AUG 08 - Be who you are and say what you feel...

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"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." --Dr. Suess

Just calling in to say hello and love you all but got to go and get my stuff ready as it's work in the morning, first time in since last Wednesday so not looking forward to that. Still, break up for Easter 3 weeks on Thurdsday

Sweet dreams all...

hello everyone. House a mess. Feeding DD. Starting to look at nurseries for next March. One today had really small rooms and all the babies were sat round in a circle. Not sure this would work for DS. Lots will change of course, and helpful to start looking.

DS really fussy eater. Oh well.

sambo your don't you know there's a war on comment made me giggle

Oh and DS has an undescended testis that can't be found on ultrasound (repeat scan today just to make sure). Not a big problem for him, I just wish it wasn't a problem at all. Oh well. More tests anf follow up I guess.

DD beautiful. DS still sleeping appallingly.

even though DS is fussy he is still enormous ...

has been in his 2-3 year clothes for ages, and fortunately my MIL made a load of cheap bright shorts which, with a t-shirt have kept us going these last few months

Lwfh - it's never nice to think they have any obstacle to deal with. When DS started to wear glasses I was v. upset, even though I wear them.

We're all sad here today, because DH's aunt, who is the person in his family I am closest to, has weeks to live and, on top of that news, I won't get to see her again. I am going to miss her a lot.

On the back of this news, I really really need DS's friend to stop drawing pictures of himself killing DS and telling DS he is going to die.

DS had another rubbish day at school and is trying so hard to be brave about it that my heart is broken.

Also, after skipping baths by playing parent off against parent unbeknownst to us, his hands are raw from dirt/ice immersion and I'm having to pop in to his room every few hours to put lots of TCP cream on his poor fingers. 'Tis apparently a perilous business trying to make an oil-less fuel in a West Cork garden.

The dds are being peachy ... We had a lovely mess about together this afternoon. It turns out that the real reason to have 3 children is so that dc1 can help you to play row-row with the younger ones.

Buckets-Ms. Byron gave me a turning-point idea when I was really stuck with DS a few years ago and I think she is great.

Google Chrome has a spellcheck ...woohoo.
Small grounds for a small but there you are.

Off to teach my Arthur's tomorrow. I'm supposed to be watching Coppola's Dracula and have discovered that you can speed it up. Gary Oldman still takes ages to get each line out though.

Here is ds's note to his pencil-snapping, grumpy friend:

I no you are sorry J.
thancyou for the pensl
I fgiv you.
from F to J frens for ever. me and J
[little stick pic of them holding hands]

My poor naive little puppy.

My son's sentences are better thought out than mine.

red your poor DS, no wise words, it must be so hard for you watching him being upset by somebody who's supposed to be a friend

arse, i'm first up so i'm on breakfast duty. erm tea's in pot, milk's in fridge, there's bowls in cupboard and cereals galore. its a diy breakfast this morning!

i actually came on here to say
FUCK FUCK FUCK
i appreciate in the scheme of things its not a huge issue but mil phoned last night to say the choir can't make it to our wedding. i'm not wholy surprised given that they were only asked last fucking night. so what's that, three weeks notice for an Easter weekend booking. and why, may you ask was it mil telling us? that's part of my fucking point!!!!!

anyhow so that's the bad news. the good news is that we now definitely have extra space in the room for the ceremony so will my wedding gatecrashers please join us for the ceremony? FB me, who's coming, how many LOs etc and i'll get the chairs ready for you i'm actually quite pleased in a way because i didn't like the thought of you having to peer through windows!

oh, the real reason for coming on here was has anyone got any alternative ideas for music before,during, after ceremony? buckets would a bristol version of a choir like yours be feasible? how would i find them??!

thanks girls, sorry about the swearing, i do feel a bit better for it though!

oh and oops, that food list you gave for P yesterday would be the amount i'd write for DS for at least a week. he rarely eats anything, has the energy of a duracell bunny but seems happy

a Bristol choir www.cityofbristolchoir.org.uk/hire.html

Hi ladies,
Haven't caught up properly, although did see pertelote's lovely exciting news
red how sad for your DS as well

Massive argument with DP this morning. He once again went and got S out his room the minute my eyes opened. Cue me being grumpy. He tells me I need to get up earlier, so I said well give me a shake in the morning. Apparently asking this means that he will be 'doing EVERYTHING for me' Seems that if I ask for the smallest bit of help from him he gets angry and calls me names (the word stupid has been thrown at me AGAIN) so now am thinking I'm going to go on the pill. We are obviously NOT a partnership. I do everything I can to help him, but the moment I ask for a little help with anything he gets angry and calls me names. So I don't think I want another child with him. And no matter how angry I am with him, DON'T insult him and call him names. TBH I don't feel very loved right now. He's fine with me as long as I don't expect anything from him obviously.
Sorry for the mammoth whinge ladies.

red for you. I am sorry to hear of your dh's Aunt.
Have you had chance to say goodbye?
Also how heartbreaking for your ds. I have said this before, but he does sound utterly adorable, and that little note he wrote. Bless him.

