Jan 2010 babies and mothers....come here to hibernate!

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New thread for us Jan 2010 mums. Will hopefully get busier as more of our little ones arrive!

Arrivals List
1st Dec - Missmarjoribanks - boy Thomas William Francis (33+4)
10th Dec - ClaireDB - girl Mira - 5lb 11.5oz (36+5)
11th Dec - Alibobins - boy Jacob, 6lbs 1oz (37weeks)
14th Dec - londonlottie - twin girls Juliet 6lb 1 and Eve 5lb 6 (35+5)
15 Dec - Whensmydayoff - girl Olivia - 6lb (36+6)
22 Dec - Liskey - girl Ellie - 5.5lbs
24 Dec - timmette/shinybaubles - boy Oliver - 7lb
25 Dec - Fakeplastictrees - boy Luke Edward
29 Dec - CantThinkofFunnyName - girl Olivia Iris - 6lbs 2 1/2oz
30 Dec - Liny - Nottinghamsire - girl Elise
1 Jan - TheMinnieBauble - boy Freddie - Weight TBC
2 Jan - nomorebboze - girl Megan - 5lbs 12oz
5 Jan - Fraochsmum - girl, name TBC - 6LBS 2oz
5 Jan - FlightofFancy - boy Edward - 6lb 14oz (37+3)
6 Jan - salvadory - girl Imogen
7 Jan - MistletoeKisses - boy Nicolas - 6lb 8oz
10 Jan- crumpette- boy 'babycrumpette'- 8lb 15 oz

Maygirl - yes, I'm looking to do Buggyfit or Pushy Mothers. Looked into it before I had Olivia but they want c/s ladies to be 10 weeks postnatal before joining in. So just one more week to go for me.

Quirky - good on you doing the postnatal DVD. I have 2 which are really good but I've let it slip the last couple of weeks and only really managed to fit in a good workout on Sundays . Don't want anyone else watching me and the weekdays just disappear and all of a sudden the kids are back home and so is DH!

Olivia had a horrid couple of days - just when I thought we were getting through the reflux. Lots and lots and lots of sickness, v runny poos that are disappearing into her nappy, lots of screaming in pain . Paed appt came through for 31 March - seems yonks away. Bought some new formula this morning - Aptamil Comfort (for those with digestive problems). I think its just a bit thicker really - but she hasn't kept that down either. And she has slept most of the morning but on her tummy on a chest. Turn her over, she wakes and screams the place down.

OK - now for a rant about my DH. So, it was my lie-in this morning as he had 3 nights out on the piss this week. Alarm went off in time for him to take DD1 swimming and he really screamed at me that he heard it and to turn the f*ing thing off. Choice! Then he forgot (?) to take DD2 down for a feed, change and to take swimming so I could get the lie in. So I followed him downstairs about 5 minutes later and let him have it. One bloody morning was all I asked for!!! Anyway, so she really wasn't herself, had lots of cries and could only get comfy on my chest. He came back from swimming, said, you go back to bed, I'll take care of Olivia, I'll do the washing blah blah. I couldn't sleep (surprise surprise) as I was awake and knew lots of things I had to do today. Out of the shower, just getting dressed and hear him scream at the top of his voice "For God's Sake!" I mean really really really scream. I heard it 2 floors up in the loft. I came running down wondering what he was screaming at. Wales was not playing rugby, Spurs not playing football - it was the morning FGS. So - it turns out he screamed that at Olivia!!! A 9 week old baby because she hadn't stopped crying and he was "letting off steam". I mean WTF????! This is his 6th child!!!! Tbh I have never seen/heard him lose it like that with a baby before. He has of course shouted at the other DCs but they are older and when they are really naughty etc.

I think he feels really bad - but then I made sure he did. I told him to f*ck off out of the house, not come back until he learned to control his temper, didn't want him around my children etc, obviously couldn't trust him with them blah blah blah. Was probably an over-reaction on my part but Jesus H Christ! She is in pain!!!

He wouldn't move and has actually been snoring on the sofa for the past hour whilst I've stripped the beds, put washing on, done DCs lunch. Just logging on here before I complete a presentation for a meeting at DS school on Tuesday and then do the ironing. My relaxing weekend!! F*kwit. I am so so so f*king angry. So sorry for my appalling language ladies - I guess you get the drift.
Oh - and second period started today - maybe that's why I'm in such a particularly foul mood with easy to raise temper .

ctofn can't believe what a morning you've had and at your Dh

Jacob's appointment is on 31st March aswel and it feels ages away. Has the doctor not given you anymore gaviscon I can really tell now if I don't use it at a feed we have full on screaming and sick. Jacob has took to the nutramigen well and no more explosive poo's. Might be worth seeing gp again its not fair on you or Olivia waiting that long in so much discomfort how is she doing weight wise x x

Hi All

Lottie - well done on baby Juliet sleeping through! Clever baby and clever mummy!

