August 05 Babies!!!

[blossom2]

I thought i might be the first one ....

Name: Charlotte
Birth date: 7 July 2005 (@ 37.5wks)
Time: 4.41pm
Weight & length: 3.2kg, 47 cms
Where: Sainte Felicitie, Paris
Experience: Very quick labour, had epidural, no tearing or cutting, no stitches, baby and mother doing really well ...

can't wait to hear from everyone else ...

[josey]

oh kate100 lucky you that would have done you the power of good as well
dd still seems to sleep more during the day and up every 2 hours to be fed ds crawled into bed this morning so i had a long snuggle with my 2 kiddies watching tv bf'ing and eating breakfast for those of us with teeth

I dont feel too bad now someone else thought the same thing i had visions of alot of eyebrow raising emoticons

[colinandcaitlinsmommy]

Kate--what a horrible experience. So sorry. Congratulations on DS2 having such a long sleep, though.

Ok, so it doesn't really have anything to do with Caitlin, but I'm having a great day as I've realized I can fit back into all of my clothes again. Except for some of my shirts, and that's just because my boobs are too big. That and I've actually had a pretty good sleep, because she only woke up once last night.

[Azure]

Kate, sorry to hear what a traumatic time you had. I hope you manage to complain - your treatment was just not acceptable. How wonderful that your DS2 has slept through - I hope he managed to repeat it.

I feel timing on feeds and naps are going completely haywire at the moment, and I would like to introduce some form of routine. We went to Legoland for the first time on Saturday (DS1 loved it) and DS2 slept most of the day, but yesterday was very difficult to get into any decent daytime nap. DH has now left for Athens, but my parents are up late afternoon for a couple of days. I haven't managed any decent expressing - DS2 has been snacking and I don't have any excess supply as a result.

Back to Kate's observation on having two boys, I have also been shocked by people's comments. It started when I was pregnant and knew I was having a boy - so many people asked whether I would try for a girl next time, even though the baby had not yet been born. As if having another boy is second prize. Even one of my midwifes made the same comment, which I found insulting. I hope DS2 never feels second best as a result.

C&Csmommy I'm completely envious of you fitting into normal clothes. I've reached the stage when I'm feeling fat and frumpy, pregnancy clothes not fitting (also bored rigid of them) but nowhere near fitting into even my bigger normal clothes. Looks like a diet and some form of exercise is needed. How depressing. I've got less than 4 weeks to go until I go on holiday, so must motivate myself.

[kate100]

He didn't manage to repeat it unfortuanately, he woke at around 4, but only or half an hour and then slept on until 7, so I can't complain at all really. He slept nearly all day yesterday no matter what we did to try and keep him awake, so I was surprised that he slpet at all last night, he's been a lot more lively today.

I'd like to try and get into more of a routine now and DS2 is feeding roughly every 3 hours, but sleeoing and bedtime are still a bit hit and miss, I think that he's still a bit young, but I'm trying to get into a bedtime routine so that DH and I can have some time together. It's nice to have a conversation with a grownup who's topics of conversation are more varied than Thomas the Tank Engine and Bob the Builder!!

On the clothes front, I can get into most of my clothes, except for my trousers and straight skirts. I think it's because I couldn't walk when I was pregnant and my things and bum are now massive!! I got the stepper out of the loft at the weekend and actually managed 15 minutes on it this morning and did 20 sit ups, which nearly killed me, where have all the muscles gone!!!!!!!

Three days to go until DS1's cast comes off ..... and counting.

[Miaou]

Very of all you who are back in your pre-pregnancy clothes! I can fit into only one pair of jeans which are a size bigger than I usually wear, and I have to exchange them for trackie bottoms by the end of the day!! Just weighed myself this morning and I am a pound heavier than I was last week, too . However I am desperate to conserve my milk supply so daren't eat less/exercise more in case it has an adverse effect. Have just ordered some more trousers in size 12 as these jeans may have to be lived in for some time yet!