The picutes his friend is drawing, has he always done this? It sounds a little disturbing and worrying. (not wanting to sound mean to the little boy,but he does seem very troubled)

miamla sorry to hear you can't get the choir, but hope you manage to get something else sorted.
I had a string quartet for before,during,after, and a rock band in the evening.If that helps!

Hi to everyone.
Sorry not responding properly lately,nut I am lurking.

Dd is turning into a bloody fussy eater, and I always thought I would be fine with it, especially after eading up on it and watching all the stuff on tv about it,however it drives me insane.

I do not let her see this though, and she does not get anything else unless she eats or at least tries to eat some of it.

I also know about the offer food 20 times or whatever, but I have been putting veg and potatoes on dds plate for 3 years and she has not and will not eat it. (did when she was younger though)

So when do you accept that they really just don't like something.

I get annoyed when she says she doesnt like something, when she hasn'teven tried it.

I do my best not to fuss though, dh bribes and it drives me crazy!

qod so sorry to hear that, however I may not be the best person to respond right now, as I will be very firmly on your side, and likely to say tell him to fuck right off.

Sorry.

Going back on the pill sounds like a very sensible thing to do. I knwo I should too, as my broody feeling as well and truly gone never thought it would, but I too do not want any more dc's. (with dh)!

Not that I need the pill, cos nothing going on anyway.

no1 It is best isn't it? I don't think I'll leave DP. I just don't think I can have another child with him until he sorts out this attitude he has.
S is being seriously whingey as well. I could have done with a better start to the morning tbh

Morning

No1 and QOD - {{HUGS}}

Red also for your DS, can it be mentioned quietly to a teacher? Probably not what DS wants but it may help solve the issue. Also about DH's aunt.

Miamla - will have athnk abou music for you - DH snd I had a CD player as we did it on 2 weeks notice and even though it was Feb there was no one available.

Bless you. I think dcs do pick up on stuff.

Dh shouted at me to go away the other day, because I went upstairs to find out if dd was at the side of him when he was swearing.(he was swearing at me chuntering to himself)

She then started yelling.
'go away mummy' 'go away'

Gutted.

I wish I could walk away, I think its going to happen,but I have no idea how, when and where to!
I am slowly falling apart I think

Am at work so no real chance to chat but wanted to acknowledge all the sad stuff going on. Chins up girls

oh dear what an unhappy bunch of ladies ..

sending around steaming cups of tea and nice biccies..

no1 and qod so sorry that your dh/dp are being pitas.. tis a nightmare.. as you know my dh is not the most helpfull boy in the world and we have been through alot of pain but the one thing that has come out of it is trying to work together not apart iykwim.. i still do the majority share, i still moan and whinge a hell of a lot but now he finally understands what i do and does try to be a little more helpful/understanding.. not sure if that makes much sense..

Red so sorry to hear about dh aunt..hugs and your darling ds sounds so loving and wonderful.. i cannot offer any reall advice as mine are not school going age but i am dreading it.. children can be horrible to other children but please be safe in the knowledge that he is so dearly loved by you and dh and that nothing or no one will every harm him on your watch...

miamla.. again no advice but completely understand your need to swear .. some of the girls already seem on the ball..

waves to oops and hots...

after all that don't feel i have contributed any proper advice so will resume my housework ..

as you were lovely ladies xxx

just quickly, need to make loads of calls during DS's nap! thanks red, i've just emailed them!

sazz noooooo, it'll be free entry for my guests Park in college road car park and it'll be free parking too!

sorry to all those feeling sad. qod sounds like you need to join forces. DP and i have to remind each other that we're on the same team (our team has a name ) and that it'll be easier/more successful if we work together. not saying we're perfect by any stretch of imagination but being on same team certainly helps

no1 sorry to hear you're still sad too. keep chatting to us if it helps x

loti what's this 'housework' you speak of? not sure i understand the meaning of this word!

hots stop lurking and get back to work!

oops just seen your fb message! you're a star! and i'm off to fb now to reply to you but yes, get your thinking head on for music alternatives in case red's option is busy!

not ignoring all but have only 2 seconds for my penny thought....

miamla is there a children's choir/preschool singers that you could hire?? would be so lovely to hear beautiful tiny voices singing.

forgot to say, was funny this morning.... DP told me about choir, went upstairs for shower (during which i came on here to have a swear/moan) and then when he came down he commented about how much calmer i seemed about it. Told him i'd got you lot on the job of finding a substitute and he just smiled! i suspect he's very grateful to you all for helping calm me down!

red also forgot to say, sorry to hear about dh's aunt. are you able to at least chat to her on the phone? is there definitely no way you can pay her a quick visit? where is she? if she's over my way, you're more than welcome to shack up here for a night or two (although i might leave DS with you for a couple of hours so i can sneak off to my mum's to do some sewing!)

Miamla The lady who has contacts with every choir in the West is called Ali Orbaum [email protected] she is v nice, do try her first.

Lentil .