December 2009: for the sake of Auld Lang Sine

[LaDiDaDi]

Just thought that I would get this started before the ante-natal thread gets filled up, not that I've had much time to post since I had DS but others might be able to multi-task better than I can!

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bf & co-sleeping with dd next to me in bed. Anyone else doing this? dd has a cold atm so blocked up. I have 2 off school today & snow& ice on the ground (when will it go away!!)

I'm bf. I put ds in his moses basket at bedtime but once he wakes up in the night he comes in next to me, though he's had a blocked nose lately and hasn't tolerated being fed lying down which is a pity. Dp is sleeping in the spare room as he is a smoker and he likes his sleep!

Woke up at 2.30, 5 and then 7 last night.

Argh! Just came back to this thread having "posted" a massive post last night and it would appear it didn't work. V frustrating...

Update here:

I took her to see a private paediatrician on Wednesday and he immediately put her on neocate, which I started on Friday. On Friday she was bringing up everything I fed her - it was quite upsetting as it seemed to be even more than normal and was thick and mucousy. I have been a bit under the weather so I think it might actually have been that she was also feeling ill and had a lot of mucous, casuing her to be sick a lot. Although it might not have been! I don't want to tempt fate but since then she seems to be bringing up a lot less...

Anyway she now hasn't done a poo since Saturday evening and am starting to think she might be constipated as she seems uncomfortable and suddenly starts crying. I have just given her a 3oz bottle of boiled water and a tiny bit of brown sugar which should help. She hasn't eaten a huge amount in the past two days, possibly due to feeling unwell (I am the same) - about 19/20 oz per 24hrs when I believe for her weight and age she should be eating at least 25oz. I also find she eats less when constipated (she had it terribly when I tried her on enfamil as it was thickened) as I think it all "backs up" and compresses the stomach so they can't fit as much in.

Anyway that is the most recent update - need her to poo now! Am going back on weds to see the paed again and take stock of things - there is another med he could give her (ranitadine didn't work at all) but the dose range is quite big so the only way to accuraely find out how much to give her is to feed he rthrough a tube in hospital overnight and see how much she refluxes to determine the exact dose. I am not keen as it seems rather heavy handed - trial and error is the other way. Am hoping that the neocate is working though - although she has good and bad days so am worried I am speaking too soon!

She is now sleeping 11 - 4ish - I am pushing her if she wakes at 3am. Then she eats 4 oz though and isn't hungry much at all at 7/7:30. She was weighed by the paed and she was 10lb 9 oz at 9 weeks. She was on 50th centile but this puts her on the 30th but that's not a massive drop so am not worried. Can't decide whether to take her to clinic with HV today to weigh her again - haen't been for almost a month - but am feeling really under the weather today so will see how I feel!

And one more thing: have been back on the pill for 3 weeks now and for about 2 1/2 of those I have had a period. ?! Is it like when you first went on the pill all those years ago and some people had a month long period? Anyway it's a real bore now and I am wondering if it's just my hormones settling down and really hoping it wil stop soon as I am fed up.

sorry for the enormous ramble - hope everyone is getting on well with sleeping, eating, crying, jealous sibblings etc - we're all doing so well!

kingsroadie - fingers crossed your dd is getting better. I found ds2 was constipated when he first started Gaviscon but his system seems to have got used to it & he's fine now. Having stopped being sick he's been sick a fair bit the last few days having caught my cold so hopefully that's the same with your dd. I'm back on the pill & had a period that lasted about a week & have now got another one only 2 weeks later. Hoping this isn't how things are going to carry on & that it's just my hormones sorting themselves out.

Had drs this morning & my cholestorol is the same as 2 weeks ago so I'm now taking statin tablets every day which hopefully will bring it down.

