AUG 08 - Toddzilla vs Mum-ra!

[cyteen]

Once more with feeling

Hehe, I am here cece although shortly to depart for bath and bedland...today has been HARD WORK. Love, love, love DS to bits but he's not been a happy chappy today, bless him. Snot, tears, tantrums and red-cheeked chewing have pretty much been the theme of today.

I love that you are doing things differently to your parents in that way. Why have gorgeous babies and then not cuddle them, FGS? DS will be fending me off till we're both old and grey

hello o o o o o

is anybody there ere ere ere

mn is ultraquiet tonight. I've even resorted to reading the active convos. If you get bored read Jetli's post on funny holiday memories thread

cece HELLOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!

We rearranged, well, we have said we will rearrange but have to wait for my mum to bring her diary down so I know when she can babysit so I can go to play. But one good thing is that I've found a babysitter through a friend. Worth knowing eh?

Lots of cuddles are lovely, who doesn't love cuddles?

x-post cyteen Thanks for popping by to make me feel like less of a billynomates. Enjoy your bath! Sounds like J is teething? T&O will be like J - fending me off with a big stick . I just can't get enough of cuddling and kissing them! I figure when they are teenagers they won't be so keen to be cuddled to sleep by us!!?

Here CC, but filling in mind-blowingly complex contract forms for the playgroup I chair.

All the women in the village and the surrounding townlands will be on my case if I feck this up.

Stop trying to distract me.

steaky! dish the dirt on your shenanigans of last weekend!!?

Wotcha Cy and Red - mum had DD today, but returned her sans nap, so she was a bit of a headcase this evening.

I am watching Gok, eating home made curry and drinking red wine. Not the night I was hoping for but not so bad really.

Glass of vino red?

Ladies, I have been good at sticking to my plan. No wine last night, just the one glass tonight, no wine tomorrow etc. Feeling great!

O comes into our bed every night, usually he wakes up just before I'm off to bed myself, so I bring him in and we fall asleep cuddling together . We did the same with T. I adore my boys to absolute bits y'know .

Random poll - based on the fact that my parents never told me, or tell me, that they love(d) me...How often do you tell you dp/dcs that you love them?

DP - at least once a day
Ds's - at least 10 times a day
my mum & dad - never

What do you want to know cece?

Feck it. You've dragged me in.

I can't stop cuddling ds1 at the moment because his best friend has suddenly started to look like a proper grown up boy and I'm so scared the same is happening to my fellow.

Grabbed him bi'throat virtually to get him to get ready for school this morning then snuggled up massively tonight to help him get through Aslan's fate.

My mum first told me she loved me when I was 27 and I laughed inconsolably - I couldn't help it. She was a bit and we do actually have a great relationship. Anyway, I tell mine I love them obsessively as a result.

Casting back a few days and weeks, but I grew up around a lot of drink too and dh thinks my paranoid fear of drinking too much is hilarious.

Tis brilliant to know your boys are getting cuddles and the pattern is broken.

Oh, and I tell the cat perhaps once a day too! Lol, what does that say for poor dh?!

DD2 is teething too Cyteen and went about today pointing into her mouth and saying 'ow, mowf'. Frequency increased dramatically when she discovered we thought it was cute.

DP - when we were together, most days.
DD - every day, two or three times.
Dmum - um not every time I see her, but I do try and say something nice and thank her for her help or visit every time.
Ddad - everytime we end a phone call.

hmmm, not top of the class, not bottom, will give myself a "could do better" or a "must me more consistent"

must me? must be more consistent

I must be drinking vino typo!

steaky I want to know that you had fun! and that you enjoyed yourself, and that you didn't feel sad that you have 'moved on' from dh? I'm not implying you have done anything other than cuddle and kiss of course , just want to know that lust is alive and well?

sorry, phone call - short answer - yes fun was had - twas fab!

flippin marvellous!

Am off to bed, night night ladies and thanks for chatting

Evening. Puking baby still asleep so far, hopefully just a one off.

