May 2009 - Don't forget to wear your good shoes...

[belgina]

Right, new thread...

Sorry about the title

Cocktail anyone?

It's a while since I was first on in the morning!

Good news - we're up and ready with 10mins to spare
Bad news - I was up with a bout of d&v at 1am. Feel fine now. Don't know if it was stress or nerves or something I'd eaten but it seems to have cleared!

Hope you all have good days!

Hello. I need to be re-named Grumpy.

HATED my journey up to Liverpool. So much for a nice snooze! Got on the train at Watford Junction, and I had to change at Stafford. Our train was stuck behind a freight train so we were delayed. Then announcement came over that we might make the Liverpool train as THAT was delayed, but we had to run to platform 4. So I (and others) did. Got there. Train platform man said noooo you need platform 5, quick, run. So I did (with gammy hip, ow). Got on. It left. Announcement to say welcome to the Manchester Piccadilly train. AAAAGGGGHHHH! SO I had to get off at Stockport and wait 1/2 hr for the Liverpool train. Got to my meeting an hour late, but was ok really.

Presentation was ok. Met old friend for a drink before catching my train. Nice comfy, quiet train. Until Crewe, when the worst, loud, pissed, smelly, naughty children'd family came on. They kept pulling the passenger help cord, smoking in the loo, you name it. The train manager kept making announcements...'it is illegal to smoke / pull passenger assistance cords' and kept threatening to push them off the train, preferably into a field in the middle of nowhere near Lichfield. No such luck.

Sigh.

So. Hip thing later. Am VERY nervous, only because of the whole general anaesthetic thing.

Sorry not to namecheck but have tons to do but promised to come in here and wave this morning!

(Although Dandy I did laugh at the tinfoil saga! And Muddled - so close to Malmesbury! Where are you? Yes, will prob be up for a cheering up sesh - facebook moi!)

Oh and flip... big hug, you poor thing. A good cry sometimes really helps.

Febes (what am I on about, I am namechecking!) - Brighton (? like Ses) is my fave, and I love the Hotel du Vin there. Whitstable is lovely as well, there are some amazing seafood restaurants there

My friend was on masterchef the other night! I feel almost famous!

Off for another cuppa - am nil by mouth after 11am!

Thinking of you Sausage hope all goes well.x

OK. Have managed a catch up of the last week!So here goes - with apologies to anyone that I have forgotton.

saus your poo comment about M did make me chuckle ( that was on about Tuesday I think!) and your journey to and from Liverpool sounded pretty hellish. At least you managed a civilised drink with your pal though. Good luck with your hip op too. Can it be morphed into an excuse to do absolutely nothing and be waited on for a bit?????

dandy another one who LOL'd at the tin foil but absent mindedness comes hand in hand with motherhood I think. I have lost count of the times I can't remember whether I have turned my straightners off and wonder if I am going to come home to a house or a smoldering pile of rubble! Have you made your final CM decision yet? I also felt that from the way you posted about CM2 you were much happier with her than less than enthusiasitc CM1.

And a Happy Birthday to your DD. Hope the Pizza Express Party goes well.

tummum you poor thing (and your poor shoe rack). I hope you are feeling better now. I know your post about your meltdown was a few days ago, but I felt your pain in your post and really hope you are ok. We've all been there I think. I know I have and have had to lock myself in the toilet and had a good scream. Wednesday night being an example of that. I won't bore you now.

singing I think we all realised that you were struggling in France and were worried as you went a looooonggggg time without posting, but it sounds good that you and your DH have been able to talk about it,a nd hopefully put it behind you. And smug smug smug away about your DD. She sounds fabulous and an absolute credit to you.

jael agree with everyone about your DD and morning sessions but I think you've made your decision now and am too late to add anything constructive.

flip belgina pula and anyone else with poorly LOs, sending Calpol vibes your way and hope they all get better soon. And flip hope you are ok too. Sending additional hugs to you too.

ses hope your day at work is going well so far.

running where did the week go? We survived!! Only two days at work for me this week but already I feel that I am running out of time to do all the stuff I need to. Organisation is the name of the game I think.

younger maple syrup, bananas, pancakes or eggy bread. Perhaps natural yoghurt or even vanilla ice cream too. I will say no more. And definately has to be Canadian Maple Syrup.

Waves to febes fi llare and anyone else I have missed.

