Fab Feb 2009 bar: toddle on in, grab a pew: mummy's in need of a drink or two...

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New thread for us to natter on about our toddling terrors... complete with some virtual booze. Mine's a french martini....

Hello ladies, how is everyone? All ok here just the same old same old really. Milo is also a crazy little chap - he squeals and laughs at everything and keeps me on my toes no without a doubt.

waves to pempe hello again - i see some lovely pics of Harry on FB, its nice to see you on here. Im rubbish at keeping up so i hope i havent missed too much. I got Milo's summer clothes all on ebay - they sell them in bundles and most of what he got had not been worn and were so cute - id much rather pay £50 and get nice quality like gap and osh kosh than spend the same on new stuff and not get very much at all. When he gets bigger i will get him stuff from new but the things that i got him were hardly worn.

DH and i have been ttc for last month and this month - its going alright i think, i am the worlds worst poas addict and got a couple of faint positives yesterday and one this morning on an internet cheapy test. I have also had 3 negatives Its ok im going to wait a couple of days (im not due till Sat) then test with a more expensive test but im feeling pretty positive about the 2 positives yesterday and 1 this morning as i know this early in pg its easier to get a false neg than a false pos. Keep your fingers crossed for me.

I am so over this weather and dying for it to get warmer again, Summer cant come fast enough for me tbh, we need to get our garden done and as i have no green fingers whatsoever i think im going to have to get someone in to do it - i just hate looking at a square patch of grass - it needs some shrubs or trees or something!

Dinky are you still having a crap time at work ? thats awful. I am really sorry to hear that, how long have you got before you can leave - you did say that you were leaving shortly didnt you? Or was it getting your hours changed?

OMFG rosie!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You get on here the minute you know, do you hear me?

rosie, that's very exciting news, hope you get the good news/no period on Saturday DH and I have decided to start trying again this month too. Is anyone on here already going for another??

i'm so excited about getting the ebay clothes sent out here (shipping company bringing a load of stuff in a few weeks including a Tesco shop yay! curry spices and ribena.) The bundles seem to be such good value, the things I've bought before like that have always been fantastic.

our tourist season starts in about 6 weeks time so the countdown is on for us now. I'll be working a couple of days a week from then. Feeling a bit funny about leaving Harry for the day, he probably won't even notice.

Pempe I named changed, I was littleboyblue but got bored and changed in New Year.

I'm starting nthe pasta jar with ds1 tomorrow.

I am feeling fairly positive, ive had three negs today (internet cheapys) but i had a very clear positive this morning (you can still see the line now) and the same goes for yesterdays two positives. The thing is i know there are probably alot of my samples at only 8dpo where the hcg levels are so early i will get a neg but the three positives are keeping me chipper - like i said i will wait till Friday and take a First Response and that should hopefully tell me everything - i know its a bit hit and miss testing this early because of chemical pgs and stuff but its still nice and exciting to see that second line appear

Silverymoon will let you know asap - as soon as ive taken the First Response (if i can hold my pee long enough - i cant hold it more than a couple of hours at a time today!) Ill take it on Friday ... ohhh im excited!

Pempe - good luck with ttc this month I think there are a couple of others trying for 'seconds' (or thirds or fourths or fifths in my case lol) What do you and your DH do during the tourist season? Im sure Harry will be fine

I sometimes want another (3rd) but then I don't. It would be nice, I've always imagined 3 boys but we don't really have the room and I do struggle sometimes with the ones I already have and when J starts nursery, I am looking forward to getting to know Luke better.

There is no way i would consider a baby if we hadnt had Milo. I thought i was done with three DC's till i met DH and as he didnt have any of his own or experience of raising children from babyhood. Now we have Milo we thought it would be great for him to have a little sibling too but once ive done this last one thats IT! Im shutting up shop

How exciting Rosie - fingers crossed for you guys! Pempe - good luck with both your babymaking and the holiday season.

Rosie - am tied in at work for a whole year after coming back from maternity leave then after that am free to look elsewhere...

Rosieposey, we have a block of holiday apartments and a yacht which we charter out for day cruises. I will be hostessing and guiding on the yacht and helping run the holiday apts with my MIL.