On the baby front - ds is getting better at sleeping longer at night, though he is still feeding twice during the night it is at 3-4 hour intervals. He makes up for it during the day by feeding 2-hourly! And this morning he discovered that his hands can make the babygym toys move - not sure if he was moving his hands on purpose, but he kept smiling and laughing as he bashed them! I had to ring my mum and tell her, I was so excited!

[beachyhead]

Hello from Beachy.....Finally make it to a computer to catch up. Georgie is doing well, last week she was 8lbs 4 ozs so over her birth weight and feeding well. I can't believe I'm actually feeding her myself after failing so badly with the other two. I am giving her a bottle at night though (she admits sheepishly) and she's been sleeping through beautifully from about 9pm to 6am.....Sorry to all those who are having horrible nights.

Weight has gone now, which is great, but only due to having two other children, a 2.5 mile walking school run and lots of stairs in my house.....

Nipples are very sore, but I should buy shares in Lansinoh because its working for me.....

My dh is strangely jealous of the bf thing as Georgie is really uninterested in him and so attached to me - he keeps trying to suggest a bottle which is a bit odd. Anyway life is good and she is a beautiful well behaved baby (this week) Could all change at any time.... see you

[blossom2]

OMG, people are already fitting into their old clothes !! very very . I've still got a couple of kilos to go unfortunately....

[josey]

pre preggers clothes sleeping through the night babies god even to husbands!

beachy im doing the whole bf and bottle thing after beeing so sore dont know how much longer will last with the bf though.

DH was meant to get home end of this week and have heard today they need him to stay could be for up to a further 4 weeks.
DD seems to sleep more during the day and is up to feed every 2 hours at night which is starting to take its tole with a 5year old to get to school entertain and do homework with, he is also starting ot feel the strain of visitors that didnt usually come to the house, like my sil and mil who want to come all the time and just stare at DD wanting her to wake - he told me tonight people only come to visit her and dont like him anymore it broke my heart, so that kind of stopped the row he was about to get for cutting up his curtains!!!! argh since when did they make kiddies scissors so sharp

[Miaou]

josey, dd2 has cut up a load of stuff in her room a couple of weeks ago, all to do with the new baby. We tackled it by giving her more "mummy time" which is bit easier for us than you by the sounds of it! Tell your sil and bil that they have to come and make a fuss of your dsnext time and ignore the baby!

[blossom2]

i'm having the same issues with DD1. although she hasn't directed any behaviour to DD2, she has however started being really naughty to other kids and speaking to me very rudely. I'm hoping its a phase!!

stoped swaddling DD2 last night so i've got real bags under my eyes. she still does have the co-ordination to get her thumb to her mouth yet so woke up loads last night. feeding seems to be going well though, but we'll be introducing a mid-day bottle so that i can use up all the breastmilk in the freezer.

I've no idea what i'm doing and hope everyone is well.

[moschops]

DS had his six week check yesterday and is now 10lb 4oz.....HV had to measure him twice though as he did it and then said 'that can't be right he's in the 99th centile'......so measured him again and yes it was right!!

we were only saying the other day that we'll have to start cutting the feet out of some of his babygro's, i thought i'd shrunk them in the wash but evidently not!

had a better night with ds last night only woke twice to feed.

emotionally drained at the moment as my gran is very ill, and likely to die in the next few days

[josey]

Maiou thanks it makes me feel a bit better - he is ok when its just me him and dd he loves to get involved and he has always been a little grafter and will run about fetching carrying without even being asked, he just cant cope with other people coming in, i mentioned it to sil last night didnt say it was her but just in general and she got all defensive, biggest problem is DS is from previous and its starting to show with DH's family and he cant have a word with them for me till he gets home! (just having a little knock my head off the wall moment) DH saying he bring gifts back etc but dont really want to reward DS for this behaviour incase it encourages him to carry on.

moschops sorry about your gran thinking about you (hugs)

[Miaou]

Josey, ds won't see it as his behaviour being encouraged. It's the old "negative attention" thing - ie, if I can't get attention for just being good, I'll be naughty and get attention. Coupled with the confusion he will be feeling about now having to share you and dh with someone else. dd2 is just the same - adores her little brother, loves to help bath him and change his nappy, and would love to be able to do more (only I won't let her carry him/bath him by herself, she's only 6!) - it's not jealousy per se, but she is finding it hard to adjust to not being the "little one" any more, she's now the middle one.

