October 2007 - these little piggies are growing up fast!

[alicet]

Ok so a pretty boring thread title but thought we needed some distance from the last one!

Evening ladies,

Gonna try catch up as have fallen a bit behind again...

Welcome BelgianMummy! I think we've been occasionally posting on the same 'due in March thread' your name is familiar... I've got one little boy, Dylan who is was born 30/10/07 and am due on 6th March with another boy (well, 95% sure). I live in Berwick upon Tweed in Northumberland. By the way, I was two weeks overdue with Dylan so don't go betting i'll be first!

BabyBlue - LOL at Sofia shouting avocado . I'm afraid you've caused a bit of a problem as I had a look at that Bakerella site you linked to and have now made the 'brookies' (brownie/cookie combo), OMG sooo delicious! I'll be the size of a house if I don't stay away from that site!

Eeek at the racoon, not a nice site i'm sure!

Alicet - Great to hear from you! Sams party souds great, you're brave taking on that many children at once! Bet it was manic and tiring as well as exciting.

Sorry you've all been ill, hope you're feeling a lot better now.

LLL - How's your cough?

Yeah have almost finished packing my labour bag now, just a few last minute bits to chuck in . Babies bag is all packed

Sounds like your boys had a great time swimming! Ben sounds like a right little dare devil! Dylan loved swimming when we took him, haven't tried him on any slides yet though...

Wow at Ben going on the toilet! I tried to get Dylan to sit on the potty tonight when he needed a poo but he just stood up and ran off... could be a while yet!

NC - How you doing? Shannon over her fall now?

Sounds like you had a lovely valentines day

Sorry you got a headache/numb face, have you asked the doc about that?

Not sure what to advice re dd, all I will say is, your her mum and you know her best so if you think there is something no matter how small then maybe try and get it looked in to. I've been reading a book called 'toddler taming' that sil got me for xmas lately it's no miracle but has some interesting advice and i've been mainly concentrating on the chaper about introducing a new sibling.... Anyway, my point is, the paediatrician who wrote the book says that a behavioural problem isn't a problem unless the parents have a problem with it iyswim. SO he means, if you're concerned about it then best to get it checked. Sorry i'm just babbling a bit but hope you see what I mean?!

Hope your appointment about the dodgy cells goes ok tomorrow, try not to worry too much, will be thinking of you.

Hope you can get the pub thing sorted, I wouldn't be happy with that at all

Aww at Shannon's 'it scares me'.

Muppet - Sorry Ollie is tired again, must be a worry for you. Hope the docs can get to the bottom of it and do something to help him feel better soon.

Lol at Ollies enormous fart and Henry shouting 'i've got pants on' sounds like fun!

WWAJC - Glad your dh has a definate moving date and that your time off has coincided so you have a bit of time to adjust. Hope it goes as smoothly as can be expected.

Your new car sounds lovely

Lol at Anya saying 'well done mummy' they come out with such funny little things these days!

Inzi - So glad to hear your sis is talking to you again

Can't wait for April to see what sex your baby is!

Lol at Jane shouting 'what?' with her hands on her hips

Dylan has suddenly decided that 'no' is the answer to everything, thought we'd managed to bypass that but it seems not!

Ask for terrible two's, well, Dylan was early to master the tantrum technique so i'm quite used to that but his new thing is delay tactics. When it's breakfast, dinner or tea time he has to get some cars to take with him or a random toy and won't come and sit for dinner until he's chosen something , we've resorted to counting down from 5 then grabbing him and taking him to sit down as he would just sit there 'choosing' forever! It's the same when we say it's bedtime too... groan!

Bedtime itself is getting better though, he just stands up in his cot as we leave now but then settles down to sleep once we're gone so at least the crying has stopped. Dreading him moving in to a bed!

Eva - Wow, sounds like you've been really busy and tired! Don't know how you managed to stay awake to do your work all that time.

