May Toddlers - still toddling along!

[helsy]

Oi! Over 'ere!

I'm using my sick leave well and have just booked a holiday in Oban - we're going to see Balamory and sea eagles, hopefully.

DD has jam very occasionally. The odd half a slice of toast after school. Or sometimes if we have soup and bread and she has a bit of bread left over I will spread jam on it. That's rare because she is much more likely to eat the bread and leave the soup. She is not all that fussy but her appetite has reduced a lot and I think she has been off her food over the weekend due to heavy cold/conjunctivitis/teething.

spots, DD has a slice of toast and jam on the weekend. I guess your friend doesnt like it because of the sugar content. But everything in moderation as my mum always says, that way you arent going to have a child who sees sweets etc and gorges on them because they werent allowed them as a younger child.

hello all. sorry not been around for aaaages but had broadband probs. have tried to catch up on goss... is prufrock really due this month, am i missing something? i didnt know she was pg! we're still ttc. am hopeful this month - having some odd twangs but we'll see. am having progesterone and fsh/lh bloodd tests this cycle to see just what is going on so....

dd is wonderful but such hard work. mummy and only mummy will do. dh doesnt get a look in and hence i dont get a break. she cries if i walk away and tries so hard to get away from him.. horrid. apart from that she is chatting away in her own little sentences that contain a couple of recognisable words, so you can guess the gist of it. she says a LOT of words very clearly. counted nearly 200 about 3 weeks ago.... that's a bit pedantic i know. i was at my mums and so had some TIME TO MYSELF!! argh

i'm doing a bit of supply teaching at the mo. maybe 3 or 4 days a month thats all, but not really enjoying it so am looking at some courses so i can do something from home instead. any ideas? was thinking of book keeping but thats a bit boring really

when are all you mums to be again due?

oh an dd's absolute favourite food is scrambled eggs. when i want to make sure she eats something (cos she is a crap eater on the whole) i give her that. she never leaves a splodge

I'm definitely sure its not prufrock that is due - think it might have been the other "p" - ponka.

DD is staying at MILs tonight because I am working 4 short days this week because DS's CM is on holiday. It is a bit of a nightmare really with the logistics. I have a flexible benefits package at work and I am trying to persuade DH that I should "buy" a week's holiday for the year from April. For about £20 a month less take home pay I can have an extra 3 days (ie a week in my terms) holiday.

DD sounds a bit like your DD on the talking front Egypt. Might try to count if I have a quiet spell at work tomorrow. I took DD to a birthday party this afternoon and I was weighing up whether to have her party there (small soft play place) or at home. DH thinks soft play, I think home. Hmmm...

Lovely to hear from you Egypt, was wondering how the TTC was going. Will be keeping my fallopian tubes crossed for you.

Yes it's Ponka who's expecting, not Prufrock! we are both due on the 6th April. Poor DD will have her own birthday rather gazzumped for the rest of her life I fear. What we will be capable of this year is anybody's guess.

Those of you who have 2: I am wondering what you did about telling the older one when you were going into hospital? I hate the idea that DD might wake up to find me gone. But my labour with her was quite short. Seems crazy to wake her up to tell her if I have to go in at 4am or whatever, but a part of me thinks I ought to. But then logically it seems ridiculous. am torn.

Spots - I didn't want DD to see me in pain because I knew I wouldn't be able to hide it and I wouldn't be able to have her near me. If I had gone into labour in the night, we had a friend on standby to come and sleep at our house until in-laws arrived. As it was, I went into labour at about 5am, phoned in laws at 7.30am and they made it over just before 9am. Until then, I stayed in our bedroom pacing the floor, whilst DH breakfasted and dressed DD and then stuck a video on for her. In laws picked up DD and took her over to their house - daddy explained that the baby was coming and she was going on a lovely holiday with grandma and grandpa whilst we were in the hospital. I ended up with emergency section so DD stayed chez ILs for about 5 days, coming to see us and new DS on the 2nd day in the hospital. She was fine about it all, went back with them quite happily which gave us chance for a few days alone with DS.