Tempting as it was to punish her for cutting stuff up, dh encouraged her to talk about her feelings, even if it meant saying "bad" things(in her eyes) like "I don't like having to share" etc. We also make a concerted effort to make sure she gets some time purely with me - she's very girly (unlike me!) so we do hair and makeup and nails etc - as a result her behaviour has improved and so has her self esteem. We have also, for the first time, made a good behaviour sticker chart, which is working wonders for encouraging good behaviour. Not sure how old your ds is (sorry), but perhaps some of this may be of use to you.

Personally I would say that it is one of few circumstances where punishing him will be counter-productive - he could simply see himself as unwanted/bad and it may exacerbate the behaviour.

Sorry, gone on a bit!

[Dazie]

I to am able to fit into pre preggers clothes which has been great as I looked odd in my maternity wear as it had streched sooo much and the trousers kept falling down which was slightly embarassing. I think the long brisk walk to school (as we are usually running late) pushing a double buggy has helped and the constant breast feeding.

Dd is being a bit of a pain Im sure its to do with ds1 going to school and ds2 constantly being fed or held as he doesnt like to be put down. We have managed the cot to bed thing well she loves her new bed and goes straight to sleep when its bed time.

Moschops - so sorry to hear about your gran. Thinking of you!

Beachyhead - Lansinoh is now available on prescription.

[josey]

Thanks Maiou DS is 5 coming on 6 so about the same age as your dd2 - i havent punished him and have encouraged him to like you say talk about things although it seems like bad things in his eyes, its hard for him at mo with dh being away cause they go and play football etc for quality time maybe i should try getting my boots out

[kate100]

Sorry that you're having troubles with your other kids, DS1 is also being a little bit trying. He's so whiny at the moment, I'm trying to be understanding as he's been through a lot, with the new baby and breaking his leg, but it really grates on my nerves. Unfortuantely, he's too young to try any of the things that have been suggested. We have been pretending to put DS2 to bed first and then reading him his story so he has some time with us and also shows him that he's the oldest and gets to stay up for longer.

DS2 slept from 9 until 4:30 this morning, very of you Beachy. I know I shouldn't complain but if he wakes then I've had nearly enough sleep and I can't get back to sleep and then I get tired about teatime. He is gradually waking later in the night for that feed so hopefully he'll sleep til 6 soon when we get up anyway.

I agree with everyone about the walking helping with the weight, especially with the double buggy. I'm gradually getting my fitness back and am able to walk for longer, I'm hardly using any petrol at the moment so I mus be doing lots of walking!!

Moschops, ds2 was born on the 98th centile and has stayed there. People keep saying 'what a big baby' and I want to say 'no he's only little' because to me he is just a tiny baby. However he is growing out of 3-6 sleepsuit and vests, so not that little. Very sorry to hear about your gran.

[blossom2]

DD2 is learning to suck her thumb!!! i'm so happy ....

[colinandcaitlinsmommy]

Sorry about your grandma, moschops.

Having a bit of problems with DS. He's jealous of all the time it takes to BF Caitlin. We've really only had one BAAAD day with him, and he took it out on me, not the baby, fortunately. He pets her and kisses and hugs her. I feel so guilty about having another one when he's only 2 and doesn't totally understand. Fortunately all visitors have been remembering him when they come, and I think he's got more toys because of people not wanting to leave him out than he got for his birthday last month. We have quite the fleet of trucks, tractors, bulldozers, front-end loaders, etc.

She woke up at 2:30 and 7, which is great. It is so nice not to get up every hour on the hour like with DS. I think all my friends are sick of hearing me say that, but I was so tired with him, I was always on the verge of crying all the time until about 5 1/2 months.

[josey]

got a lovely visit last night from DS's old childminder and daughter who are helping me with making him feel heaps better as they are going to take him swimming tonight, it was so nice to see the look on his face when he realised that someone wanted to do something special with him away from babies.