I don't know what to advise about your H... It's a difficult one, I think you're right to make him wait a long time and to prove himself before you risk getting hurt/dd getting hurt again. Suppose I would say not to rush anything. If it were me I honestly don't know if I could ever forgive the kind of thig he has done but no one can ever know till they're in that situation.

Guess you just have to listen to that voice inside of you and follow your instinct and do whats best for you and your dd.

Well, not much going on here, just nesting, baking and trying to get ready for the lo.

Got a call from the midwife today and i'm slightly anemic so have started on iron tablets... hoping I don't get constipated as i've been suffering a bit with that already. Have stocked up on the prune juice and am gonna double my does

Starting to get really uncomfortable now ad if I eat too much (like I just have done) then I feel like i'm gonna burst

Am praying I don't go overdue, or at least not too much overdue.

Hi to anyone i've missed x

Hello all... just sitting down to eat lunch and catch up... multitasking at its finest Now if I can only keeps the crumbs out of the keyboard!!

Dal Bakerella is FAB!! Those brookies were LUSH! I made them again for Valentines day, and they were gone in a flash. I use the store bought icing (too busy to make the ganache), so they are easy to make (and easier to eat!!).

And speaking of food... Lisa you asked about raccoons being edible?? I almost PMSL!!! A few years back, my cousin leant me a recipe book for slow cookers. The book was printed in the 1970's and actually had recipes for raccoon (and squirrels if I'm not mistaken) YUCK!!!!!!!

sickness Sofia spent all day yesterday throwing up I am sure she must have picked up the bug at the waterpark. Good thing it didnt hit her until after we were home, because I would have died if she had thrown up all over my new car!! (not to mention the hour drive home smelling vomit!). Today her temp has gone down, but she is still not her lively self. She could not even keep down apple juice yesterday... but today has managed with sips as well as a few spoons of Jell-o.

Am completely of how wonderful some of your DCs are doing with the potty!!! Thats so nice to hear. Almost makes me want to dust off our potty and give it a go!! Then... the feeling passes and I figure I will wait til spring

Please include me in the terrible-two club . My easy-going, sweet-tempered Sofia was replaced months ago with a tantrum-throwing, iron-willed, LOUD toddler!! She listens well when she feels like it, and ignores me the rest of the time. She tests me constantly, and I am embarrassed to say, she wins quite often because I am just too tired to fight back! I feel bad for my older two, because I was quite strict with them at this age, while on the other hand, Sofia gets away with murder!! Sigh...

Welcome BelgianMummy! Your DC was born the day before Sofia! I also have DD1-11, DS1-10, and DS2-6.5 months. I'm in Canada. I am pretty new to this group as well.

Inzi - Glad you and your sister are back on track. Takes some of the stress away from you. You must be so excited about your upcoming scan to find out the sex!! When I was preg with Marco, we did one of those 3D scans at a private office. Cost a bit, but was worth it! The entire procedure was web-cast so my family could watch along at home! They could hear and see everything that was going on inside the room we were in. The DVD and pics we got were incredible.

Am of your meet up! Perhaps someone can bring a webcam to take me along??? LOL

Well... off to do the mountain of washing now that I have been able to have a peaceful lunch (both babies asleep at once - miracle- and other 2 at school).

to everyone else

Hi Ladies

Dal-Sorry you're getting uncomfy now, you need to upload a pic of your bump!
You got everything you need for Miles?
Shannon doesn't seem to have any lasting effects from the fall, in fact her and DD1 went with my step-dad to a soft play earlier while I went to hospital and he said she was like a little bullet in with all the bigger kids

BB-Hope Sofia get's better really soon. It's horrible when they're poorly and stink your stuff out with vomit! What is it like where you live? Would love to travel to Canada

Hospital appointment was a bit strange. I waited ages and then I couldn't understand the doctor very well, the nurse was openly hostile towards him, I'd heard her earlier in the corridor saying she was going to report him..etc she then whispered to me that he is really rude, he didn't seem that rude to me, he only asked her if she had a pair of scissors and she started having a go at him

Anyway he said he was going to do a smear and swabs and refer me for a coloscopy, after he'd done the smear he mention something about being 'pink watery' but I didn't hear him properly and by then they where already in full battle mode so I daren't really ask, just got dressed, grabbed my paperwork and scooted out. The receptionist said I should be informed of the results.

