December 2009: for the sake of Auld Lang Sine

[LaDiDaDi]

Just thought that I would get this started before the ante-natal thread gets filled up, not that I've had much time to post since I had DS but others might be able to multi-task better than I can!

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my back is awful too and my carpal tunnel still hasnt gone! My bingo wings are iproving though with all the exercise they are getting.

dp has gone to the allotment and dd is at her daddys and ds is asleep...... not after being sick on me!! Apparently ds is average size of a 5 or 6 month old!!!! no wonder the lovely gap fleese romper suit that is 3-6 months doesnt fit him...... gutted..... never been worn either!!! another ebay i think!!!

Enjoy the peace and quiet sparkly . I'mtired after several night wakings from dd and ds then an early start.

We had another good night here again. DS did 7pm till 7am again without getting up and Catherine did 9pm till 5am again then fed and dozed till 7am!

I'm feeling so much better. I could get used to this - but better not!

Sending everyone my good sleep vibes to help with your little ones!!

I wish!!

DS is 3 in just over a week, he's been doing 7 till 7 again recently which is a relief as he's been up a couple of times most nights since Catherine came home. It's good that it seems like he's getting back to normal

Hi everyone

Thanks to everyone for thinking of us - op is next Tues so just over a week to go - have to take her in to have an MRSA test today as she has to have it before the op and treatment if she caries the bacteria is 5 days so need to go today really. Quite reassuring though. Am so not looking forward to the op but am hoping it the whole thing won't be as bad as I am expecting. Am currently worried as she will have to go from midday until 6pm without food . Not terribly fun although clear liquid allowed until 4 I think. Am so sad she will scream for the last two hours before her op and I will have to send her off having been so unhappy...

She has now been asleep for an hour and a half! Amazing. She has a cough and cold though so that could be why..

Had her weighed on Weds when we saw the paediatrician and she weighs 12lb 6oz at 14 weeks. She is now on even more medicine - domperidone to help move the food through her tummy faster and tighten the sphincter muscle to help stop all the projectile vomiting but yesterday she was totally starving and fed about every 2/3 hours so perhaps it did that to her - not too keen although she did go 7-10:45 (am trying to bring that feed back to 10 eventually) and then 11-6:50 again so that's good although I hope the cast doesn't hinder her sleeping!

Glad to hear everyone seems to be coping well and getting a chance to enjoy the babes a bit more! and the weather has been lovely - roll on sunny walks and "summer"...

Good Luck with the Op Kingsroadie. x

Goodness, it's gone quiet on here....

I'm feeling a bit meh at the moment.

Seems like dp and me just lurch from one reason to be grumpy/huffy with each other to another. Last night he came home from work with the words "I'm not staying long, I need to go do stuff and go out", he returned much later and gave me one word answers about what he;d been up to, when I complained that I was trying to make conversation with him he just shrugged then went to bed without saying goodnight. This morning he was going to dash off again without giving me a kiss or a hug . I know that he had had a good but busy day at work and we'd had a lovely day on Sunday, I think it's all because I couldn't get into the mood for sex on Sunday evening, explained it's not because of him etc etc but he was still clearly huffy. What makes me most cross though is that there was a massive period when he wasn't up for it at all, depression and s/e of meds, and I just had to get on with it. Yes, I felt rejected and sad but I didn't take it out on him !

Also I'm cross because I'm getting horrid spotty chin. Would love to change my pill back to Dianette from Cerazette but can't because of bf. Look like a wrinkly yet spotty teenager .

Would love to buy some new springtime clothes too but can't be bothered to go shopping this am whilst dd is at nursery, it all feels like such a rush in the mornings ayway but then to have to dash to the shops as soon as I've dropped her off, then whizz around not having time to try stuff on then feeding ds every half an hour before rushing to get dd at 12 is all too much for me today. Going to have a lazy morning in front of the TV! Might eat some of dd's sweets .

Hi everyone,
My darling daughter is 3 months' old today! Wow!

We're doing well here - we had our best nights' sleep yet last night after quite a few nights of DD waking nearly every two hours. She slept from 7pm-midnight, fed, and then woke for a feed at 5am! To be fair she did wake up earlier than that - I think around her normal 2 hour window (2am) but she was just fussing and I was so tired I remember sitting up, putting my hair in a ponytail in preparation and the next thing I know I'm waking from a deep sleep on my back at 5am...

