November 09 babies are growing up quick, and mummy's getting used to getting covered in sick!

[PreggoK8]

Hope this has worked...

Glad you are coping Ursi. I've done it a few times now and have found it very tiring. DH is away again end of the month, another 4 day stint on my own.

The last 2 days, DS1 has been with his Nan and Dad. I've had a bit more freedom and rest! I've got a day on my own with the kids tomorrow and then DH is home on mon & tues and he's taking both DS's off my hands for a few hours. I could see the stress he was under just looking after both DS's this morning whilst I took a shower. I think DH needs to realise that he can't go about his own business, fixing his computer, playing on line chess, when both DS's are wide awake and need entertaining!! We had a few words and I took off with DS2 and spent the morning out of the house. It's so infuriating!!

I thought I had got away with minimal hair loss post pregnancy.. The last few weeks It's got really bad and I dread brushing or washing it as it coming out in clumps! Anyone else with this problem? Had this with DS1 so I knew it would happen but hoped not as bad

I'm finding it hard to keep up with the thread. Hope you are all having a lovely weekend

Okay... So am in tears at the thought of not having Bryn with me tonight... Am so excited about this evening, but also absolutely petrified.

Going to try and read through everything when I'm not so twitchy! But I had a dream about a big picnic with everyone last night Hope you're all okay.

Completely natural to feel like that Erika and you will relax a bit once you have had a drink are out

Fruit I know what you mean. DH has never had the 2 dcs on his own yet - a disgrace I know! I am going out with my sisters in a fortnight and staying over with them so it'll be interesting to see how he gets on! I think it may open his eyes a bit.

Hope you have a lovely evening erika you deserve it.

ursi sounds like you are coping brilliantly, just don't tell that to your dh so he thinks he has some making up to do!

fruit i'm with you on the hair loss, it's frightening the amount that comes out in the shower! I have long thick hair so when it comes out it seems like a lot anyway but am hoping it slows down soon as around my hairline it looks a bit thin. I had this with ds too but don't remember it being quite this bad!

dh took both kids to the supermarket this morning to give me a break, Millie cried a lot and dh had to cuddle her at the checkout whilst some one packed the bags for him! I had a lovely morning to myself. I also got a much needed lie-in as Millie and ds have both been getting up loads this week and I am exhausted. Actually, I think dh deserves some sort of prize as he is cooking me dinner tonight as well and is missing a stag do this weekend. He's not bad is he?! Got steak and chips tonight followed by chocolate cheesecake, yum yum!

Am quite jealous of all you cinema goers, how can I find out if there is a big scream in my area?

Hope everyone is having a nice weekend...

Helips most of the odeons seem to do it as "newbies". If you check their online listings it's a Tue morning in this neck of the woods.

Erika relax and enjoy! It's worth the initial uncertainty for the joy when you're reunited!!

thanks for all your support, ladies! I think the key thing is going to bed really early to get as much sleep as I can.
helips, don't worry, I will certainly not tell him that it wasn't that bad.

fruit, did you get thicker hair during pregnancy and now you are just loosing that again?
I have rather the opposite problem. During pregnancy I had the impression that the hair on my legs was growing less or slower... sadly we are back to normal.

I need your advice: As I mentioned, Paula and I are working on the falling asleep on her own thing and it does work sometimes. But sometimes, she seems to be really nerveous, sucking as many finger as she can get in and she ends up vomitting a little bit. For the nap this morning I tried once again to offer her a dummy... and she vomitted as far as the foot end of the basket! I don't think that is worth it but obviously I want her to be a bit more independent. (I think her waking up hourly is because she can not go back to sleep on her own anymore). So I don't know whether I should continue or delay it a couple of weeks. Maybe she just needs more time

Happy Valentines Day Ladies!

Erika Hope you had a good night!

The hair loss worries me as it never fully came back after DS1. I didn't really notice it getting thicker in pg this time around but I'm sure it must have been. Oh well, I think plenty of haircuts to keep it healthy and lots of conditioner. I've stopped straightening my hair (well don't have time anyway!) My DH keeps complaining about the plug hole being bunged up with my hair after each shower!

