October 2007 - these little piggies are growing up fast!

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Ok so a pretty boring thread title but thought we needed some distance from the last one!

Okay guys I tried catching up on the last 5 pages but boy of boy.... when do you ladies get time to catch up. So some of my message below might be slighty out of date. Apologies

Hi All

Floria Thank you very much for such a compliment... There were times that I used to think that I "want too much". But no woman wants too much or at least most women just wants a guy to respect them....
I dont know if Aaliyah would be able to sit through a movie yet.... When we went into the Disney shop nothing interested her really because she is not into Disney as yet... its more Dora, Fifi and Peppa Pig and still some Cbeebies. She did however walk out with a hoover that makes load of noise and the Frog from "Princess & the frog" because its a frog and she loves her animals.
She is also suddenly scared of the shower and bath and especially to wash her hair.... Try and bribe her daily and sometimes just do it with her screaming anyway when I am running late....

Dal love your bump... dont think I looked as good when I was expecting

Inzi ..... how did it go with Jane at your parents house

NC I think you should make sure that DD1's dad doesnt take her to the pub... you right she is 9 and the things they pick up at these places are not nice. And when does he spend proper time with her if all he does is sit in the pub. Scare him by stopping the visitsand obviously if DD1 is okay with it.

Muppetgirl you picking up right about a reconcilliation between DH and me... will put more at the bottom of my long message.

Belgian Welcome sorry if I missed you last time.I have a DD, Aaliyah 2 years and 4 months now. Little monkey that she is.

NC I can understand how it would make you go off sex. I went off sex when I started having arguments with DH and his behaviour towards me. Its like I cant be turned on no matter how hard I tried until I know that you are the man that I at least liked. So while I didnt like him I couldnt have proper sex with him. Or more so I didnt and couldnt enjoy it. We are women unlike some men that doesnt need a lot to get it going.

WWAJC & NC No offense taken.. yes I am still a single mum as DH has his own flat still and until he has proven to me that he is changed then I will call myself Mrs again.... lol

Muppet Loved the photos of Tobias doing press-ups. He should have been our instructor at last weeks Boxercise

Strawberrylace glad that you recovered and that the hospital treated you well.

Babyblue Welcome and sorry if I missed you on here as well. If you dont mind have added u on facebook as well and hopefully get to know you better soon.

Floria Hope Operation no boobies are getting better and LOL about "Wake him up" so cute

Choc; oohh I do hope you get the funding for the theatre co. it sounds like a fab idea.
Great news about Darehs start at potty training. Lol at the potty song :-) I wish Alex would sleep through more regularly, you would never believe how much room such a tiny person can take up....or how many elbows and knees they can deploy.

So just on update with whats happening in my world.

Me & DH are still slowly trying to work through things. Its been more than a month that he has been off his weed. and he even has a glow on his face again. However he gets these panick attacks every now and then. Very seldom he can go a whole day without it but it comes at anytime. Doc has confirmed that he all is healthy so he thinks its just paranoia.

But he has started doing little things the way he used to do before it all went downhill and I pray that this will stay like that. On Saturday morning he called me to say that he wants us to spend Sunday (his day off) together and if there was a place that we could maybe stay overnight and then enjoy the day and drive back after. He told me to be ready at 6pm. Just before he came I still had no clue where we could go and we decided at the last minute that we will go to Alton Towers WaterPark. And I am so glad that we chose that. We had a great time. Surprisingly after ready WWAJC's message I realised that a few of you have all been there recently.

We booked a Holiday Inn in Staffordshire and stayed overnight and Aaliyah was superexcited and kept on talking about her holiday. Then after we enjoyed ourselves at the waterpark she now cant stop talking about it.

So homelife is going great and DH stays over every other night. Did ask him not to stay over tomorrow because I need some more time with college work. But just been reading and typing on here since 8:30pm. Surprisingly the time away we had and still have means that our sex live is good for a change because it wasnt good for ages. That was probably one of the main issues we had. So hoepfully I wont go off sex again because before him I always had a high sex drive.