Meant to relay this convo between DD1 and my stepdad earlier:

Daughter to grandad: Avatar's boring, My dad's got in on DVD
Grandad: Hah it must be a pirate one
Daughter NOO, it's about aliens stupid!

Dal Not long to go now and that full feeling will be gone Fingers crossed you don't go too long overdue. I was 4 days overdue with both of mine.

Good news with Dylan and sleeping too. Being in a bed might not be as bad as you think, big it up to him when you do it. We put Sam in a bed when Ben was born, told him that now he was a big boy could Ben please have his cot. He took to it really easily and so did Ben when we put him in one. He still has a bed guard on though to stop him falling out as he fidgets alot. I put a gate on his door the first 4 months in bed so if he did get out at least he was still confined to his room.

BB4 Hope Sofia is better soon, I hate it when the boys get sick, mainly because of all the washing! She prob did pick it up from the waterpark, we went for just one day last week and Sam developed conjunctivitus in both eyes that evening

Saw your pictures they are lovely. A bit as the whole nanny state over here has put paid to you being able to photograph your children having fun in any way. Was told that no photographs allowed. Makes me

And don't turn your nose up at racoon if you've never tasted it if they can eat it in the 70's.....

NC - hope you results come back clear, am a bit at your experience, how unprofessional!!

at the Avatar story

Evening ladies

BabyBlue - The brookies sure are fab, will have to try them with the shop bought icing next time...

Poor Sofia throwing up hope she feels better soon.

Wow at your 3D scan being broadcast on the internet for family to see, what a great idea, wish they did that over hear cause my bro's live miles away!

NC - Bump pictures uploaded as requested please ignore my strange smile, it was the end of a long day!

Your hosp app sounds very strange indeed, not the best way to put you at ease when you're about to have a smear stupid woman, you should have complained. Hope the results are ok and more understandable than the doctor was

Glad Shannon has recovered ok from her fall

Yeah I think we've got just about everything we need for Miles, mostly got the stuff from first time round but we have bought him a few new little outfits of his own. Got a really cute sleey suit in boots today reduced to £4, comes with a tiny hat and I just had to have it, will put in in his hosp bag

That reminds me, must get dh to get the carseat down from the loft...

Lmao at your DD's Avatar convo

LLL - Yeah not long! I hope I don't go too overdue, don't mind a few days but 2 weeks last time was a bit much. Ah well, I suppose whatever will be will be, must remember it'll all be a distant memory once Miles is here...

Thanks for the positive words about putting Dylan in to a bed, I hope it goes better than expected. Good idea to put a gate on his door for a while, think that'll definately be needed as he's bound to escape on a regular basis.

How's your cold?

I'm pretty tired tonight, remembered earlier I needed to get a 2nd Birthday present for my niece and they're coming up to visit tomorrow! So, I had to walk over to town and back which is at least half an hour each way if not more, I can barely walk any distance at the moment without getting totally knackered! Anyway, mission complete and i'm not moving off the sofa at all tonight!

NC; lol at DD1! .glad Shannon is ok after the horrible fall. [Hmm]at the gynae doc...not good when the staff can't maintain a united professional front especially in that department..I hope everything comes back ok. As to York, I'll be there. I liked the look of that specialist soft play place. What do you think?

