Fab Feb 2009 - 9 months in, 9 months out, now they're sitting, standing and crawling about

[TheHAUNTEDHouseofMirth]

Here we go again!

(((((mos and nkweto)))))

mos lol @ me slagging off my dp. I think my favourite one was fw (fuckwit) which you are using.

SM think you are right. Do tell, how did you train yours?
Still can't believe FW hasn't even phoned or texted to see how DC are. Twunt

mos I just ignore him now and let him get on with it.
For example, I took the boys to the park today and met up with 2 friends who between them have 5 children and then without warning, I brought everyone back here for tea and juice. You can imagine that after 3 hours of having 7 kids here, the whole place was trashed!! You should have seen and heard dp getting himself all stressed when they'd gone. I just ignored him, left him to tidy up and cooked dinner.

The least you and the dc's deserve is a phone call. What an arse.

definitely an arse. Bloody childish too, even DS thinks he is acting like a child.
A bit of a result, DS managed to track our flight details online and has printed off my etickets so at least I have the option of going back if I want to. Not sure it will be for long as if he doesn't want me there (which clearly he doesn't) he can get me slung out but at least I'd have time to pack my stuff and bring back the most important things ie mum's jewellery, photos and DD's favourite things and she gets a chance to say goodbye to all her friends. Thats what upsets me the most, she will lose everything that she has ever known

So this is definitely going to be a permanent thing then?
Do you think he'll call when he's had a few days to think things over?

MoS - did you have an argument with DH before he walked out? Maybe he's just sulking and will get in touch soon?

SilveryMoon - liking the new name!

we've had a few arguments over recent weeks but I thought all sorted out, kissed and made up etc when I took him to Dubai for his birthday weekend and really spoiled him.
I had the arse on Christmas day ref my nasty present then he had the arse that I had the arse and kept asking what was wrong so I told him I was disappointed with the present (he kept on and on until I told him why I was upset) Ditto my birthday on boxing day then I thought all was ok but NYE evening he went for a drink next door and I was a bit miffed as we were in the middle of getting kids ready for bed, baths etc. He popped round next door for 5 minutes which in reality was 45 mins so I was a little miffed. He then started ranting and raving a few hours later, stormed off to the spare room then buggered off yesterday morning (after I'd cooked the fucker breakfast)
DD being a nightmare and crying for daddy. Really don't know what to tell her

Oh no MOS and Nkweto - am so sorry about what's happening . Just sending you loads of support and strength and hoping you can get through this positively. I'm afraid
I have quite a low opinion of men generally -every father in my near family has left their wife and kids . Would be lovely to see you both on Monday - I'm certainly up for it.

Loving the new name SM!

A duff new year here - we were so tired we were in bed by 10pm, only to be woken up at 11:30 by huge fireworks all around. I had a sense of humour failure and cursed everyone out partying .

Take care everyone xx

Oh MOS and Nkweto....so sorry to read your news. {{hugs}} to you both....what a horrible start to the new year. MOS, I'm not all that far from you so if there is anything I can do, please FB me.

Well decorations all down, house all hoovered and dusted and glad its all over and done with.

Just seen a weather forcast for snow and ice all week . I've got to go to London for a meeting on Wednesday and I don't own a warm coat or sensible boots....argh (this is the person who drives everywhere). I'm going to freeze!

Went and bought a new car yesterday

Spose I'd better go and change my name back to its usual

my sister used to call her ex fuckwit and when he rung to speak to the children, it would come up on her mobile.....

latest update from mnetenders..
the fuckwit is in Saudi. Turns out he left here, went to his mums (pathetic little man), his dad (always comes out with helpful comments) apparently said 'oh FFS' and that was it. Left his car with his sister (E London way) got train into London then to LGW spent a few hours there and flew back early evening of new years day. Bastard.

A very good friend of mine popped into see me last night, she lives in Dubai but was here for a few days and is flying back today. She put it into my head that he might have gone back already which I hadn't seriously considered. Didn't sleep all night and at 3am (6am Saudi) phoned the house and he answered. Meant to hang up if he was there but couldn't help myself and muttered a few choice words. I was furious as only got DD to bed at around 11pm and she was up again crying for daddy just before 3am.

Have had two conversations but not sure what is happening. I need time to think. Don't think I'll ever trust him again and will always be waiting for him to leave

LMN where are you then? Didn't think anyone was near me?