Newbeginning - I took DS1 swimming around this age and found it was a little too early for him/ me to get anything out of it. I tend to get in the bath with DS2 and let him have a good float with me holding him. My personal experience is to wait until they are a little older and have more control of their heads...but that is just me. Well done on getting out to mummy/ baby groups. I honestly feel as though I am only just staying on top of things at home/ getting rest - have zero concept of when I can get out to meet other mothers/ babys...

Maygirl - I tried buggy fit after DS1 and I think it depends on your level of fitness. I found that the workout didnt even make me lose breath and I didnt really 'bond' with the other mummys. I am a nightmare; find it really hard to meet new people and get to know them, takes real energy on my part. I swear I come across as standoffish when really I am just a little shy when first meeting people. I must get out and make some friends locally though...so may try and find one of those classes just for the social element.

Sock - poor you! Something must be doing the rounds as DS1 isnt well either. Think he must finally have caught what I had. He veers between high energy and wanting incessant cuddles, so dont think he is that bad.

Jardin - poor you and DH, is the last thing you need right now.

CTFN - at your DH on your behalf! Sorry you have had such a rotten morning. Although am sure your DH will redeem himself..he has done before.

Hope everyone else ok, sorry for not replying to all posts. Nico still waking lots, but am determined to not feed him before 3am in the morning after his dreamfeed at 10pm, and so far is working, even though it involves quite a bit of resettling. Am hoping he starts to realise that it isnt worth waking at 1.30 for non existent cuddles/ feed. I keep hoping I will get that magical wonderment of a baby starting to sleep through themselves, but have resigned myself to the fact that neither of my boys are designed to do so. They will go down fighting!

Hi crumpette Dd is doing okay (touches wood) she has got a stronger prescription for her glasses and we go to see the reumatologist on the 7th April and eye consultant on 21st. Dd just hates the injections and because its a chemotherapy drug it comes with side effects and she is struggling with sickness and mouth ulcers.

Hope James settles for you soon I really don't think I would be able to cope with a screaming baby for 4 hours x x

YAngy - that's a really lovely post. I have 3 stepchildren but alas cannot post in the same manner as you! The eldest, who lived with us from age 12-18 is an absolute nightmare. We have pretty much washed our hands of him - and that's a very very hard thing to do with one of your own children and one that you have brought up (DH & me respectively); that probably gives some idea of just how bad he is. There is a saying that kids aren't born bad - having been through years of torture with DSS1 - I disagree. He is just bad through and through.

DSD (16) and DSS2 (14) are not bad kids at all actually - and DSD I do think the world of; DSS2 is an odd child, good heart but v v v annoying and always has been. Quite hard to feel lots of love etc when like that. Ooooh, I do sound awful.

Perhaps I ought to change my nickname to PartyofEight?!

Wow that is a beautiful post yangymac, you must burst with pride too!
I will post tomorrow, hope you are all well xxx

Morning all!

Crumpette - poor bub and poor you! How was last night, any better? 4 hours of screaming must go straight through you!

Ali - your poor DD, hope she feels a little better soon. Had no idea the injections she was on were chemo ones.

Yangy - what a lovely post. You dont sound remotely smug, but life is full of ups and downs and moments/ days like yesterday are ones to be treasured and locked away in your memory. I only hope I look at my two boys one day and feel the same level of pride. Although this morning, they are being an absolute delight, so I am in heaven!

CTFN - you dont sound awful at all.

Well last night was a sort of break through night. Even though DS2 kept waking from 1.30 - he resettled each time very quickly with a dummy, so is definitely not needing the milk anymore. I also decided to resettle him at 2.50 (more to see how much after 3/ 3.30 I could get him to go to) and he slept until 4.30. Even the 4.30 feed was a very small one and he was back asleep by 5am. So fingers and toes, the 1am waking will soon be sorted!

Happy Sunday all!

Crumpette - oh my! 4 hours! Hope you had a better night.

Yangy - Midwife told me I should have a homebirth for the next one - when I told DH he said in no uncertain terms there will be no next one! Thats what he said after ds2 - haha, bank holiday bordom put a stop to that idea!!
I've always thought 3 was enough for me, but have been looking with envy rather than pity at ladies walking round with pregnant tummies. Will have to repeat the mantra "it's the hormones, it's the hormones, it's the hormones"

Does anyone else have a noisey sleeper? DD grunts and trumps and snores all night.

Typically this is the 3rd time I've tried to post...I swear LO is psychic!