This tests and proves my theory that she's fussing at times and waking me and not hungry - my normal reaction is to pick her up and feed her as I don't want her to get to crying. I think maybe a move to her room is on the cards soon. Of course I will test this theory for a few nights yet! Just pleased as I feel like I am getting somewhere and learning more each day - a rested clearer head makes such a difference .

DH has a new permanent job which we're thrilled about as money was getting short - but its taking some getting used to - a LOT more time on my own just at home (he was working, just temping p/t before). I was going to go to Baby Rhyme Time here in the village but chickened out... not sure why... didn't know what to expect? Anyone going/been to such activities?

LaDiDaDi - Sorry you're feeling down today. I think a morning in front of the telly is just the thing - and sweets too? Why not. I hope you have a nice morning and get a little rest/you time if you can.

On Cerazette too and I was thinking the same of my skin - grrrhh - haven't been on the pill for about 3 years - I haven't missed it. It's not like I actually need contraception with the lack of any activity in that department. Must try harder - feel guilty about that and that doesn't help and am sure Cerazette has dampened any enthusiasm - or maybe that's an excuse too!

I haven't been out apart from the shops for a paper for a week. Going to go to town tomorrow to get DD's photo for her passport - I would go clothes' shopping but gosh I need to lose some weight... tried on pre-pregnancy jeans yesterday - big mistake... but very inspiring - wasn't going to touch chocolate last night (didn't have any) - until DH came home with some - only had a 'bit'.

Got to go for now - being paged .

Is anyone else struggling at night..... i am rushing to ds when my instinct says he is just fussing...... but i am scared he will wake dd!!
dp is not a dp he is a tpinap (total pain in the a**e partner). I was up and down from 2am (ds had slept from 7pm till 2am so thats good) but of course I had not been in bed that long and so am wornout. dp apparently didnt hear ds at all not even when i was calling him down the monitor because ds had been sick and pooed and i needed help. so i did it all on my own. then this morning i get a snotty text say 'i wont be able to make it to docs' ds had his second set on jabs and i hate it .... but have soldiered on and did it.... ds was absolutely fine and didnt cry for long. dp didnt even say.... so sorry i cant get out of work..... will you be ok. this is my punishment for asking him if he can hear ds or is just choosing to ignore it!!!!

i give up.
seriously think i will be on my own before long.

Sorry you're feeling down LaDiDaDi - hope you're "saving" your DD from some nice sweets and they're making you feel better.

I'm very lucky that DH doesn't make me feel too bad about lack of sex. He mentions it but doesn't sulk. I'm just too tired and grossed out by my own body to get into it at the moment.

Doesn't help that our contraception is all down to condoms at the moment either. I hate them cause they make me sore but I'm loathed to try anything else. I'm limited because of breastfeeding and am petrified that the pill or coil will make me put on even more weight and I just cannot bear that thought at all. DH is going for the snip at some point so it's not long term but I really ought to do something a little more comfortable else we'll be celibate till he's got the all clear!!

Catherine had a bad night last night and was up about 3 times. She ended up sleeping in our bed so DH was hanging off the end and I was trying to be as thin as possible in the middle - not comfy but she woke up every single time I put her back in the crib and I was soooo tired.

Managed messy play this morning (DS's last session as he'll be at pre-school whenever it's on now ) but I'm struggling to get out for toddler group this afternoon (it's already started) so I think I might just have a bit of a tidy up as he seems quite happy playing in the lounge. We go to a nicer toddler group tomorrow so it's not as if he's missing out.

Must remember to e-mail and sort out his new swimming class tonight too. My baby is going to be a "Shell". He was a "Pebble" before which I always thought didn't inspire much confidence, pebbles sink after all!

sparkly - sorry things aren't improving with your dp. It's hard enough with a new baby without feeling unsupported by your other half.

Can't believe I'm asking this already but what are your thoughts on weaning (4/6 months, blw/puree etc)

Feeling really tired today. Went to bed early last night leaving dh looking after ds2 as I was exhausted but then ds2 woke up at 0400. Thought he was hungry but he only had 1oz then went back to sleep so maybe not.