You poor thing MOS....what a selfish git

I'm in mid-Kent - not far from bumps (haven't seen her for ages!) and PSL.....not too far!

Nkweto

So sorry hun, sad news. i hope your ok considerng xxxx

MOS or not so overseas, I know there are 2 sides to every story but i honestly think you are better off without him. am i allowed to say he sounds like an arsehole! He is not a man for leaving you like that with the children

I hope your ok and the children, tehy may cry for him but its you who will hug them and make it better by being a true parent to them as you arre being xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

izzy is dropping tuna on the floor, cat is sat underneath eating it so now she is dropping it on his back! She is poorly with 38 temp so lots of hugs and boob and neither of us getting out of pjs today

I had wondered where bumps has been. Is she ok do you think? Maybe she has a real life?

littlesez thanks for your comments. Yes, of course you can say he is an arsehole. He doesn't seem to understand what he has done is wrong. and now he is flashing me on mns. oh, HE wants to talk now!

Hope izzy feels better soon xxx

MoS - am shocked at your DH's behaviour and his hightailing it to KSA. He has behaved just like a child rather than a parent of two small children. It sounds like he's had abit of a mid-life crisis of sorts - not that that's much of an excuse. Perhaps its best if you two dont speak for abit until you calm down abit. Is there such a thing as relate or a counsellor over in your compound in KSA? Do you think its worth you and DH/FW going to speak to a counsellor to try to work out - with the help of a third party - if there is anything that can be saved from this relationship? I have to admit, I'm with Littlesez in that your DH/FW doesnt seem to have been on your wavelength or giving you support for a while now - in fact since before your mum passed away - so maybe abit of space from him will be a good thing for you and the kids in the long run.

Hmm, LMN - I'd say layer up, 'tis freezing in London at the moment! And definitely invest in some sensible shoes to get around - the ice can be pretty scary round where we live but in central london there generally isnt much around.

mos Unbelievable!
I can understand you saying you'd never be able to trust im again and would always be waiting for him to leave.

Had a huge panic earlier. I couldn't get the charger for my laptop to work so thought I'd have to go a week without you all!!!!!!!
Phew.

hello lovely ladies - I am going to try much harder to keep up this year!!!!

Hard to believe that Luke is going to be 1 in 2.5 weeks time is flying but I think that is more to do with the other 3 I am running around after!

I will have a good read of the thread over the next couple of days and try and do it more personalised

Happy New Year

Morning all. Oooggs lovely to see you back on - hope Luke is doing well and you're coping being surrounded by kids!!

Littlesez - hope you're ok and Izzy is better today.

MoS - hope you're still doing ok today and that DH/FW isnt driving you mad. Just re-read my post from yesterday and realise it could come across as a little bossy which really wasnt the intention so sorry if it did come across that way and feel free to tell me to butt out. I am here to support you in any way you want/need it.

p.s. Meet-up - tonight, Giraffe, 120 Wilton Street (near Victoria tube) - table for 5 reserved at 7pm under name of "Dinky". Text me or post on here by 5.30ish if you now cant make it. Hope you can as would be lovely to see you guys.

Just stopping by briefly - will see you tonight at Giraffe as have had a super night's sleep and feel up for making the effort (plus, I don't get out much...). If anything goes disasterously wrong in the meantime, will text you Dinky. Looking forward to it.

MOS am at your DH and can't believe he's back in Saudi . So sorry - and hope that you will be able to get out tonight?

SM glad you got laptop sorted! We were without working laptop over Christmas, only to discover that all the problem was was a blown fuse in the plug!

Good to hear from you Oooggs! Don't know how you do it with 4 - you've got twins too haven't you? Hats off to you! I'm still struggling with the two!!!

hello all and welcome back oooggs, happy new year and all that

Just checking still on for tonight at 7pm? DD1 is going to babysit although obviously not ideal as I don't like to leave her for more than a few hours.

SM that would have been disasterous, thank god the battery is ok. I can live without a man but not MNET!

Yep still on for 7pm tonight MOS.Table booked under name of dinky...

Sorry not to have posted for so long, just done a massive thread catch up read. Hugs to MOS and Nkweto, sorry about your husbands. Hope all of you who are making it to Giraffe this evening have a lovely time, obviously I've only just read it and think I probably wouldn't have made it this time anyway, but hopefully there will be future ones.

silverymoon, like the new name.