Ok, update on mad PILs. Its ever so slightly better than DH and I first thought. They are doing the finding pissed up lost looking people thing in the town centre but they are not alone. There will be a 20 year old, and 30/40 year old and then one of them in a group of 3. They are not allowed to approach groups and have had training from the police (its a police initiative!!) as to when to back off and call in the professionals. So its not quite as bad but still very misguided we think. They are 70 and 75 FFS. MIL has had massive problems with her feet and knees and is on ADs. She is more socially astute than FIL and the hours they have to go and do this are ridiculous. Being tee totallers, they have no idea what drunks are like, have no idea what its like in a town on a Saturday night (not that I do as its been months if not years since I had a night in town!) but it is so inappropriate for them to do this. DH got this from his sister so has yet to call his parents to express his concern.

Still, his sister (see my FB post!) has made my day with this story. She met Martha Wainwright (vaguely famous singer and sister of the slightly more famous but incredible Rufus Wainwright who was the inspiration for R's naming) in UCH London where SIL works when Martha had her prem baby at the end of last year. SIL is a big fan of the Wainwrights and was in fact responsible for buying DH a Rufus album back in the day. ANyway she managed to wangle a meet with Martha and chatted to her, including telling her that our R was named after her brother. It went down quite well she says. So I am mega chuffed that the Wainwright family have been told this! DH and I have tickets to see Rufus Wainwright in April. I now cannot wait and feel that I have some sort of right to go and introduce myself to him.

Right I need to shut up now as this is turning into an essay.....

thinking of you as well, Sausage. shame about the the train ride. btw which Masterchef was your friend on? Did s/he make it to the next stage?

Ses, hope you're getting on ok at work. glad you were organised and timely this morning.

Dandy, happy birthday to your DD! 5 sounds like a great age. Good luck with the party preparations!

Flip, ses and sausage are right: it helps to have a good cry once in awhile. Do you think counselling is helping you? hope you have a good counsellor.

Rain has just turned to snow! We braved the pouring rain to go to play group (20 min walk)but I just HAD to get out of the house. we arrived back home soaking wet so decided to make it a pyjama afternoon , very comfy.

Hello to everyone else. Gotta close this post as 2 DDs waiting for some drinks.

Hello everyone. I have a small in-house AIBU. I think I might be being unreasonable, but I would appreciate your views before I apologise to my DH

The situation is that I have been waiting in all day for some additional insulation to be fitted to the loft. They turned up at 1 and were here for an hour or so. I had a quick look in the loft to check it had been fitted and it looked OK. So I paid up and they left, having cleared up behind them. Then DH called and made sure they had been and done what they were supposed to. He then got into a strop when I couldn't answer some detailed questions - i.e. 1. had they laid the insulation across the joists or along the joists and 2. How thick was the insulation they laid and was that the same as they said they would lay. I got narked, because I was the one who had to wait in most of the day for them to turn up and I think I checked the job, it looked OK, and I think it's a bit over the top to check to the level of detail DH expected. I think it was more his tone than the questions, there was no 'thanks for waiting around for them, I know this is your day off' etc it was more 'how come you paid them when you didn't even check they did what they should.' So is DH BU in his expectations of me, or am I being too defensive here?

Views would be appreciated !!

Thanks. Will be on later to nc.

Tummum, yanbu. if he was so interested in those details he should have either been there himself or written a list of things to check.

when our kitchen was installed, there were anumber of technical things dh wanted me to ask but i would in no way have remembered. the fitters were here for 3 days so i learnt my lesson after the 1st day when i forgot to ask about the swivel shelf so made dh write down exactly what he needed me to check next day.

unfortunately, your fitters were there so quickly, you don't have the opportunity to ask them the next time around.

If your DH has probs with the way it's been laid, he should give them a ring if his standards were specific. as tactfully as possible, don't apologise for not checking to his standards and kindly remind him that you were the one to have waited around for them.

YANBU.

I probably wouldn't even have stuck my head up the attic, in all honesty! So you did far more than I would have done.

sausage hope all goes well.

I'm so tired. I was still awake at 3am because I couldn't bloody sleep. Both boys asleep; just me who couldn't. At one point DH and DS2 were both snoring in the bed with me and I felt like exploding with frustration. Grr. I just hope it is easier this evening.

tummum- I agree that YANBU. Either he should have taken time off, left proper instructions so you could check, or else check himself when he gets home. If they haven't done what they should have, then it's up to him to chase them up about it and stay in for them next time.