However things back home with my parents and siblings arent going too good. I was planning on going to some sunny holiday in July for my birthday but just used that money to book a ticket to South Africa for me & aaliyah alone. Hopefully I can try and wake my parents up and tell them how they push all their children away from them.... And in the same time I might have the last of the South African sun.... Flying 23rd March and returning 21st April and I am super excited

Eva; x-posted Glad you are making Dh prove he has changed. Hope all the studying is easing off. Alex only says he is scared of the shower at home so I'll pick him up and carry him into the water (he loves skin to skin contact ;-))...at the swimming baths he and his pal stay so long in the showers that his pals' mum and I are dried and dressed before we can get them out! I'm sure Aaliyah will start to love it soon (fingers crossed emoticon)

off to bed now; got to be prepared for another night like last night while praying that he sleeps through ....peaceful nights all.

x-posted again!!!!
How fabulous that you had such a nice surprise break and Aaliyah loved it so much too....lovely that things between you and Dh are going so well and that he is keeping off the weed ...I believe paranoia is often a side effect of that particular drug I hope it wears off soon.
I am soooo of your month in CapeTown... We had planned to go over again this year but have had to put it off for another year I hope you can get through to your parents (so sad that they are alienating their children)How wonderful for Aaliyah to get to visit all her family over there...you are going to have such a lovely time. Enjoy!!!

Hi Floria

Sorry only just seen that I xposted as well.

Yes things are looking up for DH and I. Pity we cant afford for him to go as well. Aaliyah is 2 now so pay a full adult price. Lots of money if we had to go for less than a month. SO I am hoping to catch the last of Cape Town sun.

Re: my parents. They had 8 kids. The girls they want to treat like cotton wool. cant see this one cant see that one, etc. For me it was much worse and it caused me to pack my bags and left. Saw them 2 weeks before my wedding for the first time after 2 years and we reconsiled cos they planned the whole wedding and they welcomed DH surprisingly with the different religion and all.

Now with my other 2 sisters one is 26 and one will be 22 on Friday. the younger one had enough and left because they dont want to accept her boyfriend (christian guy). She actually converted (which is a big no no, but they dont know it yet).

The 26 year old still at home. She just landed her dream job after 8 years at a previous company. She is getting almost 5 times her salary and really finally getting there after graduating in 2008. My dad hurt himself and cant work anymore now they expect her to take it all over. Pay for mortgage, look after 3 other grandchildren age 15,11 and 10 because my older sister age 35 never ever looked after her own kids. My 26 tear old sister would leave home but she would not while my nieces and nephew need her. So she is stuck having to put up my parents that live like families of 1900's.

And I know before you guys say they are old enough to live on their own, which they are. In our Muslim religion you are not allowed to leave your parents home as a young, unmarried girl unless you are married.

So my parents with their ways and behaviour are pushing all their kids away from them and they will regret it but I need to tell them as no one seemed to want to do it.

Sorry for going on... its just really frustrating as my older sister should take responsibility of her own kids but because she know we dont want to see those kids growing up in johannesburg she uses that to make sure that she never have to have that responsibility.

Hope you got some sleep last night Floria. We used to have Dareh in with us but it was a totall nightmare! He took up the whole of my side of the bed and I had no where to go. Plus I would keep getting punched and kicked.

Eva glad things are moving in the right direction with DH. Panic attacks are such horrible things - I hope he can find a good way of dealing with them. I am jealous of your little holiday - would love one of those!

Inzi you are fifteen weeks already!!! I don't eat meat either - how weird to have those cravings! I guess your body knows what you need.

Another busy day for me - only just sitting down now. Really need to find a way to relax or I am going to work my way into an early grave!

I am having a hard time with the news at the moment. Should not have read that story about one of the Bulger killers. I can't get that stuff out of my head. I sobbed in my bed last night after reading it and thinking about it. I am really over sensitive to that sort of thing now that I have Dareh. It makes me feel so ill and scared. Need to find a way to handle it better.

Dal - How are you??? Any word on whether baby turned? Feeling labour-ish?

Inzi - cant believe you are 15 weeks already! Why is it everyone elses pregnancies go so fast, when at this time last year, mine was dragging away??!! Strange you are craving meat

Choc - PMSL at the potty song!! Love it!

Eva - Glad you are having better times with DH. As long as the reconciliation is by your terms, and you are happy... its all good. Definitely add me to FB (havent gotten any friend requests yet??) Feel badly for you re: family issues. Family traditions are a lot to live by sometimes (I am Italian and have had In-laws dictate a lot in my life). Hopefully you and Aaliyah will have fun on your trip home, and that it wont be filled with conflict.