Ursi I found with DS1 he needed something to cuddle up to and be comforted by. I gave him a muslin square and he loved it against his face and in his hands. As he got older it became his bedtime blankie and he would brush it on his nose (still does when he feels like it). He was a bit older at around 6 months when I started to self settle him, so maybe something a bit smaller for Paula for the time being. My two are dummy lovers and it seems that DS2 loves the feel of his blanket in his hands or next to his face.

On my own until 7.30 tonight. DH is going to Waitrose and buying a valentine meal to cook for me

For those who have older sons, Scarlotti and I think Wook, I've been having some turbulent days with my 4 yr old DS at late. I read an interesting theory about testosterone surges in 4 yr old boys. All that I've read has matched DS1's recent behaviour changes. Was wondering if you had/have noticed a change in your DS's character around this time. He seems much better the last 2 days as his had more one to one with Dad and Nanny, and lots of fresh air. I think we'll be down the park come rain or shine during half term break!

I say on my own but I meant with both DC

Fruit, she does love cuddeling her sheep or a muslin square ... and being brushed under the nose. But she is not yet good at holding things so she usually ends up with it over the whole face and crying. So I can't give it to her unsupervised.
I actually think it is too early for her to self settle. Just the way she nervously sucks all her fingers is a bit sad for me. I really want her to be able to fall asleep without my nipple though. And I would like to wake up less than 7 times at night. (This night was pretty bad again). She used to be very regular 3 hourly, then we had a period of once 5-6 hours. And suddenly she wakes up almost every hour. And I do not really know why, but I think the addiction to my breast makes it now impossible for her to go back by herself (which she used to do at night)
I'm not too tired as I go to bed with her to make sure I'll get lots of little naps. I just thought it would get better not worse

erika, I hope you had a lovely evening.

Sorry Ursi it sounds like a struggle. I felt this way in the early weeks and gave in to the dummy which done the trick, but I know the downside will be when he loses it through the night, but still too young to find it. DS1 would have me up several times a night plonking his dummy back in. Best thing you can do is go to bed early. I do this when DH is away, I go to bed the same time as the kids. My only way of surviving. Sorry I've got no great tips for you. I do agree its too young to self settle and she obviously loves being close to you and the milk! This time around I have found it harder to get baby off to sleep in the day without falling asleep on the nipple. My saviour has been a swing that rocks him to sleep during the day. I will cross that bridge when I have to get him in the cot for his daytime naps, atm it's too early for that. Maybe you DH can give her a bottle of expressed milk for the last feed of the eve and get her used to being off your boob. My DH does this with a formula top up and it gives us a good 5hrs break.

Happy Valentine's Day everyone! Anyone doing anything romantic? I've just had some flowers delivered

PS DS3 is three months today yeah! He's also cutting his first tooth already - I can feel it. And I am sleeping much better (despite disruptive nights - DS3 has really bad eczema and it itches him a lot at night and his tooth might be bothering him too perhaps) So I feeling much, much brighter. I've come to the realisation that I can cope with sleep deprivation and ironically that has made me sleep better.

I haven't been here much recently but hope to pop in more often now. I do read what the rest of you are up to though. Can you believe our little ones are 3-4 months old now?

Hi, I must try to keep up with this thread (i'm LissyGlitter btw)

My little Emmeline is getting massive now, no idea how much she weighs as haven't been to baby clinic once yet! I missed the appointment for her jabs, really must get that sorted asap.

DD1 is still totally besotted with her baby sister, which is good, although I am finding it hard to type with them both sat on me! Btw, DD1 says she wants to say hello to all my friends on the computer, so, Hi from DD1!

Eek, looks like babies are teething and rolling over- I thought it was a few months off.