It seems like the DCs are on the mend . It's been such a draining week for everyone- luckily DH and I had the same thought and he has gone out for fish and chips .

dandy- hope your DD has a lovely birthday and party at pizza express. My DD was 5 in December and it does seem very grown up. She had a bowling party which seemed very mature, but i think next time we might go for the meal out option, but not with 18 . Good luck .

Sending good sleeping vibes in various directions. I feel like all the sleep training we did has been in vain as we are back to square one due to illness (co-sleeping, feeding/cuddling to sleep etc) but hopefully we can get back on track soon. I know I don't want to go back to how things were now i've seen how good it can be.

Dandy I am at your dealings with CMs. I think you have every right to be narked because 1. What has changed since she agreed to take DS one day a week? Surely that was only a few days ago? If she wasn't sure, she should have said at the time, and 2. By email, then text !!!!! Madness !!!!!! (Too many !'s, but YKWIM!)

Well, DH has apologised for being an arse [smug grin]. He's at the match in Cardiff, and I am loving the DC being in bed, my music on, glass of wine at the ready and dinner ready to go in the oven when my lovely friends turn up. They're an hour late, but they are always late and that's what I plan for !

Also [TMI alert] I am quite chuffed because I am currently trialling a mooncup, and I have to say I am really impressed. I didn't think in a million years it would be something I'd like to try, but a thread on here persuaded me and I am (repeats self) really impressed.

Pula hope the sleep goes OK tonight. Hopefully S will settle sooner, now you have already done some training. Sending healthy vibes your way

Llare sympathies for snoring in stereo. Are you still awake, BTW?

Thinking of sausage, hope she's OK

Younger how are you today?

Flip big hugs to you (sorry, not MN-y but what the hell). Are you finding the counselling helpful, or are you at the 'emotionally knackered from talking about it' stage?

Ses how did the day go? Been thinking of you. V. impressed at being ready 10 mins early. ANy tips on how I can do that too? I am always that Mummy running to school, shouting at the DC to "Hurry up, we're going to be late"

MrsH how exciting about the Wainwrights. That makes you positively famous. Along with Sausage of course ! Very amusing (and slightly worrying) about the ILs. Hope they keep safe.

ladyH, xposted you earlier... what an impressive catch-up post!

Dandy, absolutely annoyed at your CM2. In fact, I don't know what to say. texting for something like that is cowardly.

llare, hope you get some sleep tonight.
Pula, glad everyone's feeling a bit better and hopefully good sleep patterns will resume.

Tummum, glad your DH apologised. It wasn't really fair on you. btw, , please could you explain what is a 'mooncup'? afraid to google...

Am better today. Had a horrendous sleepless night of anxiety which I'm trying to control with focusing on breathing and paying attention to Fi's and Dandy's advice a couple of pages previous. But, actually feel better right now. I'm also wondering if my hormones are wreaking havoc as I'm gradually dropping BF and feeling like my period is returning. who knows?

I've got a martini, sat by the fire, listening/watching Tchaikovsky program on bbc4 (very calming) so very relaxed. Hope all are well today.

Funnily enough younger I wondered if hormones caused my lack of sleep last night. I usually get a sleepless night before a period and I was also uncomfortably hot. Maybe my period is coming back, too?

Dandy I'm sorry to hear about your CM problems. You were clearly an Ofsted inspector in a previous life and these problems are CM karam wreaking revenge. I'm sure you'll get something sorted soon. I had a wonderful CM and she had no WOM recommendations at all because she was new to CMing. She was great! I am a true believer in things happening for a reason.

Tummum I suspect your DH isn't enjoying the rugby right now!

Evening all!

tummum - yanbu, glad you got an apology!

dandy - what a nightmare with the CMs. What apain to be messed around so much. Hope something works out for you soon. We didn't have any word of mouth recommendations, had to go on instinct and ofsted, but I'm incredibly pleased with our choice.

sausage - hope you are feeling ok this evening and that all went well today.

Thanks all for the hugs and good wishes. After the first sesion I felt a bit overwhelmed, but also a bit disappointed in some ways - I couldn't see how talking about my dad working away all the time was going to help me cope with an opinionated toddler with diva tendencies AND a small but very fast baby AND no sleep. But this week seemed better, it was much more talking about my problems now and the pressure I put on myself. It was all very reassuring.