I'm very grateful for this thread as I've got a 'friend' with a totally perfect 4 month old who would be making me feel horribly depressed & inadequate if it wasn't for being able to come on here & discover problems are the norm & she's the exception (or a big fat liar)

Claire, your friend is most likely a big fat liar!!
I havent had elizabeth registered... whoops. made the appt but couldnt get one till wednesday and that takes me over the 42 days. Oh well I suppose I could just not register her and she could become a superspy when she is older

Her nose is still blocked, she is now suffering from nosebleeds, she had a really bad one yesterday, spoke to HV and she said something about a weak blood vessel up there, but I dont know, it just seems weird that she as had snuffly/blocked nose since the day she was born, she has never been clear of it, and now these nosebleeds.
I cant get a humidifier because my flat is damp enough as it is, we sometimes have to use a DE-humidifier just to not have water running down the outside walls!

Also she has these weird little bumps appearing on her forehead, my mum reckons it'll turn into cradle crap but im not sure... poor little mite it's so rough being a newborn, good job we dont remember that far back!

Im so sorry to hear about sibling jealousy, Jake has been really good so far, I think through good luck rather than good judgement, mind you she's not stealing his toys yet so lets see how he is in a few months time!

Scrap the superspy idea, she seems destined to be snuffly and a heavy breather, she'll never be any good at hiding, the enemy would hear her snorty breathing a mile off!

ds2 has just spent 6 hours screaming & is now finally asleep. The last 2 days he's started screaming whenever I give him a bottle. Manages 2oz fine then all hell breaks loose. Don't know what to do with him. dh keeps saying he doesn't know why we had another baby & that he can't cope with his constant crying. He had got better but the last few days have been awful but dh seems determined to feel negatively about him. Feeling at the end of my tether & totally alone again.

Claire your friend is def a liar..... I have one the same who slipped up and confessed to being awake from 1.30am with a baby that is sleeping through!Oh and the baby NEVER cries but she has to get her to bed for 6pm cos she is 'grizzly' ...... well i have never met a baby who grizzles but doesnt cry or whinge!!

Oh CLaire ....... you really are not alone...... I couldnt feed ds yesterday for his constant fussing and screaming whenever i try wind him and then if i dont wind him he is sick!!!!My dp also has said we shouldnt have bothered and there is def no more babies and also told me to.....GET A GRIP...... I nearly thumped him...... there I was with my boobs hanging out....... and a screamning baby on my knee..... i put him down on the changing mat and took a few deep breaths chanting to myself..... it gets easier it gets easier!!

HUGS XX

She has contradicted herself a few times. Like when she says her dd sleeps through from 0700-1900 but then another time mentioned feeding her twice in the night. I don't care how long her dd sleeps for but why would you lie about it

SOme people are very insecure and in sincere..... dont waste your time with them...... I heard babies who fuss and crave attention turn out to be loving little people..... I like that thought. x

Sorry you're having a hard time Claire. At least you have us so you know that you're not going through it alone!

Babies are such hard work and I know I've had at least one "why did I do this again" moment - but try to remember sparkly's chant...It gets easier, it gets easier, It does get easier

And then they'll become teenagers!!

ds2 is much harder work than ds1 & dh & I were both exhausted already because of the stress of the pregnancy which hasn't made it any easier. I also think dh is depressed, he's so negative & keeps talking about how crap our life is & can only seem to see the bad in everything. I've been up since 4am with ds2 & feel exhausted but the fact that at 0530 he was smiling at me & making dead cute noises reminds me why all this is worth it but dh just doesn't seem to have moments like that with ds2. He's also really short tempered with ds1 to the point where I feel uncomfortably like he's bullying him sometimes. I feel like life would be easier if dh wasn't here as at the moment I'm trying really hard to ensure ds2 is quiet whenever he's home which is ridiculous. On the positive side ds2 is currently sound asleep in his pram & has been for a few hours now so hopefully that will help him shift his cold. When he woke at 0400 he could hardly breath & his eyes were all gunked up which obv isn't going to make him very happy. What a long whinge. Sorry. Hope everyone else is having a good day

Hello everyone.

Can't decide if I want to go to my mum and baby group this morning. It's snowing again here and I'm tempted to just hibernate in the house until I have to get dd from nursery.

Sorry you are having a tough time Claire, have you got anyone in rl to talk to about your dh? HV perhaps?