FT - got a good chuckle out of the 'wake him up' comment . We are lucky in that Sofia sleeps in the same room as her older sister. When she wants to share a bed with anyone, its DD1 (who gladly brings her to bed for a snuggle). The girls have a double bed in the room, so plenty of space for them. DH and I usually put Sofia back to her cot before we go to bed, and she is usually good for the night.

Movies - so we have decided to take Sofia to the movie theatre for the first time since she was an infant. Toy Story 3 is coming out in June, and she has been talking non stop about Buzz and Woody! I figure by then she will be over 2.5 years old, so she should be able to sit for it. Not quite sure how to prepare her for it though? I am picturing her shouting and running through the isles

Hi all,

Just popping in to say sorry i'm rubbish and haven't cought up yet like I said I would.

Been busy trying to get stuff ready for Miles' arrival and keep reading your posts then not having time to reply

I have a check up with midwife this morning, she should be able to tell if baby has turned, I've been doing the positions constantly for a week now but when I poke my bump it doesn't feel like he's turned at all so won't be surprised if the midwife confirms that

Not really feeling any definate signs of labour apart from general period type cramps but I had them last time from 39 weeks and stil went 2 weeks over...

Dylan's not well today, had a bit of a cough yesterday and after we put him to bed I was wokena at 1.30 to the sound of him kind of choking on his sick I ran through to his room (with dh hot footing it behind me asking what was going on and all I could manage was 'choking' as I ran off)and he was on his side and had managed to be sick .

I got him up and took him to the sink incase there was more and he was still half asleep bless him. He took a minute to wake properly and realise what was happening and I was worried he had actually choked and gone limp but then realised he was just half asleep. We cleaned him all up and put him back down then about 2 mins later he was sick again, this time dh made it there first and he was sick in the sink and got it all up, think it was just the phlem from his cough lying on his stomach, poor little guy.

He's no too bad this morning but a bit quiet and still got a cough, taking him to the docs to be checked over this aft.

As i said sorry I haven't caught up, and for the me me me post, I am thinking of you all. I WILL catch up soon x x x

Eva; I is difficult for children of parents with very resticted ideas of how life should work...so selfish of your elder sister to expect her parents to bring up her children for her and sad as it is that your Dad has lost his job, it is selfish of your parents to expect your 26yr old sister to support them all (well done to her for landing such a great job, shounds like she worked hard for it). Good luck to the sister who is about to marry out of the religion too...breve of her. (I knew a muslim girl who was at my uni and fell for a hindu..when I met her they had a 18mth old baby and her parents still didnt knowHer sister lived with them and they took it in turns to go to visit their parents) I hope you can help resolve all the problems and that it doesn't ruin your holiday.

Dal;Is that baby moving into a better position yet? Just a few days to EDD...I'm so excited for you

Inzi; Wow! first flutters and 15 weeks already!...I hope you can find a way of combatting those cravings without compromising your principles (sorry, but it is a little funny in a strange way)

Choc; I know exactly how you feel about the Bulger case...at the time I remember being shocked and disgusted (more at the killers parents than the boys themselves oddly enough)but now the very thought of it happening to a child like my precious boy makes me sick with terror and horror and I understand and empathise with the wave of hatred directed at the killers then and now. I think the best thing is to try to push such things to the back of your mind... after all such psychopathic behaviour is very, very rare and worry about it happening to our darlings could ruin their childhoods and our enjoyment of these precious few early years...not nearly so easy to do than say though

BB4 Sophias sleep pattern...up until January Alex had only slept through 6 times in his life! Operation no night boobs has helped considerably... last night was a good 'un though he didnt go down until 9pmat least he slept through till 6.30.

off to swimming ...laters!

Dal; just got back from swimming and now realise I x-posted with you. You are not entitled to a me me post atm then I don't know when you would be! Poorly toddler scaring you half to death, getting you up twice in the night and due to give birth any day now! I hope both appointments go well today...have a stern word with Miles and tell him just how much better life will be for both of you if he just spins himself round

Hi ladies

well I seem to have dropped behind again but don't seem to have the will to re-read and comment on everything, sorry

I just wanted to say Good Luck to Dal, and I hope you aren't waiting too long for Miles to appear, I look forward to hearing the news of his safe arrival.

