Oh dear, I now have visions of DP and her mooncup, a sledge, several huskies and JFly giving advice!
Little ducks, sorry but it made me laugh too. I've only ever taken DS to soft play once, that may put me off taking him again.
Right ladies need to vent about CSA and DSD's mum.
We have a claim in with CSA for DSD's. We don't do it for the money, but the principle of making DSD's mum financially responsible for 2 of her children. When she lived in OOP north and was on benefits proper we got £5 a week, the bog basic standard for a NRP (Non-resident parent) on benefits. When she moved back south to live with inlaws (Sep 08) her benefits stopped, and so did the CSA money. She has since that time, had one proper job (for 4 months), several cash in hand jobs, and is now paying for a private rented house. The CSA were extremely slow when she did have a job in getting ti clarified despite us giving them all the information and missed the boat on getting anything from her as she left the job before they caught up with her.
She has been living in a 2 bed house since September 2009 with her youngest DD. The CSA cannot find anything to say she on benefits, so we can't have any money through that avenue, she's not working (ie paying Nat Insurance/Tax), so thats a no go. So how the heck is she paying for rent and other stuff then. I think she is claiming under another name, but thats probably another story!
They keep ringing her, but she never answers (no surprise there then), we've had to supply a photo of her for the investigations team, but still nothing. DH put a complaint about not getting enough information, and they wanted to close it after one call, as they gave him information, which he already knew.
It seems to us that because we are hard working, full time employees chasing a benefit scrounging NRP that it doesn't matter. She never told them about any of her changes in circumstances, but its seems that goes unpunished for her (although the punishment is for us not getting any money)
Thank you rant over.