I would be definitely wary of waking up a sleeping child and confusing them in the middle of the night. When DD was born I had various contingency plans dependent on when I went into labour - day or night, midweek or weekend. In the end I was very lucky as I had a quick/easy (obviously relative term!) labour. I started at about 2.45 am. Rang for midwife and PILs at about 6.45. Then we got DS up to have his breakfast and get ready for PILs to take him. But events overtook us. The midwife arrived at 7.25, DS was sat in front of Tweenies video and DD was born at 7.45 before PILs arrived. So basically we used the TV as a babysitter. PILs and second midwife arrived shortly and they took DS out in the garden and played with him while I had a bath and was tidied up etc. Then he got to meet his baby sister before they took him off for the day.

It was totally not what I intended but worked out really well.

Egypt, your DD sounds like ours at the moment. Shes v clingy and wont let DH do anything for her. Im the one who has to dress her, get her a yougurt, play with her etc. If I dare to leave the room Im quickly followed by her shouting mummy and wanting to be carried. Its v tiring as I seem to spend all my time with her carrying her about or trying to amuse her long enough to do the dishes etc.
Id love to have a wee on my own

I find that DH gives up very easily when dd1 only wants me especially if I'm making tea or something, so I take a hard line and insist he takes her, and if he does it right she is ok - generally she just needs to be distracted. Doesn't always work, of course.

When dd2 was born I went in at 12.30am (far too early, as it turned out) so we had a neighbour on standby who came over and slept downstairs until DM arrived to give breakfast and so on. Dd1 came to se me in the afternoon with DM and DH and DM stayed for another two days, mainly to entertain dd1. She was 4, though, so possibly not as much of a problem with me not being there when she woke up as she knew I'd be going into hospital to have the baby.

its obviously important to try not to change the oldest child'd routine as much as possible, even though mummy isn't there. my friend, who lives around the corner, is due any day. her mum is an hour away. so, until her mum arrives tomorrow i'm on standby. that way, if she goes into labour in the night i can go and sleep at her's and get her ds up in the morning. he's 2. then her mum will drive when it's light enough and take over. i guess i'll go round if it happens in the day too, until her mum gets there. hoping i'll not be needed!

Hmm helsy I think my DH is lazy about entertaining DD sometimes. It's funny because DD really loves DH and misses him when he is working away but certain times she will just follow me around.

DH doesnt do much either and uses the excuse that its me she wants.
His idea of entertaining is to be watching TV while DD plays in the same room! Then he moans if he doesnt see her on the weekend

are we married to the same man kbaby?!

just this morning i was making porridge with dd balanced on the worktop playing with the teapot and butter. ........ dh watching sky sports...

he tried to play with her a bit, but she's not interested and runs to get me. so he gives up and that's that. then he moans that she'd rather be with me or my mum ( who plays with her non-stop). hmm, wonder why.

Actually DD is playing really well without me today with......

....DS. But that's great too. They've got tons of playbmobil and toy food out in DS's bedroom.

While I took DS to his swimming lesson this morning, DH took DD to the garden centre to buy me a lemon tree (not sure if it is for my birthday or Mother's Day but DH rubbish at secrets). Anyway I said "you do realise that they don't have any trolleys you can put DD in, don't you". And he was like "well what am I supposed to do then". So I said that he could either take her pushchair or make her walk and told him where the reins were - like that is not fairly obvious.

Bozza I get the daft questions off DH as well.
If he takes DD anywhere he always asks if Ive packed a drink and nappies, er no when im not taking her anywhere! has he packed a drink and nappy?
And my all time favorite, 'what time do I give her dinner? me 'dinner time' what silly question is that.

