DEC 08 - Barely into toddlerhood and already at our tit's end

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Tit's end...had to be done.

Hope this works!

Lady, I would think you would be feeling more and more pregnant, so bet you aren't too. I felt strange almost directly after conceiving last time (although that could have just been the raging hangover I had from drinking white russians until 5 am right around the time I conceived [checks DS for long-term damage]) and felt increasingly strange over those couple of weeks before testing. Even had this weird frequent urge to wee thing during those two weeks?! I really suspected something was up, but didn't want to get my hopes up.

I agree that April might be the right time to start not not trying . It would be a shame to be feeling nauseous on holiday - I had no illness last time, but don't want to count on being that lucky this time. Although maybe if I am sick this time, it means I will get a good sleeper?! Like a tit for tat thing? I would definitely vomit for a few months if it meant I had a baby that sleeps (no intention to belittle the effects of pregnancy sickness, for those who were really ill while pregnant, BTW!)

Maybe I should stop reading about writing for The Friend and start writing for work??? Bye for real this time!

Mom, start not not trying now, that way if it takes 3 months you'll have a Dec 10 baby!

Hee hee - first time each time does happen... Hate to throw cat among the pigeons, but it happened for me both times - much to my shock! And pleasure, but mostly shock initially! Particularly this time round...

So, I burst into tears at work today. Was in a meeting with the other seccies as I basically don't have a bloody thing to do here and am feeling desperate and useless and miserable as all I do is twiddle my thumbs and think about being at home with DD, where I'd rather be. There really isn't a role for me here.

Anyway, I came up with a solution to it, so if our head of HR agrees, then hopefully I will be a lot busier as of next week and won't find myself wishing I was at home all the time. Instead, will probably wish I wasn't so busy!!! But then I won't pine for Whizzer and will feel like I'm worth something here, not just at home!

PS I also nipped to the loo at 11, and noticed I'm wearing one brown and one black knee high boot today. I got dressed while DH was still asleep, so clearly didn't notice what I was putting on my feet. I wondered why I was limping on my way to the bus this morning, but thought it might be that a bit of my heel had come off, but didn't have time to check!

I look ridiculous!

yeah oh yes it can happen 1st time both times (or even coiled up like Syb!) but usually not if there are any obsticles or the like

Beans - lol at the socks! preg brain or what! This morning I made myself a coffee in ds's Tommee Tippee cup!!!!
I didn't get as far as putting the milk in though thank God!

That is brilliant - I can imagine doing that too. And probably drinking from it without noticing!

What is really funny about the above exchange about daffy pregnancy brains between our two lovely up-the-duff ladies is that Beans was talking about wearing two different boots and Rubes thought she was on about socks

Kayz, I am with you on not wanting to consider Jilly Cooper in the altogether. But I shouldn't think she'd be too jazzed by a naked me either As for writing naked, her fuel bill must be astronomical.

Oh thats too funny!!! Lady you're right I did until I just re-read it now!! And Oh my God Beans that is even more hilarious!!! How on earth did you do that?? I probably didn't believe it could have been shoes you were on about and just thought socks!!!!!

Well back from the midwife(s) and what a complete faf!! They were lovely though so yes it's not all midwives that are awful. dh said it's the area we're in (LOL!!!) that they are used to a lot of electives ooh la la!
Anyway, still they were reluctant to do the booking for an out of area hospital and said they could not understand about the fact that the hospital won't do the bloods themselves. They can possibly do the bloods there, but said I would need to then get a hospital number for their hospital etc as they cannot send the bloods to my chosen hospital!! I have opted to wait until Tuesday and have my scan and then tell them the situation again then and hopefully they will just send me on down to the flabotamist or whatever it is called as I don't want bloods and separate records at two different hospitals. Especially having the elective C!!! Told them it was no problem last time with the out of area hospital but the think it was all due to the fact that they were both still in London and they have couriers set up etc to do the deliveries, and then I told them that dh just took them in to work when he went and they were horrified! Not only that they were in his back pack as he cycles!!
Anyway, enough about my boring midwife appointments and blood ramblings! Did get another listen to the hearbeat though which was nice to hear again!!

beans that is hilarious I thought you were going to say socks and I was thinking that not that bad (my DH rarely wears matching socks) but different boots, so funny. Hope the job thing works out with HR.

Good evening!

I have shamefully only skim-read the last few posts! But re: reading. Chance would be a fine thing, however the last book I read was 'The Fish who could wish' to DD this evening. Bloody good it was too

beans Sooo funny, in fact i don't think I have ever recovered fully from 'pregnancy brain'.

rub Glad the MW appointment was ok, even if that have yet to do your bloods - what a fuss!!

aub Glad DH is home safe and well, his photos sound thrilling

trace I think I would probably tell my boss what was going on. But I am such a worrier that I like everything to be out in the open. However, I think the advice to think it over this weekend and then decide is very good.

invis welcome home! Sounds like you had a lovely trip

kayz have I missed it, or has your DH found a new job yet? Hope he gets something soon.