It's weird, the trying-for-another thing. For a long time I was saying, no not yet not yet, it's too soon, I want H to be a bit older...and then I realised....oh my god, for the sort of age gap I want, we have to think about it now. It's come round very suddenly.

new back to MN after a break..... biscuit face???? was there a popular demand for a biscuit face smiley?

That was added when Gordon Brown was here doing a webchat - i didnt read the thread but i think it means 'no comment'

Ah yes, I remember reading something about the biscuit thing in the news. I see.

Rosie! - wow, good luck for the Friday test.
I'm sticking with 2 kids....but I bet it's fun having a whole gang! I'm struggling with time / space with my two as it is, so there's no way going to be a number 3, though I bet I'll miss the baby stage once Lilian is walking and talking. She's so little that I can still convince myself she's 6 months old....

Pempe - nice to see you! I lapsed for a few months and have no hope of catching up on old posts but it's nice to be back.

Dinky - so sorry you're having a rubbish time of it at work. Probably a good thing you have a little blub, especially if it is really out of character for you - hope they'll realise that it really is getting you down.

can't get on at work again and i think mos mentioned on fb that she can't get on mn at all either so think there may be a bit of a techy problem going on still.

dinky i'm so sorry to hear things are that bad at work, it doesn't seem at all like you but i think its good you let them see how much it's affecting you. you made me laugh about the men avoiding you...so true! you've still got about 6 months to go haven't you? you must, must try to get them to do something or you'll have to try and severely cut back on your time/dedication which i know will go against your normal way of working but you must think of yourself for once. if they're not giving you the support you need let the work suffer rather than you.

i'm watching one born every minute whilst typing this. i can't stop myself and it just turns into an enormous blubfest.

KBN I started watching that last night, but then had to turn it off. I just can't watch things like that, far too upsetting for me.

Luke got me up at 5:15. Shit-bag.

Right, I have just sat Jacob down and explained the pasta jar.
I have given him a plastic jar and told him everytime he is good and does as he is told, he will get a good boy shell. Everytime he is naughty, hits or pushes i will take one out.
he is clutching the jar and is saying thank you.
We shall see how it goes

good luck sm...obviously disappointed you didn't go for brazil nuts but i'll try not to take it too personally

We have been up to 5 shells and now it is empty.
He's also been opening the jar and tipping the shells on the floor saying he doesn't want them!
Do I continue or take that that he's not interested?

Morning all - SM, put the jar somewhere J cant reach it but can see it. Have you told him about the reward when he gets to 10 (or however many) shells? Will incentivise him to be good, especially if you make a good deal of when he is being a good boy. And dont sweat it too much, J is enjoying the novelty value right now so is acting up as a result to see what reactions he will get out of you for being good or being naughty - accentuate the positive and just use the pasta jar re the negatives....

Thanks KBN for your wise words. Trying my hardest to disengage abit at work and gain perspective again.

God knows what to do.
he has thrown tantrums all morning. Wits end here - again.
Shouting doesn't work, talking doesn't work, time out doesn't work.

And do you know what really pissed me off today?
was at toddler group, we were all outside on account of it being a lovely day and one boy (who is a shit anyway) was climbing through the railings alongside the concrete stairs. The group worker had already told him twice to get dowm (his mum was ignoring him as usual) but then jacob starts doing it too, so i told Jacob to get down and that he wasn't to do that.
This other boy's mum says "He's copying x(her ds) but I'm not telling x off because I can't be bothered"

What do I do when Jacob doesn't want to walk, he doesn't want to go on buggy board, he doesn't want to go home, he doesn't want to put his coat on, he doesn't want to go outside, he does want to go outside and so on and so on. Driving me bonkers!

dinky hope you have a better day at work since the sob

ROSIE!!!!!!!

well done, it sounds like you'll have good news for us at the weekend! lovely age gap too

Can't believe it's taken us this long to produce a baby brother or sister for the fab feb babies.

Personally much as i'd love another baby to cuddle and dote on i don't want another child as our house is chaotic enough with three so i have to settle for weeping at babies on tv

SM, i second what dinky said... put the jar up high where he can see it but not touch it... it's a visual aid only, not a toy.

dinky... hope work improves a bit seeing as the bosses know how stressed you are now

Thanks tulips Will give it another go tomorrow

SM - it will get better - tis a phase and will pass. Keep repeating that to yourself.