C&Csmommy we seem to have made the same shift DD was up at 2.15 and 6.45 though i felt more tired this morning form a normal sleep homing it will continue that way so i can feel human again DS was an 8 hour a night baby from 1week old so taking bad to this

[josey]

HV has just been in to weigh DD she has gone up to 9lb9oz at just 3weeks old i cant believe how quickly she is growing poor DH will get a big shock when he gets home

[Dazie]

We will be having another visit from the health visitor tomorrow so ds2 should be getting weighed, he was 10lbs 14oz at 3 weeks and I am sure he has put loads more on.

We had to take our double buggy back to mothercare yesterday due to incredibly squeeky wheels. They started the day I used it and got louder it was quite embarassing walking to school, the lolly pop lady could hear me from around the corner! The manager had the cheek to say we should have oiled them I told her not only would that have invalidated my garentee I shouldnt have to after a weeks worth of use on dry flat pavement!! She then went on to say that it might be the weight of my dd, who might I add is very dainty and only weighs a stone and a half. She did eventually give us another one which is all I wanted and a lecture about caring for the wheels. Why is it you cant get good customer service these days and are made to feel like you are in the wrong???

Thats my moan over so far no squeaks and baby is sleeping to and from school soundly so its obviously better!

[kate100]

C&Csmommy, I know how you feel about having another baby when ds1 is still so young himself. he also had lots and lots of toys to when ds2 was born and as his birthday was only 2 days before it was like havin a really extended birthday, then he broke his leg and got even more presents. I'm sure he thinks that people only come to the house to give him presents, he's an expert with wrapping paper now Still the plaster comes off tomorrow which should improve his mood.

Glad that someone is fussing your ds josey, it's such a shame that your dh is missing out, babies grow so quickly too.

DS2 was weighed this morning and he weighs 13lb 12oz, he's gained 4 lbs in the 8 weeks since he was born. He's such a lovely, big, healthy baby and he's got the most lovely smile, unfortuanately I didn't really want to see it for the hour and a half he was awake for last night, oh well.

Been to the hospital about my pelvis this morning as it's still not quite right and the consultant was great and took me very seriously and listened to waht I had to say, which after my recent experiences at the hospital came as a very pleasant surprise. He's referred me back to the physio for strengthening my abdomen and core stability exercises and recommended that I do Pilates. I really rhought he'd tell me that there was nothing that could me done and it would stay as it was so I'm very pleased that I haven't been 'written off' and they are going to do something. Then I have to go back in 6 months time. So if I get some tips on getting a nice flat tummy after childbirth I'll be happy to share them

[K7]

I've got a bit of a dilemma with my August babe. She was born at the end - 25th, and is now only 7lb 13oz. But she's a very sucky baby, always trying to get her fingers in her mouth and gets absolutely hysterical when they escape her. She's still not quite got the co-ordination to keep them in and comfort herself. Yesterday she poked herself in the eye trying to do it and was beside herself. My health visitor says it wouldn't hurt to give her a dummy on these occasions - only tends to happen early evening. She cried for much of the evening last night - I knew it wasn't hunger, wind or nappies - and in the end I did pop a dummy at it soothed her immediatetly. Then she nodded off within five minutes. I'm feeling desperately guilty though...

[moschops]

K7.......don't beat yourself up about the dummy. my friends daughter had the same problem and they gave her a dummy, she eventually lost interest in the dummy as soon as her co-ordination got better. she much prefers to suck her fingers and only for long enough to get herself to sleep.
we are using a dummy for ds and he only uses it when he is really fractious, spits it out as soon as he's comforted.

bad news........my gran died yesterday

family arguments have started already and i'm really mad about it.

[K7]

Thanks for the support, Moschops. My mother-in-law had been saying that dummies were dirty and not be used and I'd been feeling rotten about it. Then again, DH sucked his thumb until he was 10, so perhaps he should have had one. Really sorry about your gran - it's awful when everyone gets upset and starts arguing after something like that - it's the last thing you need. Hope things calm down for you soon.