March 2008 - Now we are two

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New thread idea good jfly!

See what I did, now we are two - for those with new number 2 and expecting number 2.

And all the rest of us who get at least 2 tantrums a day from the 2 year olds.

WOOHOO! fuckface said yes to divorce! Off to solicitor this week!

Oooh congrats turtle!

How are you feeling about it? I will text you back as soon as my phone is charged, I emailed the woman about tomorrow and she didn't get back to me so need to work out if I can just turn up.

I have the worst hangover today, combination of friend having a birthday BBQ, gay pride and clubbing in Soho has left me grumpy allllll day. Looking forward to bed!

Sorry to hear you're finding things tricky at the moment para1st, people keep telling my that the year from 2 to 3 is the hardest so you're definitely not alone. I am not a big fan of playgroups etc either, I do go to galleries, museums, meet up with friends a fair bit though which makes a massive difference.

Off on holiday on Saturday, I am so excited.

Am very very sad that it means there will be no more babies for me unless miracle man comes along. Other than that I am HAPPY!

Just wanted to quickly say thank you all for the replies. Am trying to put things in perspective and feel less alone now.

Hope you are ok turtle you are such a trooper

hi all remember me??

i was 'jaysfinished'.... but obviously i wasn't!!

Due #4 Aug 24th

Crazy Jay! You do know 4madboys is expecting, too. She's due about same time as me in late November. Congratulations, and all that jazz. Do you know what you're having?

PFT, I'm really sorry you're having a rough time. I feel like a shit mum quite a lot of the time. I stay home with DS and don't have any childcare options so I find the drudgery and monotony of toddler wrangling quite stifling at times. I pray for 7pm when DH comes home to do bath and bed. Then I feel guilty for wishing that time away. And DS is a "good boy" so I don't have much to complain about, really.

It didn't make sense for me go back to work financially, and even now there's not much I could do that would equal any return for the expense of childcare. So, I get your pain. I am looking forward to September when DS starts 3 afternoons a week at nursery. It means a bit of a break before DC2 arrives and some stability for DS after baby.

The only thing that keeps me sane is my good group of local mum friends. I second NCT or other parent group. A lot of people poo-poo these orgs, but they can be a lifeline. Even it's just something to kill an hour of the day. And trust me, I spend a lot of energy figuring out a schedule to keep me busy.

And I must say, Turtle, that is good news! It must be a relief to get on with things now.

If this heat ever relents shall we reschedule meetup?

Littleducks- I haven't forgotten Legoland. I still really want to go-when is there a slightly pants day weatherwise?

Hello Jay - I'm about 2 weeks behind you (although only with DC2 and I think then that i will be megisfinished!) How are you doing with this heat? I'm finding it pants, but getting zero sympathy from my mother as she was heavily pregnant with me in the summer of 76 so she trumps me for heat exhaustion...

DS did his first wee in the potty today! Cue as much cheering and applause as two parents who haven't yet had breakfast or their caffeine hit and are late for work can manage! He insisted on tipping it down the loo and flushing it himself, and then ran around like a loon for 5 mins he was so excited All gearing up to nappy cold turkey on Friday. Pray for me cryhavoc - how is it going with Ff?

turtle - good news! I guess you must have felt in limbo while you waited for him to come to this decision. I hope he sticks to this and that you are able to get it sorted soon and move on.

Help me choose, ladies...unreasonable behaviour or adultery? UB is obviously more fitting as it kind of includes cheating...but ADULTERY just sounds so much more dramatic.

I am going shopping to buy new wardrobe. Am feeling much better about myself. Who knew that THIS was what was making me feel so bad?

Good luck to the potty trainers. We are nowhere near ready.

Can you not put both turtle, to emphasise quite how much you deserve the courts to grant this divorce and let you be rid of him?

turtle let me know re LL, and put adultery just so that whoever he meets next is quite clear on that, unreasonable behaviour can be explained away

I'm sorry to hav been lurking but it is all hectic here

I have finished my course and got good results!

