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EffiePerine · 11/11/2009 09:01

As I accidentally filled up the old thread I thought I'd better start a new one

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Kayzr · 09/12/2009 13:31

Really quick message.

I have the boys bad throat and cough. Feeling really rough so going to have a nap with them now.

Got my secret Santa present yesterday while I was shopping so will get DH to post it tomorrow.

I can not believe DS2 is 1 on Saturday. I just hope we're all better for the party.

Veggiemummy · 09/12/2009 14:27

LOL at the accidental mince pie eating Trace.

Veggiemummy · 09/12/2009 14:42

Oops missed this page.

Thanks for your input on the cake flavour options JB. I didn't buy a cake while out though because tomorrow I'm meeting up with my new MN friend and her birthday is Sunday, same day as DS2 so I'm going to take a cake so we can have a little nibble and celebrate together.

Kayz your poor boys and you. How is the cake decorating coming along?

Hey Rubes how is the wee ride?

Beans33 · 09/12/2009 14:43

Hi All

Just thought I'd do a quickie - am at work, so can't browse too deeply, but have had a skim read and all seems to be going well.

DD had her bday party on Sunday, which was great - she looked beautiful, but we forgot to take any photos of the party - but will put on a couple of her in her dress on my profile!

She had a terrible screamy day with the nanny yesterday - she's not used to sharing! And apparently is totally weedy today, but with snot and a chesty cough. A bit worried about her, but sure all will be ok. I'm trying to drop her morning sleep at the moment, but I don't think it's wise with her being all at sixes & sevens at the moment.

Anyway, I don't know about anyone else, but I'm finding that I'm really struggling to give a monkeys about work these days. It just seems incidental to my real life - a necessary evil!!! Horrible me!

Loads of love to all.

x

Beans33 · 09/12/2009 14:44

PS If there is a pre-Xmas meet up and it's in Hyde Park, I can come whether at work or not as it's just round the corner from me. Just will be without Izz if it's a work day!

Kayzr · 09/12/2009 16:08

Veggie both of the cakes are made. They just need carving and then decorating. Then my brother's cake needs stacking so it slightly resembles a skyscraper.
I was going to do some tonight but Arsenal are on tv. So I'll be watching that I think.

Rubena · 09/12/2009 18:42

this is very quick and I haven't read anything except a mention about Ikea kitchens? We reno'ed our entire flat and put an Ikea kitchen in ourselves. it cost us less than 3K and is all stainless with oak worktops and white gloss / stainless drawers. An estate agent thought we'd spent over 20K on it! It has soft closing fittings etc, and I'd use them again as it's a better finish than our friends kitchen who paid 30 grand.... right, back later

traceface · 09/12/2009 18:52

aw beans beautiful pic of I in her dress - and I LOVE the tank top picture . She is absolutely gorgeous!
kayz sorry you're feeling naff and hope you perk up soon.
jb lol at 'wee on the floor' time! P did just that this evening while waiting by the bath, all nude, while I got things ready. She looked down when she felt the wee on her leg and looked really confused! Glad the teeth are through and the sleep is improving.
I'm going to fill in Phoebe's memory book thing tonight. I've done bits as we've gone along, but tonight I'm going to stick photos in and try to get it up to date. I love looking back on Lucy's - and she does too - so I must pull my finger out and get it done!

Rubena · 09/12/2009 19:33

hello again, sorry I am too shattered to write personals but I have some food down my gob, ds asleep and have a spare second before I have to get some work done for tomorrow
ds is 1 tomorrow but I won't be home so we had a little party last Sunday. he was in a great mood and got lots of lovely pressies and I did a nice roast and we had a cake which he (sort of) blew out the candle on
veggie. we have only used the Weeride twice as the weather has been so shocking and then I started back at work on Sunday, but anyway, we really like it and he does too so looking forward to taking it out again.
I must admit I have only very very quickly read through so apols for not many personals but the days have been looooooong this week and tonight I was stuck in horrible traffic jam on the M23
Ooh and I must add - although we got our kitchen from Ikea, the solid oak worktop was bought separately, and I bought a Smeg range cooker for a very good price online as it was a floor model or something and was a bout 50% off due to a tiny dent which you can't see as it's on the side where it's built in, so happy days!!
Happy belated Veggie.....

Turniphead1 · 09/12/2009 20:42

Hello all. As ever it has been AGES since I got on the thread to see how everyone is. I can just about manage FB and that is it...