Shes finally better after weeks of being ill and is starting to leave my side for 5 mins now. Still waking at night though. Its so funny listening to her talk or sing to herself when playing. She comes out with some strange things.

you're coping so well kbaby considering you've another on the way and she's still waking at night........

any news from ponka and spots????

oh, on the ttc front, i've got my test results back, and they're exactly the same as b4 dd, not ovulating. so have clomid tablets. basically for those not in the know, they stimulate your ovaries to produce eggs. its just the lowest dose so hopefully not more than one egg produced! but worked first time last time. need to wait til i come on to start them, so not for a couple of weeks. bbuuuuuutt, dh will prob be away during 'the' time, so i may have to wait til the month after. never going to happen is it?!

Don't feel like that Egypt - it will only be one more month...before you can try again and you've got good previous history from the sounds of it. My friend had a miscarriage 2 years ago and more since then including one when I was pregnant with DD and she is currently in labour so there is hope. Our 3.3 year gap is working quite well atm. DS and DD really playing together.

DS got a new bike today so I took DD to the toy shop to choose a toy so that she is not left out. She has got a fairy princess kit - net skirt, wand, tiara, ring, necklace, bracelet, earrings, bag and ........ toy shoes - you know, thsoe plastic sparkly mules. Anyway DH is disapproving of me letting her have them, but she is always playing in them at my friend's house.

Aaah, classic DH behaviour:

Me(in kitchen doing something, usually involving hot pans and steam)with dd2 following me grabing my legs and crying, while DH reads paper in living room): Can you come and get dd2?
DH: DD2, come here!
Me: Could have done that myself!
DH: DD1, go and get dd2 from the kitchen!
Me: You lazy sodding git come and get her!
DH: Well, if you're going to be like that Im going upstairs.
Dd2 Daddy - gone? (Puts hands in the air in a puzzled fashion).

Anyone got birthday plans yet?

LOL helsy.

Birthday plans - well DD is on 15 May which is a Monday so we will be having a party here on the Sunday afternoon. May hire a bouncy castle in the vain hope of steering festivities garden-wards. I have ordered her a white and green birthday dress off LaRedoute.

Presents are more tricky because there is not much we haven't got. I was thinking about getting a Baby Annabel or equivalent. And maybe the little pram that is £15 in ELC or get somebody to get her that. Also need ideas for a cake.

She is off nursery today with a temperature and no appetite and is currently asleep.

hope she's feeling better soon bozza.

lol helsy!

my sister is here at the moment, so dd is quite entertained. it's lovely. dh working late tonight so will have a nice girly night in - watching the soaps and eating.

dd's bday is on 28 may, which is the day after my step fils, so will end up having a joing 'do' i fear. dh has to go to uni on the sun (28th) so will end up having a bbq i expect like last year, on the sat (fil's bday) with the entire world at our house. hhhummmm.

joinT 'do' !

Not sure what to do for DD's birthday, She quite likes the trampolines so we may get her the baby one. Dh was on about having a bar b q but it was freezing last year when we did it and I also think its just an excuse so he can get pi**ed.
Helsy- LOL that sounds just like our house. DD can be crying in the same room as him and if I come in and say 'whats wrong with her' I get 'nothing she just wants you' while hes glued to the telly grrhhh..
We were out shopping on Saturday and she kept climbing some stairs anyway
DH said to her ' come on were going now'
DD ' Go away dada'
DH ' Come on'
DD 'Mark stop nagging'
I had to turn away bacuse I was laughing too much. She also told him later on that he was bossy!

She has started to tell you that she wants her nappy changing all the time. So Ive got the potty out but she wont sit on it because its too cold. How am I going to train her if she wont sit on the potty or a toilet seat?

Bribery for the training? LOL at the "Mark stop nagging". Classic, that one. Took DD to an outlet place last week, decided not to bother with the pushchair, went in X-Zara and the next thing I know she is climbing a stepladder saying "slide, slide".

DD back at nursery today. Was up in the night between 3 and 4 though. Not sure what is the matter, but wondering about a UTI because nappies are smelly, so have been giving her cranberry juice and will see how she is. Yesterday evening she was running around like a mad thing sword fighting with DS, soaking the bathroom splashing in the bath etc so a bit up and down.