With DS1 I find that counting to 3 and giving him consequences gets him to co-operate, especially in the mornings when he's refusing to get read (if you dont get your pants on by the time I count to 3, you wont get to pick your breakfast cereal... if you dont come into the bathroom to brush your teeth by the time I count to three, you wont have any tv before nursery) etc. - I know I would have to implement what the threat is so he knows that the counting works so dont do anything too draconian... Counting now works 9 out of 10 times - on the 10th time, I have to use my loud voice on him...

I tried the counting to 3 with him a while ago and do you know what the little shit did?
I said "blah blah blah 1........2.........." and he yelled "GO" And legged it! hahahaha
Now he is a bit older I will try that again, and I have since taught him it's "ready, steady, go"

Hi lovelies. I have moved. A bit hectic here. About to run off to pick up DS1 from school.

Figured MOS must be lost without MN so sent her a cut-and-paste job by email. Message back from her to you lot:

Lovely to hear from you, I've been getting very lonely here I hope all is going well with you and the boys. Sounds like you've been busy.
Still can't get on MN. Have even emailed them twice to say there are problems and that I'm really suffering. Now I can't Mnet I have all this time on my hands so have to cook the kids proper food and make them smoothies instead of giving them ready meals and fruitshoots!

Was great to catch up on everyones news.

Please pass on my regards to the girls and maybe copy and paste this if you can?
Sorry for those that have lost loved ones recently and hope all goes well for the STW's grandad's funeral today.

Good luck to those TTC, Pempe and Rosie and fingers crossed for the test on Friday. PLEASE SOMEONE KEEP ME UPDATED ON FB OR EMAIL! I have no life now.
Rosie, I know what you mean about having more kids. I was adamant that when I had DS1 and DD1 that was it, no more. Then I met DH who didn't have kids either and hence DD2 and DS2. Fingers crossed for you.

Dinky, so sorry you're having such a shite time at work. Hopefully your outburst/hissy fit will make them realise you do need support and assistance and that you are too valuable a member of staff to lose and they will get their act together.

SM, second/third what others have said and the outreach(?) worker you spoke to sounds like a twat who probably has no children or was Gina Ford (hah, can say it on here) in disguise!

Snowmama, I hope everything is ok and your ex is not being too much of an arse. Please email me or FB me if you want to 'talk' or want any advice/info

I'm sad to have missed out on that thread title thread. sounded like comedy reading.

I have to admit that after a few weeks of not being able to get on MN I registered on Netmums. What a load of fluffy bollox! Haven't even posted and never will. The name thing is stupid. It appears you have to use your first name and initial of your surname. No way I'm outing myself with a name like mine! I'd rather have no gossip than go on there.

G & H are doing well. G is a typical stroppy 3 1/2 year old now god help us. H is just gorgeous. He has been walking everywhere for nearly 2 months now and is just so funny and cuddly. Every morning when I have my shower he picks the towel up and hands it to me when I've finished (a few mishaps where he has thrown them in) and he is just delightful. If I was 10 years younger and didn't have a bad back (and 3 other children) I'd have another one just like him.

On the bright side, not being able to MN has meant that I have done 4 hours of CPD and have finally finished my last two assignments on a distance learning counselling course I have been struggling with for over 18 months. Yay! Have also been attending a 10 week counselling course out here which has just finished and I got such glowing reports at end of it that the guy who has been running the counselling service for 8 years has asked me to consider taking over it! I suppose having been a family lawyer for so long I'm used to sob stories :-)

Another brightside, I joined weight watchers on line (can get on that site!) and have lost 8 1/2 lbs in 4 weeks.

Will be back in UK from end of June til 5th September so looking forward to lots of meet ups then.

Take care everyone

MOS x

swampy How is the new place? Thanks for posting that message from mos as well.
So it's not her whole internet then, just MN.....oh dear, I'll message her on fb.

Jacob has 2 friends here atm while their mum picks up her 8 year old from school. All ok so far!