But a big Happy Birthday to all the Nov babes and those who are 1 already!! I can't believe that it is year....this time last year all our posts were mainly about the (tmi) contents of our pants as I recall...

Just a quick one but LadyT I can fourth the Ikea idea - there are some lovely ones and you can tart up with a nice oak worktop or stone composite and will look fab. I also know a bloke (resting actor) who specialises in fitting them and covers all areas south of birmingham. Text me if you want his number...hope book is progressing and that Miss O had a fab birthday.

Invis Hand I too love the Elizabeth Jane Howard books - what one are you on? They are perfect for this time of year.

Veggie belated happy birthday - am loving your tales of settling in Netherlands - you have such a great attitude to all the change. Glad school is working well for your lovely boy!

Trace hope you have a good nights sleep and glad L's blood tests were OK. My DD1 (who is 6) is often really pale and dark under eyes and I did worry she was run down. Bad Mummy that I am ... I never got round to getting bloods done - I really should.

Spot that sounds tough about T's nursery. I would say that two half days isn't very much - I know the one our guys went to insisted on three half days as a minimum - but what can you do if that is all they have to offer. Hope the move went well and you are enjoying the extra space!

Poison belated happy 40th!!! Grrrr at your DH that was WELL out of order and he is lucky to have you pet. Glad you had good hols.

Pingu happy birthday for Friday (if FB is correct) and big hellos to all. Dying to know the big news - do we have any other pgs apart from Beans (did I get that right? if so big big congrats!!)

We are well but hectic. Back working but had an operation on Monday to repair all the internal damage caused by giving birth to my 3 adorable babes. Holy moly but the pain is far worse than I thought....I think the damage was worse than the Consultant thought too. Hopefully will be able to sit down by tomorrow! He also put in a Mirena (the upside, yay it was a general aneasthetic) and am really hoping I don't get any bad side effects as I am SO over people fiddling about with my bits.

L is in great form. She toyed with commando crawling for a couple of weeks but is now a committed bum shuffler just like her big sister. She is chatting away with a few words and is still a real joy. Dreading her first birthday on the 30th as I won't have a baby anymore....sob...

Any news on a meet up? Would love to come as I was in Ireland for half term and missed the last one.

traceface · 09/12/2009 20:56

Hi Turnip! Good to hear from you. Sorry about the op and the pain, but hopefully it's short term pain for long term gain! Poor you. And am I being dense...what's a Mirena? Sounds like a model of car, but I'm assuming it's not.
Rubs are you ok? You sound a bit flat in your posts at the mo. Work is tiring isn't it? Hope you're getting a chance to give yourself a rest. Don't worry about not doing personals. Look after yourself.

Turniphead1 · 09/12/2009 21:09

Hi Trace Mirena is the Mirena Coil (a coil with a slow release amount of progesterone). I would have liked just the ordinary coil but they are not recommended if you have heavy periods and mine have become dreadful - worse with each child. I also was having the problem you mentioned a few pages back with tampons. I will let you know (after the healing takes place) if I still have that problem after all this repair. Although it was medically required the consultant did use the words "honeymoon ready"!?! for the results - although we won't get a chance to try til after Xmas apparently!

Veggiemummy · 09/12/2009 21:43

I'm sorry you've had to go through the op turnip but you've got me giggling with the honeymoon ready thing...has he repaired your hymen too?

I initially had the...erm...not properly absorbing tampon thing Trace but it seems ok now. I have been doing my kegels though. Give those a go for a bit and if no better maybe you should see your GP. You did have some quite nasty tearing didn't you so might be worth getting it checked a year on, are you planning on more babies Trace?

Beans that photo in the tank top is gorgeous, proper model material. You must get completely lost in those big blue eyes.

DS2 made his first proper kind on communication type thing tonight, I offered him some food and he shook his head a pulled back. I thought it was a coincidence so I offered again and he did the same, as well as looking at me like I must be a bit dense for not understanding shaking the head as no. He has suddenly come on in leaps and bounds, as well as the walking he is clapping, waving saying mama and this funky headbanging thing when he listen to music. It's quite cute. He has also taken Den Haag by storm and is flirting with whoever cares to look at him. I had a shop assistent guy following me around the supermarket today just to keep smiling at him.

Kayzr · 09/12/2009 21:56

Veggie, our football team are rubbish at the minute.

I've just got this from a friend and I thought it was great.