Eva: I'm in awe! How you managed to do so much and remain standing I can't believe. As to the Dh situation...only you can know...we are getting to know you quite well and see a phenominally hard working woman who despite unbelievable setbacks keeps soldiering on trying to provide a better future for herself and her daughter...you set very high standards for yourself and are an excellent example for Aaliyah to live up to... I hope you set a incredibly high standard for your H to prove himself worthy of sharing the life of someone so admirable ... as others have said I'm not sure I would be so understanding and forgiving of what has already happened. I hope you find the right solution for you all.

BB Poor sofia;I hope she gets better soon. The water park sounds fab...and that raccoon looked so cute, such a shame for the poor thing (I assume a traffic accident victim?)

Dal & BelgianMummy; not long now eh? Can't wait to see those announcements and the first pics!

LLL; Glad to hear the back is better...how is the cough doing

Muppet; How is Ollie doing?

I took my Mum and Alex to The Princess and the Frog yesterday and was pleasantly surprised at how good his lordship was (just one short episode when he started making noise and getting out of his seat..I had a feeling he needed the loo, though he denied it, took him anyway, got a result and he was good as gold for the rest of the movie)Don't remember if any of you have tried a full movie with our little piggies at the cinema yet but if you fancy one that seems to be a good choice...just 90 mins and lots of good tunes ...Alex wasn't affected by the voodoo baddie at all so the "mildly scary" warning can probably be ignored as he is like Shannon with the 'everything makes him "scared Mummy!"' (started that one just this week NC ) ...atm he is scared of the shower (which he loves), my pupils (who he has seen every week for months) and any food he doesn't fancy the look of

FT-Do you mean the creepy crawlies one?
Started to get a bid mad with the nurse when I thought about it last night as I had already been nervous before I went in and they didn't help, but then I thought I'll just have to let it go, no point in focusing on insignificant things.

Glad Alex was good at cinema, the 2 times I've taken Shannon I've had to go armed with treats to keep her quiet, she isn't really that impressed yet. @ Alex going through the same scared of everything phase.

Dal-You haven't got a strange smile! Bump looking nice and healthy That walked may have done you good, bet you're pretty shattered today though. Has there been any news from the police about parents lately?

LLL-It's daft that you can't take pics aint it, especially when a lot of people put pics of their kids on the internet, FB etc and there are ways of getting onto them. I suppose it's better to be safe than sorry though.

Morning NC

I don't think Dylan would sit still for 2 minutes at the cinema, suppose I won't know till we try though... There isn't a proper cinema here so probably be a while till that happens anyway!

Lol, well I thought I looked a bit strange . Yeah I'm sure the walk helped me build stamina for the labour, not too knackered today surprisingly but I had to get up for about a hundred wee's in the night so am suffering the effects of broken sleep, an afternoon nap will be in order I think...

Nothing more from the police, the last they heard was my dad calling them back the day after their 'warning' to clarify 'exactly which law they were breaking'

How are you today anyway?

I'll give you a virtual slap and shake Inzi

You need to let go a bit, you are only depriving Jane of new experiences. I have lost track of the amount of times I have left Ben for the weekend never mind nights out, he has also been to nursery since he was 6 months old. This means he is very sociable and gets on with anybody and doesn't mind being left with anyone as long as they play with him

I really would try to let go a bit, get used to it now before the second one arrives. Believe me you will want a bit of space when the next one comes along, so best start getting used to it now

Hey inzi and LLL!

Inzi - Thanks for the bump compliment, although, as much as I love it i'd like it to be out the way now so I can put my socks on without huffing and puffing

38 weeks tomorrow eek!

My baby belly took a while to pop out even this time, was just flabby for ages, exciting yours it showing already!

Re leaving Jane, I'm going to offer my sympathies as i'm not much better

Ooooh a bit of action today!

Inzi-Sorry but I'll give a bit of a virtual kick up the bum too. I'd let Jane go to your mums for Sat night as it is going to bother you more than her. (You can always come on here for support.)Like LLL says, you're depriving her and others from experiencing each other. You may find that you enjoy it. Also I think you should let sis take her out too, that's the whole point of being an Aunt, to get to take them out for fun days and then hand them back when they're tired, dirty and cranky
I really do sympathise with you missing her in the morning but just think of the lie in you get to have!

