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April 2007 - Did you realise our BABIES go to SCHOOL next year!!!!? :-o

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CaptainDippy · 16/01/2010 11:00

Thought it was about time we got rid of the Christmassy title. How's it going? It's the weekend!!!!! My three are in the bath and DH has gone back to bed

Sigh.

La! La! La!

xxx

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StealthPolarBear · 03/03/2010 17:46

hi

elkiedee · 03/03/2010 23:01

Oooggs, don't know the answer but expecting them to be dry I've heard of before but no facilities for changing seems a bit ridiculous, surely even trained children of that age have accidents.

My mum had her first appointment today to talk about her test/scan results recently. Not such great news - the cancer has begun to spread to her liver. She is booked in for surgery very soon on 16 March, and I guess that's good news that she can move to surgery very quickly, but they are looking for someone who can operate on her liver as well as the person to do the bowel operation, so that date is just tentative.

I think the bit that upset me most was that she said "I have a fighting chance" - that doesn't seem like enough, right now - I want my mum to have a bit more than a chance.

I'm glad I wasn't at work or alone at home when I heard though, I was out at the children's centre and was able to talk to someone about it (I'd already told her about the initial diagnosis). Also, though I'd hoped our CM would bring D to the group today, sometimes she does, she hadn't so I wasn't worrying that he would see me cry.

I'm scared.

StealthPolarBear · 04/03/2010 07:22

oh elkie
Glad she is booked in for surgery so quickly, when will you know that the date is definite?
As for the fighting chance comment, I'm sure she used the phrase to mean she feels positive, but ikwym about that not seeming like enough

Sexonlegs · 04/03/2010 07:54

Elkie.
Good news that the surgery can happen so soon. Will your Mum need chemo?

Thinking of you.

Northernlurker · 04/03/2010 08:20

Elkie - just looked in and seen your news. I will be praying for your mum (and for SOL's mum too of course ) This must be a very frightening time for you and don't try to deal with everything at once, just take each day or event as it comes. The first thing is the surgery, I wouldn't try to think much past that right now because this is a marathon not a sprint and I've seen people get very tied in up in ifs and maybes when actually they needed all their energy for the here and now.

Sweetheart - this is going to be hard and honestly if it were me I would let D see you cry. You'll put yourself under a lot of pressure to keep up a face otherwise and you don't need that. We cry because we love someone so very much and it's good to show our children that. He's not too young to understand. So - will be praying for a quick surgery date, an uneventful recovery and some good news after that and for you, that you may have all the strength and energy you need. How fortunate your mum is to have such a family to get her through. Be kind to yourself and don't do anything you don't have to.

StealthPolarBear · 04/03/2010 08:30

NL is wise, as always, do what she says

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CaptainDippy · 04/03/2010 10:40

Don't be afraid to let D see you cry sweetie - he needs to know that adults are "allowed" to be sad, as well as happy. I think that when I have been sad, my children have been the greatest comfort and have the wisest things to say. Once when I was crying, DD1 (about 3 at the time) came over with a tissue and a chocolate biscuit, wiped my tears and held out the biscuit, saying "there, biscuits make me happy, they make you happy too" Children are incredible. Let D and C be your inspiration and your source of smiles at this sad time. Save composure and strength for your mum and your dad It is ok to be scared.

Thoughts and Prayers. xx

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oooggs · 04/03/2010 10:55

elkie thinking of you - such hard times - positive support for your mum and don't hold back on other things or you will explode and crumble - we are here and as for the boys - NL and dippy are spot on

DH has left the building and returns on Saturday 13th in the afternoon

StealthPolarBear · 04/03/2010 11:07

oh dear oooggs, hope the week's not too hard

Bramshott · 04/03/2010 18:20

Very sorry to hear about your mum Elkie . Everyone else has already said everything, much more eloquently than me.

Eddas · 04/03/2010 21:51

evening ladies

I often read the thread and don't post as I have nothing interesting to say to anyone, but today I had to post after reading Elkie's post. I don't know what to say, nothing will help but I agree with NL and CD, they say things so much better than I ever could, but I want you to know that I am thinking of you. Things will be hard but as others said don't worry about crying in front of dc or dp, they are there for you, to help you, you just need to be strong around your mum, if you can. Sadly I know just how you're feeling Stay strong and come and talk here if you need to, our April ladies usually have wise words(not me but the others)

SOL, I think of you often too and hope that your mum is staying strong and keeping as well as she can

StealthPolarBear · 05/03/2010 07:36

hi Eddas

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CaptainDippy · 05/03/2010 11:55

Hey Eddas!

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Doobydoo · 05/03/2010 16:45

Elkie....I am so sorry to hear your newsI agree with the others.and you must take one stage at a time.It is scary.and it is the unknown and the need for answers that no-one can provide.Thinking of you and your mum.and you and your mum too SOL.XXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

Doobydoo · 05/03/2010 16:50

Oooggs hope you are doing ok????
Hi Eddas hope you are fine??Good to hear from you.
Thanks for all your support...we had fab hol...very active and are knackered
I have accepted the job I wanted!!!!!!!!!YAY.
Just have to wait till 20th March to see if I passed nursing course[eek]I did presentation etc
Ds1 has been accepted to both schools we applied for we are accepting the one in Grantham which was first choice so will move closer as it is a longish drive from here.He and we are pleased
I now need to crack on with driving!
Hope you all trucking along.
Think of you all lots and thanks again for your support.
xx

StealthPolarBear · 05/03/2010 16:51

fantastic Dooby, we;ll done

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CaptainDippy · 05/03/2010 17:06

Dooby -

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oooggs · 05/03/2010 19:50

dooby that is fantastic

eddas glad you have posted

elkie - hope you are ok

I am shattered, struggling to sleep - hate being on my own. Luke woke at 4am and I got him back to sleep pretty swiftly, but then I was awake

Everything has gone fine today until I picked James up from scholl - he had been naughty I was holding back the tears when he teacher spoke to me, didn't need tis today.

