Fab Feb 2009 bar: toddle on in, grab a pew: mummy's in need of a drink or two...

[dinkystinky]

New thread for us to natter on about our toddling terrors... complete with some virtual booze. Mine's a french martini....

Calico - your DS and DD's antics made me giggle. Danny and Josh are little comrades in chaos too.... Though fortunately no cat flaps around for DS1 to try to stick Danny through though he has been known to try to shut him in kitchen cupboards

Thank you for reading my very self indulgent post of last night !!!

Happy Mother's Day girls - hope you all had lovely days... Tulips - I hope yours improved somewhat and DP came through in the end. Sorry to hear about the car stuff too.

SM - good to have you back again! I sometimes try to use DH's netbook and am completely fingers and thumbs. I'm not the world's fastest typist anyway....

Dinky - Yorkshire Moors sound lovely (although was glad you pointed out the Harry Potter reference cos it's lost on me!) How was the weather up there?

We haven't had the swine flu jab - not sure how it works i.e. does your GP write to you if your DC's are eligible, or should you book an appointment?

I've just eaten my first proper meal since Wednesday and am hoping that it stays down/in because I really need to go back to work tomorrow. I feel like a bag of bones - not very attractive.

Quick question - should I take the DC's to my Grandpa's funeral? My first instinct is no, and selfishly, I want to enjoy it without distraction..... but maybe they should be there - children can lighten the mood somewhat. Really not sure.

Got to dash now as have a mountain of laundry to sort out. Mother's Day doesn't cover all that, does it?!

STW - if it were me, I'd probably send the kids to the childminder and go to the funeral without them so I'm not worrying about not getting upset in front of them and just letting it all out. I took DS1 to DH's dad's funeral - he was only 2 months old at the time - and he was one of very few kids there but he was too little to care and good for my MIL and SIL that he was there as he gave them a little baby to cuddle on and focus on when it all got too much. When they're older, like O and S, its a different thing entirely. Whatever you decide on doing, please look after yourself and make sure you try to eat, sleep and get on with living life as your granddad would surely want you to do

I'm not getting the SF jab for mine. I don't really see the need now, I think the worst has come and gone hasn't it? And it was quite widespread, the schools round here were affected so am thinking we probably came into contact with at least one person who had it.........
I haven't had anything through about Luke's 12 month jabs either so need to sort that out. Who do I contact? My gp? All other jabs for both of them I received an appointment slip.
dinky sorry your weekend was stressful with the lo's. Mine too. Never ending!!

my mother came up on a rescue mission yesterday and brought us supplies of turf and milk and pasta for dd so apart from dd vomiting her guts up again and not eating dinner anyway [sod's law] the day was saved.

dp arrived home at 9pm with tulips and chocs in hand and gave me a fab massage to make up for my shocking weekend.

have to drop the car to the garage now, dd is off school but seems in fine spirits so don't think i'll bother with the docs.

dinky, very of your lovely weekend, although sounds like it wasn't overly relaxing with the boys running you ragged.

STW, from personal experiance i found the best thing with little kids is to be close at hand so everyone can see them before ad after but to keep them away from the funeral home/church/graveyard as it can be a bit scary for them... especially if there's an open casket. At my grandmothers funeral i was 15 and i took all my younger cousins (4 of them aged 2 to 8 at the time) off down the road for sweets while the viewing was going on, then my aunts' partners kept them away during the procession and next day at mass and at the graveyard we took turns playing with them away from the funeral.

Tulips - sounds like you are having a better day today. Am v of your massage! And the tulips. And the chocs. Well, I suppose I mustn't complain - I did get a bunch of something unidentifiable from Budgens.

Funeral will be about 70 miles away, so a bit of a drive etc. When I've said to family members that I'm probably not taking kids, they've seemed a bit put out.... Oh well, will make enquiries if they can go to the nursery that day, otherwise I'll have to take them anyway, so not worth stewing about til I know!

Has anyone been watching Pineapple Dance Studios - I recommend it for a huge laugh - unbelievable .

Glad DP came through Tulips - and that your mum brought food for you guys! Hope the car gets fixed soon.

STW - if you are taking the kids, make sure the other family members will help out with them so you have time to say goodbye too.

Just popping on for a quick SCREAM as work is driving me crazy - surrounded by idiot clients, bosses who take on stupid work, give it to me to do despite my fixed hours deal, and then give me no support when I ask for it and not one, not two, but three fucking nightmare deals to get signed by the end of the month. Even if I wasnt on fixed hours that would be a collosal ask. And breathe... oh well, only 6 more months of being tied in...

Dinky - having a better day? Sorry to hear you are being swamped with work - sounds like a hell of a month. It's a nightmare when you are on fixed hours - this was one of my reasons for leaving my last job. I was basically doing 5 days' work squeezed into 4 - only being paid for 4, and ending up working most evenings etc. How has the recession hit your industry? Is that why they've taken on so many deals? When you say you are tied in for 6 months, does this mean you are a bit stuck there? It's blimin' hard work all this!!

Hope all ok? Seems quiet on here today... is that becasue the sun's shining and you are all out having fun !.

Thanks STW - no, not particularly better day but hey ho, what doesnt kill me and all that... Recession has hit our industry and all deals are v stop start but still the bosses are the idiots who took on these badly paid deals and I'm the one who gets lumbered with them because they cant be bothered. And breathe again...

Hope you're still enjoying it at your new place.

aaarrrggghhhhh! will the vomiting never end?

has it now too

Oh no Tulips - not again! Hope its a short sharp bout that is over quickly...

Tulips - sorry to hear everyone is so poorly, nothing worse than a vom bug

Sorry i havent checked in for a good couple of weeks, its been busy here and i have only just gotten over that illness too.

