May 2009: Brides and bibs

[EtherealFiByTheSea]

Here we go...

morning

bookmarking for later - hopefully

my mum got rushed to hospital on sat night after a fall and is still in, my dad's a waste of space so I'm having to spend alot of time sorting him/house out and visiting mum

will try to catch up later

didn't saus look gorgeous!

Jenn the more the merrier!

flipp good luck with the HV. I hope she is supportive. Do you have a nurse practitioner at your surgery? We have a wonderful one who is very lovely and jolly.

Spa day Yes! Let's lobby our MPs. An election winner for sure. After all, we need to spend our way out of the recession, no?

Lovely day here. I'm going to pick DS up from pre-school and head over to the National Trust place near by to look at the deer. DS loves it and it is so nice to get out into the sunshine.

I've rung our HR to find out about bank holiday accrual. I am a rubbish HR person because I don't know the answer but in my defence I don't do that sort of work. I need to know the answer so that I can get my annual leave agreed before giving my notice. I don't want them to refuse my leave because I really do not want to work my notice.

llare thought i'd join you in trying on a seasonal name too..

looby sorry to hear about your mum... hope she gets better soon.

oh and just thought i'd update my profile page at the same time.... and it's gone! don't know how it happened but it's vanished. Couldn't be bothered to set up another one with all the stuff just now. Has anyone elses gone too?

Back again! A is finally asleep, she would not settle until I put her in the sling, she was on my back for 5 minutes and crashed out, she's in the cot now. DH warned the childminder that DD1 hadn't slept, apparently DD1 was telling the CM quite proudly that she woke up in the middle of the night and daddy told her to go back to bed but she couldn't sleep!

looby - sorry to hear about your mum, hope all ok soon.

weight loss - I should join you, but I've got no energy for it right now. But I'm sure doing some exercise and eating properly would help me a bit. BF worked brilliantly for me last time, but this time I've stalled at 12lbs over my ideal weight.

lol at spa days instead of HIP grants! Fab idea. Works beter if your friends go with you though so it could end up costing the govt huge amounts.

llareguy - we've got a couple of nurse practitioners, one is lovely the other v hit and miss. Hadn't occurred to me to speak to them. HV due in half an hour, should I hoover before she comes?!

Love the new name, llare

I've just sorted out my Christmas name

You won't get to see it until at least the middle of December though

I'm still trying to decide on my 'base' name. Think I'm ditching the Lioness part. It's a toss up between DandyNess or The Dandy. What do you think? Answers on a postcard please.

llare and jenn Welcome aboard. I'm serious, serious, serious. Going to do this properly and report in each week with weight loss but also what I worked on and things to watch in future. I don't think we should bog down this thread with that and I'd feel more comfortable if it wasn't on an open forum, so how about doing it by facebook/email. We can either email/fb message eachother or I can make a private facebook group where we can report in. I've added you as a FB friend, jenn, hope that's OK, feel free to decline.

PS: Woo hoo, DD is back at school. I am free!

fi my profile has disappeared as have my photos- I am going to leave it for now as it could well be a glitch following yesterday's shutdown.

Changed my name again for bonfire night .

flip- i wouldn't bother hoovering .

looby- hope your mum is ok- I saw on FB that you aren't getting much sleep.

The profiles might have gone due to your namechanges. Just a thought.

Dandy, Jenn how about a top secret facebook group? I like the idea of discussing what worked, what didn't work and what I need to work on. Boredom and emotions are really food triggers for me. Shall we set something up?

pula it's a PITA for profile pages to have gone... it was the having to reload photos bit that really pee'd me off too.

llare I didn't think of that... but don't want to change back to previous posting name atm to see if it pops back up so will live without it for the time being

Yep, let's do the secret squirrel facebook group. That way it can be more formal and we have a record of Week 1, Week 2, etc.

Speaking of facebook -

I feel a little sorry for saus that we've all seen some wedding photos of her even though she hasn't posted any herself.

Just a quick one.

looby Sorry about your mum.

weight loss What happened to the May 09 weight loss thread that was being run on MN? You could revive it and go back there.

Belgian I did think of that, but like llare, emotional eating is an issue for me two and I'd like to be able to discuss that in a more private environment. We had a few people join the weight loss thread who weren't from this thread. Which was fine, but personally I want something more select so I can get personal

Ah, I understand

hello, one handed typing while feeding F in a break from packing... we move house tomorrow!!

other things - love the new names ladies.

just seen sausage's wedding photos - she looked beautiful and so happy (congratulations, saus, if you read this!)

looby sorry to hear about your mum, hope she makes a quick recovery.

also need to lose weight so might join the secret group but not until moving is done and finished, will let you know.

hope all well and Fi and Jenn are recovering from their / family's lurgies.

right, i must go. lorry arrives at 7am tomorrow, aaagh

rebee - eek! move day has come very quickly!

HV been and gone. She agrees that it's PND too, we talked through all the stuff that is going on. I'm impressed that she remembered stuff I told her last time I saw her, it was perhaps 3 months aqo. We talked about anti-dpressants and the other options which was good. She's referred me for councelling (is that the right sp?), I'll need to talk to a GP if I think that ADs would help - I'm not aure about that yet - and told me which of the GPs in the practice she thought would be most helpful. I might go to see the GP to talk things through with him too, but I feel a bit better now that I've started the process, iyswim. It's so hard admitting there's a problem, I feel like a failure at times, especially as I get lots of coments about how 'well behaved' or 'good' the girls are.

Thank you all for the encouragement and support.