I've left the girls plenty, am used to having dd1 away with her dad and I start missing Shannon after about 24 hours, 3 day's kills me but it does them as well as me good I think.

Dal-So what did they say to your dad then? anti-stalking laws?
You know, you might find that Dylan eats loads better without you, horrible to think of I know, but kids do tend to play parents up, when I went to pick Shannon up from nursery during lunch one time, she started messing with her food and dropping it down her clothes-the teachers said she's usually really careful, must be cause I was there.

Am feeling pretty wound up today, DD1 has been telling me that she hears her dad and poisonous witch being nasty about me all the time, they do it in the kitchen quietly so her grandad can't hear because they know he'll tell them off for bitching. I get slated for plenty of things, such as going away for the weekend, cutting DD1s plug off blah blah. Have rung her dad today to say that I do not want her going to the pub anymore, I accept that events such as birthday parties may come up and that will be okay, but if he wants to go to pub on a weekend then he can bring her home and that I'm sick of her comnig home and tlking about drugs, who's threatening to kill who, beat up who, who's cheating on who etc etc and that it's not a good environment for an impressionable 9yo to be in. He just said okay, that's fine.
But, I bet it wont be the end of it, really hate it when it gets like this, but I know I need to stick to my guns as her attitude to things are really making me annoyed with her so it needs sorting.
All these years I've been thinking I can't move too far away as I don't want to interupt the relationship between dd1 and her dad, now I'm starting to doubt myself, it may have been better if I had put distance between her them and his nasty mother. God this parenting thing is so difficult

oops-poisonous witch = dd1s two-faced grandma.

Only got a few mins as I need to take Alex to mils for the afternoon...
Inzi; I'm with you on the not wanting my pfb out of my sight...I will leave Alex with my Mum or Mil for a few hours to go out for a meal/film/concert (though they come here more often to babysit)but I don't want him staying overnight yet... I know I'm very old fashioned but I still feel that he needs his mother and his own bed and if it isn't possible to have both then it is essential for him to have one or the other...I totally understand LLL and NCs attitudes too, it does open them to new experiences and relationships, and perhaps I'm being selfish, but it just doesn't work for me and wanted you to know you weren't alone in not feeling ready for it yet. I do see the sense in getting her used to staying over for 6 months hence, but if you are feeling as apprehensive as I would be I would suggest perhaps a family stay over first...you go and stop over too a couple of times...Jane gets used to staying, your parents get used to your routine, you get to relax about her being there...just a suggestion.
i'm going to be late...laters

FT-I don't think it's selfish at all I think it just depends on the individual. SIL won't let her dad stay with nephew downstairs even while she's upstairs having a nap, my face looked like---> But she's happy for me to take him for a few hours while she sleeps. So I think you have to be as comfortable as possible with the person that you chose to leave your baby with. I usually have to push any car accidents/choking/dropping incident images to the back of my head or I would never ever let my babies go

Inzi-I have said to dd that if he continues to ignore my wishes, then it may have to go to court, which I think she has relayed to him. The worst thing is, is that I am able to say things like that to her and she doesn't bat an eyelid as she is used to all that kind of crap from who she mixes with, yet if it had been a different child I wouldn't have dreamt of saying such a thing-and so I have adapted to what she is like and hence treat her as more grown up than I should iyswim which is crap from my part.
Also, I am pretty terrified wary of him and his mum, probably stemming from when I left him when dd1 was 18 months, I was quite young, no support from my side and they tend to gang up on me and threaten me. I struggle with any confruntation with them and tend to relay things through dd, which is why I rung him earlier to make things clear and it isn't fair to expect her to do it.