Will try and get up to date soon

FT - awww at Alex playing party games - I can't wait until we get to that stage for the lo's parties. Lol at "wake him up".

Bblue - what a terrible d&v bug - it's bad enough when they're over in 24 hours. Hope you're fully recovered now - you must have been wiped out.

Choc - so glad you're back - this thread is lovely and conflict-free! Your own theatre company sounds interesting - can imagine the set-up costs are big though, have you looked at business grants? Well done Dareh using the potty by himself. Hugs to you after watching the news - hope you're feeling ok today.

Eva - so glad things seem to be going well with dh - I really hope he stays off the weed and everything works out. Shame about your family - sounds like you and your younger sisters have had a pretty rough time over the years. South African holiday sounds wonderful though .

Inzi - wow at 15 weeks already, where is the time going? Awwww at feeling the first movements - how wonderful (). Lol at your body rebelling against vegetarianism! Is it iron that it's craving? Maybe platefuls of spinach would help .

Dal - poor Dylan, it's awful when you hear them retching isn't it? Glad he was on his side though. How did your appointments go?

I think Anya's ready for potty training - she's started to tell me when she's had a poo (today she told my mum before she had it) and she pulls her own pants down before her bath. Think I'll have to get rid of the thick layer of dust that's currently on the potty . What has everybody else done about putting it where dc's can get to it? Ours is currently in the bathroom but I don't think Anya would give me enough notice to get up the stairs before she needed to use it - would it confuse her if I left it accessible in the living room?

I'm not sure I'm settling into a routine very well (if I was, I would be on here more regularly!) - more muddling along really. But everything seems to be getting done one way or another so I'm not getting worried about being a bit disorganised, it's only been a couple of weeks and I'll get there. Good news at work is that I've been allocated an assistant. She's already with the firm on the accountancy side and she's lovely with clients so she'll be able to quickly pick up lots of stuff that I don't really have time to do (like chasing people for things!) I'm going to fit some training sessions in with her next week so she at least knows the basic technical stuff and then she can take on a lot of the paperwork too. Hopefully then I'll feel much less time-pressured.

It's all coming together, slowly!

Hey all,

Just a quick update on todays appointments.

All ok at midwife, Miles not engaged yet and still back to back after all my efforts will carry on trying regardless...

Docs app for Dylan went ok, think she thought i was a bit of a neurotic mother taking him in for just a cough but I wanted to make sure he's ok if i'm gonna go in to labour any day. She said it seemed to be just a cold that was making him cough/be sick and to just keep an eye on him and give him calpol if he has a temp. She said it could be to do with his swine flu jab as they can be 'virally' for a few weeks after. He seems jolly but tired today, has been eating well surprisingly. He went to bed happily so we're just listening out for every little cough now in case he's sick again, I hate it when it's like this, I can't sleep properly for worrying!

Anyway thats all about my day.

Am thinking of all of you lovely ladies

Off to bounce on birthing ball again now as my back is killing

Thankks floria, I was the same at the time. Only really understand the horror of it now. Really do need to not think about it though.

That does Sound like a good sign Whitewine. Not sure where to put ours. I might get another one so I can have one upstairs and one downstairs.

Dalry dareh was back to back. If the baby doesn't turn then my advise would be don't let them break your waters as I did and after that it reall hurt. I think because he had nothing to turn in.

With the theatre company - to start with it will just be a youth theatre but over time I would like to create work too. Cost not too bad as it is mainly just the space. It's just having the guts to do it!

Hope everyone is well.

X

Thanks for the tip choc . Dylan was back to back so I kind of know what i'm in for but thankfully my waters went by themselves near the end and he didn't turn but he did come out, looking up and everything. Guess if i've done it once i'll manage again but would rather experience labour without quite so much back pain if possible!

Dal - glad Dylan is a bit better and not being sick at least. Sending lots of 'turning' vibes for Miles.

Choc - that's a good idea about having 2 potties - I may invest in another one tomorrow.

Off to bed now - very tired tonight, glad it's the weekend.

Morning laadies, just popping in, so much going on in rl atm.