Finding it hard as my parents went away this morning until Sunday night so no support at all. I do have a nursery nurse (Erins keyworker) coming over for lunch on Sunday for a few hours.

Reading that I should like a total incompetent muppet who shouldn't have 4 children

AngeG · 05/03/2010 20:09

Elkie - So sorry to hear about your Mum, everyone else has said what I would want to say. Be kind to yourself. xx

Oooggs - you are totally not an incompetant Muppet I feel exactly like you sometimes and I've only got two. Hope you're ok and manage to sleep better tonight xx

Hello everyone else!

Izzy is now pretty much potty trained...we still have an occasional poo in her pants, but no wee accidents! Can't believe they're all turning 3 soon!

Sexonlegs · 05/03/2010 22:14

Hi all. Quick post before I hit bed.

Eddas, lovely to see you

Dooby, wonderful news on the job and school front.

Ange, good to see you too stranger Too much cooking in Cafe World

Oooggs, huge hugs to you lovely. Hang on in there. xx

Dh back tomorrow after 6 nights away. I am shattered. Mum and Dad have been over this afternoon and stayed for a takeaway which was lovely. K now coughing her head off grrrrrrrrrr. Fed up of arsing colds and coughs.

Bed time Night all xx

oooggs · 07/03/2010 21:02

wow nearly two days with no postings this is a dying thread

Eddas · 07/03/2010 22:05

I need some advice from those who have potty trained, pretty please!

DD was so easy to train I have no idea what I should do

Was talking to ds yesterday about pre-school and how the big boys use the toilet and have big boy pants, I asked him if he'd like big boy pants and no nappies, to which he grinned and nodded. Then I said he'd have to wee in the toilet if he wore pants etc etc. So we agreed that he could go to Asda to choose some big boys pants, which we did. As i'm very unorganised this didn't happen til the afternoon anyway, we came home and he was keen to put the pants on and promptly kept pulling his trousers down to show them off. Anyway I digress, he was only in them about 2 hours. He wee'd on the potty during this time and was most put out to be put in a nappy for bedtime saying he wanted big boy pants

So, tomorrow, I will take off his nappy PDQ in the morning and put on his pants, ask him every 5 seconds if he needs the loo, assuming this all goes ok and he uses the loo/potty(I know he might not!) what would you do about pre-school which is 12.30-3, should I leave him in pants after such a short go at training him at home or should I put a pull up on him? FYI there will only be about 8 children at pre-school so the staff(3 of them) may have a little more time to remind him

Sexonlegs · 08/03/2010 07:42

Morning all

Eddas, I shall be watching for the answers on this too.

K is just not bothered! She had a wee (her first ever) on the potty on Wednesday and said she didn't want her nappy on. So, cue the big girl pants.

She wee'd on the floor before we went to get B from school. We picked B up no probs, and then between 4 and 6.30 she had a further 5 wees on the floor, despite me asking her every 5 minutes.

Thursday is a nursery day. I wussed out of the pants and put her nappy on, and she did not protest. I haven't tried the pants again I thought I might just go for it this week now dh is back frm being away all week, but she doesn't seem ready still.

Anyway, how is everyone!!??

AngeG · 08/03/2010 10:40

Hello

I have a poorly Jake at home so making the most of internet time!

Eddas re potty training, for quite a while we were very inconsistent with it She would wear pants until an accident and then ask for a pull up on I let her for an easy life I would always put her in a pull up for nursery...however since we've been more consistent she has got loads better and hasn't had any accidents at nursery at all It's been just over 3 weeks now! Also she was very good at telling me she needed a wee which is good because I was rubbish at reminding her!

Anyway that probably wasn't very helpful just a ramble!!

Hope everyone ok.

Thinking of you and your Mum Elkie.

Eddas · 08/03/2010 11:37

well, it's not gone very well this morning. He's had 2 changes of clothes but I was having my haircut so no real time to remind him. I think i'm going to stick with pants for now as he did stop weeing once he felt it and carried on when I found the potty so if he has some control he may learn he doesn't like the wet feeling

I think i'll leave him in pants and ask pre-school what to do. Like I said today they only have a few children to 3 adults and I'm fairly sure the others are toilet trained so they might not mind keep reminding him. His friday session will be different as there's lots of kids so I wouldn't want to ask and will have to see how he goes for the week. Luckily atm my cm only has ds so she should be able to remind him alot tues/wed/thurs whilst he's there.

Poor little mite had to give up his bottle(he still had it for milk) yesterday too as the teat was broken and I refuse to buy more now he's nearly 3! dd gave up a bottle by 1. Oh how different things are for the 2nd child!!