I'm having trouble keeping up too, I'm just flat-out nowadays with DH based in the US. DS 1 gets up at 6.30 am and DS 2 wakes at 9, and then DS 1 goes down at 7.30 pm while DS 2 goes to sleep at 10 pm. This is good because they both get 'alone time' with Mummy for a few hours of every day, but knackering for me - especially as DS 1 has abandoned his afternoon nap for the last week, while the baby isn't napping for more than half an hour at a stretch. No more messing about on the internet for me...

I can't believe the poor babies teething already, it must be so hard dealing with them! DS 1 didn't crack his first tooth until seven and a half months, and then I could give him cold apple chunks tied in a muslin to gnaw on.

Arthur grabbed my glasses off my face for the first time this morning, and then got the giggles at my indignation. He is the funniest baby - he seems to be wildly ticklish and easily amused, so he's chortling away when I'm just trying to change his clothes or pick him up. He's still just rolling the one way (back to front) and getting stuck and flapping away crossly, bless him.

For Valentine's Day, I got macadamia nut chocolate, body butters from the Body Shop and a thin silver daisy-chain necklace. Am feeling very smug. I don't usually make a big fuss about V Day, but well, when I'm having to act as solo parent most of the time so his career can take off, it's nice to get the odd gesture of appreciation.

BBL, glad to hear that your sleep problem is getting! And that it got better by accepting it.
fruit, tried dummy and bottle. None are working. She likes playing with dummy and mummy, I put it in, she pushes it out (doesn't get the idea how to use it). Last time she got so excited about it that she was not only completely awake again but also projectile vomitting. Similar with bottles. first she plays with it but as soon as MY milk is coming out of it she starts screaming. We still try sometimes but I guess it is just not worth it and I have to wait for this problem to be solved when I can introduce solids. The annoying thing is that she had taken the first two bottles without any problems and I was soooo happy about it: no problems with breastfeeding, no problems to express and no problems with bottles... until day 3.
Ok, have to go, Paula just woke up and cries

Fruit a testosterone surge might explain the current fascination with superheroes for a start! Also ds1 is much more interested in being around his dad and gets furiously jealous when dad is with Hedy, whereas he's now used to me having to give Hedy so much time. Yesterday morning dh was giving H her Saturday am bath instead of playing superheroes with ds and ds was NOT happy!

My half term survival plan essentially consists of holding out until mum gets here on Wednesday

I discovered a way to make H laugh that doesn't involve being covered in poo- she loves the song '(bounce baby on knee) Hedy is a jumping bean, the biggest bean I've ever seen, she can jump so (lift baby in air) high, she can almost reach the sky' When she's up high she laughs like crazy. So relieved she has a sense of humour (she'll need it in this family)

BBL there was an interesting article about sleep in either yesterday or today's Times, can't remember which it was. About effects of sleeplessness. I also read something else in the Times about sleep being a feminist issue but can't remember why it was supposed to be one- everything is just in my brain and straight out again these days.(Want to stop buying the Times as they are so mean to Gordon Brown - don't have any great love for him but can't stand the bullying- but what is the alternative??)

Took ds to see the film Ponyo yesterday for those of you with older dcs. It was a really charming film with incredible animation. reminded me of things like Cities of Gold that used to be on telly when I was little.

Erika hope you night out was brilliant.

URsi Hedy has also begun to be more wakeful at night. Really she seems to feed almost continuously from 4am but because she's in with me it's not really disturbing me too badly- however by 7 am I feel pretty drained. I suppose she's really still far too young for baby rice or anything so I'm just going to have to go with it. Maybe it's their teeth? I agree with you that they are still a bit young to self settle, without angst on all sides anyway!

Wook DS1 also fascinated by superheros, esp Spiderman. The behaviour always gets worse when DH is home. He is a good kid and its taken me by shock that he can act so out of character. The arrival of a new brother and being 4 yrs old seems to be a confusing time for him.