I will give the rest of the thread a good read tomorrow and see how everyone is getting along.

PS Dinky just read your post about work being pants at the moment - bah just do what you can do, its not fair to go over your agreed hours. I know its not the same thing but i am saying goodbye to DH at 6.30 ish in the morning and dont see him till nearly 8 at night atm and i hate it but because its near year end and lots of tenders and coming in all at once he has to work all the hours that god gave - doesnt mean it isnt massively rubbish though Hope it all gets better for you soon.

Evening all!

STW sorry for your loss. We took DS1 to DH's dad's funeral when he was 9 months and I think everyone appreciated him being there. DS1 was delighted and seemed to think it was a party for him. But then again there was little love lost between FIL and his family so not much weeping or wailing going on.

Tulips you have my sympathies. Not vomit here but snot. Me and Mr T are having a snot producing competition, it would seem. Neither of us is happy about it!

I had a rather surreal experience today. Sitting in the ballroom of one of those huge stucco houses in South Kensington, breast feeding Mr T whilst MIL danced salsa and cha cha with Ian Waite from Strictly...

DS1 is off on his first ever school trip tomorrow (to the farm with last year's e.coli breakout...) and I'm taking DS2 for his first haircut and shoes.

If anyone's got a minute and has an opinion, can you please look at my thread on the Employment board about a job DH's been offered? here

Tulips Hope the bug passes soon. My friend's dc's have had one but it's been 24 hour thing, hope yours passes as fast.

Going round to a friend's today, hoping the weather will be as nice as yesterday and we can sit in the garden.

Better get cracking.

Cheers Rosie - always good to be able to offload on the board! My sympathies on your DH working such long hours at the moment - DH works similarly long hours (or longer) all the time and he hates it as he misses the boys so much during the week. Hope the end is in sight for him.

THOM - sounds like a truly fun day yesterday. I've posted on your employment board thread - upshot is I think your DH cant lose anything by going for the new role, particularly if not happy at the moment. If I werent locked in here, I'd probably be looking around for other roles - even not my dream roles - to give me breathing space to decide what I do want to do. Hope DS1 enjoys his trip - and washes his hands religiously - and your trip with DS2 - so many milestones at once! - goes smoothly.

dp brought dd to the docs yesterday as she's had it since friday but the gp says it's just a nasty bug. A started puking on monday night too and i've had stomach cramps since last wednesday which only seem to have gone today. Luckily dp and ds1 seem to have avoided it so far but i'm knackered!

THOM... yay for weird places we've breastfed. my oddest with A has to be the aviary at the zoo with a hornbill looking at us rather oddly good luck with the haircut and shoes.. exciting stuff, hope ds1 has fun too.

rosie, sorry to hear you've had the bug too and dh is having to work so much.

dinky, work sounds horrendous at the moment.. are you planning on changing jobs when your contract expires?

Oh no Tulips - that's rubbish. Hope you've managed to fend off the bug and DP and DS1 keep avoiding it!

Yes work is crap - to be honest is always crap at this time of year and pre xmas but think is especially crap at the moment as have no junior level assistance despite asking for it over and over. Ho hum. Suspect will look around when my lockin period expires - but if want to redo the house (which I do) probably worth staying here and sucking it up to earn the moola needed for the renovation works...

Oh dear, the thread title thread in chat appears to be descending into a scrapfest...

i posted on it and ran yesterday... can't be arsed arguing the case, as anyone whose entered an ante natal thread late in the day can testify they're not 'cliquey' and as anyone who's ever been on one at all can testify they're not 'saccharine and twee' so feck em, the whingers missed out on some great support because they judged a book by it's cover, their loss

I had a little read of the thread title thread and found it quite funny.
Personally i think our thread titles have been great and better than anyone elses

Today has been a bit of a bad day.
We went to my friends and Jacob has been awful. Very trying. Non-stop hitting and pushing.
I have been good and consistant with the naughty spot but although it removes him from the situation, it doesn't effect his behaviour.

Link to thread title thread please?

Thom I'll have a little look for it, but I do believe it has been removed because it got a bit nasty and Rhubarb has de-regged because of some comments.

Sorry you've had a difficult day SM - it goes with the territory with toddlers/preschoolers though. IME the naughty spot/thinking spot does work - it just takes a while - especially with stubborn little boys who dont always think before they do something. Also please try and remember that J's behaviour may be down to a testosterone surge - little boys get lots of them between 2 and 5 - especially if he's being really aggressive for no particular reason. Just remain calm, consistent and keep those boundaries firmly in place and it will pass. In the meantime sending you a rather large measure of yummy virtual fig vodka and some chocolate to help you recover from your day.

THOM, after the slapfest the thread suddenly disappeared from my threads I'm on list so I suspect OP - or someone else - asked for it to be deleted as the personal insults were flying fast and furious at one point. Basically someone posted about antenatal thread titles and asked how they were decided on and mentioned she found some of them a little non-inclusive or offensive (the one with the poonami came in for special mention) or distasteful in mentioning bodily functions etc and various people came on to agree or disagree with her and explain how the thread title choosing works - and then all of a sudden about a day after the original thread started it kicked off when some people went on defending their thread title. MN is a very weird virtual world at times!
Glad your DH came to a decision - sounds like a good one!

Oh, for heaven's sake. Some people really need to lighten up a bit, don't they?

Thanks for your advice Dinky!

Thanks dinky You are good.
Thom Yes, the term, get a grip springs to mind on most things i read on here!
Oh well.

hi guys hope your all ok xxx

met up with some mumsnetters last week it was really good wish i could meet up with you lot though