Wales got a try, at last! Expect tummum's DH is having fun

younger - glad to hear you are feeling slightly better. Hormones could be partly responsible - dropping/stopping feeds can mess around with things, and no just with return of periods, you get less of the hormones released while you're feeding too.

tummum - I'm seriously tempted to try a mooncup, but I've only had three periods since July 2006!

Just a quick post from me as feeling v tired and a bit
Don't know why really as day at work was ok. I managed to visit 4 of my stores this morning and then do handover this afternoon with the girl who'd been covering me.
Stores all seemed pleased to see me and I felt positive and organinsed.
Worst bit was at the end of the day when I knew I wanted to go and get O but had to wait for a fax to come through and meant I didn't leave until gone 5pm and picked O up just before 6pm.
He'd had an ok day but been teething lots with dribbling and a bit of a temperature.
Got him home and he was desperate for some milk and then did bedtime. Took an hour to get him to sleep.
I CBA to cook so DH agreed to get curry. Don't think my stomach's right though still as I just didn't feel like eating it.
Another day tomorrow! Saturdays I'm going to be covering as a pharmacist in one of my stores. Need to leave home at 8am and should be home for 2pm. DH is off to Twickenham for the rugby so my mum is looking after O from 10am. I'm hoping she'll at least be able to pick him up this time!

Sorry I've rambled there but good to offload.

Dandy - I was so at CM2 reading your post!! Hope something even better turns up and quickly!
Happy birthday to your gorgeous DD!

Tummum - I've heard of mooncup but never braved giving it a go! Good to hear positive geedback.
Btw, YANBU re DH. I can relate to the situation with similar and they really need to tell us (or even better write it down!)
As for being ready early, I'm sure it won't happen again, and I do only have 1DC to get ready!

younger - glad you're feeling a bit better. I think hormones with dropping BF definitely play a part.

saus - hope today's gone ok

LadyH - well done on wk1! You're right about the organisation being key!

Hope everyone else is ok! Think I might head off to bed in a minute. Why are shops open on Saturdays?!! Oh yes, so that those that work all week can use them! Just a shame I have to work as a result!

Hi everyone

Just had a lovely Indian takaway with some nice wine and now some Drambuie, so feeling a teeny weeny bit lightheaded, lol. Can't type properly either. But it was nice DH has also lit the woodburner and it's absolutely boiling here. I feel like stripping to my undies, but don't want to scare the ap. The saggy belly is not a pretty sight.

tum YANBU re the loft insulation, I'd have done just the same, so glad to hear you had an apology. Also: I love my mooncup. It's still gathering dust at the moment, but it works very well for me too. I was a bit iffy about trying too, but I've been using it for a good few years now.

flip Sending lots of hugs and I hope you're feeling better.

dandy @ your CM2. In a way it would make me a little bit relieved, because clearly she's not good at communicating and despite the WOM recommendations she doesn't sound all that great. I hope you find someone else soons. And I do agree with llare about things being for the best. Whenever we 'lose' a potential ap, a better one pops up all of a sudden and just at the right time, so you never know

ses Hope tomorrow goes better. It's hard going back to work isn't it? It's hit me today that I was having my very last free Friday in a while and that I will miss my time with C very much, but I also know that I really am a better (more patient) mum when I'm away from home occasionally. It doesn't make it much easier to leave C for this long for the 1st time ever though. I can see myself being on mon.

younger good to hear things are going better again. Hope it was a hormone thing

ladyH How great about the Wainrights knowing about R's name. Ha, that reminds me about my mum seeing the singer who's concert they attended when she went in labour with me this New Year's eve. It was all a bit embarrasing when she went over to talk to him, really Just remember that when R is older

Well, this week has been a week of gradually leaving C a bit more with the ap and it's been going OK. Today it was the 1st time she was going to put C down for a nap and she tried to put her in the cot, but DH had to step in to say that it clearly wasn't working and then she lied down with C, like I did and C went to sleep no problem. I think the ap has a slight problem with my slightly less strict, more muddling along parenting style, IYKWIM. But it think she's starting to understand. My dcs are well behaved, polite dcs, so clearly I think I'm muddling along quite well ;)

Right, now going back to be a bit more sociable.

ses - glad work was ok, but sorry to hear you're still feeling slightly ill and bit bleh. Hope you feel better tomorrow, at least it's a short day!

belgina - lol at you scaring the ap! And also at your mum and the singer.