It seems our little babies are becoming very comical and enjoying all the interaction. DS2 was in his new bath earlier and he (someone else mentioned this) was kicking so hard that it was splashing the water all over the place, he was loving it. Also he's loving tickles and kisses on the neck. Lots of giggles and smiles, its wonderful

Ursi You are doing a great job. Won't be long now until the weaning begins.

thanks fruit. DH is back, playing with Paula and watching TV! I had already my bath.
About our little ones laughing at us: The other day, I was dancing in front of Paula to entertain her and she started to cry! I am not that bad!!! (I tried again and now she is laughing everytime I do it)

I'm having a glass of champagne

Hello! Happy valentines day to you all....

Ursi hope all is well in solo land..you sound like you're coping extremely well ...we;re proud of you!!!

Had my MIL here for a week and i tell you I've never worked so hard..pleased that she is off tomorrow and I get to sort my life out..

Fruit hairloss tastic here too..clumps of it and Charlotte keeps pulling it out!!! What a mare...are you doing anything?

Charlotte waking at 2.30am every morning now and its sooo tiring. She was great 2 weeks ago and now this..not a tooth in sight but I'd better look again. Today I held her for 4 hours till she slept..she's just unsettled for a week or so. Must be a phase they are going through. Tamlin Charlotte also has started not napping..its a nightmare. and so tiring.

So sweet your los are smiling so much.. Charlotte gives me a flash once in a while but def not a smiley baby.. I Love her so much though which surprises me. Maybe its because she's so much like me..and she's my last..doesn't make her less tiring tho!!

anyway got to go and re wash the dishes my MIL just washed..

I'm having a chinese Would love champagne though...might send DP out on a mish to the corner shop, although I doubt they will have it.

Hey all,

Hope you're well. I had a lovely night, though cried several times before I had enough wine to relax I missed Bryn so much, but had a lovely time, and it did me the world of good. Had a really nice meal with some of DPs friends, then we went for a few drinks by ourselves before wobbling heading home. Had to get up several times to express as my boobs were approaching maximum density though

Struggling with memories today though. Had an argument with DP yesterday (was having a bit of a freak out, and I know I over reacted) and said some stuff that had never occured to me before. Then I realised, "Christ that's exactly what the problem is." But hey. Can't have it all.

Bryn apparently slept for nine hours last night NINE HOURS. On the night I wasn't here. Little tyke

Happy Valentines day all, am sending you online flowers and chocolates for being such a wonderful group of mothers and friends.

Morning. Ugh since Isaac got a cold over two weeks ago he's been waking up at 2/3/4am every day totally blocked up unable to breathe. Any ideas what I can do? He's fine during the day and once he's been up a few hours. I've tried saline spray / nose sucker before bed /rubbing snufflebaby and using karvol on a tissue. Will try anything!

Sleepless I wish there was a magic cure for the hair loss. I find my hair all over the house and its driving me mad. It makes me want to weep when I see clumps I think there are supplements you can buy but not sure if they can be taken when bf. It's just another part of having a baby that we're not told about! I'm going to have a a good haircut and go a bit shorter in the hope it helps a bit.

Lemon Same problem here. I think we would have more hours of sleep if it wasn't for the snuffles. It seems to start at around 2am as well. You are doing everything that we are. Can you raise the head of his mattress with a towel? We have a baby hammock which is on a incline and I'm sure that helps him breathe easier.

Erika Hope you manage to sort things out today with DP. Well done to Bryn!

Butterpie Lovely to see you back

Ursi Hope you had a nice evening with DH and you got some rest.

Tamlin Is DH away for long periods of time? You are doing so well. I know how tiring it is just being on your own for a week!

No champers here. I've not had a glass of alcohol for over a year. I will be such a light weight when I do get around to drinking a glass of vino. We had a lovely meal and watched Corrie (which we recorded) and then I went to bed! Not very romantic but it was nice to make a bit of effort.

fruit, my lovely evening was going to bed really early

We had a better night this time, hopefully we are going back to three hours (sad, that I am already happy with that, isn't it) and actually my husband changed her nappy at around 4 and put her into the cot afterwards to go to the loo. As she did not complain at all we just left her there. She wasn't even nervous or anything. I then fell asleep and she did too, as I hope without being anxious. So there is some progress after all.