I have been accepted onto City University apeech and language therapist training programme and start in Sept.

So now i need to move (northwest london harrow/stanmore area to shorten commute for both me and dh) so thats finding somewhere to rent and physically moving

Find childcare for ds

Find school for dd

And apply for and arrange student bursaries/grants/loans

Its all a bvit daunting now!

well done littleducks, big changes ahead, go knock 'em dead.
Jaysonaroll - congratulations & good to hear from you again!
Cryhavoc, another well done, you'll be bouncing to the Bar on your trampoline all dressed in Pink

Happy divorce process turtle go for adultery and ub if you can, like ld said, too easy to explain away the behaviour one. One of our friends had that on his papers, because he spent too much time in his room on playstation, this was from the wife who spent nights on shifts and when not working went out on the town with her sister picking up men for the free beers.

Sat my hypno exam last week, got another week or 2 to wait for the results & in the meantime am busy avoiding writing up the content of the new website. No idea why, may need to hypno myself into productivity. Quite excited though that another hypnotherapist friend living miles away is going to do trial of hypno over skype with me (well, we're doing on each other) for weight loss, as then I can cover international clients as well as locals
All relatives still alive & unchanged progress.
Nursery decided E was ready for potty training, very hit and miss so far, more miss than hit. Luckily his gran is getting the brunt of the cleanups.
E is decidedly not a genius, though at least he'll now count from 1 to 5 instead of skipping 2-4 and counting 1, 5 then 6-10. Has no idea on alphabet, even if he did they'd probably knock it all out of his head again when he starts school with that damned phonics stuff.

Good scan today. Everything normal and "average" which is quite alright by me. Relieved to have a ticking heart, TBH!

Congrats on all study-related successes. I'm very impressed with all the learnitude going on here.

Turtle, I agree with the adultery vote. It's a very clear and undeniable statement. "Unreasonable" is kind of wishy washy and easily dismissed by the other party. Good to be clear about what happened, even if it seems like some sort of formality.

Meg you are crazy with the potty training! DS is nowhere near ready; he scoots around on the potty fully clothed - backwards. Uh yeah, we will be waiting. Although he does point out weeing and pooing and demonstrates with various toys. So, I think he "gets" it on some level, but he has not connected with the potty itself.

Urgh, I am hot hot hot. Sticking to the furniture is not fun.

great news littleducks and jfly!

Yes, i am crazy, jfly - just wanted to try him before baby arrives and this is the only window. morning was hit and miss, this afternoon was great - he even went and weed on potty of his own accord without any prompting, and if there was an accident would tell me straight away and help me clear up etc. but then this evening we had a hideous incident involving me taking my eyes off him for 10 mins downtime while he was playing with his trains, and he got so engrossed that he didn't notice the poo that he was smearing around and then when he did he started to try to scoop it up with his digger... Cue 7 months pregnant mum, trying not to scream/shout/cry while chasing pooey boy and digger with cloths and towels, and then having to clean poo off train set, play mat and floor...

I just keep reminding myself that there were many glimmers of hope during the day.

Wow, many, many congratulations needed!
Jaysfourth That's lovely news, congratulations.
Jfly Great to hear the scan went well.
Littleducks That's fab, very well done. Moving must be quite a daunting prospect though? Can we fit in another Henley meet before you go?
Turtle Excellent news. And I second everyone else who has told you to cite adultery. Have you seen a solicitor yet?

meg I feel your pain, I really do. I have admitted defeat and she is back in nappies. Turns out that while she seemed perfectly able to tell me she wanted to go when the nappy was on, and more than happy to use the potty when bribed, cajoled and fed jelly babies, taking the nappy off and using a potty everytime was quite another thing. She just doesn't care about being wet/dirty, and either isn't recognising the urge until too late or is far to busy to let a little thing like needing a wee stop whatever mission she is currently on.