Went into work today to apply for promotion which felt a bit strange on mat leave but can't be helped.

I did blw at 6 months with dd last time and intend to do the same this time but we are going to see an allergy consultant about dd, allergic to peas, lentils, soya beans and chickpeas. I know that there has been suggestion lately that earlier exposure to potentially allergenic foods might actually reduce risk. This goes against all previous thinking on the subject! Will be asking the consultant on their views and may introduce ds to these foods sooner. Interestingly I'm vegetarian and the foods that dd is allergic to are pretty much my staple diet, we didn't intend to bring her up as a vegetarian anyway but to let her eat meat unless she made an active choice not to but at this rate she would really struggle to get an adequate diet as a vegetarian so it may not be a possible choice for her.

Hello, can I join you all here?

My DS is 3 months old today, and I have meaning to join your little group for ages and not getting round to it

I will make attempts to read the rest of the thread, then post a little bit about us, I will be back!

Hi everyone and hello LifeofKate!

Sparkly - so sorry to hear your husband isn't being more supportive. If it's any consolation mine doesn't get up at all in the night during the week. He does work long hours though so needs to be on good form in the morning as he might be in the office until 10pm or later. I make him do the first feed of the morning though - anytime between 6 and 7am - wasn't terribly pleased when it was 6am today and told me to stop trying to bring the 11 pm feed earlier...! He can't come for jabs too - it's really hard as I hate them.
Re the sleeping - I have left her crying (not crying a lot but crying) for 50 mins at night. I am more likely to go in when I have just put her down if she won't settle but rarely go in to her room in the middle of the night as I think she needs to settle herself - tough I know. I now refuse to feed her until 6am - not before as I just know she doesn't need it. And she only has about 4oz at 6/7am so clearly isn't even starving then! She is full of smiles so although it ay seem like a rather hardass approach it sees to work for us, plus I am getting some proper sleep 11-7.

Next tuesday on her operation day he is hoping to be able to escape from the office for the afternoon and hopefully the morning of the next day but we'll have to see how it goes - he might have to "work from home" for the morning...

Claire - me again! I am going to wean Persephone early cos of the reflux - you can start at 17 1/2 weeks (according to my paed dietician friend it's perfectly safe). I bought a book on weaning yesterday and some kit - they grow up so fast! Thing is, with weaning earlier you can take it a bit slower and introduce new foods slowly whereas as 6 months you need to introduce new foods fairly quickly I think - I quite like the idea of being able to take my time. But it's mainly because of her reflux (nothing to do with wanting her to sleep 7-7 at all )and will only be a bit of babyrice and then some fruit puree and then moving to carrots etc I think.

She has been fairly grizzly today and refused to sleep from 14:45 until bedtime which is v unusual for her and had a couple of screaming fits poor thing - think she isn't well AGAIN. Blocked up and coughing . Anyway enough from me and my enormous post - have a good evening ladies!

i will start with puree and move onto finger food/blw..... when my daughter ws born it was finger food or am i getting the blw wrong. ds is a big fella .... over 17lbs at 12 weeks so i wont be waiting till 6 months but will of course be sensible. i like to give puree first to see how they are with food and how their sicky or bum reacts to it. dd was pureed and moved onto lumpos gradually and is an amazing and healthy eater now!!!

have spent the day crying on friends shoulders and even filled up at a pTA meeting. oh well. x

Who has the initials KR? I've got a request for the FB group....

Sorry you're feeling poo Sparkly, sounds like your DP needs a right big kick up the arse

Hope the op goes well next week Kingsroadie, what's the recovery time like? Hopefully she won't mind the cast too much, she sounds lovely and smiley.

Fizzy is now 3 months and I think she's about 12-13 lbs (I stand on the scales holding her) and is sleeping from 8ish to 6ish most nights with the occasional blip of 4am or bonus of 7am so I'm pretty happy with the amount of sleep I'm getting. She's starting to make lovely noises too, all oooooooohs and aaaaaaaaaaahs and gurgles

Not sure how we're going to tackle weaning yet (it's one of my least favourite things), DD1 was 4 months (severe reflux) and purees and jars, DD2 was 6 months and not so smooth (lazy me) purees and lumps straight away, this one will probably just get thrown things whole and left to get on with it herself!

