April 2009 - Episode 10 - Christmas time!! we can all drink wine, while children gurgle nursery rhymes, with logs in their nappies, and pee by the tree fun will be had by baby and me!!

[SantasNutts]

here we go then Merry Christmas One and all!! xxxxx

Pshaw, Bauble, you don't think we'll let you get away with such vagueness, do you?
Dish the dirt, now!

All yummy, I am prepared to believe. But who got pissed and danced on the table?

Tigga, I have replied.

Elemental, I keep reading your name as Emmental. Not the same, really.

Yes, tell tell tell!

I think I'd be a bit nervous of meeting you all in real life. Is it just me? Baring your soul to virtual people is very different.

I have a bit of a fuzzy head after my works do but had a brilliant time. I didn't get in until 1.15. ROCK AND ROLL!!!

Mmmm emmental....

Ah, let's all do cheese names. This is my 'tartiflette at a Christmas market in Belgium' name.

Anyway. Cheese aside. I hope you lot are all nursing stinking hangovers - fancy not even logging on for one message. I was looking forward to an even more pissed version of the Boff and Auld show. I'm not angry. I'm just very disappointed.

I have a small love bite on my boob. H was obviously helping himself to the bar in the night.

Mmmm - in a pastry parcel with roasted vegetables and a spicy tomato sauce.

Anyhoo. I always hated it when my Mum wasn't angry, only disappointed. And love the hickey. Do you think H just went a bit off centre?

Yes, sometimes when he's a bit over-keen (or asleep) he misses the target a little, and usually it hurts like....something really painful, but I must have been too zonked out to notice this one!

That's exactly the reaction to disappointed that I am hoping for.

So what do I need to do ladies? (rant coming on but I need help organising a course of action too please)
Dh who is currently making very good money with expenses and living out of the house from m-f was informed today that our bank card was froze. Low and behold find out there's no money in the account; this is strange because we decided to set up a standing order from the company account to our personal account so that that money was always going in (and we never had to worry about him forgetting to pay us as has happened in the past) and bills were always being paid. So double check the company account- there's no money in it...Then he says, well I've not turned any time sheets in for 10 weeks (or more) so maybe that's why.
..............

You mean apart from whopping him over the head with a brick?

Can he set a reminder in his Outlook calendar for every friday to submit his timesheet, so it gives him a nudge?

It has to be said, it's quite rubbish of him. So does this mean you guys have no money over Christmas?

That would be exactly what it means... I cannot tell you how many times he's done something simliar over Christmas... oh yes I can 5 (because that's how long we've been married).

I'd like to whallop him to be completely honest. But I'm trying to be calm and reasonable and helpful.
But I really want to SCREAM!

He swore to me this year it wouldn't be like this...

If you use emotional language or become emotional he will not get it. Cause and effect usually work with men:

Because you have done x, y has happened and a, b and c are what I will have to clear up.

Because you have done this you cannot do d and our children will have to go without e.

This will not happen again, what can you do to prevent this from happening?

How can I facilitate/help you do that?

If I do that, will you remember this conversation and will not accuse me of nagging etc?

I think I'd like that in writing please.

And bloody well get him to write it out!

LendsBebeABrickTiggaxx

I was thinking that if this time I did get emotional and really let him know how upset I am then maybe that would help to make a proper point to him? Though usually I do try to to do cause and effect. I just need him to get a bee in his shorts and finally just DO IT.
But I agree too that I need once again to do the 'how can I help you do this?' But it is a question of what more can I do? I feel like a parent with a teenager.

Oh bebe - that sounds like a nightmare setting a reminder in his outlook like WFH says is a good practical idea. if you want to get emotional how about using tigga's approach + a variation: 'when you do this it makes me feel this'? Then you are underlining why his actions are unacceptable not only on a practical level but on an emotional level as well.

grrrrrrrrrrrr on your behalf

Last night. Well, seeing as none of the other girls have been on today I can tell you what really happened...