Just had this email from a friend. Sorry it looks lengthy but it made me smile

My Mum has had me for 7 months. The first few months were great-I cried, she picked me up and fed me, anytime, day or night. Then something happened. Over the last few weeks, she has been trying to STTN (sleep thru the night). At first, I thought it was just a phase, but it is only getting worse. I've talked to other babies, and it seems like it's pretty common after Mums have had us for around 6 months.

Here's the thing: these Mums don't really need to sleep. It's just a habit. Many of them have had some 30 years to sleep -they just don't need it anymore. So I am implementing a plan. I call it the Crybaby Shuffle.

It goes like this:

Night 1--cry every 3 hours until you get fed. I know, it's hard. It's hard to see your Mummy upset over your crying. Just keep reminding yourself, it's for her own good.
Night 2--cry every 2 hours until you get fed.
Night 3--every hour.Most Mummies will start to respond more quickly after about 3 nights. Some Mummies are more alert, and may resist the change longer. These Mummies may stand in your doorway for hours, shhhh-ing.

Don't give in.. I cannot stress this enough: CONSISTENCY IS KEY!!If you let her STTN (sleep through the night), just once, she will expect it every night. I KNOW IT'S HARD! But she really does not need the sleep, she is just resisting the change. If you have an especially alert Mummy, you can stop crying for about 10 minutes, just long enough for her to go back to bed and start to fall asleep. Then cry again. It WILL eventually work. My Mummy once stayed awake for 10 hours straight, so I know she can do it. Last night, I cried every hour. You just have to decide to stick to it and just go for it. BE CONSISTENT!

I cried for any reason I could come up with.
My gro-bag tickled my foot.
I felt a wrinkle under the sheet.
My mobile made a shadow on the wall.
I burped, and it tasted like pears (I hadn't eaten pears since lunch - what's up with that?)
The dog said "woof" (I should know. My Mummy reminds me of this about 20 times a day.)
Once I cried just because I liked how it sounded when it echoed on the monitor in the other room.
Too hot, too cold, just right--doesn't matter! Keep crying!!
It took awhile, but it worked. She fed me at 4am. Tomorrow night, my goal is 3:30am.

You need to slowly shorten the interval between feedings in order to reset your Mummies' internal clock

notjustanumber · 10/12/2009 08:41

Kayzr that is funny, DS2 is definitely practicing that at the moment !

Happy birthday to the 1 year olds, and Veggie too. This last year has gone so fast.

Trace I'm glad the blood tests went OK, have you got a decent amount of time to relax ?

Sorry for the lack of personals. I am rather stressed, the doc has signed me off work, on paper to investigae hyperthyroidism, but actually because I am finding it hard to cope with working 4 days and the two kids. She did the postnatal depression questionnaire, and I scored quite low on that, she suggested the problem was grief instead and that I needed counselling for that. Please, could those of you who have lost someone close (a mum/partner), offer any advice? My mum died in March, my nephew in May, and I thought I was coping OK, perhaps not. I hope others, like Daisy, who are having a tough time are Ok too.

On a lighter note though, I am very much looking forward to Xmas. I have lots of plans for things to make and do, dont know if we will get round to it !

daisydora · 10/12/2009 08:43

kayz that is so funny!

trace Glad you have had some good nights with P, I know she had a hiccup the other night but fingers crossed that she is getting the hang of it!

turnip hello! Lovely to hear from you.

ladyt No advice about kitchens or doing houses up, but the Ikea kitchen ccertainly sounds a way to go. I know when we moved in here the kitchen wasn't great and we couldn't afford to change it. We just changed unit handles, and worktops and the difference is great! So much so 6 years on we still haven't replaced the kitchen

rubs How's work going? I hope you are coping okay at juggling everything. I'm only working 3 days and i find it a struggle!

DH not coping so well with the MIL being ill now. we had the family pasrty last Saturday, and she looked so ill. She never moved all evening, barely spoke was white as aa sheet. Can't have any sort of conversation with DH at all, everything is @whats the point mum is ill?' or 'I can't believe this is her last Xmas'. He is drinking every night (not loads but a few glasses of wine) which then leads to the same converstaion every night over why her, and its not fair. I am sure this is a normal reation (?) just not sure what I can do or say anymore. i can't change the situation we just have to live with it and deal with whatever happens. But he keeps telling me its easy forme to say that as its not happening to me I'm really worried how he will deal with everything when she does die, I tried to offer me and the children as a comfort to get him through and he just doesn't seem interested Rambling here...right off to work, will try to be back and more positive later xx

daisydora · 10/12/2009 08:46

njan x post. No advice but sending you a big hug. I know for my friend who lost her mum last year, counselling was a godsend! I would certianly try it.