Tumble weed has been blowing through our may 09 weight-loss thread for some time now.. I do keep forgetting how MN is open to all and every time i remember i do freak out a bit

good on you flippin for talking about how you've been feeling it takes a lot of courage.. glad your hv suggested which gp would be of most use too.

reebee OMG tomorrow?! how's the marathon packing going? is the finish line not too far away now?

flippin glad the HV was so helpful to you, though sorry to hear of the 'diagnosis' of PND. It sounds like you are making positive steps. I hope the counselling helps.

Looby sorry to hear about your Mum. Hope she makes a speedy recovery.

I am going to be brave and ask to join your weight loss group please. I was thinking this morning about that it was time I got my act together. I've noticed that I tend to eat when feeling tired or stressed - eg when H has been really difficult and I finally get him off to sleep I head straight for the snacks. I don't even notice I'm doing it sometimes

here I am. H will not go down for her lunchtime nap. teething? weaning? I don't know but here she is, strapped to the front of me.

of all 3, she seems to be the one who has needed the most cuddles and usually protests being put down on mat/bouncy chair/etc. I even just tried putting her in front of Justin on cbeebies . as much as she likes tv, it didn't work.

looby, so sorry to hear about your mum and hope she gets better quickly.

flippin, so glad you're getting support and taking the 1st step will have at least been a relief of some sort for you.

counselling(not sure about this spelling either) def worked for me and I wish I still went but I've been referred to psychotherapy group and no one's contacted me as they wanted me to get settled with the new baby (at least that's what they said they wanted to do). so i'm stuck without counselling.

also, i know it's tough, but try not to let the feeling of failure intrude. just look at your girls to see the proof that you're not a failure. also, PND is not your 'fault', it's an illness just like any other and you need help to get over it.

speech over.

reebee, good luck with the move! it's all very exciting, take care.

dandy, I agree with you about the FB photos sensitivity. my mum and a lot of my family are not on fb yet I post most of my photos there 1st. so it's a bit sad and embarrassing when my sister's colleague (who's my FB friend) will point out new pics of the girls to my sis.I'm now making a rule not to post pics on fb without emailing my family first.

Momi- S was difficult going down for his naps today - i think he is a bit constipated again but hopefully the prunes for lunch will work their magic . I keep feeling for teeth as S is so drooly but can't feel anything near the surface yet- DD and DS1 were 6 months when they got their first tooth so I keep expecting teeth to appear soon.

As most of my family are on FB including my mum and MIL it's the easiest way for me to share photos. I just have to watch what i'm saying/doing on there as there are things i wouldn't want them to know/see .

pula, I think it was constipation for H as, after a bit of bouncing, another BF, more bouncing, she did a massive, smelly, non-BF-type nappy.

love all the seasonal names . I just haven't had a good think yet and just not feeling creative at the moment.

well, i think the prefix 'monster' feels appropriate for my character at the moment anyway (my family would agree) so it's not a big deal if I leave it.

Afternoon.

looby sorry to hear about your mum's fall. Hope she recovers soon.

dandy I would be sorry to see the Lioness go. Whenever I saw your name I envisaged an elegant lioness protecting her cubs, perhaps with a jaunty hat or some nail polish on her paws!

flip sounds like your HV was really good. A postitive step indeed.

reebee best of luck with the move.Just think this time tomorrow you will be in your new home.

emmabemma hope you are ok. Check back in/rant away soon won't you. We are all here for you.

SOrry if have missed anyone else.

Have had nice day here. SOme friends came round for coffee this morning, the pilates at lunchtime, and a bit of crap telly this afternoon whilst R napped. Have a chilli on the go for tonight. Kind of fits in with the diet as have made it from fresh. Will have it with some brown rice and yoghurt. Yum.

Happy Monday everyone!!

Not caught up yet... Will do when doing O's final feed if not before.

Nursery visit was ok. Made me realise that I want to visit at least another one, despite recommendation on this one. This one had good points (plenty of secure space outside for supervised play, only 9 babies under 1yr at any time, lovely staff). My concerns were that they hadn't heard of BLW and their menus are mainly purees so I'm not sure how easy it will be to continue BLW (if we find that successful!) and also there were 3 cots in the baby room but from about 9mo and older children sleep on mats covered with sheets on the floor.
This may all (good points and concerns!) be quite normal but I guess I won't know until I visit another!
My friend recommended this one as she used it for both her 2 boys and despite 4yrs between them, the same staff were there both times.

After nursery visit we went over to my parents. On the IL theme of last few days, my own mum is hilarious sometimes - don't know whether to laugh or cry tbh!
She got me a drink and put it on the table next to me and said "Is that alright there?" "Yes thanks" I said. "Are you sure?" she asked. "Yes" I said. "So it's ok there?" "Yes" I calmly said a third time! It's only a drink!!!
She also commented that my DB and SIL were flying back from Egypt yesterday and she'd looked on text and seen a flight from Egypt delayed and wondered if that was them. Dad joked that he didn't know what they'd have done to cause a flight delay. She then snapped at him and told him he always made things complicated!! This is how she always treats him!
She's having keyhole surgery on her shoulder on Thursday afternoon. She's going to be a nightmare!!

Sorry to do lengthy me, me, me post and run.
Catch you later!

ReeBee - that does seem to have come round v quickly! Good luck

Flippin - sounds like a good step in the right direction. Well done as it can't have been easy.

Dandy - I'm now intrigued by your Christmas name!

Headless - chilli sounds v tasty

Momi - hope H is settled now after her poo.

I've been convinced for the last couple of weeks now that O has a third tooth about to appear but still no sign. All the classic symptoms today so I'll see if he "grows" any by the morning!