactly what happens. None of your MIL's business what you name your child unless it's something really bad like bus shelter number nine.
miamla congratulations on your little girl news! Nice to hear you so happy about it.

Trekked halfway across the county today to sign up with a temp agency. MIL still has S. Wandering whether to sneak out to the shop quickly before I go get him back. Struggling not to smoke even though I feel so much better for it. Willpower, willpower...

tis a bit close but i obviously have name issues. i do like elianna very much though.

miamla thanks for sharing prg1's news. funny you mention the "girl" thing. last night, over dinner, THAT was a subject dh and i discussed. i'm to fuzzy headed to remember and post about it. it only hit me as your announcement appeared just has he walked in the door from work.

i am showered. one thing accomplished today. need i do more? no.

meeting with two other room mothers to discuss teacher appreciation details. it's about snuck up on me (first week of may). we do love our teacher so i'd like to make sure all is nice and well planned.

tea? finishing off a cuppa peppermint now but need more. will be happy to fix for others as well.

cyteen i'll indulge you. it was negative as i suspected. one less item on the list to worry over. if only the laundry were as easy to check off.

sazzles a nice "fck off" would have been well placed in your situation, i believe. politely spoken though. manners first.

about the 18 year sister issue. when i was 18 i was left with another friend in savannah, georgia after a day on the beach on tybee island (her truck was in statesboro, georgia). the distance is roughly 7 hours from my home, here. my father would have killed me if i'd have called him. we hitchhiked caught a ride from a lovely old man who's wife said it would be wrong if he didn't personally see that we made it back to friend's truck safely. we did and made it home without issue and without phoning home. all this during the greyhound bus strikes so even taking a bus was out of the question. resourcefulness is vital!

I vote Dido or Carmen to stick with the opera theme.

oops we have Lexie (dd2 aged 3) and Alexia (cousin's DD) aged 10. Am sorry but just because someone has a name with a similar sound somewhere in the family does NOT MEAN YOU CANNOT USE IT - utterly ridiclious notion, silly DH for breaking cardinal rule and fecking RUDE AND INTERFERING MIL
I really REALLY hope you did in fact say that all to her because as much as I would have loved to said something like that to my mum I never would have good for you darling, good for you

QofD - best of luck with the agency and well done on the no smoking, I know its hard but you're doing great

VG, am keeping all my fingers crossed that the agency will come up trumps. Am about to tell my lass that we're going to have to drop her to 1 day a week from June so if you want shall I pass on your name?!?