Onh a lighter note, Shannon says bink for drink, I was trying to get her to say D,D,D, D,Drink so she said D,D,D,D...Bink.

Inzi-Meant to say, they do allow kids in there, not sure of the legalities, I think kids have to be out of non-food serving pubs by 7pm and she was in there the other week at 9pm because I saw her just sat in the window gazing out when I went past in taxi, I was a bit and had Shannon on my knee otherwise I would have gone in. I rung her and told her it was home time and she said she was waiting for her dad to finish his drink and then they where going to get some tea It is not known for sticking to rules anyway, they still smoke in the pub, it was involved in this and it was shut for a few days the other week after the landlord was accused of money laundering.

hi all

where did that week go???

I went off to catch up and then 7 days had passed before I could catch my breath.

Have a spotty baby (viral apparently) and we had my brother and his family to stay this wed eve so we all had no sleep -litteraly- so feeling a little tired to say the least. Am really going to catch up now....

love to all
x

NC - sorry to hear of problems with your dd1's dad. re her behavior I would say does she spend too much time in the company of adults? Sometimes children who do can act a little inappropriately for their age as they are used to thinking of themselves as an equal. They can also hear things they really shouldn't. Sorry if I'm barking up the wrong tree. He shouldn't be taking her to the pub, goodness knows who she's talking too.

Hoping your app went well x

We get a lot of 'it's scarey' too.

Your app sounds a bit wierd! Hope the results are okay x

LOL re Avatar!!

Just read what you said about what dd1 talks about, she needs to not go to the pub!!!

Re shannon saying bink for dink, I take their hand and say the word onto it (or forehead sometimes), they can feel they difference, it may help. (It may not though!)

LLL - Am very jealous re Ben starting to potty train. Henry isn't ready as wetting himself still absolutely terrifies him! Though still loces to tell me when he's done a poo and a wee ect

Eva - am picking up there may be a reconcilliation between you and your dh? I would follow what you want out of your life and try not to worry what other people think. Dh and I had money worries just after Ollie was born, it was a very tough time but we've worked at it and we're back on track.

Dal - wow! 38 weeks. Enjoy the last few weeks being a 3 but 4 is going to be be so great. Glad you got your labour bag packed you never know...

Henry is in a bed and has been for a while since dh broke the cot he was great at first but does come out of his room before sleeping a few times a night. Think we're going to have to get a stair gate but been putting it off as I didn't want to challenge him as I can get him back into bed around 3 times and then he stays. I think a stairgate would make him scream. Which would be hell really...

Babyblue - Henry has turned from perfect baby to nightmare child too. I want to get a t-shirt done that says 'mummy's little thundercloud' anything can set him off at the mo and he's getting more and more moody. It's a phase (I hope)!

Floria - Ollie is still tired and had his blood test today

also has some cream for impetigo. Am hoping it is the g/fever back again in a way as then we at least know what's wrong. If it's not, what the heck is it? Am looking forard to getting back to school and normal routine with him but I think we're heading for reduced hours at school again. Not taken Henry to the cinema yet, really not that brave!! Great Alex like it though.

Inzi - I have thought about putting a hook and catch on Henry's door to stop him getting out as he only needs it for about half an hour then I could take it off so he could get out in the mroning. A chair sounds a good idea. I'm going to try it.

Re your leaving Jane at your mum over night, I did with Ollie when he was quite little but I had depression so I would have let anyone take him (I am now ashamed to say) but I do think this has helped me leave the others at their gran's for a week. It's the only time they really see her and it's a comprimise as I'm not there to get upset by what she does. Perhaps try not to look too far ahead about Jane actually staying over, why not just do days out to start with then a couple of hours at theirs without you then build up? Ollie is nearly 6 and went to his aunty K's last year for 3 days (she lives by the sea in Porstmouth) and he had a fab time. They went to the beach everyday, had a BBQ, played cricket and each night she made him hot chocolate and he watcehd telly under the blanket I made. He loved going to other people's houses and I think it's great for her as she can't have children to have Ollie.