Thanks everyone. It's good to no I'm not the only one.

sparkly - glad my dh isn't the only one being an arse.

ds2 was much better last night. Had a few hours of whinging but nowhere near the screaming of the night before. He slept from 1930-0000 & I went to bed at 2000. He was then up until 0230 but took a bottle with only a bit of whinging then when to sleep until 0800. Had been worrying about him as he'd only had 2ozs between 0600 & 1900 yesterday but has fed well since so at least that's one thing I don't need to worry about. He's currently sleeping so have everything crossed that he won't be too bad when he wakes up. Going to have a cup of tea & chant 'it gets easier' a la sparkly. Had a cute moment at 2am when I laid him on the sofa & he was happy laying there kicking his legs so left him & he fell asleep all on his own. He looked so sweet.

ds has decided to be sick loads so am trying a litle infant gaviscon.... seemed sooooo much more settled than when using anything else....infacol or gripe water!!!

What disposables is everyone using i have used pampers....huggies newborn as they go up to size 3 which he is in and Lidls own brand..... and Lidls own are the best so far!!!!!

Catherine had a pukey day yesterday sparkly. Went through about 5 outfits and got me through 2! Once was so bad, I even had to change my underwear!! Hoping she'll keep more down today.

We're using Huggies here but are still only in size 1. I used Tesco's own with DS and they worked fine too. In fact, I think they were softer!

Hello all,

I was hit by a horrible wave of exhaustion yesterday evening. Felt really weepy and shjaky as if I was hungry but not hungry iyswim. Feeling a bit better today but still craving sleep for a longer period than 2 hours without a break.

Took ds for his 6 week check yesterday. It was very odd, the GP seemed like she couldn't really be bothered. I told her that he wasn't smiling yet and she didn't ask me if I had any concerns about his vision. The thing that she seemed most bothered about was that I should express and offer him a bottle every day in case he refused it when I went back to work (in September).

I've used Huggies, Pampers and Aldi own brand and tbh Aldi have been the best.

Still have kids off school with colds - so at home being busy. best wishes to all

LaDiDaDi - not surprised you're feeling exhausted with so little sleep. Are you concerned about ds? Maybe take him to see another dr if you're worried.

sparkly - I love infant Gaviscon. The difference it made to ds2 was amazing. Giving him it with every other bottle now as he's had a cough & nearly been sick several times but hasn't which I assume means he's starting to grow out of his reflux problems.

I use Huggies nappies but might try Aldi ones. Don't like Pampers.

I think I felt so bad last night as I'd had sooo much caffeine in the day to keep myself perky for ds and dd that when they were both asleep I was still wired.

I'm not really worried about ds, he fixes and follows and is clearly visually interested, just found it odd that she didn't ask at all. She seemed really preoccupied throughout.

6 week check is done and Catherine and I are all good

Desperate to lose some weight but the only thing that shifted it last time was running. I feel OK but I've read in various places that I should wait anything up to 5 months before starting again!! I've only got 6 more months left till our holiday!! I'm not going to lose it all in 4 weeks so I need to start earlier. The outside feels fine but I guess I can't know how the internal stitches from my c-section are healing. Got another couple of weeks till Catherine's got enough of a routine that I can guess when she'll be happy to be left for long enough to go I suppose...

Supposed to be taking DS to soft play for the first time tomorrow but I'm worried. He's never hit anyone (other than me) before the disastrous trip to my friends house last Friday and I'm not going to be able to go crawling through the soft play with Catherine in my arms. I hate to say it but I don't trust him not to whack some innocent bystander I'm not sure I want to go and risk it. Never thought I would be scared/ashamed to take my baby boy out

Sorry you're feeling so awful LaDiDaDi. Hope you get a better nights sleep tonight.

I have wondered about a dummy too. Dd just spat them out in disgust even though she would take a bottle but not tried one with ds yet.

I've only got 5lb left to loose but it is all on my middle, my face looks almost gaunt but I can grab a handful at my waist inc. around my back! Now 6 weeks is up I really need to try to tone up with abdo work but I can't be arsed.