By the way apologies for the appalling typos in my last post. Right work....

notjustanumber · 10/12/2009 09:06

Hi Daisy thankyou - sorry to hear your DH is struggling a bit, its probably made much worse by it being xmas.

My DH struggled in a similar way when his sister was told her cancer was terminal. But after a while they came to terms with it and made the best of the time they had left. I'm sorry you are going through this.

LadyThompson · 10/12/2009 09:10

Just a quickie (should be my motto) as I am having a day off from typing to meet my Belgian friend who is over and go to an exhibition.

Thanks for the brill tips. Am definitely going to check out Ikea kitchens but only thing which puts me off (they sound ace) is making them farmhousey - the kitchen is full of beams and kind of begs it.

Kayz, that is absolutely priceless.

Turniphead, how utterly fantastic to hear from you. You are very brave about the op - ouch. On the other hand, my sister waited 16 years to get something similar done and I think she regretted waiting.

Oh yes, I bumped into Lowrib on another thread, remember her?

I would love to have a meet up but could only do from 22nd onwards!

More tomorrow, I am coming back tonight.

EffiePerine · 10/12/2009 09:12

Daisy and NJAN: no advice but thinking of you both. You have so much to cope with so take all the help you need and take do whatever you have to do to get through. I do think we put high expectations on ourselves, esp 'recovering' or 'coping' - sometimes you shouldn;t have any pressure to do either.

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Veggiemummy · 10/12/2009 09:22

NJAN you sound like you have a very perceptive GP. You've had so much going on in the last year that maybe you just haven't had a time to grieve, it sounds cliched but it is completely necessay. I started getting blinding migraines a few years back every 2 weeks and I went to my homeopath who also turned out to an amazing counsellor. She picked up that I had started getting the occasional migraine when I was 11 just a year after my dad died. At that age I wouldn't have really grasped his death and so may not have grieved fully. Well with her help I did...big time, and as painful as it was to do all those years later it settled the migraines and I noticed other changes. What I'm saying is you probably could do with talking to a counsellor to help 'let it out' as they say. I only had my dads death to contend with you've had your mum, you nephew, and the wonderful birth of your child. Not on have you possibly not grieved your also possibly not been able to fully enjoy your latest, and he's nearly one.

LadyThompson · 10/12/2009 09:29

Crossposted and didn't want to go anywhere without saying to NJAN - that is a LOT to go through in just one year, and in grief terms very very recent. I must admit I didn't have counselling after DP died as I knew it wouldn't help me - my rationale was that I wanted to get over it in my own time and my own way, and I wanted to talk to people that knew him/me. But I am a bullheaded idiot anyway. Also, I know someone who lost their wife shortly after their first baby was born and someone else who lost her 15 month old daughter both benefitted HUGELY from bereavement counselling so unless you feel very strongly that it wouldn't help, GO FOR IT. Also, when I lost my DH I didn't have anyone relying on me as you do so I could safely go loopy for a while and do lots of travelling (which I found therapeutic).

Daisy...I am very sorry to hear about all this. It sounds like they have all chucked in the towel I need to put my mind to all this properly. I think the family needs professional help. I think it's natural to be overpowered by the unfairness of it all and feel like absoutely everything is tainted but if they let it bring everyone to their knees the cancer has WON. What about telling your DH that he needs to be bright, purposeful and strong for his Mum? Someone needs to set an example for the rest of the family, so why not him? Anyway, thinking of you lots.

LadyThompson · 10/12/2009 09:30

Aach, I said DP in my first para when clearly I meant DH

notjustanumber · 10/12/2009 10:12

Thankyou for your thoughts, and taking the time to post - they have really helped. Veggie, the GP I spoke to was excellent. But you are right, I feel there has been no time to grieve at all. Perhaps thats why she has given me some time off the treadmill. I dont think the children (or indeed work) have suffered as I have made a big effort, but I feel very sad inside a lot of the time.

On another note, has anyone ever made a birthday cake in the shape of a car ? I want to make one for DS1s third birthday in a month but not sure where to start

Kayzr · 10/12/2009 10:19

NJAN, sorry you are having a hard time at the minute. I think that counselling is probably worth a try. Then you can see if it helps you or not.

On the cake front you can by novelty cake pans here and they do a car shape one. I've asked for some of the tins for Xmas.

I have to make loads of windows for my brothers cake today. I think I might be sick of cakes by Sunday.