I'm off to bed now, very early start tomorrow (well, same as usual really!) - it's the wedding, so I'm wearing my news shoes and frock. Still loving my shoes, very much less enthusiastic about the dress, but it's a bit late now really! Catch up early next week, we're away all weekend.

Hi all.

Saus hope today was ok.

Ses, Headless, Saus and others - the world of work - it's so hard being back and getting in to a routine. I'm still trying to sort out what hours work well for me, but on the plus side, first pay day today - hurrah!

Flip glad this week's session was better for you.

Dandy can't belive your luck (or lack of it) with the CM's. So annoying. Must mean something good is waiting for you around the corner.

Tum I'm going to try a mooncup in due course. I actually like the idea. Probably not so good at the moment whilst my fanjo is hanging out of my bodythough. Talking of which, has anyone done the singing bit on Band Hero or equivalent songstar games? I have the pleasure of a probe up my fanjo and squeezing whilst trying to follow a line (a la songstar game) in the coming weeks. Joy!

BTW Tum yanbu and I'm pleaed your dh apologised.

Llare, Younger I've had about 5 periods now post ds, and at first they were crampy / PMT-y (I never get pmt) / heavy etc. Each month they've improved and I now don't have the emotional PMT side effcts (although I don't know if dh would beg to differ.....)

Younger am amazed you got out this afternoon. The weather was terrible. I got soaked getting the dc's into the car.

Hope everyone else well and looking forward to the weekend. We're moving into our loft tonight (5 months later - scaffolding still up), and I've just got a brand new phone - slightly confusing as I've had my (crap) phone for years - since the days that texting was new - so am coming to grip with accessing FB via phone then will move to MN....

Belgian Flip x posted. Am v jealous of your drambuie Belian. Haven't had that for ages and used to really enjoy it.

Morning DCs woke at 6 this morning and as DH worked until 2am I had to bring them downstairs pretty quickly.

Ses Glad your first day back went well. Hope today is as good and your mum copes with picking up O .

Tum YANBU about the loft. Glad your DH realised his twatishness and said sorry.

Dandy Nightmare about the CM issues!! Maybe a nursery would be better for H as its only one day so a nursery setting would be a completely different and exciting experience for him with lots of other babies and activities. He gets the family setting 1:1 the rest of the time with you. Also you are less likely to be let down through illness as with a CM? Hope DDs party went well and you aren't too shattered.

Younger I have a friend who has developed severe PMT depression following the return of her cycle after BFing. She gets really depressed for 2 weeks and then is fine for 2 weeks. She is trying ADs but only for those 2 weeks she needs them. I think hormone changes have a huge impact on our moods.

R is back to full health and eating me out of house and home. I decided to try to cut back on the night feeds last night so we ended up with a bit of crying but I only feed him once at 1.30am and then 6. I am aiming to cut out the night feeds in the next week or 2.

DH has been a bit of a twat this week. He said he used to be able to come home and relax ( didn't we all dear) but now he has to come in a help out with the kids. He seems to have come right again. I swear men are more moody than us sometimes.

Morning all.

febes agree. Men can be as hormonal as us!Chap I share an office with is just like this. Its annoying. He strops around and you daren't even speak to him. Next minute he is fine, laughing and joking.

Sounds like R is mended too

younger are you ok? Am a little worried about your anxiety. You need to find something that can make your mind switch off for a bit. Yoga? A good book?

dandy on your behalf at your CM difficulties. Agree with the email/text frustration. If she had seen you she should have had the courtesy to tell you face to face. As reggiee says hopefully it means that there is something round the corner that will suit you and DS better.

belgina LOL at the possibility of scaring the AP but the evening with your DH in front of the woodburner and the drambuie sounded rather nice!

tum YANBU. Def. Glad your DH has seen the error of his ways though.

reggiee a mooncup. Really?? How did the night in the loft go?

flip have a lovely day at the wedding and you will look drop dead gorgeous in your fabulous dress and shoes darling!

Reminds me. pula did you get your dress? Do you like it? It was in the Mirror as well yesterday! I haven't get had the guts to do it on the cold wash and i want to wear it tonight to a 40th party. I may have to wear the jumpsuit instead. Decision decisions!!

We had friends stopping over last night with their kids as their house is a building site at the moment. Have been awake since 5am. R up at that point and rest awake from 5.20am. Am feeling a leeettttllllle tired and fractious now.

at realising I had read the Mirror. I was at the hair dressers and needed some mindless reading material.