HI Alice!! Hope all is well, the party sounded fab!

We had a busy week, uni girls meet up on tuesday. We had 5 of us there and 10 kids (one on the way). Wed we hired out a village hall and all tok toys as it was cheaper than going to soft play. Was a success and I think we'll do it again. We also had my brother to stay with his family. No one got any sleep as Henry had a nightmare (about spiders) and was terrified of his room so he slept in with dh and I. Henry was kicking me so I went and slept on the sofa in the playroom and left dh and him to the bed. Ollie was in our room too on his blowup bed (asleep!!!!) My neice and nephew kept my brother and SIL awake as they were talking, then my nephew was sick and Toby woke at 4.30am for a bottle. Thurs was a quiet day

Not doing much at the weekend, Toby has a spotty rash and I want to let him sleep as he's not ill but not quite right.

Anyway, Stacey killed archie!! Who d'ave thought it?

speak soon

xx

Dal - You look wonderful! Such a tidy little bump you have I was big as a house with the last one Hopefully you wont have to go past due. 3 out of 4 of mine were overdue (and the one that wasnt came right on her due date!). Its such a let down to watch the day you have had circled on the calendar forever, come and go with nothing happen.

NC - I dont know how you have managed to NOT knock something over the head of your DD1s father!! A pub is no place for a child... especially one that is old enough to absorb what is going on around her. You have been a wonderful mother, but far too kind to that man and his family. I would have cut him off ages ago. Anyway... your DD is getting old enough to make the choice for herself, whether she wants to be part of his life. Listen to what she has to say. My DD1 is 11 and she is very mature for her age. Her input matters to me when it comes to important issues.

Inzi - how are you feeling?? Interesting cravings have started

I have to put my 2 cents worth into your babysitting situation. I am adding a virtual shove as well . Its hard leaving the DCs in the care of others, but eventually you will have to get used to the idea. We brought Sofia to nursery school just after her first birthday and it was hard, but she was happy. I would love it if I had family to care for my babies when I return to work, but no such luck. My inlaws watched the older 2 for years when they were small, but they are now in their 70s and 80s so I couldn't do it now. Give it a test run for a few hours, and see how it goes. Will probably be harder on you than on Jane Then, do the overnight thing. Baby steps... And like the others have said, when the new baby comes, you will need Jane to be elsewhere anyway, so you may as well do it on your own terms now.

Well... Sofia seemed to be doing better today. Her appetite still wasnt the same, but her energy was back. Then, all of a sudden, she threw up all over her bedroom floor just as she was getting into bed! Sigh... We have 2 dinner engagements this weekend that I would hate to cancel... but I am not sure what to do. Maybe it was all the running around with her brother that she did tonight. Ugh... good thing DH was home and he helped me clean up. And good thing it was on the floor and not in the bed!

Muppet - how is everyone feeling? Hope the virus runs its course quickly.

to everyone else. I'm off to bed to try and get some sleep before baby wakes up for his dream feed.

Morning Ladies

Inzi-Awwww have a virtual cuddle and reasuring pat It may be hormones intensifying it all for you. Probably a few hours away first would be the best idea, and also-it has probably been made into more of an issue because you've been thinking about it, talking to us about it, going over and over it all in your head so it is more scary than if it had just happened iyswim.

Muppet-How's Tobes? LOL @ 'Mummy's little thundercloud' That would be fab

BB-How's Sofia? Did you manage to get to your dinner engagements?

RE-DD1 and pub. Have rung her this morning, she was obviously uncomfortable speaking to me in front of them as she kept doing long pauses. I text her last night and she still wasn't in bed by 10pm, which as a one off is ok, but she will have gone to bed late on Fri too, she's coming home for tea tonight, she doesn't usually on A sun, but it's snowing heavily and she wants to bike so needs to do it before it gets dark-so we shall see what's been happening this weekend. Oh did I say that one of the things they where whispering about how bad I am is that I make her go to bed too early? 7.30 she goes to bed on a school night. I maybe would let her stay up a little longer if she wasn't so tired from the weekend every bloody week!