We are getting good at ignoring/shush-patting his yodelling at night but he usually comes in with us around 6am and goes back to sleep. DH will sometimes go off to the spare bed if it's earlier or if I've 'politely asked him to' because he's made no concessions to sharing a bed with 2 others and I am balanced on the edge with freezing extremities

I cried at the dinner table tonight I was so frustrated with DD's fussy eating, esp as Kurt refused his dinner too (although he later turned out to be sick). She gave me a cuddle bless her and we started (again) a new list of foods she will eat so I can try and do a bit of mealplanning. This list now includes some things that she has refused for the last few months so perhaps I made her feel like complete shit. DH then proudly told me he had given her a talking to about being good for mummy - aaaaaaargh!!! It's not about being good, the child already has perfectionism problem and really could't be any 'gooder' if she tried.

Sorry to hear K is out of sorts gladioli and that DD is causing stress.

Well done steaky! Sorry to hear tonight didn't work but, am sure your snazzy dress will do soon.

Congrats on making it home sazzles. Great to see you ataraxis and sorry to hear about your friend and an upset DS cyteen.

Interesting chat about the way we express our love for our DCs. I come from a ridiculously undemonstrative family, but have never been in any doubt as to how much I'm loved. The last time either parent hugged me was when they left me at boarding school, aged 7, Not remotely scarred (by that at least ) but do make an effort to tell my girls how much I love them and hug them lots.

DD1 is VERY demonstrative and I must admit I sometimes find it too much. DD2 seems to be more like me, at theis stage. I find that frustrating, but understand it entirely. DH just gets upset by it though.

I really hope that the fact that neither of mine have ever been cuddled to sleep doesn't make them think we don't love them......

Have drunk a bit too much wine tonight and weeping at news reports from Haiti.

poppy I always get a bit stressed when I am visiting my ILs because I do things so differently from the way that my MIL would - for example she has only fairly recently stopped telling me just to let Tom cry to get him to do something (go out of the house, not BF, get in the buggy etc., me leave the room) as she has now worked out that this isn't my thing. I am sure that she has found this as hard as I have - but anyway - I imagine on this basis that DH was NEVER cuddled to sleep but he has a great relationship with his parents, really strong and you can tell that they love each other etc., who are still great people etc. They can even get on with a vaguely stroppy DIL so they must be OK.

I do tell DS and DD that I love them, but with no special routine - Sazzles, that is a great idea, to make it the last thing that I say at night.

I tell DH probably at least once a day - probably tied in with you work so hard for us and the house is a state and we didn't sleep last night, I do love you etc.

With my parents, I don't think that we would say it now, but what my dad was great at doing when we were little was always telling me and my sister that he and mum loved us equally.

PS re: older parents, my dad was 50 when I was born. He is really fab, although a little old fashioned at times but this is more him, than his age.

One of my favourite conversations:

Me: I bet dad doesn't know the names of any music from after the 1960s

DSis: Surely he can name the Beatles

Me: I bet he can't name any others

Me: Dad can you name any pop groups?

Dad: What about the Beatles

Me: Yes, can you name any others

Dad: No, I don't think so ...

Apologies for the randomness of the previous post, but I think that we were talking about older parents a few days ago.

Also, sorry to hear about your poorly baby Buckets, I hope that things are OK tonight

REally must do something useful now, as the cleaning lady didn't come today

Hi lwfh. Interesting about your older Dad. My parents are at the opposite end of the scale (I was an accident that led to marriage, siblings, divorce in rather quick succession and ). Anyhoo, my Dad had us in his early/mid 20s and then my half sister in his 40s. He has been a far better father to her, despite the age-gap. While I am for her, I can't shake my feeling of about it all. It is still hilarious though when he tries to understand 'youth'.

Sorry you're about DD2's lack of hugs sazzles. I always assumed that I was not a demonstrative person because of the way my family is, but maybe not? Think that makes if feel better - if we're not 'huggy' people, we're just not. As one though, I can atest to it having nothing whatsoever to do with how much you love a person though.