AUG 08 - Toddzilla vs Mum-ra!

[cyteen]

Once more with feeling

Morning Nice early start for us thanks to ds1 , O still zzzing upstairs with dh.

poppy the lack of cuddles from my parents was from when I am old enough to remember - and I'm certain that if your girls wanted a cuddle they would get one. I think I have gone entirely to the opposite end of the extreme and without getting too psychoanalytical, I think this fulfills a need in me too . Bit early for psychology though....

Morning all

At work again, my those 4 days whizz by... just wanted to say thanks for the empathy on massive boys. Even my grandma mentioned yesterday though that he had got noticeably fatter over the last few weeks so we are cutting down the pasta and treats and upping the broccoli, hopefully this will be beneficial for us all

You have made me stop and think too that although I cuddle the DC and tell them I love them all the time, DH and I hardly ever do this , unless you count kisses at the end of a text... NY resolution to get the love back (and the lurve )

Sorry to hear you have more snow sazz, here's hoping it melts pretty darned quick

Also pleased to hear you VG and lwfh speak with such love of your older fathers. DH was a week short of 44 when DS was born, although he didn't look it (he does now )

morning all, surely its bedtime?!?

D sleeping having been up since stupid o'clock and DD2 at nursery to am off to get on with something useful

Sazz, am still working on the road trip plan so don't give up on me yet

Hots - as the queen of the tubby babies, I applaud them. If you can't be tubby when you're a tot when the feck can you?!?! let him be, ignore the eejits and celebrate the chub - one day you'll turn round, he'll have streched 2ft over night and won't be a wee chubber anymore

my girls hear that they are loved last thing every single night (when I'm here) even if its through gritted teeth sometimes it is always meant. when I go in and check on them before I go to bed they are told then too in the hope that it seeps in DH is also told all the time although sometimes in an 'I do love you, you know' after I've had a red mist rant and it he is working night shift when I go to bed I sent him a text telling him I love him and to come home safe to us.

Buckets - hope all well with K again today and you managed a decent night

LWFH my dad was 37 when they adopted me and whilst not quite as old as some, I'm pretty sure that he was born in a flat cap. His idea of current music is Bryan Adams and thats only because he remembers it being played as No1 for such a long time he retired the year I went to Uni which was probably just as well because being a bank manager he would have been able to see when I wasn't spending my money on books but on essential chips and cheese after a Sunday night clubbing session

morning everyone...

i tell my girls every day how much i love them..dd1 is a massive cuddler.. dd2 not so much except with daddy .. she is truly a daddy's girl.. dd1 went thru a similar stage at tess's age but she came back to me.. hoping dd2 does the same (not cos daddy's not lovely.. just miss her!)...

sorry to hear about your snow sazz.. hasn't hit brum yet and heres hoping it doesn't cos as you all know i am not a brave driver in snow.. and dh is away from the early hours of tom morn til sun arghhh...

dd2 has just cut her finger whilst smashing my wedding photo.. much blood and sicky feeling from me.. she on the other hand never batted an eyelid and try to clea herself with her wipes.. bless

Hey everyone.
buckets hope thie sickness has gone and noone else has caught it.

steaky I am so pleased you are having some fun, you really deserve it.

cyteen about your news, what a terrible tragedy.

red I also look at mine and think how quickly they are growing up. I said to dh last night that dcs are living at home forever, I will never let them leave.

Re the cuddling thing.
DD was not a cuddly baby,she also went berserk if we tried to fetch her in bed for a cuddle. When ds was born that all changed,she is now very affectionate and tells me and dh that she loves us everyday,as I do her.

Ds is very very affectionate, always wants holding,cuddling.
If you are sat down he will run and put his head on your knee and pat you,occasionally saying'ahhh'.
cc dd always went sown awake and self settled.(untill ds was born then it all went tits up)
ds has been cuddled to sleep for last6 months at least.

DD is now doing well in her own bed, she has not got out and tried to get in with us since I started it last week.
Ds is on second night of leaving to self settle.
Monday night he cried for 20 minutes.
Last night he cried/moaned for 3 minutes.
Like albs says I find that if I go in to ds every 5,10 mins etc.. it makes him worse.

Both dcs slept through for the first time in so long.
Also dd went to sleep on her own without a cuddle for the first time in a long time.

I have decided to crack them both together.

We will see how it goes.

I did move dds bedroom round the other day, and she said she loves her bed in its new position, so maybe this could be why she feels more settled. Who knows though!

thats great news No1 - long may it last

Oh and I also tell dcs constantly how much I love them, dh used to be daily. Not so much atm though.

My mum was never affectionate as far as I can remember.She left my dad and us when I was 10.
My dad is very loving and affectionate though, and often says he loves his girls.

oh and incase I don't tell you lot enough I love you all too

Morning all, DS woke up screaming at 3am so came in with us again - think it was a bad dream or something this time as he was instantly happy to be in our bed and soon drifted off to sleep (compared to Monday night's wriggling battle ). I totally savoured those cuddles because most of the time he likes to sleep in his own bed.

Being an uptight kid, being bullied from a young age by bastard cousin, losing my mum etc. have all meant I have long-standing trouble with expressing my emotions to certain people. I clearly remember deciding that I would never cry in front of anyone again as showing weakness gives people a weapon to use against you. I was 11 My family have been emotionally constipated since my mum's death, although since losing Simon we have made a bit more of an effort to be more open with each other.

My dad's dad was the world's most emotionally repressed cold fish and a total bastard to boot, and much as my dad has tried to escape his influence there's still a little bit of that reticence in him. I don't want that for me and certainly not for DS, so I am extremely free and easy with the 'love you' on a day to day basis. Same with DP, who is after all the best partner a girl could wish for. We have a good habit of appreciating each other

My mum was very open and demonstrative, something I was rubbish at dealing with as a tense and uptight small person. I often wonder how different we all would be if she was still here.

cyteen I'm sure things would be different had she been with you for longer but I can honestly say that hearing they way you talk about your DP and J I can't imagine for once second either of them doubt how you feel about them

DH and I have a mutual appreciation society going on too which I think stems from having known each other as best friends for so long before we got together - completely removed any trust issues I suffered from as I knew everything before I got involved iyswim?

Morning all. Got some sleep last night, Kurt did wake up starving but has had nothing but sugary squash and a couple of blueberries. V perky though and enjoyed a trawl round Sainsburys so .

DS1 never liked cuddles when little but that was part of his condition. Now he is v cuddly and affectionate. We have the phrase 'Loving you' in our house which is especially good when said through gritted teeth. DH & I usually say it once a day, although it might be just before sleep. I don't like to do the stock reply 'Love you too' though, I think it loses its value if your mind is elsewhere. So I normally just say 'Good' in response. Is that odd? Means when I do say it, I really mean it and have been thinking about him.

fecking committees why don't I have £150k just to open this myself

come on the Euro millions

GladioliBuckets - I absolutely agree - I think that "well so you ought to, I am fantastic after all" is another good reply to "I love you"

LWFH

If I tell DH I love him, he replies 'I love you more' to which I reply 'there is more of me to love!!'

Well yes it usually means 'now piss off, I don't have time for this, doesn't it?

or another more common reply in the Dixie house 'you'd bloody better' normally after a day like today

Buckets Buckets B-U-C-K-E-T-S

Quick question re Noah's measurements. The measurement you took down the back - was that neck to waist or neck to base of spine? It is long compared to the standard measurement I have - not a problem just want to double check if he is just long in the body rather than making it hand having it too big for him.

As you were ladies.