Fab Feb 2009 bar: toddle on in, grab a pew: mummy's in need of a drink or two...

[dinkystinky]

New thread for us to natter on about our toddling terrors... complete with some virtual booze. Mine's a french martini....

can definitely recommend it.... this paticular cat was born here and we were planning on rehoming her but she absolutely fell in love with A, who was only a yiny baby at the time. I have some ace pics of her as a kitten and him not much bigger snuggled up together.

Funny thing is she's as antisocial with the rest of us... it's just the kids, A mainly, that she likes!

sorry i've not been around but am having hellish time at work. will catch up very soon but just wanted to thank dinky for the kind lift home in her helicopter last night. you piloted it very well too!

hello all,
dinky think my previous career as a family lawyer was good practice for my new career. I'm used to dealing with children and childish tantrums

KBN sorry you are having a tough time at work. [confused ref dinky's helicopter]

STW glad the new job is going ok so far. Your childminder sounds great, really reliable.

Elkie hope you are ok x

a very strange dream i had last night in which dinky and i happened to bump into each other and she offered me a lift home in her helicopter, of course!

You're most welcome KBN - I swear I could really do with that dream helicopter in the mornings to avoid the commuter-crush! Hope work improves soon.

dinky i cant watch it either, im still not ok with birth stuff hugs for the sleep situation. I have just fnished reading ...

NO CRY SLEEP SOLUTION

i would like to recommend it t evreyone I have just had the best 2 nights in months with only 3 attempts at settling instead of countless and then only 2 night wakings instead of countless

Tulips I have only had 2 periods and although nothing like used it be, i think its because izzy is such a frequent feeder.

Hi ladies, I've had a tough few months but am slowly getting back to my normal self and am back!!!

It's a relief to see that we are not the only ones still struggling with sleep issues. I co-slept with DS2 until Xmas but then he started moving around and fell from my bed a few times. A friend was raving about the controlled crying method so I gave it a go for a week (crying myself in the sofabed every night) and althought it taught DS2 to settle in his bed in the evening he would still cry and cry during the night. It just wasn't right for us so now I end up taking him to my bed at 3am nearly every night again...

I have just officially had my first period in nearly two years and feeling very broody too. As we are going through a rough spot with DH I think there is no hope to have a DC3 anytime soon but I do find myself watching all those birthing programs in the telly. A little baby girl would be fantastic. With my luck even if we one day will have a third child, it would be a boy

MOS, sorry to hear about your dh's friend. It must be a terrible time for his family.

As for the nearly new sale, I don't know if it's really different there, but the going rate for clothes at sales here is a lower proportion of new prices I think, though I don't buy posh brands new. I was once very pleased to pay £2 for a very nice Boden long sleeved tshirt with a dinosaur on, in age 2, D's worn it a lot and C will be able to wear it (probably time to put it away for a few months now). I was surprised it hadn't been snapped up already.

I think the nearly new sale is very different from ebay, though you do have the big plus of not having to deal with postage.

I would think in terms of setting prices for items eg £2 per garment or £4/£5 for an outfit? for brands like Next/Mothercare (convert to local currency), perhaps an extra £1 per item for brands like Osh Kosh, Gap, Boden. You can get more for equipment but I think it's worth pricing at a rate where sellers make a little money, buyers get some nice bargains etc. Do sellers keep their takings or is there a fundraiser element as there is for NCT and other NNS here (in my area we also have an organisation called Haringey Families which has a sale every month).

Thanks all for asking after my mum. Not very good news today.

My mum had her first appointment to talk about her test/scan results - the cancer has begun to spread to her liver. She is booked in for surgery very soon on 16 March, and I guess that's good news that she can move to surgery very quickly, but they are looking for someone who can operate on her liver as well as the person to do the bowel operation, so that date is just tentative.

I think the bit that upset me most was that she said "I have a fighting chance" - that doesn't seem like enough, right now - I want my mum to have a bit more than a chance.

I'm glad I wasn't at work or alone at home when I heard though, I was out at the children's centre and was able to talk to someone about it (I'd already told her about the initial diagnosis). Also, though I'd hoped our CM would bring D to the group today, sometimes she does, she hadn't so I wasn't worrying that he would see me cry.