DS is still frightningly wheezy, especially in a morning. Inhaler & meds do not appear to be doig much this time. Although i think he sounds worse than it actually is.

MIL, is still very ill. She sleeps very little at night, and consequently sleeps most of the day. To make things worse FIL basically tells DH not to visit every time he rings up. Yet he never says this to DH's 2 brothers or sister and its really starting to p*ss me off. I have no idea why he is being singled out, but needless to say it is now getting silly and DH is getting upset over it.

Right am off for some cheerfulness to commiserate the fact I am fat and cannot lose weight

Daisy sorry to hear your FIL is being funny with your DH. Could he be worried it will hit DH harder then
his siblings? So is trying to protect him.

DH has no job yet. Off to job centre tomorrow. There is one going at the garden centre where DH will be working with his best friend. But it is a lot of heavy lifting which DH probably won't be able to do. But he is going to ring them and ask about the lifting.

I thought that kayz but DH has tried to speak to FIL about it but he denies he is doing it.

I know he is under pressure and all, but its really getting to DH, especially as it seems to be just him that is getting told to stay away. Its not even like DH takes the DC's with him as we don't take them very often as DD doesn't 'get' whats wrong with Grandma.

daisy sorry to hear that. It's a bit strange but I wonder if your FIL has picked up on your DHs current mood and is worried it will effect his mum. If that is the case I don't really think it is a good enough reason and it's important that he sees her as much as he needs.

I had my late night yoga class tonight, I love the class it brilliant. However, I ate some baked beans for lunch with DS2 and oh deary me I had the most embarrasing wind. Luckily it not audible but it is not a big room and we were all quite close together. I'm sure the girls next to me knew it was me. Sorry is that TMI.

at the wind veggie!

I'd like to say FIL has seen DH enough to gauge his mood, but I can't say he has. Besides on the occasion we do see MIL DH does everything he can to be upbeat.

DS's wheeze is noticeably better this morning, fingers crossed he is on the mend!

Daisy: sorry your FIL is being difficult. Coudl your DH try a different appraoch and say 'I want to see Mum tomorrow, what would be the best time to come?' If she's awake during the night, could he visit at night and keep her company, play cards or something? It would give your FIL a break as well. Hope it all works out soon.

Re: wheezy babies, DS2 has started wheezing again suddenly, DS1 has a sore throat so I suspect they are both coming down with something. Sounds like croup again to me but he hasn't got a temp or is otherwise unwell so he's gone to the cm's. We'll prob be in for an unsettled weekend. Daisy: if you have any top tips on getting wheezy babies to sleep I'd be glad to hear them. I lso thought it might be the change in weather as it's gone from cold and dry to cold and damp.

I was chuckling at the boots/socks mixup but didn;t like to say anything! Mind you, I'm def not pregnant and managed to put the cooking foil in the fridge yesterday .

Did you hope you might open the oven door in a couple of hours and magically find a chicken done to perfection inside, Effie?

T up lots in night, coughing, but also hungry. Did you mention a 13 month growth spurt? Also think T now v distracted during mealtimes so not actually eating enough to get him through the night. And late night cake isn't filling enough...

Yes, there's supposed to be one at around 55 weeks. Just what we needed. Good news is that the next one is around 18 months, so a possibilty of a bit of a break (teething permitting!). DS2 certainly seems hungry - he has a mammoth feed at about 3am and doesn't really stop snacking (I'm dozing at this point) until 6. Really should make the effort to get him back into his cot but it's cold out there!

Can I revise my post about not currently having any guilt about being a working Mum? Yesterday the nanny called in sick so I had an impromyu morning at home with DD2. It was her swimming lesson so I took her for the first time since she was 8 months. We had a great time and she was amazing - swimming underwater and being humpty dumpty and throwing herself off the wall at the right part of the song. The teacher and other mums kept commenting how smiley she was and how she was normally so serious and clingy. So of course then I started to worry that she is a different baby for the nanny and needs me to be happy. And of course now I feel terribly guilty. So LadyT, my new answer to your question is that being a working munis a rollercoaster, there are real highs and lows and you never know if you are doing the right thing. But I guess that is true for much of motherhood.

Beans - I have been meaning to ask whether you got your parents in law to help on your anti iron man campaign? Is DH still set on doing it?

And Veggie how is DS1's love affair going? It sounds so sweet.

Just remembered that the HV is coming round this afternoon to do DS2's year check. She us going to weigh him as he hasn't been weighed since August.

Daisy - glad to hear DS sounds better. Sorry for your troubles with FIL and DH - it can't be making things any easier.