Dal-Am thinking of you, Shannon was b2b too, really hope Miles turns for you

WWAJC-Have you got a home bargains near you? Potties are 99p, I have them all over at other peoples house and upstairs and downstairs.

Choc-I say go for it! Sounds fab.

Will have to try to get back on later, am feeling very tired, Shannon not sleeping very well at all and tablets make me sleepy.
Sorry to all have missed, am reading and thinking of you all, just not getting time to reply!

Inzidoodle - LOL at the steakpie.... if your body wants it why not... That is the one thing I am having when I get home... A steak and kidney pie. And if you knew me you would say what? you are vegetarian! But I am not... I just dont eat red meat and love fish and chicken but never eat a vegetarian or chicken pie and only eat a steak and kidney pie yet I dont eat steak.... My mom says I am weird.

chocolatestar - I know what you mean but I think that you should try to put it to the back of your mind else you will never enjoy your kids growing up if you see what I mean.

babyblue Oh so its the Italian side as well.., bloody hell I know how to choose them dont I.... Inlaws are part Italian as well and boy do they love to be in my business. I havent even told them yet that we are going to South Africa. Will mention it last minute and then they will feel sad cos she wont be here for Easter, lalala.
Good luck with the cinema... Charlie and Lola is playing at the theatre today and tomorrow and I wanted to take Aaliyah but decided against it. Dont think she is ready for it. Maybe once we come back from my family she will be used to loads as back home things are so much more livelier.

Dal Glad Dylan is okay and that you guys woke up when it happened.

WWAJC Glad that things are moving on slowly. It will take time and most importantly its making sure that you and Anya is happy. the rest can sort itself out. Depending on how helpful your H was when he was around the daily things at home will still get done. When I kicked H out I still managed to do my things as H was useless before anyway. Now that he is here few days a week he actually helps. Glad that you got an assistant as well. Hope things all work out for you.

Hi to everyone else that I missed and NC hope you get some sleep.

I have a very sore throat for the last week now and still went to college on Thursday and just want to have a lie in and sleep but cant..... ooooh. I bought some lozenges and it just taking ages to get better now. I hate being unwell. Sorry just moaning a little cos there is no one to moan at and DH is so good now I dont have any excuse to moan at him for

NC - hope you got some sleep. Will check out home bargains - I have one from Ikea which was also £1 I think, but she's a bit awkward on it because her little legs don't stretch over it very comfortably. Might have to have a look for a narrowish one, if they exist.

Eva - feel free to moan away! Sore throats are so awful - it hurts to talk/eat/swallow -I always find it makes me feel really fed up. Hope it gets better soon.

I've had quite a good day today - I decided to start a 'snack box' for Anya, which involves putting a variety of things in a box that she can get herself whenever she wants to eat between meals - much better I thought than trying to stop her raiding the fridge for yoghurts all the time. She got the idea straight away, I was really surprised. But having done that, I then hid all the rest of her fruit bars/biscuits/etc in a cupboard where she couldn't see them - which meant moving other stuff out of the cupboard, which meant rearranging some shelves, which eventually meant reorganising the whole of the kitchen and half the dining room. It was wonderfully theraputic.

WWAJC; Muddling through will do for now while you are rediscovering yourself (for me it 'does' permanently!)....fab that reorganising was so theraputic.. reclaiming the house as your ownGreat news about Anya wanting to use the potty too. Alexs potties are from Boots (about £3)and aren't as wide as some....I hope you find one that is just right...and yes, we have several, one in the living room, one in the car, a toilet seat in the bathroom and others with his grans (though his book on the subject says that it should be kept in one place ie. bathroom, so they know where it is;fine if you are a world record holder at sprinting upstairs)Like your snack box idea..might try that myself...not that he helps himself but to stop the incessant finger snapping demands for food from me (I'm expecting him to start calling "garcon!" any day now!)

NC; I hope Shannon starts giving you some sleep Is anything wrong?...I thought she was a reasonably good sleeper

Eva; I hope the throat is better by now, but drinking loads of water, gargling with salt water (1tspn to a pint)and eating honey are the best cures (according to my ent specialist)if you haven't got rid yet.

Dal;Sorry to hear Miles hadn't engaged or turned...any further progress yet?????? Twinges?...are you eating pineapple and curryies and pestering Dh?