I'm scared.

Sending you enormous hugs, elkiedee. You must be feeling shellshocked.

A fighting chance is no bad thing, coupled with a positive mental attitude, which your Mum sounds like she's got.

Thank you.

oh Elkie, I'm so sorry that your news wasn't positive. I seem to recall your mum isn't local to you. Are you going to go up to visit her and be there for the surgery? It must be so very hard for you not being close to her. I hope you are getting lots of support from your DH. Hugs to you and will keep you and your mother in my prayers.

Elkie I'm so sorry that the news on your mum wasn't good .
Of course you're scared. Thinking of you and your mum.
xxx

hugs elkie xxxx

Morning all.

Elkie - sorry to hear that your mum's diagnosis wasnt what was wished for... but having a fighting chance is a good thing and your mum has so many reasons to battle the cancer and win so am really hoping that all will be well for her. And its great they've scheduled the surgery so quickly - all positive signs. Glad you had someone supportive with you when you heard the news - take care of yourself and your boys.

America - lovely to see you on! Have to admit, controlled crying isnt my cup of tea as it just seems too painful for all concerned - hoping the sleep issues get resolved soon for you and L though. Sorry to hear things are shaky with DH at the moment -there's alot of that going around - hope it all improves soon.

LittleSez - sorry to hear you still have issues with I's birth. It does get better, honest. My issue with birth programmes is that I have too graphic an imagination so they come back to haunt me later - the same reason I cant do horror films/books...

Elkie... I'm so sorry the news wasn't great. {{{{{hugs}}}} I'll be thinking of your mom on the 16th and hoping everything gfoes well and she can start on the road to recovery

America, we had the same results from cc when we had to do it with the older two... it helped for the initial settling but they still woke during the night. They grew out of it though between 12 and 18 months and both of them are great sleepers now... a far ccry from the overtired non-sleeping nightmares they were as babies.

With A i've been far more relaxed about sleep and he seems to be following the smae pattern of gradually growing into a decent sleep pattern without any interferance. (although he woke at 12 and 4.40 last night... think he was missinghis cat )

elkie i just wanted to send big hugs to you. i hope you get news of the operation soon.

Danny has developed a post-prandial sock habit (he finishes his meal, pushes back in his tripp trapp, pulls his socks off and has a good chew!) - he's getting through 3 pairs a day!

In fact, in honour of Danny I may need to name change to dinkystinkypostprandialsock

Where is everybody? Am missing SilveryMoon - she'd be on here keeping me company among the tumbleweed

PMSL at the sock habit - Conor just doesn't like keeping his on. I often don't bother putting them on until just before we go out - he normally has breakfast wearing a babygro anyway.

Thanks all for messages.

morning all,
hope all doing ok
Elkie sending you more hugs to help you get through the next few weeks.

dinky have to laugh at Danny's sock antics as H is just the same.

Had a lovely day yesterday, DD was invited to a party and we all went along and it was a really nice afternoon. Kids had a great time on the bouncy castle (even H) and as a result DD slept for 11 hours

Glad the antics of my little looney put a smile on your faces This morning I experimented with no socks on at breakfast time - the wails of outrage when he pushed his high chair back and realised he'd been deprived of the best bit of the meal had to be heard to be believed. So will be investing in industrial quantities of socks to keep the little gourmet in the post prandial sock habit to which he has become accustomed

dinky... bless his cotton socks

A is the first of mine to actually keeeps his socks on.... before having him i didn't think it was possible for a baby to still be wearing the same socks before bed as were put on it in the morning... ds1 was so bad i stpped putting socks on him at all!

Hi everyone

Elkie Huge hugs to you - but be positive. Its very common these spread to the liver but they can remove them by surgery. Glad she has a date soon and fingers crossed they find a suitable surgeon and get it all sorted at the same time.

My DS can't keep a pair of socks on at all....in the winter I was considering tights....but DH wouldn't let me!

dinky sock thing made me chuckle im ok re birth stuff thanks had some therapy and just have to speak to midwives to get some closure next week. I just cannot watch birth stuff on the tele maybe another time

Anyone having sleep issues i stongly recommend reading no cry sleep solution really really good book, we are doing really well now only 2/3 wakes per night