...Wriggly and Puzzle got hammered and used the restaurant manager as a pole-dancing prop. BB and Springy were sat by the window and flashed their norks at everyone who walked by. Fei and Ginger were clearly on speed when they arrived and spent the entire evening gurning and gnawing breadsticks like little beavers. But most shocking was Nutty. She turned up wearing a habit, refused any alcohol and announced she is going to live a celibate life in the local nunnery. That's why she hasn't been on today

bauble I knew Nutty was really like that

ThatMadeOiLarfTiggaxx

Lol

Outlook and phone reminders set.. won't he be surprised when he gets alarms!

Good evening ladies

Bicnod LOL. I had a horrible headache this morning but NOT because of the wine (I like to think). My neighbours partied until the wee hours so didn't get much sleep.

Bebe that's outrageous. Can you feed him just bread and water over Christmas so he gets the message? on your behalf. I know I'd be screaming like a banshee and throwing shampoo bottles around.

We saw a beautiful house today... it was all I could ever dream of, with big rooms, high ceilings, wooden floors, lots of space, a big garden, large windows, beautiful fireplaces. But it's on a through road and you can hear the traffic from the garden and smell the car exhaust so it's a no no I'd love to buy it and move it to a different place, like they did with London Bridge.

Must go wrap some presents now, we've put the fairy lights up so sitting room looks all Christmassy all of a sudden.

Evening all

Fei, shame about the house, something will turn up - keep looking.

Bebe, I am in absolute shock that any DH would put his wife and child in that position. I hope he is thoroughly ashamed and that he realises the severity of his actions not only now but on your future credit rating in the UK. How on earth will you pay the mortgage with 2.5 months of pay outstanding? . Sorry if this seems harsh but I am in utter disbelief. Are you sure it's just forgetfulness or is there a problem he is not telling you about?

Ok so the pompey crew got back safe and the party did indeed carry on... if you count falling asleep on the sofa and staggering up sleepily to bed virtually as soon as we walked in the door. Can you believe we were too tired to even talk after the drive??!

We all seem in quite fine form today, probably because we had a nice baby-free lay in this morning (or afternoon if your nutts!!!) and then Dh had K this afternoon so we did some leisurely shoe shopping in chichester all afternoon. I believe Carvella and Kurt Geiger will be enjoying a nice bonus this weekend after the amount of shoes we purchased today . According to Springy shoe shopping = festiveness and represents friendship (at least that is the excuse we have made for her DH as to why she must have purple platform shoes....)

Springy just said "that is not a skirt, that is a belt" she really is 21 going on 90!!

No major gossip from last night I don't think - other than Wriggly belongs in a bond film, she is that hot! We would hate her if she wasn't so nice!!! . Nutts lasted all of 30 seconds before getting told off and told to sit down by the uppity waiter, Puzzle did indeed have a great bra on and everyone was lovely and pretty much just how we imagined them (apart from hearing everyone's voices which was just weird!!!) . Was really good fun - thanks to Bicnod for organising everything x Def up for spring meet up with the LO's if you can handle the tornado that is my son who is currently snoring like an old man...x

x posts Bicnod, ssssh that was supposed to be our secret... I don't want to tell everyone what you got you got up to with the waitor... . .

waiter even

Zulu, I think we were all a bit nervous about meeting each other as you would be with any new people but where we have been speaking to each other for a year and a half now, i don't think of these girls as strangers so not weird at all...

Go on, tell us, how many of you turned out to be hairy handed truckers? All of you? 50%?

Dear FWs, I'm trying to say hi at least once per thread, I just can't keep up at all, you guys have STAMINA.

Wishing you all a very merry Christmastime. Sounds as though most of you have already made a head start on that front [hic]

It's chaos here in every sense, yet Millie helps keep us sane. 2 teeth, walking round furniture and shrieking like a banshee at nothing in particular. The sweetheart. We're getting out and meeting other mums and babies a bit now, this afternoon, a friend is going to introduce me to a fellow Yorkshirewoman, hooray. I'm stupidly excited at the littlest things. She's never had to share her own toys before...

"Let it snow, let it snow, let it snooooooooowwww."

Good Morning. I am 30. How are you?