Alex has been super cute this weekend [madly in love with my pfb emoticon]...from trying to soft soap me into giving him milk at 6am with "Good morning, hug and tiss pease mummy. Milk pease mummy. Best friends mummy!" to looking after me when I came back indoors after 3 hours trimming the dog in the garden whinging about feet so frozen I was near to tears, by kindly fetching me a towel off the radiator saying "Here Mummy. Nice and warm. Wrap up snug as a bug" ...proof that he isn't always a monster...and last night he was teasing his Dad by asking him to "Follow me. Come see this!" and as soon as he had dh out of the chair running back to pinch his seat with a giggling "My chair now!"!!!

Hi ladies, just popping in as I am aware I STILL haven't caught up but thought it best to pop in anyway rather than avoiding the thread till I have time/my back doesn't hurt etc...

40 + 2 here, looking forward to meeting Miles but also not in a great rush as Dylan's cough still bothering him and i'm convinced he needs his mummys undivided attention for a few more days yet

Having period type cramps still but no other signs yet... Got a mw check on thurs so I might ask if they'll do a sweep then instead of at 10 days which is when they normally offer. I'm convinced i'll go 2 weeks over like last time if not

inzi - Mmm at your linda mcartney steak pies, I love pies! .

Sorry about the suspected CTS, hope the doc can help once yoy get an appointment!

Great news that Janes first day with your parents went so well!

Floria - No curries or pinapple yet but I suspect i'll resort to these as I get more and more fed up... trying to get the energy for dh to 'help me out' but really feel too much like a whale

Alex sounds like he's being super adorable at the moment, especially stealing daddys chair!

WWAJC - souds like you're doing brilliantly at settling down to doing your own thing. I agree with Floria, we muddle through a lot too! Snack box sounds like a great idea although Dylan's not really eating anything these past few days with his cough, today me's managed a grand total of a few frosties and half a rocky robin caramel bar... thank god he's still drinking his milk!

Eva - Lol at your pie preferances, I like most pies apart from ones with gristle in .

Well done on being strong enough to be the one to go and tell your parents how it is. Hope they listen and take it on board.

NC - Hope Shannons sleep improves soon and you get more rest too...

Well, thats all I can manage for now as Dylan is now bashing on the keyboard with his toys

Back soon, thinking of you all x

Hello everyone Hope you all had a nice weekend. Weather was gorgeous here, so we spent some time outside in the sunshine. Too wet for the park, but a nice walk gave us all some needed fresh air!

Dal - you need to send Miles and eviction notice . Hopefully you dont have to wait 2 weeks. They only let you go 1 week past due here now, before offering to induce. It used to be 2 weeks when I had my first set of DCs. DS1 was 8 days late and I was shattered by the time he was ready to come out!! LOL

Inzi - so Glad Jane's visit was such a success Hopefully after a few more of those, you will be ready for an overnight! It must have been nice for you and DH to have a quiet uniterrupted lunch (I forget how those are!).

Floria - love the story about Alex and the chair. How cute they can be when not in monster-mode!!

WWAJC - Snack box is a good idea! Sofia is constantly trying to climb in my fridge and in my cupboards! She is a grazer. Will bug me for various food and milk all day long, but will just pick at her meals. I have tried not giving her snacks, but she still won't eat at mealtime. So its better to just give her stuff when she wants it.

And speaking of trouble, she almost scared the daylights out of me today. I left her and the baby in the lounge watching Bob the Builder. Went upstairs to have a quick shower. There is a spring loaded babygate at my kitchen entrance, so they cant get out of the room. I am in the shower, DH is gone to work, when suddenly the bathroom door opens and closes but no one is there!! My heart practically jumped out of my chest! The door then opened again, and in strolls Sofia!! She had managed to push the gate over (not an easy task), come up the stairs, and opened the door (her latest accomplishment is working the knob). Was too relieved to be angry . She then pulled off her diaper (since her pjs were already off] and climbed in the shower with me! I long for the days when I have a tiny shred of privacy where I can be in shower or using the loo without interruption!

Eva - hope your throat feeling better.

to everyone else. Bit pressed for time as baby is asleep and Sofia will be going for nap in a few minutes. Hopefully I can get some lunch and some laundry done! Will try and check in later!