FT, Margo, WWAJC and Alice (anyone else?) for the meet up-Is it okay if I bring sil along? I mentioned it last night and she started saying how lonely she is on her own all day, so I offered her to come with me. She seemed really please but is worried that you may all look down on her as she's a new mum and sometimes MN participants can be a bit harsh. I did assure her you're all lovely and that I am probably the most judgemental

Having a bit of an issue with Oh atm. What with the operation and the termination and all the other crap that came with it, plus tiredness, we haven't been having much action in the bedroom, it's been me not him. Anyway this morning he wasn't interested when I tried to initiate it. I kept asking why, and he wouldn't answer, then I eventually got that he didn't want to mess with his pyhchological mental health, when he's going to have to wait for 2 months for some more. Well for a start it's only been 2 weeks since the last time and wtf is he on about, I feel like he's being selfish and tryinbg to make me feel how he does when I reject him, but the thing is I know it's not nice for me to push him away, but I haven't felt comfortable doing it lately, I've put loads of weight on and feel like a bit of a mess 'down there' with everything that's been going on. Now I feel even worse. Any advice? Sorry if TMI!

Anyway, he's took Shannon out for a few hours while I study so better get my mock printed off. Love to all! xx

As you know from fb h has moved out. It's been a very strange weekend but I'm getting there - I'm glad it's finally done. Anya's on a sleepover at the moment with h's other dd (arranged weeks ago) so it's giving me a chance to catch up with lots of stuff, and today I'm going for a spa pamper package that h bought me for Christmas (swim/sauna, lunch, hour's treatments). LLL - onwards and upwards indeed .

Inzi - so glad that the scan went well, you can relax and enjoy your pregnancy now. lol at "whaaaat" - not surprised you laughed. So glad that you and your sister are back on good terms again. Glad you've arranged for Jane to stay at grandparents - think that's a good plan. I hope you have a lovely weekend.

Belgian - hi, welcome. I have one dd Anya born 7 Oct 07, and I am now the only single mum in the group. I live in Manchester. Is all going well with the pregnancy?

FT - really looking forward to Thursday. Car sharing would make sense but I am thinking Anya might get travel sick on the way back, especially if we hit the traffic. I'm going to experiment with phenergan so hopefully she'll sleep but I'd be more relaxed if she was in the middle of the back seat so she can see out the windscreen. And if it comes to the worst I would be mortified if she threw up in your car! Impressed at Alex sitting through a full length movie - not sure that Anya could manage that.

Eva - can't believe you had such a stressful weekend last week with all that work. I think you are being really sensible with your decision about H - you are not being a pushover if you are setting the groundrules about what he has to do to get back to being together with you again. And you are right that at least you can tell Aaliyah that you tried everything - you must do what is best for you and her, whatever choices H makes about his own life. I really hope that it all works out for you. Glad that Aaliyah is going to sleep in her own bed - hope she starts sleeping through soon.

BBlue - glad you had a wonderful time at the waterpark, despite the sleep problems. Eeeww to the racoon! Did you have to move it? Hope Sofia is fully recovered from her bug now.

NC - can't believe dd1's dad takes her to such a seedy pub - I don't think you'd be unreasonable to stop her going to her dad's if he takes her there. Lol at 'he scares me'. Not much advice with oh (not the best person to ask for relationship advice atm!) - hope you can talk him round and get him to understand how you've been feeling.

LLL - wow at Ben going on the toilet - that's amazing!

Dal - hope the prune juice does its job! Sorry you're feeling uncomfortable - not long now hopefully.

Hope I've not missed anything. Hugs to everybody.

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