Definitely thinking of having another bub. I'd put off the whole motherhood thing as I never heard anything good about it. But I loved being pregnant, childbirth wasn't anywhere near as bad as I thought and Tobin is so funny. Plus I miss my little newborn,he's growing too fast.

Very noisy sleeper here! unfortunately I'm a really light sleeper = no sleep. I hear they stop doing at about 3months....is this true?

I found a couple of new motherease btp napppies in charity shop yesterday, which Igot for £1 each, along with some wraps 50p ea...talk about lucky. Just need to try them out and see how they go.

I think it is the hormones....although right now am firmly in the camp of 'no more..ever'. I believe my words to DH yesterday were 'if I ever say I want another one, hit me very hard with a very big object'. And I totally mean it. Two are such hard work, cannot imagine 3 under 5...and if we were to want another one, we would get a move on in the next year or so...
That being said, we havent ruled out more DC's 100%, so DH is not yet off to have the snip.

Lottie - no way is DS2 sleeping in with me, he is so unbelievably noisy. Made it to 3 weeks old and he was in his own room and in his cot. We have put a futon in there though, so if I find I am toing and froin too much, may just kip down in there. I would much rather they get used to their own room / environment as they start becoming more aware. My SIL had my nephew in a cot in their room until he was 12 months old, took them a full year to get him to sleep a full night in his own room...with the whole controlled crying, sitting in his room but not looking at him etc.
Re. the dummy, I did cold turkey with DS1 when he was 10 months old, there was 2 nights of misery/ crying, but then he was fine and forgot about them totally. Will do the same this time (if not sooner). But a dummy is the only way I am stretching Nico out to 3 hours between feeds during the day and getting him to go longer at night. If I wasnt using one, not sure what we would do.

SWH- DS1 can still be a noisy sleeper at 2 1/2 years old..not as bad as a newborn, but still wouldnt want to share a room with him.

Lovely day here...spent the morning at a garden center, and now surfing for little starter aquariums for DS1, he loves fishes!

yangy thank you, that was a lovely post!

Not sure I'm such a good mummy . At the moment I am on here with dd2 in sling and dd1 watching cbeebies to calm myself down before mil comes round. Really not in the mood for her. When she found out that dd2 had DS all she could say was "How awful, that should never have happened" and now it is not mentioned at all.

Oh crumpette hope 4hr screams stop soon. I agree that a dummy might interfere with bf when they're so young, I would worry too. Not that I'm any sort of expert.

jardins I posted yesterday but I see it has disappeared into cyberspace. Anyway, huge sympathies for you and your dh, hope it gets sorted soon.

We still have smelly wind and haven't pooed for 3 days. Tummy massages haven't helped. However dd2 doesn't seem at all bothered. I think it's ok for bf babies to go a few days without pooing. I hope that counts for those who are mostly bfed but with a bit of top up!

Hello all. DH attempting to redeem himself but I couldn't speak a civil word to him yesterday. He clearly got out of bed the wrong side!

Dummies. Olivia has one and loves it. She has made it from 10pm to 5pm past few nights through use of dummy. My previous 2 had dummies up to nearly 3, when it was left on plate with mince pies for santa. Tried to rid before that but to no avail. However I really do hate to see children older than that with dummies.

Must dash as typing one-handed. x

at 10pm til 5pm CTFN! I need a dummy too

jardins I missed that part of your post, sorry to hear about your DH's job. for you- definitely not what you need with a new baby

lottie are you serious? How can they be such prats when you have little twins!? You've just gone to such upheaval expense and effort to be there... You'd have to move away from the Lindt shop ! Not cool

quirky I am astounded at MIL's attitude, and comments. My god I would probably have punched her, that's a dreadful thing to say to you. Hope it has gone OK today.

Hey Lottie - if you move back to the UK will it be London again? Hope so, I think a meet up would definitely be in order!! Got to look for a positive in there somewhere eh!

Seriously though - not that I'm joking about meeting up - but that is total and utter sh*t for you and your DH! Not wanting to undermine how you feel, but it must be incredibly stressful for your DH, feeling the need to be hunter/gatherer etc.

Jardins - same as above for you too. for you.

Ooh - also addressing the swimming question that NB1 raised - I took DS when he was around 4 months. i think the general rule of thumb is after they've had their first round of jabs which concludes around 16 weeks.

Am rather hoping to grab some time for a bath later, after have read DD1 her bedtime story! And baby clinic tomorrow to get Olivia weighed. Will of course report back with HUGE weight gain . On a serious note, I have noticed this week that she really has grown, despite lots of puking up feeds... so I guess some goodness is going down and staying there!

Right - sorry, really must sign off uber long post. x