I was happy to persevere until day 3, when, with no regard at all for Mummy's hangover virus she took herself into the tent (in the living room), past the potty and did a huge poo next to Upsy Daisy's bed. Nappies went back on (and she barely noticed). Going to try again when we get back from holiday at the start of August.

Paranoid I suppose I still think of myself as SAHM really, as despite the freelancing and studying I am still here with Ff most of the time. And this age is really tough. All I can say is to persevere withthe playgroups - at this time of year you'll probably find most of the 'old guard' will be leaving for pre-school etc, so there might well be some other new face joining. I loathed the group on the camp when we first started going, but made one good friend, which led gradually to mixing more with the rest of the group. Try and get involved with snack preparation, or put the kettle on maybe - that's how I got talking to other mums at the group.

I still can't believe the run of good weather. It makes parenting soooo much easier. The £2.50 Asda paddling pool has paid for itself 1000 times over - Ff will spend up to an hour at a time splashing around with Peppa and George, then stand for twenty minutes chatting to them as they hang on the line by their ears.

cryhavoc - i'm giving DS one more day but at the moment I'm expecting we'll abandon it. He is very happy to sit on the potty when we suggest it, if he wees there he helps flush it down the loo and washes his hands, gets excited by stickers and chocolate buttons etc. and he loves wearing big boy pants and solemnly says "no more nappies mummy. pants only". And if he has an accident he stops and tells me what he's doing while it's happening so I can clean it up. But he doesn't seem to have made that link in his head yet about what he feels just before the wee/poo and what he feels as it's happening so it's all accidents or on potty by chance, and there has been no progress on this since we started on Friday. It's a shame - I think he is probably only a monthish away from being really ready but that coincides with the baby and it just isn't fair on him to force it that close. So if no progress tomorrow then I think nappies back on and leave it until the baby and he are settled in the autumn, unless of course he asks to do it. I have a friend whose older DDs both asked to potty train the week the new baby came home, as they were big girls now, and I'm half expecting DS to do the same...

Do I beat the record for least tolerant potty training mum? E refused to sit on the potty early Sat am, stood up and promptly emptied his bladder on the floor. I thought "sod this" and stuck a nappy back on again.

Back to leaving it to nursery and granny to sort out for me

My son was born on Friday afternoon!

We are both doing well and are happily nesting at home. The birth went well in the end although had to abandon my homebirth 36 (!) hours after water broke and I wasn't 'progressing' past 4-5 cm. He was born 2 hours after we drove to the hospital...

DD is slowly coming round to loving him I think, he gets a few more smiles and cuddles every day from her although for the most part its life as usual for her.

Will catch up soon with thread but big hello to all!

HUGE congratulations cff! Does he have a name yet?

I am in Spain and it's lovely!

Any room for me on your 'broody' sun lounger Ewe?

Welcome to the world CFF's DS.

Saw this link another thread and thought it may interesting for us too.

www.statistics.gov.uk/statbase/Product.asp?vlnk=15282

It has a page about all the first names given by parents in 2008. DS (Luke) shares his name with 2,580 other boys.

Pascal was one of 10 that year.

Congrats on the baby boy! I have to admit that I too am BROOOOOOOOOODY. And that is ridiculous as I am divorcing and have an 8 month old.

Congratulations CFF!

Edwyn was one of 5, and I'm rather narked that my DH has already seen this since he works in the stats office - he didn't even tell me it was there!

Oh, and I'm officially a DCHyp now, and possibly a GQHP MSBST...that'll never all fit on a business card!

DP - But it would be a high scoring scrabble word !

Congratulations CFF! Lots of love to you and your family.

Thanks for the link, Timmy. I love stats like that. Bloke and I have just spent ages going through the list discussing all of Ff's possible names. It's really odd to think now that she was so nearly Hannah, Zoe or Alexandra. Ffion was such a late addition to our shortlist (post water-break) but she IS Ffion. It's bizarre to think of her as anything else.

She is one of 294 Ffions - I'd love to see the full list for JUST England because that total is obviously mostly from Wales.

Well done, DP!