On the whole working mum thing - I'd definitely agree with the rollercoaster. I don't have any serious regrets about working. I have worked hard in my time(mostly) enjoy what I do and never really wanted to give it up. It doesn't mean I love my DCs any less and I (mostly) have no qualms that my kids are happy and well looked after during the day, especially as their dad is around in the house. (BTW, meant to say earlier - hello tortoise. I think our circumstances are somewhat similar, I am a lawyer with a DH working from home doing his thesis). We do have our moments though and it gets harder when the DCs start to talk more. If I have managed to miss bedtime a few nights in a row, my DD starts to ask "Are you my mummy?" repeatedly in a slightly pathetic way, which does pull at the heartstrings. But usually they both seem perfectly happy to wave me off in the morning. I am sorry to miss some of their big moments though - DD has just started nursery and it has been DH taking her rather than me. Sweetie DS has done his best to oblige though, managing to stand unaided for the first time while we were on holiday last week and I was there to see him.

Kayz - I wasnted to ask, any news on your DH's job situation? What happened to him sounded really rotten.

No news at all. He is at the job centre now. He would really like to write a book. Just about being a dad and a husband etc. He wanted to do it while I was pg with DS1 but he never got round to it. So I think he is going to work on it until he finds a job.

Gosh what a good idea mrKayz. I know my DH would read something like that, and me for that matter. Has the Gestapo HV been yet kayz. Why is she visiting you at home?

Oh they reminds me I had the Dutch version of a HV came yesterday. There was a bit of a mix up as I thought the appointment was at the clinic and she went to the house so when the clinic worked it out they sent me home to meet her (cue me flying through the back streets on Den Haag with poor DS2 being rattled about in the bike trailer). Anyway it was a bit of a non event you took some details, realized she coundnt furnish me with any of the usual baby pamplets and then she was off. It wasn't til after she left that I realized she told me nothing about how things work in child health over here. But he's big now so I doubt I'll have much to do with them. DS2 pulled out all his tricks for her including his latest jump thing and she was happy with him. She made an appointment with the bizarrely named Consultatiebureau (makes me feel I'm in some communist state) which is the childrens community Doctor. They will weigh him then and check his height. I asked her about the weird dent on his forehead that is still there from a bump he had before Christmas (DHs fault and he is concerned he has scared our boy for life) but she seemed to defer to the doctor for everything so will wait til that appt.

Aub I'm sorry you have this guilt feeling but don't be too hard on yourself you said the kids love the nanny I'm sure she was just excited to have you around. The boys are so chuffed when DH comes home early and do all sorts of thing to get his attention and just beam at him. They don't always act like that when he's not here but his absence isn't harming them in anyway.

Well I went to an amazing place this morning called Koffie en kind. It is basically a lovely play space that is really well lite has a nice assortment of toys and play equipment inside & out. It is an afterschool creche which is really well resourced. Someone picked up on the fact that it's not used during the day so they installed a proper big cafe bar styley coffs machine, some cakes, popped some couches in a magazine rack etc and started a parents and toddler/baby cafe. It's brilliant, the coffee is excellent, and is all safe and contained so I can take my eyes off DS2 and actually read. There were lots of different nationalities there but everyone spoke English so was able to chat to other mums as well as read.

She has been and gone. But it was a nice new one!! DS2 is very impressed with his bookstart bag. But not the books. Usually he loves books but the cotton bag is winning.

They do them at home here as it is better to see them in there normal environment. But she didn't have any scales so no idea how much he weighs.

Hi All! I didn't even notice that Rubes thought it was socks!

Aubs - thanks for asking re Ironman. The latest (as of last night!) is that DH not now going to do the Ironman this year - yeeeehah ! I'm so chuffed. He's definitely going to do it next year, which is fine by me! I'd best not get up the duff again for a while!!! But he's going to do a half ironman in September, the Vitruvian, which he did last year as well, so it's a known quantity and definitely doesn't require as much training! So I'm chuffed to bits about that - hurray!

We're putting our house on the market in February and moving in May. DH wants to do the move himself and pay a mate £200 to help out for the day. Hmmm. Could be interesting. I'm madly getting removal quotes left, right and centre to combat this as I think it could takes days and days! He's only moved between one room in a flat before he moved in with me. I've been in this house for nearly 13 years and I think he's forgetting it's a whole house and that you have to individually wrap the glasses and plates etc!!! Hoping I can get a quote for under £800, but I don't think it's possible! Bum.

Am having my haircut tomorrow. At the moment, my hair is just below my shoulders and all one length. Wondering if I'm brave enough to get a short bob. Think I'm probably too fat at the moment, as have no jawline!!!

Daisy - I'm so sorry your FIL is being funny with DH. I wonder why that can be. Maybe he's also worried about how seeing his mother like that might affect him afterwards?

x

DH forwarded me this (not the nice pic of a place in France, the cutting further down!)

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