Hello, hope you don't me joining you as well. I've been following all the threads from the beginning but never been brave enough to post anything.

My DD was born on 8th December and it's been so reassuring reading through all the threads to find all my worries and concerns actually just seem a 'normal' part of being pregnant (although that seems like years ago now) and having a baby!

If I'm allowed I'd like to join in the facebook group too...

Of course you're allowed!

Welcome to Kate and Hendo

kingsroadie - I think I'll try weaning at 17 weeks & see how he gets on. Had another bad day with lots of back arching & shouting (from him not me) when I tried to give him a bottle. I had a Boots parcel arrive today with some baby rice & jars & stuff. Going to start doing the whole ice cube thing like I did with ds1. I read the other day that reflux babies are best started with veg as the fruit acids can upset them apparently. You might know better than me though since you have a paed dietician friend to advise you (wish I did).

Having been sleeping from around midnight til 0800 ds2 has woken up at 0400 the last 2 mornings. Yesterday he only had 1oz of milk then went back to sleep so today I tried to just settle him but he didn't want to know then had 5ozs of milk when I eventually gave in & fed him. Hoping this isn't the end of my decent nights sleep. He's gone to sleep earlier the last few nights so going to adjust his bottle timings to try & get some milk into him just before he goes to sleep in the hope he'll then sleep longer.

Weighed ds2 today as I was worried about how erratic his feeding has been & he's gone from 12lbs 2ozs to 12lbs 12ozs in 2 weeks which drops him slightly below the line he's been on so will weigh him again either next week or the week after.

Whoops meant to say hello to LifeOfKate & hendo77

been meaning to do an update for ages but just never got round to it, so i'll do it now

i totally know how your feeling regarding the DP!! Dp is a total arse to put it nicely!! DS2 is now nearly 12 weeks old and he has changed a total of 3 nappies and has given him 1/2 a bottle. he went back to to work the day after he was born even though I had to take ds back to hospital to see the consultant about his arm. I had to get my dad to take me as i didnt feel safe to drive. he hasnt come to hosp appts or for his injections either. he hasnt bathed him or got up with him during the night even though his is still up watching tv down stairs most of the time. which annoys the hell out of me, he sleeps on the sofa about 5 nights a week and when he does come to bed he wants sex!! He can keep dreaming.
I know i'm moaning but I kind of like it this way, then I know things are done properly. He was the same with DS1 never really bonded with him at all and now he is a proper little mummys boy and doesnt really listen to his dad...
oh ive just remebered he has dressed DS2 once, after i asked him to

As with weaning ds1 was weaned at 17 because of reflux, did home made purees and he took to it very well and is a good eater now. this time round i will just wait until i feel ds2 seems ready.

I was a school picking ds2 up the other day and was talking to another mum who has a dd who is 15 weeks old. she was saying her dd has started waking every 4 hours in the night to feed when she had previously slept for 8 hours. i said oh maybe she is just getting ready to be weaned and go with it for a few more weeks and she said oh ive been weaning her for 5 weeks i didnt know what to say, am i the only one who thought this was quite bad??

any way big big moan out of the way I hope the op goes well kings
and welcome new ones joining!!

Hi all,

not had chance to look at this thread in ages. I have been on the go for weeks, DD1 waking up far too early and when she does sleep in Ebony seems to know and get me up instead. So by the time i get them to bed i just curl up on the sofa, have my tea and then go to bed.

I too can not belive how quick time has gone, Ebony is 15 weeks today

Was thinking i was going to have to wean Ebony early as she still was not taking enough from a bottle but she has got better now and is taking just short of the recomended amount and her weight seems to be fine. 1pet i would have thought that was very early too and at work i still come across parents who wean as early as this but i think it comes from family members giving 'helpful' advice on how they did it.

Anyone know how long it should take for Cerazette to get out of your system, i stopped taking it a couple of weeks ago as i kept missing some and it was giving me bad spots etc.. No sign of a period yet. Starting to get a bit worried now as i have managed to do it twice since having Ebony (whilst i was taking the pill but never on time/missed some etc) Was waiting for period so i can take my old pill but its not shown up yet